Iwe unoziva nzira yekuenda kushanya here?
Usashamiswa nemubvunzo uyu, vazhinji havafungi kuti kuenda kunoshanyira, unoda kutevera mimwe mitemo. Kune shamwari pamusi wekuroora kwemuchato, shamwari dzisina kuenda kumucheka wekuchema, asi kune mukombe weti kune muvakidzani, usaenda kumapfekero emanheru. Funga pamusoro pokuti chirevo ichi chakabva kupi, kuti muenzi asingagamuchirwi akaipa pane mutatar. Kwete, kubva pakutanga, yakagadzirwa. Kana iwe uchifunga nezvazvo, zvino imwe tsumo ndeyekuti: "mueni mumba, tenzi wekufara." Asi zvakakosha kuziva kuti ndiani, uye ndiani muenzi.
Kana iwe usina kukokwa, nyora e-mail kana kudana. Hazvina kunyange vanhu vakapedzisira vawira sechando pamisoro yavo, nokuti inogona kuva kushanyira muzukuru anodikanwa kana kushanya kwekunda musikana kunoputsa zvirongwa zvakakosha zvevanini. Zvechokwadi, hama dzako kana shamwari dzepedyo dzichafara kukuona iwe panguva ipi zvayo, asi iwe unogona kungoita kushanyirwa kwepromptu kana pasina nzira yekuyevera pamusoro pokuuya kwako. Kuti varidzi uye ivo pachavo varege kuisa mumamiriro ezvinhu anonyadzisa, unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti kugadzira kushanya pasina kunyeverwa kunobvumirwa kana kune dambudziko kana pane imwe nguva.
Kana zvisingambozivikanwe kana vanhu vasingazivi, saka haugoni kuzviita pasina nyevero. Iwe unofanirwa kuva nechikumbiro chepamutemo, tsanangura chimiro chechiitiko chaunokokwa. Uye nguva chaiyo yekushanyira.
Asi matambudziko akasiyana, uye kana uchifanira kuuya pasina kukokwa kwakakosha, unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti vaenzi havaendi usiku kana mangwanani-ngwanani. Hatizivi kuti chii chinokosha chakarongwa kune vene vepamba. Tichafanira kuenda kune imwe nguva masikati masikati, kana pasina bhizinesi. Uye mushure me "nguva yekuyemura" nezvikonzero zvinoremekedza, nekukumbira ruregerero, asi kwete nemaoko asina chinhu. Usave usingadikanwi bhisikiro yakanaka kune tafura kana mudzimai wemaruva.
Pakushanyira mushure mechinomwe masikati zviri nani kuti usapinda pasina kukokwa kunokosha. Kubatana kwakadai kunogona kukwanisa makambani maduku, kana vanhu vanotungamirira nzira yehupenyu hwehuhu. Asi ivo vane mitemo yavo pachavo, kusakosha kwehumbo chero upi zvake, uye tinoda kuva vanhu venyika uye vanoremekedzwa. Zvose izvi zvinoshanyira kumisha yevanhu, uye "pazviitiko zvenyika zvakasununguka," vane mitemo yavo pachavo, uye haisi inofadza isu uye hatidi.
Ngatiti iwe wakasvika usina kukokwa uye ukaziva kuti vakanga vaputsa zvirongwa zvevaridzi. Zvakakosha kutsvaga chikonzero nekukurumidza kubva, muchiyeuka imwe nyaya inokurumidzira. Asi zviri nyore uye zviri nani kukumbira ruregerero nekuda kwekuunza kushuwaridzana nevanhu uye vanogona kubvumirana pane imwe nzvimbo, uye nenguva yakafanira. Iwe haufaniri kunyengedzwa nekutendeseka uye kuratidzira kwevadzidzisi veimba, zvisinei kuti vakawandisa zvakanyanya sei courtesies. Kana ukasarudza kuenda, siya.
Kana ukauya, iwe usati wasvinudza musuo, tevera mitemo. Enda kumusuo uye kupa pfupi pfupi. Usamanikidzira bhero bhendi, sokunge iri bhendi yemoto pahotera. Kana iwe usina kuzarura pakarepo, kumirira kwekanguva uye kudana zvakanyanyisa. Zvichida hapana munhu pamba, uye zvichida vadzidzisi havangabvumirwi nefoni iyi. Uye kushivirira kwako, chete kuchareva kuti iwe hauna kudzidza zvakanaka. Kana vadzidzisi veimba yacho, zvakakwana kuita mbiri mbiri, uye kana vachida kuvhura, vachazviita.
Kana musuo ukazarurirwa kwete nemunhu wawakasvika, asi mumwe munhu kubva kumhuri, uye munhu wacho haasi pamba, unogona kutsanangura kuti angawanika. Asi haufaniri kutsika pane imwechete uye kudzokera kunzvimbo imwe uye kwete panguva, apo iwe usingazivi uye haadi kukuziva iwe. Chero bedzi iyo inosangana nehupenyu hwehupenyu kana rufu, unogona kuenda kutarisa munhu uyu kubva kune vamwe vanhu. Asi munhu wose ane foni, uye yakagadzirirwa kuti agone kudana mumwe munhu.
Iwe haugoni kutora vatorwa newe kana iwe usina kumbobvumirana pane izvi. Zviri nani kudana nekudzokorora kushanyira kwako pane kutungamira kunze, uye zvino kuva nemhosva yezviito zvomunhu uyu, zviri nani kupindura iwe pachako.
Kana pane nguva nguva kushanyira kwako kunofanana nekudya kwemanheru kana kuti kudya kwemanheru uye uyo anokugamuchira anokuvigira kukukoka iwe patafura, zviri nani kuvonga nekuramba, achitaura kuti iwe uchangobva kudya. Kana uyo anopa mumiririri akaratidza kushivirira, anokuisira imwe chigadzirwa, saka usapfuurira. Hazvina kukodzera kubuda pakarepo mushure mekudya, zvingaita sekuti wakashandisa imba yevamwe shamwari sechimwe rudzi rwehadha.
Mitemo shoma shoma inofanira kuonekwa kana iwe uchienda kunoshanyira munguva yakakodzera.
- Unofanirwa kushanyira vana vaduku nevana mumisha iyo kwavanozofara kana kune vana. Pakushanyira, hazvina kunaka kuti ufambe nembwa chete kana dzikafanana nembwa dzisina kufanana, dzakafanana newe.
- Kushanyira kwenguva pfupi kunogona kuitwa pamagumo ekupera kwemaawa gumi nemaviri uye manheru, asi kwete panguva yemasikati.
- Kushanyira kwechinangwa chekuzivisa shamwari uye kudzokera kunoona kunogona kutungamirira kune unoziva nguva dzose. Asi kana ukama hwacho hwakanaka, saka kushanyirwa hakufaniri kuva nemaminitsi gumi nemashanu kana makumi maviri.
Kana iwe zvachose kana kuti zvachose uchibva munzvimbo yawakagara kwenguva refu, enda kushamwari dzako dzepedyo, kana kunyora tsamba, kana kudana kuti uzivise nezvekuenda kwako. Zvadaro kune mukana wekuti iwe uchauya kuhofisi yepamusoro kana kuti gare gare. Paunodzoka, nzira yakatsauka inoitwa, kana iwe usingadi kusvika.
Pazviitiko zvakakosha uye mazororo emhuri anoshanyira nechinangwa chekukwazisa. Idzi tsika pano kupa zvipo nemaruva.
Musi woMugovera uye pre-mazororo hazvisakwanisi kutarisa, nokuti mazuva ano vanhu vari kugadzirira kwezororo uye vari kuchenesa nekudaro.
Nguva yekushanyira inoenderana nemanzwiro evakashanyi venhanyi, mumamiriro ezvinhu, pane unhu hwake. Nguva shoma yekushanyira nguva inobva pamaminitsi gumi kusvika ku15. Kana iwe wakaenda kunoshanyira kwenguva pfupi uye nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero, usatarisa paawa, sezvo izvi zvinogona kukanganisa mauto. Zviri nani kungokumbira ruregerero uye kana zvichibvira kutsanangura chikonzero chekusiya, kana kuti kubva kubva pakutanga, kungotarisa nyaya inokurumidza.
Asi iwe wakakokwa kuti ushanyire, wakazivisa chiitiko, uye nguva yakagadzwa. Uye kana iwe usingauyi, inenge ichitaridzirwa pamusoro pemitemo yakaipa. Uye iwe hauna nguva, kwete kufadza, pane nyaya dzinokosha uye iwe hausi kuda kuenda. Ndizvo here, asi vakawanda sezvaunoda.
Kana iwe usingadi, iwe unogona kureva mamiriro ezvinhu anorwadza akawira pauri. Asi kutanga unofara kubvumirana, uye zvino hauuye, hazvina kunaka, sezvisina chikonzero chakanaka choramba uye kusaenda kunoshanya.
Kunokosha chete uye mamiriro asingatarisirwi anogona kukonzera musangano. Munhu akadzidziswa achenjerera muridzi weimba, pamusoro pemafungiro ake asingafadzi mamiriro ezvinhu. Vamwe vanodavira kuti chikonzero chokuramba hachigoni kuitsanangurwa, asi vanyori vezviti vakachenjera vanotaura kuti zvakakosha kutumidza chikonzero. Pamwe muridzi wacho angave asingazivi zvokufunga nezvawe.
Vanouya kuzoshanyira panguva yakatarwa, uye kwete awa imwe chete nguva isati yatarwa, kana maawa matatu apfuura. Ngatitii munosvika maminitsi gumi musati maiswa nguva, uye izvi zvinokurudzirwa, asi kunonoka kwemaminitsi maviri kunofungidzirwa kusina kunaka. Zvichava zvinonakidza kuti zviitiko zvakakokwa zvichava nzira yakanaka yekuzononoka kwemaminetsi gumi nemashanu kana makumi maviri. Asi kunonoka kwehafu yeawa, zvinogona kungoita nyeredzi kana munhu anokosha, nokuti haasi nguva, asi kunonoka.
Pamitambo yemhuri, mitemo iyi haishande. Mumwe wehama anouya mangwanani kuti abatsire mutevedzeri mukugadzirira kwezvokudya, mumwe munhu asina tsanangudzo anouya pashure, munhu wese anotoziva kare pamusoro pake kuti achabva apera. Mushure mezvose, ane unhu hwakadaro hwemunhu kana basa rakadaro. Mumwe mushanyi akakoka maawa mana mberi kwepurogiramu kuitira kuti asvike nekunonoka kunonoka. Asi izvi zvose hazvina chokuita neushamwari, uye haisi chiratidzo chekutaura kwakanaka. Mushure mezvose, "imba imwe neimwe ine zvigaro zvayo," uye mumhuri imwe neimwe kune nzira yekupemberera mhemberero.
Nzira yekuzvibata patafura
Pane mitemo yakawanda inofanirwa kuonekwa pamutambo, kugere patafura:
- iwe unofanirwa kugara wakarurama, usabata tafura nemaoko ako, kureba kubva patafura iwe iwe unofanirwa kunge uri pasi pemuchindwe wekanza chako,
- zvigadziri zvinotora izvo zvinenge zviri kure neplate,
- kana iwe usingadi banga kana simbi, unofanira kuisa pamucheto weplate,
- kana wapedza, ivai nemidziyo yakaiswa zvakaenzana kune mumwe nemumwe, kana iwe ukangoita pause, isa zvigadzirwa zvakasangana,
- ruoko rwakasununguka harufaniri kunyarara patafura, asi pamabvi,
- Chisiki chinofanira kuiswa pamabvi ako, uye mushure mekudya kwemanheru, unofanira kuisa kuruboshwe rweplate,
- kana pane chimwe chikonzero iwe haugoni kudya chikafu ichi, unofungidzira kuti iwe wakaedza kudya iyi, uye usaedza kuzviramba.
- idya kuitira kuti iwe ugone kutsigisa hurukuro kuitira kuti vatauriri vako vasafanira kumirira kusvikira iwe ukamedza chimedu.
Pane mazano akawanda anozobatsira munhu wese:
- Kushanyira, edza kuita kuti mafungiro acho aenderane nemhosva, zvichava zvisina kunaka kuti uuye mumamiriro ezvinhu akaipa, uye kuratidza. Muenzi anofanira kuyeuka kuti maererano nevanini vake ane mabasa ake, uye kune avo vakauya naye.
- Kana iwe uchifanira kubva pakutanga, usafambisa kune vamwe vanhu, taurira chete varidzi, uye tsanangura chikonzero chekusiya.
- Kana iwe usingakwanise kupukunyuka usingaoneki, unofanirwa kuita kuti vanhu vose vasara vakotama.
- Paunenge uchishanyira, usarasikirwa nepfungwa yenguva, unofanirwa kubva pakutanga, paunonzwa kuti varidzi vakaneta.
- Kana muridzi wacho achitarisa awa kana sokunge asingatauri pamusoro pechinhu chisina kukwana, saka pasinei nokuti ungada kugara sei, unofanirwa kubva nokukurumidza.
- Kana iwe wakakokwa kuti uuye "manheru", iwe unofanirwa kusiya nguva inopfuura maawa 22-23. Chero paZuva reGore Idzva kana pamuchato unobvumidzwa kuti ufare kusvikira mangwanani, asi izvi, kana mauto asingazove mutoro. Usakanganwa kuti kugamuchirwa kwevakashanyi kune mauto kune zvakawanda zvinonetsa.
- Kubva kambani kazhinji vanhu vakwegura vanoenda kutanga, uye mushure mekunge vaenda, mumwe munhu haafaniri kugara kwenguva refu uye achiri muduku.
- Paunenge uchitsvaga, mauto nevakashanyira vanofanira kutendana nekuda kwenguva yavo yakashandiswa uye mufaro wavakaunza. Munhu mumwe nomumwe anopa tenzi wake kumusuo, uye muenzi wacho uye vamwe vaenzi vanogara muimba yacho. Apo vashanyi vanobva, vanofanira kuvhura suo ivo pachavo, kuitira kuti varege kuwana pfungwa yokuti vanoda kubvisa vaenzi nokukurumidza. Kana zvichidikanwa, muridzi wacho anobatsira kuvhura suo. Kana vashanyi vashoma, vadzidzisi vanovabatsiri kupfeka. Basa rekupedzisira remuridzi nderokutungamirira mukadzi ari oga ari kumba. Dzimwe nguva muridzi weimba anogona kukumbira vaviri kana mumwe wevakashamiswa nezvazvo.
Zvadaro zvinyatsozivikaniswa zvakavanzika zvinotanga. Panofungidzira, muenzi anofanira kukumbira varidzi kuti vabhadhara kudzokera kwaari, uye, kuburikidza nehutano hwavo, vakaronga kugamuchirwa kwemazuva ose. Asi kazhinji zvinopera zvakasiyana. Asi apo kushandiswa kwekutenderwa kwekushanyirwa kusati kwatanga kuita, iwe unogona kuita pasina ivo, nokuti vanhu vakawanda havasi kugadzirira izvi. Kana ukasangana nevanhu vakanaka, uye iwe ukasarudza kuramba uchiziva, saka unoda kukoka vanhu veimba mune imba yawakasangana navo.
Kana iwe uchida kuvonga maShona nokuda kwekugamuchira, unogona kuvakoka kuenda kupikiniki, cafe, konsati, yemitambo. Izvi zvinoreva, kana vanhu ava vachifadza iwe, ipapo iwe unogona kuwana nzira yekuenderera mberi inozivo. Nokudaro, iwe unogona kuramba uchikurukura nevanhu ava, kuti uite hukama hwebhizimisi nehukama.
Zviri nyore kutevera mitemo chero ipi zvayo kana ukaita nevamwe sekunge iwe uchida vamwe kuti vaite nenzira iyi newe. Kana iwe uchiyeuka izvi, iwe uchaita zvose zvakanaka. Somuenzaniso, unoda kukushanyira panguva yekurwara, shanyira vamwe vako neshamwari. Vanogona kuuya nemasipi, michero, maruva pasina kunhuwa kwakasimba. Munhu ane njere acharatidza huwandu hwekuita nekutarisira murwere, edza kuisa kutenda kune vanhu vaakapa hutano hwake.
Mamiriro makuru ekutaura kwakanaka kunaka, kutendeseka, kukwanisa kuenzanisa mukushandisa kwezvinwiwa nekudya, kukwanisa kutsigira hurukuro. Iwe haudi ruzivo rwehupenzi hwehumbozha, hahutori simba rakawanda, zvakakwana kuti uzive mitemo yehutano, iyo inozivikanwa kune munhu wese kubva paudiki.
Enda kunoshanyira, unofanirwa kuziva zvishoma zvishoma zvishoma zvemashoko ezveimba yevatenzi, kunzwa uine chivimbo pamutambo uye kwete kuti uyananise fomu nevha.