Izwi rokuti "madzimadzi" mune varume vakawanda rinosanganiswa nechakavanzika uye zvepabonde zvekadzi uyo uyo murume akaroorwa anosangana nemusana kubva kumudzimai wake. Kazhinji kacho, chinonyanya kukoshesa ukama hwakadaro hunobva pane rudo uye zvepabonde. Ndiyo tsanangudzo yechinhu chakadai se "madzimadzi" ndicho chakanaka kumukadzi anosangana nemurume akaroora. Mune ukama nakadzikadzi, murume ane shungu dzakanyanya, zvepabonde, zvinorambidzwa uye kushamwaridzana kwakadaro kunoshandisa foni uye kukwanisa kuita chimwe chinhu chakarambidzwa, icho ichowo, chinoshanda zvakanaka. Asi basa ripi rakakura iro hukama hwemurume nemudzimai wake, uye mumwe nomumwe wevanhu vatatu (mudzimai, murume, madzimadzi) ane basa rei, iro risina kuwira mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro?
Murume, mudzimai uye tenzikadzi.
Mukadzikadzi chero upi zvake aigona kunge akaroora murume akaroora murume, ane chido chake, kuburikidza nazvo munhu anorarama "huviri hupenyu". Pachigamba chekutanga hweukama hwakadaro, ndiye amaikadzi vane simba rose. Mushure mezvose, aifarira uye akakwanisa kuwana murume uyo ave achigara nemukadzi kwemakore anoverengeka muwanano wepamutemo. Asi, pasinei neizvi, kunyanya kwekucherechedza uye nguva iyo murume anopa iyo kumukadzi mutsva muhupenyu hwake, uye kwete kumudzimai wake. Uye kunyange akashandisa nguva nemudzimai wake - anogona kufunga nezvake. Murume anopa zvaanoda kuna tenzikadzi wake kwete mumangariro ake chete, asiwo mumabasa ake. Anomupa zvipo uye anoda kuona achifara uye achifara. Pano zvakakosha kuziva kuti, sezvo zvakanga zvisina kunaka kuna tenzikadzi, kumudzimai uyu unhu hwemumwe wako hahufadzi uye hunounza kurwadziwa kwakanaka kwetsika. Nokudaro hazvina kururama zvikuru kana nhau yakadaro kune rumwe rutivi ine nguva yakareba. Asi nekukurumidza kana kuti garese mapepa ose pamusoro pe "I" achiri kukwanisa kuronga uye kana hapana wevatori vechikamu mu "rudo rwekatatu" achizviita, hupenyu huchaita.
Zvinorevei kuva "muhombodo" dzekadzikadzi ?
Nheyo dzehukama hwakadaro, sekutonga, ichokwadi nenhema, asi, zvisinei, tenzikadzi anoramba achitarisa maziso ose pamusoro apa. Kunyange pasina kunze kunyange kufunga nezvekuti munhu akadaro haagoni kunyengedza mudzimai wake chete, asi pachake. Uyu mukadzi anoona bedzi chaiye, kumutengesa iye chaiye. Asi kana iwe uchitonga zvine musoro, mukadzi uyu zvakare ane mutsa wemamiriro ezvinhu. Uye murume pano anoshanda mubasa rechokwadi chaiyo. Nenzira, nguva yehukama hwakadaro inowanzogadziriswa. Izvi zvinoratidzirwa nechokuti chikamu chiduku chevarume vanosiya mhuri nekuda kwemaikadzi. Nokudaro, ukama hwakadaro hahugoni kupera kwenguva yakareba, nokuti havasi mukadzi wese achagutsikana ne "nzvimbo yekusarudzwa" uye "kumirira mamiriro okunze kuenda kugungwa" mune tariro yokuti nokuda kwake murume achasiya mudzimai wake. Kusingagumi kumiririra - ichi ndicho chakanyanya chiripo pamusana pehukama nekadzikadzi wake ...
Nguva yemberi yemasangano matatu.
Zvechokwadi, muhupenyu kune dzose uye zvishoma zvishoma zvevarume vanosiya madzimai avo kuti vanyengeri avo vachiripo. Asi, kune ruzivo kana kuchema, izvi zvinowanzoitika. Uye iyo tsanangudzo huru yeiyi ndeyokuti nemukadzi mutsva, paakasika mhuri, murume ari kumirira kusazadzika kwakakwana, izvo zvisingagoni kutaurwa pamusoro pemararamiro, asi kwenguva refu anozivikanwa nezvehupenyu hwake pamwechete nemudzimai wake iye zvino. Mukuwedzera, rudo rwakaitwa naamaikadzi runopa mudzimai asina kunaka mukana wekunzwa ruzivo rwose rwe "kurambidzwa kweukama", uye pano sezvavanotaura "sei kubhadhara zvimwe." Hungu, uye achisiya mudzimai wake, murume anokwanisa pedyo nemukadzi mutsva kuti arasikirwe rusununguko rwake rwose, urwo aatsvaga kwegore rinopfuura. Mukuwedzera, hukama hwakavakwa paunyengeri hunozomboguma hwakanaka. Nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare, kubiridzira kwevanhu nguva dzose kunomurambidza kubva pane rudo rwewakadzikadzi wake, uye iye achadzokera kumhuri.
Zvakanaka, kana munhu achiri kusarudza pachiito chakakosha muupenyu hwake uye anoenda kuna tenzikadzi wake, nguva yehukama pakati pavo ichasvika pakuguma. Mushure mezvose, ivo vaviri, kwekanguva, vakararama vakakombwa nekunyengera kwakakwana, izvo zvinoreva kuti izvi zvichange zvichisarudzira, zvingave zvatove hupenyu hwemhuri.
Ko murume acharamba aine tenzikadzi kana mudzimai wake here?
Ushamwari huri parutivi runowanzosvika kumuchato. Uye izvi zvinofanira kugara zvichiyeukwa. Uyewo kugara uchivanza, uye misangano yakavanzika, iyo inomirirawo kudonha. Zvechokwadi, chokwadi chokuti munhu pane imwe nzvimbo yakadzika mukusaziva kwake anoona ramangwana rake riri pedyo nemukadzi uyu, asi kutendeseka kwake kumudzimai wake nehupenyu hwemhuri kuchiri kukwirira, hazvina kubviswa.
Izvi zvakakoshawo kutaura pano kuti vanonyadzisa vanowanzotorwa nevarume avo vanofunga mukati mekusagadzikana kana kuti vanongonzwa vakaneta nechokuita uye vachida kuedza chimwe chinhu chitsva. Uye achifamba kune rumwe rutivi uye achizadza chinhu chisina kukodzera ne "kushamwaridzana kwakashata" murume, sokunge kuti hapana chiri kudzokera kumhuri nenzira isati yamboitika uye, inonyanya kukosha, kuedza kudzorera hukama hwake hwekare nemudzimai wake. Mune rimwe shoko, amaikadzi vari mumamiriro ezvinhu aya vanoita senzira yakanakisisa yekubudisa uye nguva-kunze, asi, sezvamunoziva, ukama hwakadaro hwakareba hahuzoperi. Mushure mokudaro, izvo zvinonzi "rudo adventures" murume anoenderera mberi kurarama hupenyu hwake hwakanyarara uye hunoyera hwemhuri, kunyange asina kuyeuka zvaanosangana nazvo kuruboshwe.
Zvakanaka, kana "mutendi" asingatomborevi kufamba nekukanda amaikadzi, iye aizomusundira kwaari. Uye chikonzero chikuru pano chiri kumanikidzwa kubva kumativi ake pamunhu, kuitira kuti achinje chimwe chinhu ndokuita chisarudzo chake chokupedzisira. Uye varume, sezvamunoziva, havadi pavanenge vakamanikidzwa, kana kukurumidza nechisarudzo. Ndicho chikonzero, nzira yakanakisisa yekuti iye "achapukunyuka kubva mugwa rakanyura" uye nokukurumidza kubuda kune imwe nzvimbo yakachengeteka iyo yave akagara achiziva kuti chii, kureva kumudzimai wake. Mukadzi chete ndiye anokwanisa kunzwisisa uye kumuregerera, zvisinei kuti zvakaoma sei kwaari. Sezvavanotaura, iwe haugoni kuzviita nekuda kwehupenyu hwemhuri yako.
Ndizvo izvo mufananidzo wehukama huripo pakati pemudzimai nemurume hunoita se-amaikadzi, apo chechitatu, kana kuti chechitatu, nguva dzose inotyisa, uye munyaya iyi inowanzova madzimadzi.