Chete nekuda kwevakadzi, sangano haritambidzi kuchema, kunyunyuta kune shamwari kana kukurukurirana zvakaitika kune avo mu forum. Apo murume akarambana anoita zvimwechetezvo, zvinokonzera kurambwa kwekuramba. Saka kazhinji murume mushure mekurambana anomanikidzwa kuona zvinhu zvose mukati make, kwete kuisa pfungwa dzake nemanzwiro ake kunze.
Vanhu vanonzwa sei mushure mekurambana? Njodzi, kuora mwoyo, pfungwa yekurasikirwa, kutya kwekuita chikanganiso, kusuruvara kwemakore akare akarasika. Kurambana ndiko kushanduka kwehupenyu hwepasi rose kusingapfuuri kunze kwekutsvaga kwepfungwa dzevanhu uye mweya wemunhu. Uye zvinoratidzwa kuti varume vanoona kurambana zvakanyanya uye zvakanyanya kudarika vakadzi. Vasingagoni kuchema uye kutaura, vanodhonza manzwiro mukati mekusaziva. Uye sezvo manzwiro aya akaipa zvachose uye asingafadzi, anogona kutungamirira kune zvirwere zvepanyama, uye dzimwe nguva kunyange kutungamirira kufunga kwekuzviuraya.
Dambudziko rechirwere mushure mekurambana mumurume nevakadzi kunowedzera nechetatu. Muhupenyu hwehupenyu hwehupenyu, vanhu vatanhatu kakawanda vanowanzoenda kune vanodzidza nezvepfungwa uye vezvepfungwa. Varume vanowanzoita katatu kuti vatungamirire kuneta nekupererwa mupfungwa kune vakadzi, uye vanogona kuedza kuzviuraya.
Pasinei nechokwadi chokuti, nekunze kwekufunga, vakadzi vanowedzera kukurudzirwa kuchengetedza muchato, nekudzidza zvakadzama pamusoro penyaya iyo inotarisa kuti varume vari kuburikidza nekurambana zvakanyanya kupfuura vakadzi.
Nguva yakawanda yokugadzirisa nguva mushure mekurambana kunogona kupera makore 1-2, mune vamwe vanhu inosvika makore mana. Uye pano pane chimwe chikanganiso chinowanzochengetedza varume. Inofungidzirwa kuti kukurumidza kukurumidza kukura kwehukama hutsva mushure mekurambana kunozara nehuwandu hwepfungwa dzepfungwa. Uye kazhinji zvinoitika kuti munhu anonzwa kuti haagoni kutakura kusurukirwa. Vakadzi ivo pachavo, vasina kuverenga mabhuku akachenjera uye mazano epfungwa dzepfungwa, kazhinji vanotora nguva yekugara muukama kwemwedzi inoverengeka uye kunyange nemakore. Munguva ino vanouya kumangariro dzavo, kubvisa mutoro wezvinetso zvekare, uye kusvika kunekutanga kwehukama hutsva hwakasunungurwa kubva pamanzwiro akaipa.
Varume vanoita zvakanyatsopesana. Kunyange zvakadaro hazvina kubvumira kubva paukama hwepakutanga, husina kuvhara maronda, vanomhanyira muhukama hutsva, sephamuputiro ine musoro. Nemhaka yekufunga kwakanyanya kwekusurukirwa, pamusoro pekunge pasina munhu anotaura naye, munhu anoita nhanho dzakakosha mukuedza kutsva mumwe wako. Kazhinji vanomhanyira kuroora mudzimai wekutanga uyo akashanduka, kwete kungosiyiwa ari oga neshungu yake.
Takakurukura mhinduro dzakawanda kumubvunzo wekuti munhu anonzwa sei mushure mekurambana. Asi mushure mezvose, kunewo mumwe munhu wezviitiko zvekuratidzwa kwezviitiko munguva iyo mushure mekuwa kwemhuri.
Kana zvisina maturo, mufambiro wevarume mushure mekurambana unogona kugoverwa kuva mhando mitatu.
Rudzi rwekutanga rwevarume runotora mhirizhonga-kuvenga mafungiro. Vanoita zvose kuti vashandise hupenyu hwewaimbova mudzimai. Dzimwe nguva vanonyevera mberi kuti upenyu hwemukadzi huchashanduka mugehena kana akasarudza kuenda. Zvakaoma kufungidzira izvo murume anonzwa, ndiani akagadzirira kushandisa simba rake mukurwisa mukadzi. Zvinoratidzika kuti manzwiro aya haasi kure nekutenderera.
Rudzi rwechipiri rwevarume rinogamuchira mutoro sezvazviri. Havaedzi kuva shamwari neshamwari yekare, kana kurwisana naye. Nekudzora musoro uye nokuora mwoyo murudo nemukaro, vanoenda muupenyu hwezvimiririra. Uye, nenzira, varume vakadaro vanowanzoita kuti varambe vachikwanisa hukama hwevanhu nevevaimbova mudzimai, vana, vekare shamwari neshamwari.
Uye, pakupedzisira, rudzi rwechitatu rwevarume - ava ndevarume vanofanogadzirira kudzidzisa hupenyu uye vanosimudzira. Vasati varambana, vanongotanga kunzwa rudo ruchiwedzerwa, kunzwisisa kuti vanoda sei mudzimai wavo. Zvisinei, hazvisi zvisizvo kuchinja chimwe chinhu chave chakatononoka. Varume vakadaro vanogona kuita zvose zvinokwanisika uye hazvibviri kudzorera hukama. Nzira iyi inoshanda chete kana mukadzi asinganetseki kuti anotoda kurambana. Mumamiriro akawanda, izvi hazvibatsiri murume kudzorera mudzimai wake. Mushure mezvose, chero kurambana kune imwe nzira inotora kwemakore. Hakuchina kurambidza kurambana. Kurambana mumwe nomumwe kwakagadzirirwa kwemakore kana makumi emakore. Kazhinji, hama kana shamwari dzinoona mazita ekupedzisira echiitiko ichi. Uye kunyange kana kurambana kwevaviri vacho kusingatarisirwi kwavari, nokuda kwevakaroorana pachavo, kazhinji kacho isarudzo yakareba yakawedzerwa.
Izvo zvitatu zvehutano zvinotsanangurwa nemunhu zvinogona kusanganiswa uye zvakaparadzana nenzira inoshamisa. Dzimwe nguva murume anokandirwa pakati penzira ine utsinye uye anoedza kudzorera mudzimai wake wekare, uye anopera nesungano yorugare uye kugamuchirwa kwemamiriro acho ezvinhu. Nenzira yakawanda, hazvina basa kuti maitiro evanoita sei mushure mekurambana anosarudzwa nemumwe munhu. Chero mamiriro ezvinhu, kazhinji anowana nzira yekurambana, sekutonga, zvinorwadza kupfuura mukadzi. Kunyange kana kunze kunoramba kwakanyarara.