"Kana munhu asingarwi kuratidza rudo, saka haadi," psychology

Isu tose tinoshandiswa pakuziva kuti murume murume, mhuka inenge yakagadzirira kuita chimwe chinhu kuti iwane chido chinoda - kukurumidzira kuhondo pamwe nemuvengi, somuenzaniso. Amai na vanasekuru vakadzidzisa uye vanotidzidzisa kuti chinhu chikuru mumhuri chinofanira kunge chiri munhu, kuti mhuri yakasimba haigoni kuvakwa neyekudzivirira uye kuti musikana haafaniri "kumhanyira" pamusoro pomukomana, kunyange kana achinyanya kuda murudo naye. Asi jaya rinongoda kuwana musikana, kumuchengeta uye kuita zvose kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti musanangurwa wake akanzwa akasiyana uye akasiyana naye. Mukuwedzera, izvi zvakasarudzwa zvinokwanisa, maererano nezvedzidziso yezvizvarwa zvakwegura, kunomesa tsoka yake paanenge achida, uye murume angangodaro anofanira kunge panguva imwe chete achizadzisa chero whim yeaanoda. Kana, nokuda kwechikonzero chipi nechipi, anoramba kuita izvi, anofanirwa kuonekwa seasingatendi, mutengesi uye asina kukodzera rudo rwekadzi. Zvakanaka, kana kamwe-kamwe kusuruvara, kuzvidzora "mhandara" yasvika, ipapo murume chaiye anofanira kunzwisisa zvose, kukanganwira uye kutanga kuenda kuyanano. Inotaridzika sebhuku renyoro rebhuku rezana remakore rechi19, chaiko? Zvinosuruvarisa, amai vedu na vanambuya vanoita sechinhu chakare-kare muzera redu rinokura mumamiriro e rudo. Uye kunyange zvazvo vasikana vomuzana remakore rapfuura munhau dzorudo vaine zvishoma zvishoma, mirayiridzo yavo yekuita haisi yakakodzera kwatiri. Uye saka, kana iwe wakatarisana nemubvunzo uyu "kana munhu asingarwi kuratidza rudo, saka haadi" , psychology yevarume inofanira kukufarira iwe pakutanga. Ngatiedzei kunzwisisa pamwe chete kuti iko kwechokwadi kutonga uku kwakadini mune simba redu, rakakwirira-tech uye rakakwana risingazivikanwi remakore.

Saka iwe uri musikana wemazuva ano, uine chivimbo mukati mako, asi nemashoko - " kana munhu asingarwi nekuda kwerudo, saka haadi," mafungiro ako epfungwa anozvininipisa uye anotora chokwadi chemashoko aya. Saka chii? Uye iwe pachako unogona kutsanangura zvinorevei "kurwira rudo"? Zvichida uri kufambidzana pakati pevaduku vaviri, uye haugoni kunzwisisa kuti nei vasingadanirwi kune duel, havakupi misangano mitatu, kuitira kuti musarudze uye kupa mhinduro yekupedzisira, musingazive nevabereki venyu kuitira kuti vawane nzvimbo yavo? Kana apa hedu muenzaniso wakawandisa: iwe wakakavadzana nemunoda wako, uye akadzokera kumugwagwa, achifunga kuti zviri nani kukusiya pane kuita chimwe chinhu iwe pachako nekugadzirisa matambudziko akawanda iwe pachako. Uye iwe, mushure mokutaura, somuenzaniso, pamwe naamai vako, wakasvika pakugumisa kuti kana munhu asingarwi kuratidza rudo, saka iye haadi , psychology yehukama chinhu chakakomba, asi zvinongokutungamirira iwe dzimwe nguva kutora mhedziso. Vakai mufaro wenyu uchava pakutanga, asi nemumwe mukomana, achishevedza mazwi asina kutongogadziriswa uye kunyunyuta pamusoro pazvo kune vose vanogona. Asi iwe uri kuita chinhu chakanaka here? Mushure mekutevera pfungwa iyi uye chirongwa chakadaro, unogona kugara nemhino dzako, nokuti varume vakaneta, marwadzo, ruzivo. Saka funga nezvezviito zvako. Yeuka vakadzi vakakurumbira uye ukama hwavo nevarume. Semuenzaniso, kutaura kweumwe wevanyori vandaifarira, Grace Kelly: "Murume nemasikirini ane usimbe. Dai vakadzi vose vaiva nebasa, varume vaizogara pamba vachimwa doro uye vachitarisa paTV, "kana kuti mutsara wakakandwa nemuiteereri, munyori wezvinyorwa uye munyori mumunhu mumwe, Bette Davis:" Vakadzi vakasimba vanoroora chete varume vasina simba. " Uye ava ndivo vakadzi vezana remakore rechi20! Saka kana iwe uchifunga kuti panofanira kunge pane chimwe chinhu chinofanira kuitwa nemunhu oga, saka iwe wakakanganisa zvikuru. Ukama hunovakwa navanhu vaviri, uye hazvibviri kutendera mumwe munhu mukugadzirisa kuita izvi, sekugara pasi pasi nemaoko akaiswa. Kana iwe uchida chaizvo murume, kana iwe uchimuda zvechokwadi, iwe uchaita zvose kuita kuti wako waunoda aswedere. Zvakanaka, kana iwe wakagadzirira kugara kwemaawa nehomwe ye chips paTV uye unomirira HE kuti adane, asi usati watangaidza nokuti iwe "kuzvikudza," saka ndinokuda iwe kushivirira uye kutengesa chips kwemakore mazhinji ... zvichienda mberi.

Iwe unoziva, apo ini ndinonyora nyaya dzakadaro, ndinofunga zvisingatauri pamusoro pokuti isu, vakadzi vezana remakore rechi21, tinonyunyuta pamusoro pezvatakarwa nazvo muna 19-izvo zvatakarwa, uye takamhanyira mairi. Taida kuzvimiririra nevarume - tinotambura nekuti hatinzwisisiki, tinoda kudzivisa kushungurudzwa kwepabonde - ikozvino tinopfeka mazamu akanaka, kuitira kuti varume chete vanoda isu, vanoda basa - ikozvino isu tiri kuwedzera kusuruvara kuti "tirima semabhiza" uye zvakadaro mberi. Makumi maviri emakore nekuda kwenhau - pshik, uye zvakawanda zvakachinja. Nyika inoonekwa nemurume yakavewo iyo yakasiyana. Ngatinyatsofungisisa pane izvo munhu anonzwa, ndiani, sezvaunofunga, haarwi kurwira rudo?

Varume vose hupenyu mumwe munhu anofanira kuita chimwe chinhu. Chero nokuti ivo varume. Dyara muti-unofanira, kurera mwanakomana-unofanira, kuvaka imba-inofanira, kupa mhuri-inofanira, kubatsira amai-vanofanira, kurwira rudo-vanofanira, uye zvichingodaro uye uye mberi. Izvi ndezvedu, vasikana, zvakawanda zvakakanganwirwa uye zvinotenderwa. Tinogona kurova murume, uye hatizogoni kuwana chero chinhu. Asi kana munhu akarova mukadzi, izvi hazviwedzeri kukudzwa kwake.

Asi isu takarwisana nekuenzana kwevarume nevakadzi, izvo zvinoreva kuti zvakagoneka kuti varume vave zvishoma zvishoma, zvishoma kusava nehanya, zvishoma zvakare vakasununguka. Mukadzi haasi kuzoseka kana wekutanga achange agadza zuva, wekutanga achaenda pakuyananisa, wekutanga achapa kuroora, wekutanga achatsvoda. Zvechokwadi, kuzvikudza kwedu hakuna maturo, patinoona kuti munhu anotitarisa sei, kuti anoratidza sei manzwiro ake. Asi kuti arambe achiti "haarwi kurwira rudo" nokuti mune imwe mamiriro ezvinhu haana kuita sezvatingadi, hazvina kukodzera. Tinowanzowedzeredza zvose. Funga, nokuti zvaanokuitira iwe, zvakare, rudzi rwekurwa maari. Kana iwe usingafariri izvozvo pane imwe nguva haana kuratidzira kuronga, haana kuita chimwe chinhu, saka tongokurukurirana naye. Zvechokwadi murume wako ane chikonzero chakasimba. Nenzira imwe cheteyo, vanhu vose vakasiyana, uye kana mamiriro ako apo jaya rako risina basa haritaurizve kwekutanga, zvino zvichida nyaya yacho iri mumamiriro ake, uye kwete mukati make, wozozvisarudzira iwe kana iwe uchigutsikana iyi mamiriro ezvinhu, kana kwete. Varume vanoda runyararo, uye kana iwe uchikoshesa mudiwa wako, dzimwe nguva unoenda kwairi kuti uwane mvumo. Nhanho yakanaka!