Zvechokwadi, varume ndivo vanovhima, asi kwete vamiririri vose vehafu yakanaka yevanhu vanogona kutsigira kufarira kwomunhu akasarudzwa iye pachavo muhupenyu hwemhuri, kana nharaunda yave yakatodzwa uye yakundwa, uye kufarira muhutano hwemumwe wako hunotanga kufamba zvishoma nezvishoma asi zvechokwadi kunopera. Kusiyanisa archetypes yakasiyana-siyana yevakadzi, iyo inotarisana nehutano hwomukadzi kurasikirwa nemurume wake, kana, zvakare, -kukonzera kuparadzana kwemhuri yeumwe. Funga nezvazvo zvakajeka kuti uone mabasa echikadzi uye unzwisise kuti chii chinofanira kuziva mukadzi kuti asatora murume wake kure.
Saka, "mhirizhonga", iyo inyoka, mhuka, dhimoni. Iwe haugoni sei kuyeuka Lady Winter kubva mufirimu yakakurumbira "D'Artagnan uye Vatatu Musketeers". Mukadzi akadaro anonakidzwa chaizvoizvo nekubatanidzwa kwake mukuparadzwa kwemufaro wemunhu. Kwaiye, hausiko zvinokosha iye murume pachake, seanoita kunyengera kwake. Mukubata nemunhu akabatwa, "munhu" anoita kuti zvive pachena kune akasanangurwa avo pamwe naye iye anoziva hukuru hwakadaro hwehuviri uye hwekunakidza sekunge pasina mumwe mukadzi. Kuita zvepabonde kunoputika, rudzi rwemhirizhonga kumunhu uye kukwanisa kutenderera-makadhi ehwamanda emukadzi uyu. Ndicho chikonzero vakadzi vanofa vanozivikanwa zvikuru nevarume - pamwe navo vanogona kuva vashandi chaivo. Kunyange zvakadaro, ndiani munyaya iyi ndiye muvhimi, uye ndiani mutambo - iyo imwe mubvunzo.
Vakadzi - "simpletons" - vakakodzera zvakakwana kumhuri yehukama, vanowana mufaro wavo wechokwadi, asi, zvinosuruvarisa, madzimai aya anononoka zvikuru kuvarume nenzira chaiyo nekuda kwekushaiwa kwekusagadziriswa, chinyararire uye kuderera kunokwezva varume zvakanyanya. Vakadzi vakadaro vanovhiringidza uye vasingafariri, kunyange zvazvo vachigona kugara vachitsigirwa, ivo vane hanya, vakavimbika uye mune zvehupfumi. Asi murume haararami nechingwa chete. Zvinosuruvarisa, pasinei nekuedza kose, kubva kuvakadzi ava kazhinji vanhu vanoenda.
Mukugara kutsvaga mumwe mukadzi, hupenyu hunotendeukira kune munhu ane "kukundikana": chero zvakadaro, murume anotarisira, shamwari inotevera haizomupomera mhosva yezvibayiro zvake zvose zvinouya kwaari nezita rerudo. Murume anoda kuwona mukadzi pedyo naye, uyo achamupa zvinhu zvose asina mhosva. Pasina mubvunzo, mukadzi "anoshayiwa" anokonzera zvakawanda kumurume wake, asi kazhinji kutukwa uye zviyeuchidzo zvevakadaro zvinogumbura murume, zvichiita kuti azvidemba kuti akatozotaura nezvechinhu chaimbova chido. Sezvo mutemo, archetype yakadaro inosanganisira vakadzi vane zvido zvisingabatsiri, nguva dzose vasingagutsikani nehupenyu nemafambiro evamwe. Iyo inotaura kunyika, inotanga kuratidza kuburikidza nemurume wayo, uyo anozoguma achishivirira kutsungirira uye mashizha kuti ave nechido chitsva.
Mukadzi - "mutori wenhau" - anonzi kwete kwebasa, asi nekuda kwekurwa nehupamhi hwekutonga kwake. Mukadzi akadaro anotenda kuti anoziva zvose pamusoro pevarume uye anovaona kuburikidza, anonyatsoziva, anozvivimba uye anoyevedza zvakakwana mumeso emurume. Mhirizhonga inoita kuti iite zvakafanana nemudzimai "mhirizhonga." Kunyanya kukokwe kumukadzi akadaro varume vanorota kuendesa mutoro wezvemhuri kumadzimai uye vanoda kutonga kwevakadzi. "Reporter's" ndeyevakadzi ivavo vanogona kutora murume wavo kunze kwemhuri.
Asi kurota kweumwe neumwe kuchiri "mukadzi wechokwadi". Haazombotonhorera kusvika pamwero we "simpleton" uye anokonzera chero "vanhu vakaipa" vanomanikidzwa kumativi ose kumurume wavo. Iye achaunza kuhupenyu hwemurume vari variegated mavara, kukwana uye zvinoreva. Mukadzi akadaro ndiye kurota kwevanhu vose. Mushure mokunge musangana naye, murume anogona kudada kutaura kuti upenyu hwakabudirira. Uye ichokwadi chaizvo. Kubva kuvakadzi vakadaro, varume vanobva vashoma chaizvo, uye zvino, kunyanya nekuda kweupenzi hwavo, kana kuti mukadzi anenge asingadi kumuchengetera pedyo naye.
Zvechokwadi, havasi vakadzi vose vanogona kuva "vakadzi vechokwadi". Asi usanetseka pamusoro pekusawirirana kwako nekukwirira kwakanaka. Zviri nani kuisa pfungwa pakuregedza kushingaira kwakaipa kweumwe munhu, saka iwe zvishoma nezvishoma uchaswedera pedyo nenhope yeruzivo.
Asi zvose zvakafanana, chii chinofanira kudzidzwa kumukadzi kuitira kuti murume wake arege kubviswa?
Kutanga, murume wepfungwa, uye wechipiri - unyanzvi hwokunyengera. Chinhu chinokosha chaunoda kuziva pano kutanga ndezvekwanisi yekutarisa nguva dzose: kwete kunze kunze, asiwo mukati. Munhu wese anorota kuti ararame, kana ane mukadzi mumwechete, saka pamwe neavo vanoziva kuti vakasiyana sei. Mukadzi akadaro nguva dzose anoda kukunda uye kubatisisa pedyo naye, haambobvumi, uye kudyidzana naye kunenge kusingaiti. Dzimwe nguva anokwanisa kuva shinje, dzimwe nguva soro, dzimwe nguva mutori wenhau - nguva dzose akasiyana, uye kubva pane izvo zvinotyisa uye zvinokwezva. Vakadzi vanofanira kuyeuka kuti kujekesa mukukurukurirana nemunhu kusvika kumagumo hakusi nguva dzose. Munhu chero upi zvake, kunyange akakodzera uye akazara, akaparadzana pakati pechido chokukunda mumwe munhu uye chido chekugara naye. Ndicho kukakavara uye kunakidzwa ne razluchnitsy, saka sei usingatori nguva iyi yepfungwa uye udzidze kushandiswa mukukurukura nemunhu unodiwa mudzimai wake ane mutemo?
Vadiwa vanodikanwa, edza kuchengetedza imba yenyu, muchiunza kune zvinyorwa zvezvitsva uye zvinofadza. Muchiitiko ichi, varume vako havazoendi "vakasiya", asi vachakoshesa zvavari. Mwoyo munyoro, joke yakanaka, kugamuchira uye kuchinja kwebasa kunogona kuvharidzira dutu mugirazi remvura-kukakavadzana kwemhuri ikozvino kuonekwa mumhuri, inoita seyakabva.
Uye kana zvakanyanya kuitika - pasinei nematauriro ako (kuchinja mifananidzo, zvingwa zvinonaka, kukurukurirana uye zvepabonde zvechisimba), akasarudza kusiya, usafananidza mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Varume, ivo vakaita sevana, vachitamba chido chekutsvaga, kuenzanisa nekare, uye kudzokera kune imwe yakazoita zviri nani. Asi izvi "kutsvaga kwe rudo rwechokwadi" zvinokosha here nemisodzi yako, mitsipa uye unozviita iwe mufananidzo wakareruka uye usingaoneki wezvisingamboiti kurota? Zvichida murume wako haasati apora uye haana kudzidza kudzidza mafungiro ako kwaari uye simba rakapedzerwa mumweya?