Munhu mumwe nomumwe, zvichida, akacherechedza kuti inzwi romumwe munhu rinonakidza kwaari, kusafarira kweumwe munhu, uye mumwe munhu uye chete anotaura shoko rimwe, asi atoita kutsamwa uye kusada. Uye kune huwandu hwevatauri vane unyanzvi vanoda kungotaura mazwi mashomanana kuti afadze munhu wose anonzwa.
Inzwi revamwe vanhu ringakanganisa sei?
Inzwi nderimwe remashoma anozivikanwa maitiro anosiyanisa munhu mumwe nomumwe kubva kune vamwe vose. Nezwi, isu tinogona kuziva pachena shamwari isati tamboiona. Zvinofadza kuti kunyange mune mamwe mabheni emazuva ano, izwi iro ndiro rekutanga rekuchengeteka.
Sezvo zvaive zvichibvira kuwana kune masayendisiti eIpsychologists panguva yekutsvakurudza kwekugoverana, kuti sei munhu akasarudza zvakajeka nguva uye nguva yakawanda yezwi, pfungwa yaanoita kune kunze inotarisirwa.
Kana tichitaura nezwi rakakwirira kwazvo, inzwi rakadaro rinowanzotsamwiswa nevanhu, nokuti ndeyomumwe mukomana uye asina kufanira, asina ruzivo uye ane hanya. Vanhu vakadaro vanowanzogara munzvimbo dzakadzika uye havavimbi nevatauri vevanhu. Zvichida, varume vakawanda vakaona kuti vakadzi vakwegura, kana vachida kuita sevasina vaduku, edza kushandura kumira kwezwi ravo, vachiita kuti irambe ichitaura. Izvi zvinowanzotungamirira mutauriri wacho kubva maari pachake.
Vanhu vane izwi rakaderera, vanokonzera kuvimba kwakanyanya, kubva kwavari uye mafirimu nekuvimbika uye ruzivo, uyewo zvepabonde, kana iri mubvunzo weimwe nyika. Ndicho chikonzero, kana munhu ane izwi rakaderera, anofanirwa nevakadzi.
Sei vanhu vachichinja mafungiro mukutaurirana?
Chokutanga pane zvose, zvinofanira kuonekwa kuti nekutaura kwezwi munhu anogona kunzwisisa kuti vatauriri vanobatana sei. Kana munhu achideredza kutengesa kwezwi, rinotaura pamusoro pekunzwira tsitsi kune munhu, chido chekumuratidza kuti ane kodzero. Kana iyo interlocutor yatanga kusava nechokwadi mumashoko ako, unogona kunzwa manzwiro emubvunzo mumutauro wake.
Kuita kuti munhu anopikisa asingadi kubvumirana nemafungiro ako, zvakakosha kuti inzwi rako rive nyore uye rakadzikama. Kana iyo mhedziso yezwi ichikwira, inoshanduka kuva "squeal," izvi zvinoreva kuti munhu anotsamwa uye asina kuchengeteka.
Zvinonyanya kukosha kukwanisa kuva nezwi rakanaka kana munhu achishanda nevanhu, achiita hurukuro nekubvunzurudza. Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzichakwanisa kudzidzisa nzira iyi, kuitira kuti kana ikadikanwa, munhu wacho angakonzera mutauriri kana kuti kwete kumurega kuti azviite.
Chii chinoratidzwa nemutauro wevanhu?
Kana iyo interlocutor isingatarisirwi uye isinganzwisisiki, inowanzoonekwa kubva pamashoko ake - anoramba achishandisa mapiritsi uye anoita mapoka akasiyana pakati pemashoko.
Kana munhu achiedza kupukunyuka kubva mumatambudziko nematambudziko, anowanzotaura mitauro yakasiyana-siyana achishandisa chipani "kwete." Ichokwadi, zvakare, vanhu vakawanda vakadaro vanotevedzerwa nechakaipa.
Mashoko akakodzera anokurudzira chiito
Ndiani angadai akafunga, asi mazwi anofanira kushandiswa zvakanakira kwazvo, nokuti kana ukashandisa zvisina kururama, iwe uchawana zvakaipa kubva kune munhu uye uise kuti azvidzivirire iwe pachako. Kana mashoko acho akasarudzwa zvakanaka uye mutauro wacho unopiwa zvakanakisisa, uchifunga nezveshoko remukati, unogona kuwana mhinduro inoda kana mhinduro kubva kumunhu.
Mashoko api anokonzera zvakaipa?
Paunenge uchitaura nemunhu, edza kusashandisa mazwi akadaro nemashoko akadai sekuti: haamboiti, kazhinji, hauna kutevera, handigone, hausi iwe unofanirwa, haufaniri kunge uchifananidza nemamwe mazwi. Kukurukurirana, mune mazwi akafanana, iwe unoda kukurumidza kupedza, hazvigoneki kuti mutauriri achada kutaura newe uye kunyange zvakadaro kuti atsvake kuwirirana.
Kana iwe uri mumamiriro asina kunaka uye uchida kudzivisa kubvunzurudzwa, edza kuvhiringidza. Nokuda kweizvi, zvakakosha kushandisa mazwi akakodzera uye zviito zvakananga. Somuenzaniso: "Yeuka, mwedzi mishomanana yakapfuura, patakaenda kumitambo, ndakaona shamwari, wandakagara pane rimwe dawati kuchikoro, uye ipapo ndakadzidza pamwe chete kuchikoro. Takwot, akaupa shamwari yangu nekuda kwekuzvarwa kwake, iyo yatakambopemberera pfuma yake, maruva akanaka emurosi. " Kunzwa tsanangudzo yakazara yakadaro, iyo interlocutor ichabatwa, uye zvichida ichada kumisa hurukuro.
Kana iwe uchida kuti interlocutor afarire kufarira kwako, zviri nani kushandisa mazwi asingatauri mumitsara. Iwe unogona kutaurira mumashoko mashomanana ayo achaita kuti intlocutor iwedzere. Kana iwe uchiudza munhu "Ndatsamwa", iye, zvechokwadi, achabvunza kuti "Sei?".
Kuti hurukuro ibudirire kubudirire, unofanira kubvunza munhu wacho maonero ake, kuti azvibatanidze mune dambudziko rako. Taura, kuitira kuti mutauriri aifanira kukubvunza iwe kujekesa mibvunzo. Nokudaro, achawana dambudziko, azvinzwe achibatanidzwa muupenyu hwako.