Dambudziko. Kufungidzira kana chokwadi?
Pamberi pokunzwisisa, pakanga pane kugumburwa kwepabonde kana kwete, zvakakosha kuziva, kuti tsika yakadaro kana kuti kuenzana. Pano zvinonzwisisika kuva vasina kuroorana nemumwe munhu uye purogiramu yemunhu. Nzira iyo inoita kuti zvikwanise kusiyanisa tsika yepabonde kubva muchirwere ichi chinogona kunge yakasiyana, asi panzvimbo yekutanga munhu anofanira kugutsikana nehupenyu hwake hwepabonde. Kana izvi zvisingaitike, inguva yekutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kune nyanzvi uyo achadzidza zvinokonzera kusagutsikana: kuzvikudza kwekuzvikudza, kufungidzira komumwe wako, kunyanya kunakidzwa kwepabonde pakati pevanhu, kana kune chirwere chaiyo chepabonde chakatanga kana chaenda kure.
Zvichida, iri mubvunzo wekushungurudzika mupfungwa. Izvi zvinosanganisira kusanganisa-kusava nesimba uye kudzvinyirirwa. Semuenzaniso, kusakosha kana kushaya simba kwekusimudzwa kwevanhu kunofungidzirwa kusina simba (nhasi izwi iri "rinokuvadza" rinotsiviwa nerimwe - erectile dysfunction). Asi zvinokwanisika here kufunga kuti kusava nechokuita sechokwadi kana kuchikonzerwa nezvikonzero zvinotsanangurwa zvakakwana - rudzi rusina hanya rwevamwe, kuneta, kuzvidzora, kuzvidya kwekukurumidza kuwedzerwa kana kupindira kubva kunze?
Zvinetso zvepabonde zvekuita zvepabonde zvingave zvakabatanidzwa nekutya kukwikwidzi kana kusaziva. Kuti uone zvakajeka, kubvunzurudza kunoda, zvichida kwete imwe. Zvichida iwe haufaniri kutendeukira kune wechirwere chepabonde chete, asiwo kune urologist, gynecologist, psychologist kana chiremba wepfungwa. Mushure mezvose, zvakanga zvakaoma kuziva chaicho chakakonzera chirwere. Chinhu chimwe chakajeka: kana iwe uchinzwa kusagadzikana munzvimbo yebonde, vakaroorana havakwanisi kunonoka nerwendo kuenda kuchiremba. Ini pachedu ichanyanya kudhura.
Zvisina kuzadzika zvishuwo
Dambudziko guru revakadzi nderokuti havasati vamboenda kune unyanzvi hwepabonde. Kune varume makumi mashanu mukadzi anoshandisa kune imwe nyanzvi. Uye, kazhinji, zvinonzwisisika nei: kutevedzera kuiswa kwakanyanya kuoma kudarika chinonzi orgasm. Varume vakawanda havambofungi kuti madzimai avo haawani chinhu panguva yehukama hwepedyo, zvakanakisisa, "kushivirira". Zvinowanzoitika: murume anofunga kuti mudzimai wake anononoka, uye iye, zvinoshanduka, ndiye mukana wekuita. Kutaura zvazviri, zvinetso zvepabonde kune vakadzi zvakakura kudarika mavarume, asi ivo chete ndivo vasingaonekwi nevanorwara zvepabonde. Pamwe, masayendisiti epfungwa kana masayendisiti vanobatanidzwa mune izvi, asi kwete chete vanachiremba-gynecologists.
Kana vakadzi vauyawo kuhofisi yepabonde, saka kazhinji kacho nekunyunyuta pamusoro pezvinetso zvepabonde zvakazara - kusagadzikana (anorgasmia) kana kuderera kwechido chepabonde (libido). Nenzira, zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti 16% chete yevakadzi inowanikwa kanagasm nepabonde rimwe nerimwe, uye yese yepabonde yepabonde - 22%, uye havana kumbobvira vaona sargasm inenge 18%. Anorgasmia inogona kukonzerwa nekusaziva kweawakaroorana naye, nhaka-nheyo dzemitemo, marwadzo panguva yehukama hwepedyo, kusagadzikana kwekukwirirana, kusarudzwa kwemukati, kana kupisa mukati mechipfu. Dzimwe nguva inowanzosiyana-siyana yehuwandu. Mune chimwe chezviitiko izvi, kuongorora kwakakwana murwere kunokosha.
Bira pasi pebhanhire
Kwemakore makumi matatu nemanomwe mune zvepabonde, hakuna chinhu chitsva chakaonekwa, uye varume vanouya kune nyanzvi dzine matambudziko akafanana sepakutanga: kushaya simba uye kusarudzwa kwemajeri. Pano pane zvikonzero zvakawanda. Tinofanira kufungisisa nguva yakaoma yatinogara. Kushungurudza kwakave kwakakosha, uye, pakutanga kwezvose, kurohwa pamusoro pehutano hwevanhu.
Kazhinji kacho, varume vane makore ari pakati pe20 ne35 vanobvunza rubatsiro, kunyange zvikaitika kuti vanouya vose vaduku uye vakwegura. Vamwe vechidiki vanotya mushure mokutanga zvepabonde, uye dzimwe nguva zvinowanzoitika kuti murume ave achitambura nechirwere chepabonde kwemakore makumi mana uye iye zvino, apo anopfuura makumi manomwe, pakupedzisira akasarudza kuuya.
Munguva pfupi yapfuura, pakati pevarume vevanhu pane inonzi "manager syndrome". Basa rakaoma uye kushungurudzika zvinotungamirira kukuti varume havasi kuderedzwa kunyange nemikana, uye zvido. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika kune vebhizimisi. Vanorarama zvishoma pane zvepabonde pane avo vanoshanda mune imwe nzira yakajeka mune dzimwe nzvimbo. Uye, pachena, haisi mubhadharo kana zera, asi mutoro wemanzwiro. Varume chete "vopisa." Yeuka nyika apo waifanira kutora kuongorora kukuru. Yakanga isati yasangana pabonde here? Mune dambudziko rekutambudzika, iwe waiva awa kana maviri, uye varume ava vanogara kwemwedzi nemakore. Matambudziko kwavari - zvakananga, kubuda kwezvinetso zvepabonde zvevakaroorana.
Dzimwe nguva zvinhu zvose zvinogadziriswa chete: akaenda, akazorora, uye zvose zvaiita sezvakanaka. Maiwe, kwenguva pfupi - kudzokera kubasa, kudzoka uye zvinetso. Asi kunyange pakati pevanhu, kwete munhu wese ari kukurumidza kutaura nesu kuti tibatsirwe. Kune rumwe rutivi, kune "nyanzvi" dzisingatombogadzirwi muhutano hwehutano, uye kune rumwe rutivi, zvinodhaka zvinowanzoita kuti vanzwe sokuti munhu akazara. Tora kunyange zita rinonzi Viagra. Mumwe chiremba akamboti: "Kuonekwa kweViagra ndiko rufu rwepabonde." Makore anoverengeka akapfuura mumushumo wekambani yedu yemapurisa yakataurwa kuti ichi chinodhaka chiri pakati pegumi gumi zvakatengeswa munyika. Chimbofungidzira kuti varume vangani vanotambura nokuvhiringidzika! Asi, pasinei neizvi, varwere muvakadziopathologist vakava vashoma. Handidi kuti vanhu varambe vachikanganisa, nokuti hapana mishonga yakadai inoporesa zvinokonzera chirwere ichi.
Dambudziko rimwe chete kune maviri
Kutaura nezvekuwirirana mumhuri, nezvehukama hwepabonde, tinoreva mhuri semhuri yose, kana dambudziko rikaparadzaniswa kuva zviviri uye dambudziko reumwe wevakaroorana rinowanikwa pamwe chete. Hatigoni kutaura pamusoro pezvinetso zvepabonde zvevakaroorana vari munyika yedu - kutsvaga kwakakomba kunodikanwa pano, uye iyi yakawanda mari. Tine pachedu chete dzeWest. Sezvo pane dambudziko iri rakajairika kwatiri, isu tinogona kungotonga, zvichienderana nenhamba yevakakumbira.
Zvinosuruvarisa, mumakore achangobva kupfuura, vakadzi havakwanisi kutya nekutambudzika kwepabonde kune vakaroorana. Varume vakasiyiwa vari voga nechinetso chavo, uye panguva iyo, nhamba yehukama hwepabonde hwepabonde pakati pevakadzi, maererano neimwe chidzidzo, yakawedzera nehafu. Anenge makore makumi matatu akapfuura mamiriro ezvinhu akanga akasiyana. Mhuri dzaive dzakasimba, uye paiva nevashoma vashure. Vakaroorana vakachengetana. Apo mumwe murume ainge atsamwa, akauya kumubatiro nemudzimai wake. Dzimwe nguva madzimai akauya kumusangano pakutanga, saka vakaroorana vakatumirwa.
Mukuwedzera, nhasi nechetatu chevakadzi vanoita "kukanda" kuita zvepabonde. Ita kuti kunyange munhu ane hutano asakwanisa kuita zvepabonde zvepabonde. Vakadzi ava havafariri nehukama hwepedyo nemurume, asi ne "zvikamu" zvinogona kuwanikwa. Uye vanoona basa ravo rekusazvipa ivo uye munhu achifara, asi kuti aite mukati mavo pfungwa yekuregerera: "Izvo hazvina kushanda pabhedha - basa!" Uye "anoshanda" - zvipo, mari kana zvivako. Uye kana iye, achifunga, achadzoka, mudzimai acharasikirwa nezvikomborero. Nokudaro, vakadzi ava havabvumiri vanhu kuti vaporeswe, pasinei nokuti chiremba anoedza sei. Asi kuti unzwisise, zvisinei kana zvichiitika kana kuti zvichiitika chaizvoizvo, zvinogoneka, kunze kwezvo, kunze kwekukurukurirana. Hakuna imwe nzvimbo munyika iyo chete vashandi vepabonde vanoita zvepabonde. Ichi chiito chevakaroorana. Uye hukama hwakasimba mumhuri hunoenderana nekuwanda kwemurume nemukadzi vanoda kutora muhupenyu hwehumwe humwe.