Vaya vanoda zvikuru upenyu mukuratidzwa kwaro kose, havasi kuderedza maoko avo nemusoro, vakashinga kukunda zvipingamupinyi zvehupenyu, vasinganzwisisi avo vasingadi kurarama, avo varipo pane chimwe chikonzero mukuora mwoyo, mune dambudziko rekuora mwoyo. Nzira yekuzvibatsira iwe pachako kana vamwe mune mamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe usingadi kurarama, uye ikozvino haisi kuratidzika kwakanaka, kwakanaka, sezvazvaiva kare?
Nei izvi zvichiitika?
Kuti uzviwanire mumamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe usingadi kurarama, iwe unogona nokuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana. Chinhu chakaoma kwazvo kwavari rufu kana kuti chirwere chinouraya chemunhu ari pedyo. Chimwe chikonzero ndedambudziko rakakomba rehutano uye mamiriro akasiyana-siyana emuviri. Chechitatu inoparadzana nemudiwa wako, kutengesa, kunyengera kwepedyo, shamwari. Yechina - matambudziko emunhu, matambudziko kushanda. Chechishanu ndechokuora mwoyo kwakanyanya mune chimwe chinhu kana kune mumwe munhu. Zvinokonzera zvinogona kunge zviripo zvizhinji, asi izvi ndizvo zvakanyanya.
Kushungurudzika kunogonawo kutungamirira mukusazeza kurarama. Asi kuora mwoyo kwakatanga kutsamwiswa nedambudziko kana mamiriro ezvinhu kubva pamusoro apa.
Saka ungagadzirisa sei mafungiro akadaro? Kunyanya kana mamiriro acho asingakanganisiki, sezviri munyaya yekufa kwemunhu ari pedyo.
Apo vanhu vanobva muupenyu hwavo
Chii chaungaita kana nzvimbo yako yekudengenyeka kunokonzerwa nerufu rwomunhu waunoda wausingagoni kugamuchira vykik. Hatingatauri pano pamusoro pekuti iwe unoda kurarama munguva ino yakaoma yehupenyu, edza kukanganwa, kusundira shure pfungwa dzakaoma sekudzika zvakanyanya mune zvisinganzwisisiki.
Dambudziko rezviito zvakadaro harisi kupera. Asi nechokwadi ndechokuti zvinogona kutaurwa kuti munyaya iyi chidzidzo chikuru cheupenyu hweMambo Soromoni chichashanda. "Zvinhu zvose zvinopfuura. Uye izvi zvakare! "Zvichapedza nguva, mumwe munhu ane mwedzi, mumwe munhu ane gore nekuwedzera uye kurwadziwa kwakanyanyisa, kuchava nestol yakajeka, yakajeka, sazvino.
Mune nguva dzakaoma dzehupenyu, gara kure nevanhu, edza kuvimbana navo.
Kana vanhu vakadaro vasipo munharaunda yenyu - shanyira imwe nyanzvi yezvepfungwa kana mushumiri wekutenda kwako. Vanhu ava vanoshevedzwa kuti vabatsire kubva pakuona kwebasa kune avo vane upenyu hunooma.
Inobatsira kuchinja mamiriro acho ezvinhu, shandura pfungwa dzako kune zvinetso zvevamwe vanhu. Uye yeuka, kukura kwako ikozvino chigumisiro chechiitiko muupenyu hwako. Asi iwe hausi wekutanga uye kure nemunhu wokupedzisira pasi pano kuti uone izvi. Nhasi, mugove wakaoma wakabviswa mujenya rako, imwe nguva, vamwe vanhu vasina kujaira vachawana chiitiko chakafanana zvakaoma. Tambudzika, munguva pfupi kurwadziwa kuchava kwakanyanya kuderera, kuderera kusvika kuhutano hwepamhizha, apo iwe unogona kuyananisa nayo uye unozviziva.
Upenyu mushure mekuparadzanisa nevanodiwa
Kunyengera, kupopotedzana, kusanzwisisika uye sechigumisiro - kuparadzana kubva kune waunoda kunogona kuunza vamwe ku "hupenyu husingadi." Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinokurudzira nzira dzakawanda dzokuti ungabuda sei munyika ino.
Chinhu chokutanga chaunogona kuita kana iwe uchiziva kuti mumwe munhu anoda kubviswa pane hupenyu hwake uye kubva mukurangarira kwake kuchinja nzvimbo yake yekugara. Kana iwe unogona kubva kune imwe nguva kwenguva refu kune hama mune rimwe guta kana musha. Iko kuti, basa rako harisi kungochinja mamiriro acho ezvinhu, asiwo kuderedza mukana wekusangana nemunhu akakutadzira.
Paradza zvose zvinhumba muimba, mumamiriro ako ezvinhu, izvo zvinokuyeuchidza pamusoro pazvo - yako pamwe chete mapikicha, disk zvinyorwa, zvibvise kubva kune shamwari dzako mumagariro evanhu uye nezvimwe zvakadaro.
Yeuka, pane yako iwe mukuru unogona kutamba mukudzorerwa kwemafungiro emafungiro evanhu, vasikana, vabereki, vamwe vanhu vashoma. Usaramba kubatsira nekukurukura navo.
Psychotherapists vanofunga
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinofunga kuti vanhu vanoda kugadzirisa zvinhu muupenyu vanozvinyengera ivo pachavo. Kuenda kwavo kubva muupenyu hakugoni kupedza matambudziko. Uye kuti nyaya yacho haisviki kuora mwoyo uye kuzviuraya kunotevera danho rokutanga, apo dambudziko rangova rakajeka, nyatsofungisisa zvauri kufunga pamusoro pekusaunza "snowball" yemafungo anotyisa.
Masayendisiti anonyatsoziva, achingoti munhu wako wepedyo kana iwe unofunga nezvekusiya, zvakakosha kuita zvakakurumidza mune imwe nzira. Iwe haugone kurarisana nayo zvakarongeka - tsvaka mazano kubva kune chiremba wepfungwa, mupfungwa yepfungwa.
Chii chandinofanira kuita kana ini ndisingadi kurarama vadiwa venyu?
Saka, shamwari yako yepedyo inokupa kuti unzwisise kuti haana simba rokurarama, haadi kuramba achipo. Chii chaungaita, uye chii chisingafaniri kubvumidzwa munyaya iyi?
Nhanho 1. Teerera nokungwarira yako interlocutor. Usamudzivisa. Usaratidze kunyanyisa kutaura mazwi. Usamutonga. Regai murume wacho ataure kunze kusvikira pakupedzisira.
Chiito 2. Edza kunzwisisa kana munhu ari kunyanya kuzviuraya here kana kuti zvinongotyisa chete, kushandura kuzviuraya?
Danho 3. Kana iwe uchinzwa kuti rubatsiro rwako, runofanira kupiwa nesimba rako rose, mamiriro ako ari kutarisana haakwani, haugoni kurarama nawo - kumbira munhu wepedyo kuti ashanyire mumwe mupfungwa wepfungwa.
Chiito 4. Pane kudaro, chii chingave chisingaiti pane yako. Hazvifanirwe kuva mumamiriro ezvinhu aya kuti akurudzire munhu "kunwa," "zorora," "kukanganwa," "famba kufamba." Hazvigoneki kuti nzira idzi dzichabatsira munhu mukutsamwa kukuru kuti atsungirire kusada kurarama.
Unobatsira maziviro epfungwa, kana iwe usingadi kurarama
Iwe wakadzingwa kubva kubasa, iwe wakakunda matambudziko nevana vako, murume wako, une munhu wepedyo zvikuru, zvakawanda zvezvikwereti zvakawedzerwa, haugoni kubhadhara zvikwereti nemamwe mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma. Nzira yekubuda ndiyo iyi. Tarisa kubva kumativi ekutamba mujecha rebhokisi kana kuti vana vechikoro. Vane nzira inokosha yehupenyu, izvo zvingava zvakanaka kugamuchira kune vanhu vakaora mwoyo.
Vana vese yechipiri vachifara nguva kana kusuruvara zvakakwana. Asi kuti vanofara sei kana kuti vanoona sei, saka vakakurumidza kukanganwa pamusoro pemamiriro ezvinhu aya. Mumwe anogona kutaura uchangamire - vana vanoda hupenyu uye vanorarama nguva iyo yese nemasero emuviri wavo.
Sei vanhu vasingafaniri kutora tsika dzehupenyu hwemwana hwezuva rimwe nerimwe kwechinguva chakaoma?
Iwe une kuora mwoyo nekuda kwechikonzero, sezvazvinoratidzika kwauri, zvemunharaunda yako isina kufanira, iwe nzvimbo yako, nekuda kwekusurukirwa. Uye panguva iyi vakawanda vane lonudhi lyudinauchilis vakanyatsogadzirisa kusurukirwa kwavo uye kusabatsiri, kuva nechipfuwo. Mukutarisira kwake vanonzwa kudiwa kwavo kwehupenyu huno. Kati kana imbwa, zvakare, inopa venzi vadzo zvinhu zvakawanda zvinofadza, manheru anofadza, anoshayiwa wega.
Uyezve zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti kana imwe danho muhupenyu hwemunhu rapera, imwe inotanga nguva dzose, mune misangano inofadza, misangano, kutendeuka kunokosha kwakagadzirirwa iwe.
Izvi zvinoitika kuti kusada kurarama kunokonzerwa nebhizimisi rauri kuita iye zvino uye hazvikuunzira kugutsikana kwetsika kwenguva yakareba kare. Kwete basa, saka nzira yehupenyu yawakazvigadzirira iwe, yakakudzivisa iwe kuronga. Iwe unofara saka unorarama, hauoni gwa. Asi dambudziko racho rinogadziriswa nyore nyore. Hongu, zvinogona kuve zvakakosha kuparadzanisa nedare rakagadziriswa mune basa risingadiwi, nenzira yakararama yehupenyu, izvo zvakaita kuti urege kuda kurarama. Asi iwe unenge uchiita chimwe chinhu chinonyatsokufarira iwe, kunyange kana chiri chinhu chakareruka munyika, asi iwe unofarira chaizvo. Usanyara pakuita chimwe chinhu icho chinoreva uye chinangwa chikuru muupenyu hwako.