Zvakakosha kutaurira maforamu emhuri paInternet pamusoro pemaitiro ebaba, uye hondo dzakakomba dzinotambwa pakati pevashanyi, kunyanya vakadzi. Amai vari kukakavadzana kuti ndiyo inonyatsotsanangura pfungwa ye "baba vakanaka", unhu hunhu hupi hunofanirwa nemunhu uyu, mumwe munhu anomira pachinzvimbo chokuti hakuna baba vezvisikwa uye mapapa anotanga kukurukura nevana vavo kana paine zvinofadza (unogona kutaura, kutamba bhora, nezvimwewo.) Vamwe vana vanotaura izvi zvisina maturo uye vachitaura nekunyomba pamusoro pekubatana kwavo pachavo, nezvekuti baba vachangobva kuitwa vakashandura sei diapers kubva pakuberekwa uye pasina shungu vakamuka usiku kumwana anochema , HaVaYaH hope dzake anokosha kure imwe hafu kugeza nzvimbo "Pope-getter", ane chikuru basa -. Variritire mhuri, ndoda kukunda mai mwana pachake. Vamwe havafungi nezvehupenyu hwemhuri pasina rubatsiro uye kutsigirwa kwemudzimai muzviito zvose: kubva kune vekufambisa kune nyaya dzekugadzirisa. Kana kuparadzaniswa kwakadaro kwebasa kwakakodzera kune vose vakaroorana, hapana chakakosha pamusoro pacho, sezvavanotaura. Asi zvakadini kana mamiriro acho asina kukodzera imwe yemapati?
Richaibva rini?
"Apo Alyosha wedu akaberekwa, ndakanga ndiri mudenga rechinomwe ndine mufaro," akadaro Nastya. "Uye murume wangu aiita sokuti ari kumativi ose nguva dzose." Achadzoka kumba kubva kubasa, kudya kwemanheru uye kuenda kune kombiyuta kana kuTV. Ndinomuudza kuti zuva redu uye mwanakomana wangu apfuura sei, anogunun'una, asi kukurukurirana hakubatsiri. Sezvo iye asina hanya. Munguva ichangopfuura ndakamukumbira kugara neAlyosha apo ini ndinotora. Mushure memaminetsi mashanu, akanga atova kusvitsa pamusuo, nokuti mwanakomana wake akanga ane tsvina yake, uye baba vake havagone kuchinja. "Mamiriro ezvinhu apo vanaamai vari nechecheche kunonzi mumwe-on-one haisiwo kazhinji.Kwana zvakakwana kuverenga mharidzo imwe chete pamisasa kuti unzwisise izvi, asi chii chaunofanira kuita? Ungamutsa sei chimiro chababa mubaba vachangobva kuberekwa? Kusiyana nekusaziva kwakashata, simba rebaba ravapo, rinozviratidza ... kuchengetedza vana vake Mamwe mazwi, iwe nevana vako musingatyisidziki , Baba vakanyarara. muchecheti, kuziva chidimbu, marwadzo, haashandi kumanikidzira majeures anotyisidzira hupenyu hwemwana, kune rumwe rutivi, zvose zvinogona kuverengerwa kune zvehutano, uye edza kuchinja mafungiro ako kumamiriro ezvinhu kana iwe usingakwanisi kuzvishandura iwe pachako. Izvo zvose maziso ako, ndiwo mahomoni ako ari kushungurudza, uye vana vako vemunharaunda vari kunyorovesa zvose zvese, kusvika kuhutano hwekuzvidzivirira .Rudzi urwu rwekurara runokuvadza iwe, runobata chido chakanakisisa kana chigaro chakanaka. Uye murume anogona (ane kodzero!) Kwete kugoverana newe iwe zvinonakidza zvako, uye kwete nokuti iye asina hanya ne chump. Rega iye nenzira yake pachake awane rufaro rwemhuri - mukudada pamusoro pomwana wake, mukufarira kufungisisa zvaakabudirira, mukutenda kuti iwe uri amai vakanaka uye pamwe newe mwana akazara, akazvigadzirira uye anofara. Ikoshesa izvo musoro wemhuri unoita nekuda kwehupenyu hwako hwose: inopa mhuri, inoshanda (kupi, nenzira, zvichida ineta), inotarisira iwe uye mwana.
Haudi kushivirira uwandu hwakadaro hwemasimba here? Ita nekuchenjera. Tanga zvishoma nezvishoma kudhonza pamwechete baba navana. Uye kwete nekushandura chidimbu, asi nezvinhu zvakawanda zvinofadza - vimba baba vakanyatsonaka uye vanofara kuti crumple baba vekukurukura kwenguva yakati, regai ivo vatambe. Panguva imwe chete, gara nechemberi uye uitewo muitiro iwe pachako, uri wakagadzirira chero nguva kuti uwane baton.
Nezvose unyoro
"Baba vedu nekuzvarwa kweMashka kwachinja," anodaro Ella. - Nyika yose ikozvino inotenderera kumwanasikana wake: ndoga ndinonzwa: uye Mashenka anodya? Uye chii chaunomupfekedza kufamba? Sei iwe usingamuudzidzisi kuverenga? Panguva imwecheteyo, baba pachake vanoongorora mabhuku ekurera vana, anosarudza nguva yokutumira zvokudya zvakakwana. Shamwari dzangu dzinondigodora ini, uye ndinonzwa ... chinhu chinowanikwa kumwanasikana wangu. "Zvechokwadi, heroine yenyaya yacho inoratidzika seinofara, uye haifari - zvinowanzoitika kuti murume wake ari kunyanya kupindira mune zvose, asingachawani nzvimbo yekugadzirisa, uye mumwe angave akagomera nokuzorodzwa, kushandura zvose kutarisira mwana kuna papa, asi ikoko kwaiva, mumamiriro ezvinhu akadai, kumwe kuchinja kana kutoshandurwa kwebasa kunoitika.Papa, kunze kwebasa rake rakanaka rebaba, anotorawo kuvabereki, achisiya mukadzi kunze kwebasa Kana mukadzi asati aonekwa secheche mune izvi E kuridza basa mwana kuti murume wake, asi zvino rinotaura manzwiro vakavhengana -. Godo, kunzwa kusiyiwa Uyezve, mumwe baba akadaro basa haapi mukadzi zvakazara kunzwa zvikuru saamai Nokudaro kusagutsikana kuitika ..
Dzimwe nguva baba vanoratidza kuchengetedza zvakanyanya uye ... vachiedza kufadza mudzimai wake. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinofunga kuti madzibaba ezvinyoro vakanyanya varume vane mazinga epamusoro eesrogen - mahomoni evanhukadzi. Kubva pakuona kwehutano, zvinhu zvose ndezvechokwadi: kune mahomoni anokonzera humwe huratidziro hwevanhu, maererano, kana izvi kuratidzira muhupenyu hwevanhu zvinocherechedzwa, zvino, uye mahomoni mune zvakawanda. Zvechokwadi, mumunhu chero upi zvake, pasinei nehutano, pane zvose zviri varume nevakadzi mashomoni. Zvimwe zvisingaiti, "100%" vakadzi vaizove vakanyorova uye vanozorora, uye varume 100% vakanyanyisa, nokuti mubvunzo hausi mukuvapo kwehomoni, asi muhuwandu hwehuwandu hwavo. "Mahomoni akawanda echikadzi mumurume, unhu hwakawanda hwevakadzi hunoratidzwa maari. Mhuri dzinofara dzinowanikwa uko kuyerwa kwemarmone ari maviri kunobatanidza: somuenzaniso, nebaba vane hanya, saimba ane hutano hwakanaka nemwana-mupi wemunhu anoziva basa uye achiwana mwana neg (nemamwe mazwi, mukono mahormone dzake zhinji). Kuna ano Exchange iyi mabasa zvinogamuchirika uye chakajairika. Matambudziko kuitika apo mahormone vari "anoparadzirwa" zvakaenzana. Semuenzaniso, vabereki vose vanoda kushamwaridzana, uye saka amai, avo mushure mokuberekwa kwemucheche vanozove "vakasungwa neruoko," vanotanga kuremerwa nebasa ravo, vanoedza kuita kuti basa racho riparidzwe zvakafanana, kubva pane vanaamai vanogona kunzwika: "Uyu mwana uye kwandiri ini dangwe, iniwo handizivi kuti ndingamuchengeta sei, asi kana ndikadzidza, nei papa asingafaniri kudaro? " Kana wasvika pakuratidzira, munhu wese ari mumhuri iyi anotenderera: vanotendeuka kuti vamire kumucheche pakati peusiku, tendeukai kuti mudye (kana zvisiri zvekuyamwisa, hongu), kutendeuka kufamba. Uye mari mumabhadharo emhuri, sekutonga, yakapetwa mukati.
Ngationei mhinduro
Baba, semadzimai, vakasiyana, uye hazvibvumirwi kuverenga vose pamwe chete. Mhuri ihupenyu hupenyu, uye chero shanduko mairi inofanira kuva oboyudozhelannymi. Uye, hongu, kana iwe ukamira panzvimbo, "Ini ndisina kutsoropodzwa, uye iwe, sewe nguva dzose, idiot," iwe hauna mhinduro yakanaka. Tsvaga kupindira, enda kune umwe neumwe, uye usazvivhara iwe pachako. Asi funga funga nezvemhando ipi yepapa iwe unogona kusanganisira musoro wako wemhuri.
• Baba ndivo muwani. Baba ava vanoshanda zvakawanda uye vari pamba zvishomanana. Uye kana achionekwa, aneta uye "zviri nani kuti arege kutendeuka." Kana iwe uchida kuva nababa vanodedera uye murume ane hanya newe, iwe ... unofanira kushandura munhu.Zvino zvakakosha here? Kwete kwete kuti, kuva neshamwari yakadai muupenyu "Kuyeuchidza" yakatovapo, iwe uchagutsikana. Mushure mezvose, zvinogona kuitika kuti panzvimbo pokuwana mari, baba vangada kugara newe mujecha rebhokisi. Uye ndiani zvino achapa mhuri?
• Baba-hen. Anonyatsotarisana nemwana, anoverenga mabhuku, anotamba naye uye anotaura nezvehupenyu kwenguva refu. Chero "basa rekugadzirisa" manheru uye vhiki dzevhiki, pasina mubvunzo achasarudza mhuri yezororo. Pasina munhu akadaro iwe unogara uchinzwa uchidiwa.Kana mari yababa ichigutsa zvido zvemhuri uye chido, ipapo zvakadaro zvinogona kukanganiswa.Use hukama hwakanaka kune vakaroorana, Iwe unofanira kungoita chete kuti baba vako havatsivi mwana wako.
• Baba vatorwa. Anoita kunge anewe, asi sekunge kuti haanzwisisi chinhu. Zvakanyanya kufadza kuva neshamwari kupfuura mumhuri. Baba vanogara vari panze, uye hazvikwanisi kutaurwa kuti anoshanda mune hupenyu hwehupenyu - anotarisira hupenyu hwezuva nemhuri. Muenzaniso iwoyo unowanzowanikwa pakati pevarume vakazova baba "vasingabatsiri" -kusati vava nekugadzikana mupfungwa mupfungwa, kuva mwana pachake, munhu anoramba, sezvaanogona, akawira kwaari mutoro.Ari mamwe mazwi, anongomhanya kwaari.Aka, izvi zvinowanzowanikwa pa mararamiro edu, uye inenge isingazivikanwi kumavirazuva - kwavanowanzononoka uye vane vana bedzi pavanenge vaibva mukati mavo.Uye ungaitei mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro akatovapo? Edza kubatsira mubatsiri wako kukura asi kwete nekutuka, asi zvinopesana - nekuyemura Zvaanokuitira iwe nechecheche, taura kuti iwe unofara nokuti unoita sei uye ane hanya naye, kuti anokubatsira sei (kunyange kana zvisina kudaro!) Akashandura kuti iye ndiye baba vezvose zviri mhinduro uye zvakakwana nemamiriro ose aya, mutungamiriri wemhuri anogona kuva ivo uye mukuita.
• Baba mwana. Baba vakadaro vane rufaro rwakakura vanobatwa nevana, asi izvozvo chete. iyo inonakidza uye inofadza kwaari. Tamba nemwana? Ndapota! Hongu, nemafaro! Mu mwana baba, sekutonga, vana havadi mhirizhonga, anoronga kufamba-famba, anofungidzira mitambo inofadza, anokubvumira kudya maswiti nemaoko, uye kubvisa chirango chaamai. nababa, uye baba - munhu-zororo .Zvino rumwe rutivi, rwakanaka, vana vane chimwe chinhu chinonakidza, uye kune rimwewo - hazvigoneki kuti amai "vakaipa" vachada. Zvakakosha here kururamisa zvinyorwa zvepapa, kubvumirana naye kuti asaita "mumiriri wakaipa" kubva kuna amai vangu, uye, zvichida, vanobatana nemidhadhi yavo yevakomana? Uye munhu wose achagutsikana!
Kana baba vachirarama vari voga
Dzimwe nguva zvinowanzoitika kuti mhuri inoparadzana panguva yekuzvitakura kwomukadzi, kana inoronga kurera mwana oga. Tingabhadhara sei nhengo inoshaya yemhuri ine mwana mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro? Chokutanga pane zvose, tinofanira kubvuma mamiriro ezvinhu aya uye hatiiti sechinhu chisina kukodzera. Kutambudzwa nemanzwiro eine mhosva pamberi pemwana wake pachake nokuti anokura mumhuri isina kukwana, mukadzi anotora mgozi nekunonoka kwehukama muhukama nemwana. Chokutanga, kunzwa amai vangu vasina kunaka, mwana akatova kubva kumakore vaduku zvikuru anogona kudzidza kuti chimwe chinhu chakaipa naye. Tichifunga nezvemamiriro ezvinhu pachedu, amai vangu sevanoudza mwana: "Hatina kufanana nevamwe vose." Uye kana kuparadzana kubva kumurume kusati kwaitika nekuda kwemukadzi, ipapo kusagutsikana kwake kunogona kutsigirwa nekuzvidza kwake kumurume wake uye kunoreva hupenyu. Iwe unogona kuita sei mumamiriro ezvinhu aya? Tora iwe mutemo: amai vanofara vanofara uye mwana wavo.Kana iwe ukabata mamiriro ezvinhu senjodzi, mwana achazviona nenzira imwechete, nokuti anotarisa pasi nemeso ako. Hongu, mamiriro ezvinhu Mr. Zvakanaka, asi izvi hazvirevi kuti iwe kana mwana wako pane imwe nzira yakaipa, saka zvakangoitika! Chechipiri, zvakakosha kuchengeta chokwadi chokuti pane varume vari mumamiriro emwana-sekuru, munun'una wadikanwa, shamwari dzako. mufananidzo wehutsika, gadzirisa chikamu chehupenyu. Saka, mifananidzo yake yepasi ichaumbwa yakakwana uye yakarurama. Muchiitiko ichi, kuita zvepabonde kwemwana hakuna kukosha. Kuvapo kwemurume muhupenyu hwomwana kunobatsirawo kuvakomana vanodzidza kubva kwavari kuti vave varume, uye nokuda kwevasikana, kuita shanduko dzekubatana Ndiri simba hafu yevanhu.