Tisati taita mhuri uye tisayina zvikwangwani zvewanano, hatingashamisi kuverenga uye kuisa mirayiridzo zvakajeka kutsanangura nzira yeku "shandisa" mumwe nomumwe kuti tisavakuvadza mu "kushandiswa." Uye kunyange zviri nani vasati vaenda kuhofisi yehofisi kuti vatore kuongorora uye kuwana diploma, kusimbisa kuti takabudirira kuongorora maonero ehukama hwemhuri uye takagadzirira kuroorana. Sei uchivaka dzimba, kuronga ndege uye kutya motokari pasina "kutsika" hazvibviri, asi kuvaka mhuri, kugadzirisa ukama uye kutarisira kuguma kwomumwe munhu - unogona?! Izvi hazvirevi zvishoma here? Kwete! Pane kudaro, ukama husina kugadzirirwa mumhuri imwechete inozopedzisira yava dambudziko risingaregereki kune vose voruzhinji. Asi vanhu vanofungisisa nezveizvi? Kazhinji, kwete! Zvisinei, mhuri imwe neimwe inogona kuzvitarisira.
Kushungurudza pamwe chete nekunyadzisa kamwe chete nekudanana kune vamwe vanhu - mugumisiro wetsika yakashata ye "mwana wechidiki wemhuri." Somugumisiro, kwemakore ekuunganidza zvirevo, kusanzwisisana, uye kusanzwisisana, pane dambudziko rehukama umo mhuri iri kuputika pamakumbo. Maererano nehuwandu, varume vanowanzopikisana nekupisa kwechido. Mafungiro avo haasisina kugadzirisa kukakavadzana uye haatombotauri kujekesa ukama. Nokudaro, musuo kune rumwe rutivi rwemhuri unovhara kakawanda shure kwavo. Pasinei nokuti vanoenda kune avo vanonyengera, shamwari, kumadzimai avo, kana kuti kungonyorera mavanga avo pane imwe nzvimbo munharaunda isina kwavakarerekera, tinogona kungofungidzira. Kuti uwane chikonzero-sei-nei-sei-iyo inonyangarika, tinomhanyira kumaforamu, kumusikana-shamwari, kuvabereki. Asi zvichida tinofanira kubvunza varume vacho pachavo kuti sei vachikandira isu patinovada?
Inoenda kana inotora "nguva kunze"?
"Haisi nguva dzose mushure mokubva kune murume kuti kurambana kunotevera, uye kwete nguva dzose murume, kutora mazino emasero, masokisi nemapasa kubva kumba, anoronga kuisa rudo rwake muchitsikasi. Vakadzi ava vanosangana pfungwa mbiri dzakasiyana zvakasiyana-siyana: "murume anobva" uye "murume anotora nguva"! - akatsanangura mukukurukurirana kwechokwadi, varume vakasiyiwa. Murume anoona dambudziko racho zvakasiyana chaizvo neyemukadzi, uye anoona mumudzi. Kana munhu akabuda mumhuri, haasi kubva kumukadzi, asi kubva kuhurumende iyo inonzwa pedyo naye. Anoshandura chimwe chiitiko pedyo nomukadzi mumwe, imwe nyika pedyo neimwe. Murume anofamba nesutukesi chete kunzvimbo iyoyo inonyaradza apo anonzwa akasimba, ane chivimbo, ane hanya, akabudirira, ane rudo uye anodikanwa. "Nguva kunze" inodiwa kuti munhu azvinzwisise uye hukama hwakapa kupa. Akangomira kunzwa kune avo vaanoda nyika iyo yaakasika mhuri nayo. Kuramba kwakadaro kune zvikamu zviviri zvekugadzirwa kwezviitiko: kusiya nguva nekusara uye kusiya "pause", mushure mokunge rutivi rutsva rwekuvandudza ukama hwemhuri zvingatanga. Chiitiko chipi chinowanikwa chinoenderana zvikuru nemukadzi. Kana iye achiona kuenda kwake kana kuparadzana (mumuviri, mumweya) sekuzvidza kwake, kurambana hakugoni kudziviswa. Chengeta munhu wako anodikanwa anogona kungodzokera kwaari iye nyika uye nyaradzo yemweya, iyo iye, pakuiswa, semishonga, haigone kudzoka chete.
10 nhanho mberi kwekutarisira komurume anodiwa
Danho 1. Tora munhu kuti ndiani. Murume haasi chinhu, uye munhu haafaniri kumubata zvakanyanya: "Handidi! Shandura jasi, keke kana kugadzirisa. Murume anogona kungokurudzirwa munzira dzose dzinogona kubudirira, achishandisira izvi izvo zvisingagoni kuwanikwa. Kutsiura nekuisa pfungwa pazvikanganiso - kwete zvinyorwa zvakanakisisa zvekufananidzira murume wake mumufananidzo uye zvakafanana nezvakanaka. Uye, zvinonyanya kukosha, usakanganwa kumurumbidza uye kumutenda nguva dzose paanofanirwa nazvo!
Danho 2. Ida iwe zvishoma pane murume. Mukadzi akazvipira zvakakwana kumunhu uye akanganwa nezvehumai hwake, munguva pfupi kana kuti inozova kusakunda kumurume wake. Hapana munhu arikumbira chibayiro paatari yerudo, saka zvinoshamisa kuti utaure munhu, kuti akarega kuda mukadzi akazvitanga (mune zvose). Akawira murudo kune uyo uyo, achikurumidza kusvika kune zuva rake, haana kukanganwa kugadzirisa miromo yake, akamuita godo neboka revapambi uye aiziva kuti aigona sei kusiyanisa murume kubva mutambo. Mutengo upi uyo mukadzi akazvigadzirira iye, murume akadaro aripa!
Danho 3. Ranana pabonde nemurume wako. Zvepabonde ndeimwe ye "nhekwe" huru dzinochengetedza murume pedyo nemukadzi. I "chimiro chekutanga" muwanano haifaniri kuva yechipiri. Ngakuve zviri nani borscht haingasviki, kupfuura apo kuchave "kusina kunaka" zvepabonde kana kuti hazvizovi zvachose. Murume weBorscht haabviri kuenda kumumwe mukadzi, asi kune zvepabonde ... Regai upenyu hwemhuri hurambe huri hukama hwepedyo: "pika, ita rugare, asi rara pasi pamwe chete!" Uye regai nguva dzose igare kwete chete yakarongeka asiwo zvepabonde.
Danho 4. Taura nemurume. Mhuri umo vanhu vanokwanisa kutaura pachena nezve rudo, pamusoro pezvinetso, nezvehukama, hazvikwanisi kuparadzana. Zvechokwadi, mukadzi anofanira kutaurira zvakanyanya kukura kupfuura murume. Nokudaro, mukana wekuvaka muenzaniso wehukama hwakakonzerwa nezvinetso, uri maari. Kune mutemo wegoridhe, kuchengetwa kwahwo kuchaita kuti pave nekukurukurirana kunovaka: murume anofanira kutanga apiwa zvokudya, achipiwa zororo uye ozobva atanga kukurukura kukuru kana kusinganzwisisiki. Uye zvakadaro, vanofunga nezvepfungwa vanobvumidza kurambidza kukurukura nemashoko anoti: "Vadiwa, tinoda kutaura!"
Nhanho 5. Kushamiswa, kufungidzira, kukurudzira murume. Rudo runofa apo vakaroorana vanozorodza uye vanorega kukunda mumwe nomumwe, tsvaga kubatana pamwe nekudyisa rudo. Zvisingaiti zviduku, asi zvakakosha zvakakosha muhukama, sekutsvoda kwekuparadzanisa, sms romantic, kudana pasina chikonzero, zviduku zvinoshamisa zvinoshamisa, kubata, mukadzi anova tsika. Kugadziriswa ndiro danho rokutanga rokutambudzika muukama. Zviri nyore kurasikirwa nerudo rwemunhu mukusaremekedza kwakadzika, izvo zvisingaoneki kune vose zviri zviviri zvichava kusava nehanya.
Danho 6. Usava munhu shamwari. "Usangova shamwari neni! Inouraya mukadzi mandiri "- mumwe munhu akanyatsorondedzera zvakajeka migumisiro yeshamwari pakati pemurume nemukadzi. Muchato, kunyanya icho chave chiripo kwemakore akawanda, ushamwari huzhinji hunotsiviwa nechishuwo. Zvechokwadi, zvakanaka! Asi zvakashata kana inokurudzira rudo uye zvepabonde pakati pevakaroorana. Mumhuri yakadaro, mudzimai anova shamwari ine hanya, tsitsi, chifuva kumurume wake. Newe shamwari iwe unogona kunwa doro musati wakatarisana, usashungurudzika kutuka kwematatu matatu eupenyu, zvibvumira kuti urege kuveura uye kuti urege kupa maruva. Izvi zvinogamuchirwa here muukama nemukadzi wavanoda?
Danho 7. Iva kuvimbika uye kuvimbika kwevanhu. Kana mumwe mukadzi wese akarota murume uyo uyo, semusvingo wedombo, ipapo munhu upi zvake achapa hafu yeushe nokuda kwomukadzi uyo achava iye akavimbika shure. "Mukusuruvara, uye mumufaro, mune upfumi uye urombo!" - izvi hazvirevi mazwi emhiko yomuchato. Murume anoda kuve nechokwadi chokuti mudiwa haasi naye nekuda kwekubudirira kwake, mukurumbira kana mari, asi nokuda kwake. Zvakakosha kuti iye anzwisise kuti kunyange kana nyika yose ichipikisana naye, mudzimai wake acharamba achimira shure kwake, uye achigadzikana achipa mapuraneti.
8. Usazotya kurwisana nemurume. Hazvina mhosva kuti zvinoshamisa sei, mhuri inenge isina mhirizhonga ichaparadzwa. Kana vakaroorana vasingawani hukama, saka zvakakodzera kutarisa "kutora" kwemhuri yakadai, zvichida iye atofa? Dzimwe nguva varume vanonyatsomutsa kutsvaga kutyisa kuti vave nechokwadi-kune manzwiro uye ivo ndeechokwadi. Mhirizhonga yemhuri mukana wekunzwisisa mumwe nemumwe, kuratidza marwadzo avo uye kuratidza izvo zvisiri pachena. Kurwisana nemurume iwe unogona uye unotoda! Chinhu chikuru hachisi chokuda kufara nehasha dzakatsamwa, asi murugare rwekugadzirisa dare mumakurukota emhuri, izvo zvinorega kushandisa mazwi "haambo" uye "nguva dzose" munguva yepikisano.
Nhanho 9. Kuva nemurume nguva dzose yakasiyana. Kuti ave mukurumbira, mukadzi anofanira kunge achigara akasiyana. Saka vakataura kuti Coco Chanel ainzi fesista, uye mazwi ake aireva kwete mufananidzo wemafashoni uye zvipfeko zvemukadzi. Mukuva noukama nemurume, mutemo uyu unoshandawo zvisina maturo. Mukadzi iyeye achabva asina kumira, izvo zvichange zvisingazivikanwi uye zvisinganzwisisiki kune murume. Mukadzi anofanira kugara ane arsenal yemifananidzo yakachena iyo ichachengeta murume wake akanaka. Inogona kunge iri musikana muduku waunoda kutarisira, uye mukuru wekutsvaga, uyo ane caprices iwe unoda kuzvidzora, uye unyanzvi wemubatidzi, pedyo iyo nguva dzose inofadza uye inogutsa, uye anodikanwa zvikuru, uyo-kunyange kudenga, kusvika kugehena. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuti tisati takanamatira mufananidzo mumwe.
Danho 10. Chengetedza nzvimbo. Basa riri mumhuri rakagoverwa nevanhu vepakutanga avo vakaratidza zvakajeka kuti ndiani akatakura mammoth muimba, uye ndiani akachengetedza mutezo uye kubika cutlets, kabichi rolls uye jellied nyama. Kubva panguva iyo, mvura yakawanda yakayerera uye marudzi mazhinji evanhu akachinja, asi mamiriro emhuri, apo murume ari dhekta, uye mukadzi, muchengeti we "chivako" - yakaramba iri tsika inokosha. Kuumba kuchena muimba, mukadzi wacho anonyanya kufungidzira vanhu vekare masikati. Kuti arege kuitika kubasa rake, munyika kana kunyange mu "kuruboshwe" pane zvakaonekwa munguva, murume achaendeswa asingatenderwi kuenda kuimba iyo kunatswa, kurongeka nekunyaradza kunotonga, uko kune kunhuwira kunhuwirira kwepesti uye apo kune mamiriro ekudzikama uye asingagadzirwi rudo runogadzirwa.