Kana vanhu vachishandisa mutsa wako

Zvakaoma kwazvo kutaurira vanhu "kwete" nokuti kubvira paudiki wakadzidziswa kuti hazvina maturo kuramba vanhu vanokukumbira. Iwe wakadzidza chidzidzo ichi zvakanaka. Asi chii chaunofanira kuita kana iwe usingazivi kuti iwe unoti "kwete" zvinokudzivirira kubva kurarama, chii chaunofanira kuita kana vanhu vachishandisa mutsa wako? Dzimwe nguva iwe unoti kwauri: "Zvakanaka, zvakakwana! Zvakakosha kuunganidza uye kuisa zvose "i". Kuti amutsanangurire kuti haasi munharaunda yangu uye ini handingasangana naye, ndicho chikonzero haana kukurumidza kupindura nhare kana. " Kana: (Kana bhizimisi zvakare akakumbira kunyora rugwaro rwemashoko ("Zvakanyanya kukurumidzira, kungopisa, uye Lidochka" zvakashata "haisi kudhinda, unoziva"), uye kumuudza kuti ndakabatikana nemushumo unokosha, uye kuti zvakafanira kutora munyori, anoziva kudhinda, uye kwete kofi chete, uye kupfura nemaziso uye kune avo vandinoshanda pamwe neni ndichaisa mirayiridzo yekushandisa mishonga yefeksi, uye zvino vanoshandiswa kumhanya kwandiri: "Rubatsiro, haufariri chigadziro ichi chinokuvadza kutumira mashoko." Uye mose rudzi rwakasarudzwa zvakanaka, uye rukagadzirisa kukurukurirana kwakaoma, asi ... Akadana manheru, uye iwe wakaenda naye m mumabhizimisi, kunyange zvazvo mafirimu wamatoona pane vhidhiyo, uye haana kukuda iwe zvachose, uye iyo yose firimu yaitambudzwa nekuti akatora ruoko rwako, uye iwe hauna kutarisira kuibvisa - kamwe kamwe munhu wacho achagumburwa. Ndakamhanyira kunyorera "chiitiko chakakosha", ndichidzoka mushumo wangu wekota we "wekupedzisira", ndisingarevi kuti ndaifanira kutaura shoko kwaari pamusoro pekunyorera munyori wangu anodikanwa, asi iwe wakaramba uchiisa mirayiridzo yekushandisa michina ye fax. Mhedziso chete kubva muchigamba chepapepa, kana vanhu, vasingazvioni, vasina tsika, vanoenda nechikumbiro kwamuri. Ko kana vanhu vachishandisa mutsa wako, uye iwe hauna mwoyo wekuramba? Chigumisiro ndechokuti mushumo wacho wakaiswa uye iwe wakagamuchira kurangwa kubva kuna chef, uyo anokanganisa mafoni, asinganono - anofunga kuti iwe unopenga pamusoro pake, uye vashandi vanoramba vachishandisa mutsa wenyu.

Nei izvi zvichiitika?
Vanhu vazhinji vari nyore chaizvo kuita chimwe chinhu pane mumwe munhu, pane kutsanangura kuti nei vasingakwanisi kuita izvi, kunyange kune zvinokuvadza ivo pachavo. Kusakwanisa kuramba kune vanhu vakaderera, vane mutsa uye vanovhunduka, vane hutsika hwekuzviremekedza. Vanoshungurudzwa kubva kune avo "kukanganisa," asi havangwarire kuratidzira avo vanoramba vachiti "vakakumbira" nokuda kwekutya kuvashuwisa ivo vasingazivi. Kusuruvara, asi vazhinji vakadzi vasingakwanisi kuramba "munhu akanaka kudaro" vakatungamirira korona nemunhu asingadiwi. Isu tose tinoda kutarisa zviri nani mumaziso evamwe pane zvatiri chaizvoizvo. Asi vamwe mune chido ichi kuti ave akanaka kune munhu wose kuenda kusvika pakukanganwa kuti ivo vanaani. Vanorasikirwa ne "I". Uye nokuwana mukurumbira wemurume akatendeka uye ane mutsa, paunogona "kutasva", uye nekuregererwa kwakakwana, anotambura kubva mune izvi, asi haagoni kuchinja chero chinhu. Sezvo mutemo, "kukanganisa-kusina" ndevaya "vakanga vasingadi" sevana. Vabereki vakaoma zvakanyanya kana kusava nehupenyu hwemwana kunomutadzisa kuti iye zvino achaedza kuwana rudo rwake hupenyu hwake hwose, kusanganisira pasina kukwana kuzadzisa zvikumbiro uye zvishuvo zvevamwe vanhu.

Ko kana vanhu vakashandisa mutsa wako kuti uzive? Nhamba dzinotaura kuti kazhinji vanhu vakanaka havakwanisi kuramba chikumbiro kumushandi wavo, murume akanaka uye vashandi pabasa. Zvakanaka, pamwe nomubati wezvinhu zvose zvakajeka - zvinodhura! Newe munhu waunoda-zvakare (pakarepo unoziva kwete kukwanisa kushandisa mapepa akanyorwa uye akarurama mapurogiramu, asi kunaka kwako kuchacherechedza). Vashandi pamwe chete havadi kukanganisa - kamwe kamwe zuva rimwe chete rubatsiro rwavo ruchadikanwa, uye haruzonzwisisiki kuenda uye kubvunza. Kunyange zvazvo, maererano nevanodzidza nezvepfungwa, vanhu vakanaka vasingarambi munhu, ivo, sekutonga, kazhinji vanotsvaka rubatsiro, vachida kurarama ivo pachavo. Kusakwanisa kutaura kuti "kwete" kunogona kutungamirira kwete kungovhiringidza zvakasangana nemunhu oga, asi, zvisingadikanwi, kukakavadzana kubasa uye mumhuri. Nguva dzose ichivhiringidzika nezvikumbiro zvevamwe, unogona nyore kukurira chikamu chako chebasa uye kukonzera kutsamwa kwevakuru vakuru uye kusagutsikana kwevashandi. Kutya kuramba munhu kunogona kukuvadza kwete iwe chete, asiwo iye: maitiro ako akanaka, iye achaiswa mukanganiso rakanaka kwaari, nzira yekubuda haisi yakanaka. Iko kukwanisa kutaura "kwete" chiratidzo cheunhu hwakakura. Uye kusvikira iwe uchidzidza kuramba (zvechokwadi, nenzira yakadzikama uye zvichida nekutsanangurwa kwezvikonzero zvekuramba), iwe hauzokwanisi kubvisa manzwiro okusuruvara. Zvisinei, pamwe chete kunzwa semunhu wakakura uye akabata.

Handidi kuva bhiza rinotasva!
Nguva inotevera paunonzwa kuti uri "kutasva", shandisa mazano akadaro kubva kune avo vanofunga nezvepfungwa. Bvunza kuti nei iwe uchifanira kuva iwe. Kana kutsanangurwa kwomunhu anenge achikumbira kuchiita sokuti iwe hauna kugutsikana, usatya kutamba kana kukurudzira mumwe munhu anogona kuzadzisa chikumbiro chacho. Mhinduro yako inofanira kunge iri pfupi, pasina mitsara yakareba uye kutsanangurwa kwezvikonzero zvekuramba. Kana ukaona zvichidikanwa, unogona kutsanangura chikonzero chekuramba. Asi ndekutsanangura, uye kwete kururamisa uye kwete kukumbira ruregerero munyaya iyi.