Pane chido chokuputsa muhukama here? Zvechokwadi, kana iwe ukataurirana nyaya yacho nezvose zvakakomba, unogona kukurumidza kufunga kuti chisarudzo chawakasangana naye kuti atore "nguva kunze" chinogona kuva chinotyisa uye kunyange chiratidzo chinotyisa. Mumwe haafaniri kufunga kuti sarudzo yakadaro ichava inorwadza zvikuru uye dzimwe nguva kunyange kugunun'una kunonzwisisika chete kubva kumadzimai. Kuzvikudza kwevanhu nekudada kuchakuvara zvakanyanya zvokuti mumiriri wesimba rekurara ane simba anogona kwenguva refu akaora mwoyo uye akaora mwoyo.
Zvisinei, chisarudzo chekuvhara chinoshandiswa kakawanda, zvose zviri zviviri pamwe uye unilaterally, uye zvinogona kuita semuedzo, kuedza, chiratidzo, uye dzimwe nguva kunyange kusimbiswa kwehukama hwako.
Chokutanga pane zvose, kana dambudziko rakadaro rakanamatira mumhepo, tinotanga kushamisika kuti chii chakakonzera chikonzero chacho? Ndezvipi zvingava chikonzero chezvikamu zvakadaro zvakadai sokuzorora kwenguva pfupi kubva kune mumwe?
Maererano nevepfungwa dzepfungwa uye vanoita zvepabonde, nheyo yehukama hwakasimba uye husingaperi ndeyechokwadi munharaunda mune zvepfungwa uye dzimwe nguva hazvizivikanwi. Mune mamwe mazwi, iyo ndiyo inowanzodiwa, kufungidzira kwekunakidzwa uye zvimwe zvemagariro evanhu-mupfungwa dzinoita musimboti wakasimba uye wakasimba mupfungwa unochengetedza vanhu pamwe kwemakore. Pachikamu chekutanga chehukama, izvo zvinotora makore maviri kana matatu, vanhu vanogona kufarira nekukanganirana mumwe nomumwe, asi kana, kutaura, chimiro chezvematongerwo enyika chichatsika, chii chinoramba chiri chinhu chinobata vanhu pamwe chete? Kana mhuka yacho ichida uye ichiti, hukuru hwepabonde hwaiva nheyo dzehukama, uye mushure mekunge imwe nguva matambudziko akakomba achatanga uye vaviri vacho vanogona kuguma nekuputsika. Kana pane nzira yekuedza nayo manzwiro ako uye chechokwadi cheukama hwako, kuronga kuputsa muhukama.
Chokutanga pane zvose, iwe unofanira kufungisisa kuti chikonzero cheii hafu-chiyero ndechokuti, tora nguva, uye usaputsa ukama zvachose. Zvichida, ndekusavapo kwekubatanidzwa kwechomukati ichocho chikonzero chiripo? Chimwe chikonzero chinokanganisa chinogona kunge chiri kupindira kwomumwe wechitatu, mumamiriro apo chikamu chako chechipiri chawana "zvakakodzera" sarudzo kwaari. Pano, iyo chete uye yakanakisisa yekugadzirisa ndiyo mhedzisiro, sezvo nekuita izvi imwe nguva, iwe unogona kutarisira zvakachengeteka nekudzokorora matanho nemaitiro ekusava nechokwadi maererano nekuenderana kwako. Kutaura nezvekuenderana. Zvinokwanisika kuti dzakawanda zvezvinetso zvako zvinokonzerwa nekudarika zvakanyanyisa zvinodiwa. Ichokwadi ndechokuti vanhu vazhinji muhupenyu hwavo vane ruzivo rwekubatana pamwe nevasina kupfuura vanhu vatatu. Uye maererano naizvozvo, zvishoma nezvakaitika zvakadaro, zvakanyanya kudiwa zvinoenderana nemumwe wako. Somugumisiro, kuora mwoyo kunomuka nekuda kwekushaikwa kwekuenderana nechinangwa chake. Kuziva kuti "iwe unofanirwa" kuva iwe, iwe waunofambidzana naye uye ukama hwako, iwe hazviiti kuti uzviise mumagumo akafa, se, sezvamunoziva, hapana chakakwana muupenyu. Ndicho chikonzero munyaya iyi, kuparara muhukama hakuzogadziri chinhu uye matambudziko munyaya iyi sezvavari, vachagara. Nokudaro, tinoona kuti kuparara muhukama huri hafu yehafu, uye kwete nguva dzose ichakwanisa kugadzirisa, uye nenzira iri nyore "kuisa" matambudziko ako, uye kunyange pane zvinopesana, kuti uonekwe zvakare.
Kana, zvakadaro, paiva nechido chokuputsa muhukama, ipapo mubvunzo unomuka: "Kwekureba kwenguva iyi inofanira kuve yakarongwa sei, uye inofanira kugara kwenguva yakareba sei? ". Muchirevo ichi, mutsara waFrederick Begbeder unorangarirwa, izvo zvinonzwika sezvizvi: - Kana mushure mezuva rose usina kunetseka nehafu yako yechipiri, saka iwe haudanane, nekuti kana zvisina kudaro ungadai wakave nemaminiti maviri kuti uende inopenga nezvekuoma kwekuparadzana. " Zvechokwadi, iyo maximalism yemashoko aya haavi nechokuita nehupenyu chaihwo, kunyanya sezvo tiri kutaura nezvechikamu chakakosha uye chinotambudza cheukama hwako, chinoratidzwa nekusava nechokwadi uye kusava nechokwadi. Zvechokwadi, nguva yekuparadzaniswa kwenguva pfupi inofanira kukupai mose muri mukana wekufungisisa, kuyera uye, sekutaura, kunzwisisa nguva yapfuura, kutarisa kumashure. Chimwe chezvinhu zvinoshamisa zvikuru zvepfungwa dzevanhu ndezvokuti isu tinokoshesa zvatinorasikirwa nazvo. Muchiitiko ichi, kuputsa kwenguva pfupi rudzi rwekurasikirwa, iyo kana rudo rwako ruchibva pakurwiswa kwehupenyu hwezuva nezuva, huchakupa chikonzero chekutarisanazve, sekutanga kweukama hwako. Uye kuitira kuti zvive zvakakwana kuona kuti kurasikirwa uku hakukwanisi rimwe kana mazuva maviri. Asi kune rumwe rutivi, kurega kwenguva refu kunogona kukonzera kuparadzana, apo chimupupuri chehupenyu hwedu chinokutora iwe kumhenderekedzo dzakasiyana. Ndicho chikonzero chezvikonzero izvi kuti ma-psychologist anoziva uye anorayira ukama hwevavari vaviri vane dambudziko vanopa mazano akanaka emwedzi umwe. Kune rumwe rutivi, izwi racho rinopfuura zvakakwana kufungisisa uye kuona zvimwe zvinhu zvawakakanganwa kuti zvakanyatsotaridzika uye rudo kune yako. Kune rumwe ruvoko, zvichakubatsira iwe kuzvisimudza zvakare, uye kunyange kutarisa mweya wako mutsva nenzira itsva, uchiona izvozvo zvakanaka uye unhu hwausina kumboona nekuda kweziso rejasipi. Uye, zvechokwadi, zvakare-kufema uye kunzwa simba rekugadzikana kwepfungwa apo vanyori venguva dzose vanonzi rudo. Uye ndicho chikonzero usati wafunga pamusoro pechiyero chakadai sekuputsa muhukama hwemwedzi, iwe mose munofanira kufungisisa. Zvakakodzera here?
Mune mhaka ipi zvayo, semugumisiro wezwi iri rakanaka, zvitatu zvinogona kuitika. Muchiitiko chekutanga, kuparadzana kuchakubvumira kuti unzwisise nekukoshesa izvo zvausina kumboona uye uchizvikoshesa kare, uye zvakare uchida murudo rwezvawave uchimuda kamwechete. Muchiitiko chechipiri, hukama huchaguma mukuparadzaniswa, apo kurasikirwa kwenguva pfupi kuchakupa mose vaviri kunzwisisa uye kunzwisisa chido chekurasikirwa zvachose. Muchikamu chechitatu, chiyero chakadai sekumbomira kwenguva pfupi chichava chekugadzirisa, uye zvakare iwe uchanzwa matambudziko akafanana sekusati waparadzana. Muchiitiko ichi, iwe unofunga kuti iwe pachako uzvifungire pachako kana kuti taurirana neukama hwehukama kuti uone uye ona zvikonzero zvinoputsa idyll pachikepe chako cherudo.
Tinoda here kuparara muukama kwemwedzi kuitira kuti tidanane zvakare, kana kuti tisiyane nerudo? Munyaya iyi, mutungamiri akakurumbira achava mwoyo wako.