Isu tose tinoziva, uye vakadzi vazhinji havasi kunzwa kuti kuparara kwehukama chero hupi hukwanise kuita pasina manzwiro uye manzwiro. Zvechokwadi, pane dzimwe nguva apo inoverengeka yakasvika pakuguma kwayo yakanga isingabudiriri, panguva iyo iwe unogona kuwana rusununguko rusingaenzaniswi. Asi chii chaunofanira kuita mumamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe hausi iwe waunofunga kuti iwe hauna, uye hauna kumbofungidzira kuparadzana nemurume uyo pachake akazviratidza uye "akadzosa". Iko iwe unofunga kufunga nezvekutora kutsiva kune waimbova mudiwa, kamwe chete uye kwevose, uchichidzidza uye panguva imwe chete uchimanikidza "kuruma zvikwama zvako"? Zvakanaka, kana iwe wakakundwa nechishuvo chekutsiva, zvino chinyorwa ichi ndechokuti iwe!
Rationally rinoswedera kurongwa hwokutsiva
Saka, iwe wakasarudza kutsiva pane wako wekare-chevalier: kupi patinofanira kutanga? Mhinduro yacho iri nyore: usati watsiva kune waimbova anodiwa, unoda kunzwisisa iwe pachako kana iwe uchida chaizvo. Sarudza kana murume uyu "akakunda" iwe zvikuru kana iwe uchida kudzorera pane wako wekare-mukomana nokuti iwe zvino uri kutungamirirwa nemanzwiro? Kuti uite izvi, unofanira kunyatsozvivimbisa uye kunyatsotarisa mamiriro ezvinhu akave, nekuzvidemba kukuru, kwete pawe pachako. Edza kufungidzira kuti wave watotsiva wako waimbova mudiwa. Yakapiwa? Great! Uye zvino zvibvunze, wakanzwa izvi, zvichiita kuti ufare uye kugutsikana here? Kana iwe uchitambudzwa nekusava nechokwadi kana iwe uri wakachenjera kuita chimwe chinhu, iwe zviri nani kubvisa urongwa hwako hwekuzvitsivira kwekupedzisira: zvinotoneka kuti mushure mechinguva iwe hauzove nechimwe chinhu chokutsiva, asi iwe hauzove nechido chekupedza nguva yako inofadza kufunga nezvomunhu uyu .
Nenzira, zvakakosha mumamiriro ezvinhu aya kuzviita kuzviongorora kwehuwandu hwavo hwekutadza pane zvakaitika. Kana akashandisa iwe, achivanza hupfumi hwake, saka, zvirokwazvo, iwe unogona kunzwisisa. Uye kana iwe, somuenzaniso, watanga inova yako chinangwa nemurume akaroora kana uri muhukama hwemhuri, kutanga edza kunzwisisa iwe uye zviito zvawakazviita iwe pachako.
Urongwa hwekutsiva
Unoda kutsiva wako waunoda kuti iwe unokandwa - iva nechokwadi chekugadzirira (zvichida zvishoma nezvishoma) zviito zvako zvose zvinotevera. Iva nechokwadi chekuverenga zvose zvingaguma zveku "kutsiva" kwako. Iro sarudzo yaunosarudza, pasina chikonzero inofanira kuisa pachena munhu kune ngozi, kunyanya kana inoshungurudza vana vaduku (kana zvakadaro zvakadaro kune murume). Somuenzaniso, kana iwe ukasarudza kuudza wako wako (itsva passie) wako wekare wekuda pamusoro pezviitiko zvake kana kuti kusvinudza maziso ake, mune izvi, pakutanga, mukadzi uyu acharwa, uye kwete "mudiwa-hero" pachake.
"Kutsiva kwangu kwakasimba!"
Nzira yakanakisisa yekudzorera kune waimbova mudiwa ndeyekutamba pahutera hwake. Nenzira, ndiani, iwe usingafaniri kuvaziva sei! Semuenzaniso, iye munhu anonyanya kukoshesa mari muupenyu - sei iwe usingaomutsamwisi kunyanyisa? Zvechokwadi, isu hatisi kukurudzira kusvibiswa uye kukuvadza kwakakomba kune zvivako, asi tinokurudzira zvakasimba kuti iwe utaure unyanzvi hwako uye unyanzvi. Kuronga kwechokwadi uye kungwara kunobatsira kuita chikwama chisingabatsiri chepakutanga zvakanyanya kubudirira.
Uye iwe unofarira sei shanduro yezvakakanganisika mukurumbira weiyo ex-chevalier? Pano pane basa rakanaka, somuenzaniso, mifananidzo yehutano hwehukama hwakatumirwa kune vamwe vake, mubhuku remibvunzo yakagadzirwa nezita rake pane imwe nzvimbo yepambano, nhamba dzisina kufanira dzinobva kune dzimwe nzvimbo dzezvekuberekwa, nezvimwewo zvichatamba. Chinhu chikuru - kuratidza mafungiro ako, ayo achakanda zvizhinji zvingasarudzwa.
Uye chinhu chokupedzisira, edza kuita kuti shamwari yako yekare ishungurwe kuti yakarasika iwe. Shandura chimiro chako, shandura chipfeko chako, tora mifananidzo yakanaka uye uiise kuInternet. Tora nyanzvi itsva, zvitsva zvitsva uye enda kuzororo. Pakuungana musinganzwisisi newe, mudiwa wako wekare anonyademba kuti iwe hausi pamwe chete. Iye zvino unogona kunakidzwa noupenyu hutsva!