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Ichi chinoshamisa, chinonzi "chikwata chevakadzi kuchifamba", chakataurwa nevanyanzvi pakati pemakore ekuma 1990. Mushure mokunge "Iron Curtain" yakakoromoka nemubvumo, vazhinji vakadzi vane mukana chaiwo wekuenda kunyika yemafiro ezvaroto zvavo pasi pezita rinowanikwa kune dzimwe nyika. Mifungiro yedu yaimiririrwa nemitozi yemukaka nemafuta, apo pane dzimba dzakachena dzinogarwa nemachinda akanaka uye ane simba. Takaziva zvechokwadi: "ikoko" zviri nani. Iyo yakakwirira yehupenyu hwemararamiro, mitemo inonyanya kusvibiswa, inochenesa mumigwagwa, iyo inonakidza zvikuru iyo hamburgers. Uye ivo vainyatsoziva: "pano" - vakadzi vakanakisisa. Akanaka, ane mutsa, anonzwira tsitsi, hupfumi uye hunonyanya kukosha - anokwanisa kuonga. Zishamiso zveSlavic mweya mukutsinhanisa hutsika hwekumadokero hwehupenyu - hutsinhaniso iyi yaifungwa nemapoka maviri kuti ave akatendeseka. Asi zvakazoitika kuti mharidzo dzomumwe nemumwe kumativi maviri echekare rechetheni dzakange dzakwezva nekushamisika uye dzakaona kuti hupenyu hwevarume vavo hunobva mune zvehupfumi, huri pamiganhu yevarice, uye hazvibvumirwi kurasa mari mune zvakapoteredza. Zvakanaka, machinda ekune dzimwe nyika akashamisika kuti nei mudzimai asingaiti mapenzi nemufaro, achiwana mumba mutsva dare, firiji nemashini yekuchenesa: akanga asina kurega izvozvi zvose munyika yavo yevarombo? Nhamba yekutanga yekushamisika yakatanga, nyaya dzezuva nezuva nezvekurambana kunoparadza, kukanganisa kwevanhu vanoenda kune dzimwe nyika mubasa, vachengeti vekuroorana, masimba ezvakaipa pamatengesi evanhu akadururwa sechimvuramabwe ... Takava kunyanya kusavimba, kuzvigutsikana, takatanga kufamba kune dzimwe nyika uye kutaura navo "kwete" seMartians , asi sevamwe vashandi vebhizimisi uye zvinyorwa zvinonakidza zvekutengesa muInternet chats, uye izvi zvose kuitira kuti nokukurumidza uroorane nemumwe mutorwa akapfuma. "Interdevochek" yava duku, kunyange kubuda kwevatengi mumasangano ekuroorana emarudzi akawanda kwakaramba yakasimba kwemakore akawanda akawanda. Nzira yekuroorana nayo kune imwe nyika - kwete vakawanda vakagadzirira kupindura mubvunzo uyu.
Uye pakutanga kwegore rino Mutungamiri weVatongi veUkraine Mykola Onischuk, achitaura nezvehuwandu hwemasangano ehurumende dzekunyoresa, anotaura maitiro: mararamiro makumi matatu nemakumi matatu akaremberedzwa muUkraine anogumiswa pakati pehama dzedu nevamwe vatorwa. Kunyange kana tikafunga nezve vagari venyika dzeCIS - nhamba idzi dzichiri kunakidza. Uye, sezvandakaudzwa muCentral Registry Office yeKiev, muhuwandu hwevanhu vakadaro, mutorwa ndiye mukomba. "Bvisai vasikana vedu ..." - akagomera mushandi, achinditaurira mazita.
Kana tichitaura nezvezera revanhu vanogona kuwanikwa nemudzimai vasingazivi kuti vangaroora sei kune imwe nyika uye vanorota mararamiro anofara, mapoka maviri akajeka pakati pavo. Vokutanga - vasikana vaduku zvikuru, izvo chete kubva kuchikoro chepamusoro: 22 - 25 makore. Wechipiri - vakadzi vane ruzivo, nemumwe kana vaviri vakaroorana vasina kubudirira mushure mafudzi avo, dzimwe nguva nevana uye vakatotanga basa - vane makore makumi matatu nemashanu kana kupfuura.
Chikonzero chemugadziro mutsva wekuroorana kunogara pamusoro. Hongu, hongu, shoko rakakurumbira kupfuura mamwe ose netsamba nhanhatu, yekupedzisira "c". Nguva dzakaoma dzinokwanisa kushandisa pfungwa dzakawanda dzinogara dziri mukati medu. Uye kunyange kunyatsoziva zvakakwana kuti "ikoko" - matambudziko avo noupenyu hazvina kujeka sezvatakambofunga, isu tinoda kuenda kunzvimbo iyo zvinhu zvose zvinofanira kuva zviri nani mumatambudziko ematambudziko. Zvichida nokuti "ipapo" haisi "pano". Izvo zvakanaka patinenge tisiripo, uye machinda akanaka munhau dzeshoko haasi pangozi anongogara chete kumucheto wakareba wenyika, uye hapana muimba yakatarisana. Kusiya zvinhu zvose uye kusiya ndeye nzira iri nyore yekushandura hupenyu, uye dambudziko iri kukumanikidza kukurudzirwa, kuita kuti tive nekugadzirisa zvakakwana pakuzadzisa zvinangwa zvaimboita sezvisingachagoneki.
Kutanga, vakadzi vanoenda kune dzimwe nyika kuti vave nehupamhi hwehupenyu huno kupfuura pano, uye nokuda kwekuti vanoda kuwanana nemumwe mutorwa akapfuma. Uye, chechipiri, ivo vari kutsvaga muenzaniso wakasiyana wehukama, humwe mafungiro avo pachavo pane zvavanoshandiswa pamba. Hazvisi ngozi yokuti misha yakawanda yemunyika dzakawanda inopedzerwa pakati pevasikana vaduku nevarume vane makore epakati. Mumwe mudzimai wechidiki anotarisira kubva kumuchato wekuvimba mune ramangwana, iyo, mumaonero ake, chete munhu mukuru akasimba anogona kupa. Pfungwa dzakadaro, hongu, dzakabatana nemufananidzo wakaisvonaka wababa - chifananidzo ichi chakasikwa zvinowanikwa nemukadzi chero upi zvake.
Uye chii chinotungamira machinda ekunze pamusoro pemvura yakachena? Panguva ino, vakamira vachitarisa maSlavic madzimai sevasingadyi veimba kana kuti nzvimbo yakanaka yekuenda. Chinonyanya kukosha kwavari ndeimwe yehutano hwedu - zvakanyanyisa kupfuura zvevasikana vekuMadokero kwekuroorana, kutungamirirwa kumhuri, uye kwete kumabasa. Anenge vose vakadzi vedu vose, vachiroorwa nemumwe mutorwa, vakaronga kuva nevana mumuchato uyu.
Nhoroondo yekunze yemudzimai weramangwana, zvisinei, ichiri kukosha kune vatori vekune dzimwe nyika - rudzi rwechiSlavic rwekunaka harubude mumashini kwete chete pamakwikwi. "Kuuya kuUkraine, varume vekuMadokero vanoona kuti vangani vasikana vakanaka tine. Vakadzi veEurope neAmerica vane pfungwa yakagadziridzwa yehudziri.
Murume ari nyore kwazvo kuwana mudzimai - kwete chete akanaka, asiwo ane mutsa, ane rudo, akachenjera. Utana hwake huri bhonasi yakawedzerwa mune zvakakwikwidzana. " Maererano naAnastasia, vatengi vebhizimisi vekuMadokero vanoti vakabvumirana kuita bhizimisi neUkraine, pasi pemamiriro ezvinhu ehutano asina kugadzikana, nekuda kwekuti vakawana mudzimai pano. Saka vatengi vanobudisa kunze vanoita basa rakanaka uye nokuda kwemufananidzo wepasi rose wenyika - mumatambudziko iyo inobatsirawo.
Dambudziko rekutarisira
Irivecent pfungwa pamusoro pehupenyu hutsva, iyo, inoratidzika kwatiri, inofanira kunge iri nani nokuti ichitsva, kana kuenda kune imwe nyika kune dzimwe nguva inoputswa-kwete "nezvehupenyu", saiyo rudo rwechikepe, asi pamusoro pemaitiro netsika nepfungwa pakati pematunhu edu . Kukanganisa, sezvinogara iri nyaya, kuenderera mberi kwezvakanaka.
Takataura kuti chimwe chekukurudzira kwevakadzi kuroora vatorwa ndicho chido chekusiyana kwakasiyana-siyana pane tsika dzetsika dzedu. Somugumisiro wekukunda kwechikadzi, chaiye uye kwete kuenzaniswa kwekuenzana kwevarume nevakadzi muWest West hakuratidzikwe zviri pamutemo chete, asiwo pamasikati ezuva nezuva: "patriarchal" murume kumusoro wose "inotsiviwa nehutano muhukama, vose vari kutsvaga kufunga nezvechido chevadzidzi vose. Semuenzaniso, semugumisiro wemakwikwi akawanda ekurwisana nechisimba mumba, varume muAmerica neEurope vanenge vese vakadzidza kuti kana mukadzi akati "kwete" - zvinoreva "kwete." Kunyangwe kusava nechokwadi uye kusavhiringidzika kunotsanangurwa mukufarira "kwete." Mukuita, izvi zvinogona kutungamirira kumamiriro ezvinhu: murume haangopindi muimba yake yekuvata, kana akavhara suo usiku. Mangwanani anotevera - kuwirirana pamwe chete: "Sei usina kuuya kwandiri?" - "Asi iwe wakavhara suo, ndaigona sei kuuya? "Uyewo, vakadzi vazhinji vechiKukraine vanonyengedzwa nemurume wavo tsika yekumukumbira maonero uye kuva nehanya nesarudzo yake: musikana akakurira mukutenda kwakasimba" kusarudza munhu ", haagoni kugara achinyatsonzwisisa zvaanoda chaizvo, uye anotaura zvaanoda chaizvo - inobvumirwa. Pakati pese, veEurope uye kunyanya vokuAmerica vanogona uye vanoda kutaura pamusoro pemanzwiro uye kukurukura hukama. Kana shamwari yako yakasarudzwa yave yakaoma kurambana, pamwe uye yakashanda kuburikidza nechinetso ichi nemudzidzisi uye iye zvino anoziva kutaura pamusoro pezvinhu zvakadaro vasati vatungamirira ku kuwira kwemhuri.
Iyo yakawanda yeSlavic mweya haisi nguva dzose inopindirana nechido chakakosha zvikuru chekudzivirira nzvimbo yega , iyo maAmerica akasiyana zvakasiyana (pakati peEurope, Chirungu, Germans neScandinavians, uye zvishoma zvishoma French uye vamiririri vevanhu vari kumaodzanyemba vanoita saizvozvo). Sangano riripo rakarongeka zvokuti munhu mumwe nomumwe anozvichengeta ari oga, achichenjerera kuchengetedza kwehupenyu hwake hwevamwe nevamwe. Mumwe munhu anogona kukodzera, ini handiti. Ndinokoshesa kuve nyore uye nekukurumidza muhukama. " Kunyange mumutenderedzwa wevanhu vepedyo haisi tsika yekuvhiringidza nharaunda yako pachavo - ndicho chikonzero mhuri dzemhuri nevabereki dzikararama zvakasiyana, mhirizhonga pakati pe "muroora-mhandara" uye "amai vamwene" vanowanzosvika, uye ivo vadyi vagari venhaka "vanodzingwa kunze kwedendere" pavanenge vava vanhu vakuru, kana chido chekusununguka hachikwi ivo kare. Mumwe munhu achakwazisa muenzaniso wakadaro wehukama: semunhu akabudirira zvikuru, mumwe munhu achasarudza kuti chikafu ichi hachina chakanaka chekudziya uye mweya. Asi kazhinji kugamuchirwa hukama munzanga semamiriro ekunze: haikwanise kuchinjwa, iwe unogona kungoenderana nayo.
Munyika dzekuMadokero kune inenge isina "hondo" pakati pehama, kusanganisira yevaimbova vakaroorana: imwe paki ye "yekare" inofara kusangana, inopedza nguva nevana, nezvimwe - muenzaniso wakadaro wemadzidzisi emhuri anonzi polynuclearny. Kwete godo mumatambudziko aya haasimuke - nokuti matambudziko ose akambokurukurwa uye akashanda kwenguva yakareba, hakuna munhu anochengeta mabwe ari pachipfuva chake. "5" inogona kutiita kuti tibatanidzane ne "mararamiro akasununguka", kwatiriwo tisinganzwisisiki.
Maforamu emadzimai azere zvikwereti pamusoro pevashandi vevatori venyika dzomunyika: vasikana vedu havafananidzi mumusoro uye sei uye sei upfumi huri pamwe nekuchengetedzwa kusingagoni kuitika. Sei, kana mari yomurume iine zana remadhora pagore, haagoni kumupa iye zvuru zvishanu ikozvino? Izvi zvakatoitika mushure mokunge murume ari paminwe yake achitsanangurira kwaari kuti chaizvoizvo mazana mazana emami kuenda-mitero, chikwereti nezvimwe zvakadaro. Kazhinji vakaroorana vanotarisana nechokwadi chokuti murume akabudirira haatsvaki kutungamirira mararamiro anowirirana (mune maonero emukadzi) kumamiriro ake. Imwe yema heroines emunyika yepasi rose yakaroorwa nevemabhizimisi wekuNorway anoremekedzeka uye yakashamisika chaizvo kuti murume wake anofarira kutungamira mararamiro eSpartan, kugara muimba yakaoma yemapuranga ane zvishoma zvese zvinodiwa uye anoshandisa nguva yakawanda mujimini.
Ukraine haisi Europe?
Isu tine vakaroorana vakanaka uye vane mutsa kuUkraine zvakare, pane kuti tiendese murume mumunda. Kuverenga vanhu veEurope havanzwisisi chido chedu uye kukwanisa kurarama kupfuura zvatinokwanisa: "Ndepapi motokari dzemotokari dzinobva mumakamuri eKrushchev?" Sei uchiita imba yakadaro yepamusoro muimba yakadaro uye uchibatanidzwa mune zvikwereti zvakanyanya, kurongedza muchato kana imwe mhemberero? "Skaryna, kuMadokero anoda kurarama nemwero uye asinganzwisisiki:" Vhizimisi vekuMadokero vanoti maguta akadai uye anotamba seMoscow neKiev akakodzera zvakakwana kuitira kuti vashandire ipapo huduku - panguva yakakosha zvikuru vanosarudza nzvimbo shomanana dzekugara mumaguta. " Vakadzi vokune dzimwe nyika vanovhiringidzawo nezve "vanhu vachatii?" - vanotarisa zvakanyanya hama dzose nevavakidzani avo vakachengetedzwa mumataundi maduku.
Kana iri pfuma inonyanya kuzivikanwa, iyo madzimai eUukraine anokurumidza kushamisika varume vavo vokune imwe nyika, kumavirira ndiyo inowanzoshamisa: nekuda kwekugadzirwa kwemichina, kuchengetedza imba kunoda kushanda nesimba. Sei vachigadzirisa matambudziko ivo pachavo, uye vozovakunda noushingi kana matambudziko ose emhuri angagadziriswa nekudhinda zvimedu zvishomanana?
Chero zvazvingava, kunyange kana vakaroorana venguva yemberi vaine nguva yekuzivana, kuenda kundoshanyira, kuti vazive hama neshamwari-gore rinotevera mushure mokufamba, ivo vachazoenderana nemamiriro ezvinhu matsva. Uye pfungwa iyi haisi mumutauro wemutauro (vose nyanzvi vanotaura pamwe chete kuti iyi ndiyo dambudziko duku kudarika), asi mune zvakasiyana zvakasiyana-siyana, nemitemo yakasiyana, tsika, tsika, rwiyo rwehupenyu. Ichi chinhu chinonetsa chisingaverengeki, iwe unofanira kungochimirira kunze, kwete kukurumidza kuwedzeresa, uye usakurumidza kuti utore sutukisi yako isati yakasarudzwa uye yakasvibiswa kumba, sezvo vakawanda vasingadi kutsva-vasvika vamboita. Kunyange kana nyika ichiita sechiswedera pedyo neUkraine - hazvibviri kuita kunze kwekugadzirisa nguva. Eugenia, uyo akaroorwa muPoland, akareurura kwandiri kuti mwedzi mitanhatu yekutanga yakanga isingatambudziki zvakaoma: Handina kunzwisisa zvandiri kuita pano uye pandingaenda. Asi zvino, zvinoshamisa kuti ndakabatsirwa nehama itsva neshamwari - muPoland ivo vanorapwa zvakanaka nevaUkraine, saka vakanyatsotaurirana neni.
Kutarisa kuti ingani yezvinetso izvi inotarisa nekunyatsoongorora mitambo yemitambo, isu tisati tisiri yeEurope sezvatinoda kuonekwa. Saka-isu tinogona kukweverana mumwe nomumwe. Zvichida, nenguva, apo dambudziko racho rapera, uye kushamwaridzana kunonyanya kuitika kuchaitika kwete chete pamisangano, asi mupfungwa, tichakwanisa kuona mumwe kwete vatorwa, asi kungofadza uye vanhu vakanaka. Nokuti tsika inoratidzira: iyo inogara kwenguva refu ndiyo iyo michato iyo iyo kusiyana kwemadzinza pakati pevakaroorana hakuiti kupfurikidza neminiti uye haisi kutarisa kunze kwemapapiro ose muhukama. Asi munyaya iyi, zvichida, hazvina maturo kutaura pamusoro pemamiriro acho: ihwo hupenyu.