Sezvakaratidzwa zvinoratidzira, vazhinji mababa vanofara zvino, kwenguva yakareba havakwanise kusarudza pane danho rinokosha. Kutenda munhu anodiwa kuti ave nemimba yakaoma zvikuru, asi nzira yekunyengetedza murume kuchengetedza pamuviri inova dambudziko rakaoma kumukadzi, nokuti kubvisa mwana kamwechete, haugoni kuziva rufaro rweamai.
Maererano nevanodzidza nezvepfungwa, varume vazhinji muhukuru hwehupenyu, hapana chinhu chinotyisa, kufanana nemakumbo emuchato eMendelssohn uye mutsara wepepuru kana bhuruu yebhuruu pachikumbaridzo cheimba yekubereka. Vanyori vakashinga kana vatungamiri vazhinji vane hutano hwakasimba, asi nekufamba kwenguva, perebaryvayut pachavo, vanoroora uye vane vana. Asi zvino vanova varume vane hanya uye vanababa vane rudo, zvinokosha kuti murume iyeye pachake anouya kune izvi, kunyange zvazvo mukadzi anogona kumubatsira mune izvi zvisingaonekwi. Asi usati watanga kunyengetedza murume wake kuti ave nepamuviri, unoda kuziva kuti chii chiri kumudzivisa kuita chisarudzo chakanaka.
Uyu mubvunzo zvirokwazvo wakakomba uye unoswedera nawo unofanirwa kuva nemafungiro uye kwete uwandu. Pakutanga kuona, kusada kwemunhu kuva nevana vanoreva nhema mukusava nehanya kwake kutarisira mwana uye usarara usiku. Asi chaizvoizvo, izvi hazvirevi kutya kwekuchinja, nzira inowanzoita yehupenyu, asi chimwe chinhu chakakomba.
Kazhinji varume vasati vaberekwa matangwe anotya kwazvo pfungwa yokuti muukama nemukadzi unodiwa mumwe munhu achapindira, kunyange kana ari mwana wavo.
Varume vanotyawo kuti mudzimai wake akanaka, akadzikama wevakadzi vane pamuviri achabata mafuta, anorasikirwa nekunaka kwake uye kutaridzika, nokudaro achizopinda mukibhu yekutengesa nemusoro usina kushambwa mune nguo refu yakapfeka.
Kunyengetedza murume wake kuti abve mucheche kunowanzoomera nokuti anotya kuti kana mukadzi akava mai, acharasikirwa nechinangwa chekuita zvepabonde zvekare kare. Uye, zvechokwadi, kuti hakuna munhu asingadi tarisiro yekurasikirwa nenyaya yekuita zvepabonde nemudzimai wake anodikanwa.
Varume vanotyawo kuonekwa kwomwana pamusana pekuti mudzimai wekutanga ane rudo uye ane hanya achabva asingagoni kumubata. Vanotya kunzwa sokunge kushanda kusina maturo kune indissoluble kubatana kwe "amai nevana".
Uye kana pasina mari?
Chimwe chezvikonzero zvakakosha nei murume asingabvumiri mudzimai wake kuti ave nepamuviri ndeyemamiriro ezvinhu ehupfumi zvokuti, nekuberekwa kwechigumbuso, zvichava zvakaoma zvikuru. Asati aita pamuviri, kukanganisa kwakanga kwakanyanya kuduku, uye mibairo yaiva yevarume nevakadzi. Mushure mechiitiko chakakosha, urongwa hwehupenyu hwakanaka hwemhuri huri pamapfudzi emurume. Uyezve, hachisi chakavanzika chokuti munguva yedu zvakaoma chaizvo kutsigira mwana.
Chivi chii chokuvanza, kazhinji kutya kwevanhu kunonyatsokodzera. Zvinongoratidzika pakutanga pakuona kuti mukadzi wemudzimai anokwanisa kutarisana nezvinhu zvose, asi chaizvoizvo iri basa guru. Kazhinji, ndiani kubva kune vamiririri vehafu isina simba anokwanisa kuita zvinhu zvakasiyana panguva imwechete: kuita basa rechikoro - kubika, kushambidza, kuchenesa, kutarisa maitiro uye kupa nguva yakawanda yenguva yekusununguka kumwana, uye achiri kushanda. Mutoro wakakura zvakadaro unogona kungomirira mumwe chete, kana kuti unotendeukira kune mukoti anobhadharwa kuti abatsirwe.
Asi kana iwe uchida kubereka mwana, tora mamiriro acho ezvinhu mumaoko ako, uye uchitungamirirwa nemazano edu, edza kunyengetedza murume wako kuti achengete pamuviri.
Murume haagoni kukurira kutya kwake pachake, anoda rubatsiro, mukadzi anofanira kutaurirana zvakanyanya naye. Munyaya yakadai, sekunyengetedza kwemurume kuchengetedza pamuviri, hapana nzvimbo yekureva nhema. Iwe haugone kuvimbisa ramangwana repapapa kuti iwe uri mukadzi-mukuru uyo achararama pasina kunyanya kudzvinyirira nezvose zviri pamusoro apa. Iyi nzvimbo inowanzorasikirwa. Nokuti kana iye achidavira zvaunotenda, chokwadi hachiwanzoitiki, kunyanya kuora mwoyo kwake kunogona kukonzera kukakavara kwakakomba mumhuri yako.
Chiito chakanaka uye chengwaru ndechokuudza mudiwa wako pfungwa yako yechinetso. Murume anobvumirana kuchengetedza pamuviri chete kana achidavira kuti mwana kana kuti haazove "yechitatu yekare". Hazvirevi kufadza kukuyeuchidza murume wake rudo rwake. Tsanangura kuti zvakakosha kuti iwe uberekwe mwana wake.
Tiudzei kuti hamugadziri dendere ravanhu kuti rive musoro uye imwe kilogram yehafu yezana remakore remakore. Nokuti zvakakosha kuti iwe uve wakanakisisa uye wakanaka mumaziso omurume wako anodiwa. Nharo huru inopihwa nemuenzaniso wevakadzi avo, mushure mokuberekwa, vakava vakadzi uye vakanaka.
Izvo zvichavewo zvinobudirira kutaura, chokwadi chokuti hutano hwevakadzi hunoratidzwa nehuwandu huwandu chete mushure mokuberekwa kwomwana. Pane kuvepo kuti kubva pamiromo yako munhu haagoni kutenda, saka isa munzvimbo yakakurumbira magazini ine chinhu chinojekesa ichi chinhu chemuviri wechikadzi. Mushure mekuverenga, murume achaita sarudzo yakarurama.
Masayendisiti haatauri kushandisa mazwi mumusangano uyu:
"Iwe uri mugovera asina tariro";
"Iwe haundidi zvachose";
"Iwe unotofunga here kuti ndiani achatibatsira mukukwegura kwedu? ".
Nyanzvi dzinoti nharo dzakadai hazvizoiti kuti mukadzi akunde, uye kunyange munhu mukuru akatsamwa.
Iwe unogona zvakare, kunyanya mumutauro wakanyarara, kumbira murume wako mibvunzo mashomanana, izvi zvichamubatsira kunzwisisa manzwiro ake nemanzwiro ake.
Somuenzaniso, bvunza mubvunzo wakananga: "Iwe unoda vana iye zvino kana imwe nguva here? ".
Asi zvinonzwisisika kubvunza mibvunzo yakasiyana-siyana inobatsira munhu kunzwisisa manzwiro ake uye kutya. Somuenzaniso, kumubvunza mubvunzo wakananga: "Iwe hausi kuda kuva nevana iye zvino, kana kuti hauna kumboita here? ". Paunopindura kuti vana havasi chikamu cherongwa hwehupenyu hwake, bvunza kuti: "Anozvipa iye nhoroondo yezvinokutorerai mufaro wekuva amai?" "Mibvunzo yakadaro inonyanya kufunga nezvemurume, dzimwe nguva kunyange kumubatsira kuchinja sarudzo. Asi zvakadaro, kana iwe usingakwanisi kunzwisisa kuti nei murume wako akazvidzivirira pakuberekwa kwomwana, edza kuonana nemudzimai wepfungwa yepfungwa.