Chokutanga, tanga kuona kuti vanhu vose sevanokwanisa kuva shamwari uye kwete. Usakanganwa kuti varume vanofanira kugara vachiparadzaniswa muzvikamu zviviri. Nheyo yekutanga ndeyekuti varume vanoziva kuti vangave sei shamwari nesikana, vachiita ushamwari pamusana pekutenderera kwepasi. Ivo ichokwadi shamwari dzepedyo. Zvinosuruvarisa, varume vakadaro vanozivikanwa semhuka dzinopera mungozi uye dzakanyorwa mubhuku ra "tsvuku" rekutaurirana kwevanhu. Rudzi rwechipiri ndiyo yakakwana antipode kune yekutanga. Ava ndivo varume vanotarisa musikana chete sechinhu chepabonde, vachirasa zvose zvingaita kuti vave shamwari. Chero ipi yezvikamu zvevarume iwe hauna kuzotenderedzwa, mukutaurirana kwako mutsara unofanirwa kujekesa, kuti iwe hausi wepabonde, asi wakaenzana. Ndiko kuti, shamwari dzako dzechirume dzinofanira kuonekwa pahutano hwekunzwisisa kwako, sevasikana vako. Kana pakati pehama dzevarume varipo avo vanoita sewe uye vasingadi kukanganiswa navo, edza kutsanangura kuti kunze kweshamwari usingagoni kupa chero chinhu. Ndinotenda, kune waunonyatsotarisira, iye achakunzwisisa. Uye kuchengetedza kukurukurirana kwako kuchaita kuti iwe urege kufara uye iwe unopesana. Kana munhu asingatendi achidavira mune zvaanotenda, edza kuvhara kutaura kwake naye zvakanyanya. Usakanganwa chokwadi chokuti mumwe wako akangobva kugadzirwa (uye kunyange akwegura), anonzi guy-marrands, anogona panguva chero ipi zvayo, akamuka nekutadza kukunda mwoyo wako. Nokudaro, muboka revarume, kana pasina munhu waunoda pedyo, taura zvakanyanya sekukwanisika pamusoro pake, mumutaurire pamukana wakanaka, kuti iwe uri sei pamwe chete, iwe unomuda sei uye manzwiro aanonzwa, maererano newe. Nenzira, kunyanya kune vamwe varume, kubva pamutemo wenyu wezuva nezuva wekuzvibata, kamwechete uye zvachose bvisa shoko rakadaro risine mhosva se "flirtation." Izvozvi, iyi prank isina mhosva, inogona kuputsa gomo rose rehuni, nemigumisiro yakaipa kwazvo kwauri. Ndinonzwisisa kuti zvakaoma. Shure kwezvose, isu tose tiri zvisikwa zvinowanzozvimirira, kunyanya kana zvinosangana nehafu yevarume. Neizvi tinoedza nguva dzose kuzviratidza isu pachedu pachedu, kukanganisa, kunaka. Kudyidzana kwedu nevamiriri vehutano hwakasimba hwakaberekerwa isu tisati tava. Uye kukanganisa mukana wekuedza kupera kwako muzviito kwatiri kwakaenzana nekuti iwe uri mune imwe kamuri yako, somuenzaniso, shangu dzinobva pakusangana kwekupedzisira kwe "Calvin Klein", uye iwe haugoni kuzvipfura. Uye iwe ungaitei? Zvakaoma - asi zvakafanira. Kutamba, kana kuti pane kusavapo kwake kubva kumativi ako, ndechimwe chezviratidzo zvakapfuura, paunopindura mubvunzo wekukurukurirana nevarume, kana ukasangana nemurume.
Hazvina kumbokurukurirana nevarume hazvikotamire tsvimbo, kunyanya kana uri panguva ino musangana nemurume anonyatsoda iwe. Usarega tariro uye zvipikirwa nenzira yekutaura kwemashoko "zvichida", "rimwe zuva", varume, sezvisingashamisi, titende isu, uye mamwe mashoko kubva pamiromo yedu anoona sechinhu chinoratidzira kana tariro kune ramangwana rakanaka nekubatana kwedu - saka edza kutaurirana neutongerwo enyika. Kana iwe unofara chaizvo nemukomana wako uye iwe unoda kugara naye "mugove weshumba" wehupenyu hwako, uye zvinonyanya kukosha, une chivimbo maari uye une zvakawanda kupfuura kungonzwa. Usambobatisisa chero munhu ari pedyo (sekunge kana nezve "nhumbi") - zviri nani kurega kumativi ose mana, usatambudza munhu. Pashure pezvose, pane imwe nzvimbo mufaro wake unoenda, waachasangana naye. Zvakanaka, uye kana, hongu, iwe usingaoni chero ramangwana rine murume wako, zvino zvirokwazvo iwe une makadhi ari muruoko.
Zviri nyore kuva neshamwari nevakomana vawakamboziva kwenguva refu, unogona kutaura kubva paudiki (vadzidzi vekirasi, vamwe vadzidzi, varume vanobva padivi, vanonzi vavakidzani). Ushamwari hwakadaro hwakapfuura "zvose moto nemvura". Vanhu ava vakakuonai mukusuwa uye mumufaro. Nokudaro, pamusoro pekusaziva kwepfungwa, iwe unoona mumwe sehama-hanzvadzi. Panova pasina matambudziko, zviitiko, "huru" tsitsi. Pano hutano hwehukama hwehukama hunotonga. Iwe uri wavo uye ivo ndewewe, sezvakanyorwa, kubva pakakura kusvika pakukwira, bhuku. Iwe unoziva kukanganisa uye unhu hwakanaka hwomumwe nomumwe uye naizvozvo hakuna chinhu chitsva kunze kweruzivo rwemubatsiro kubva kuvanhu ava hahufananidzi kumirira. Uyewo pano tinogona kureva vanhu vedu vekare. Kunyangwe zvichinyanya, zvisingashamisi kuchengetedza humwe hukama hwehukama newaimbova mukomana wako. Zvakanaka, kana ukazviita, wakakwanisa (kupa uta hwakadzika iwe pachako kubva kwandiri) yeuka, vanhu ava kwauri vachagara shamwari kwenguva refu uye kwete iwe, iwe, uchava pamusi wevako vakakokwa kumuchato wake, uye ari kune yako.
Asi nyika yakaoma, uye zvinosuruvarisa, kwete nevarume vose iwe wakambotora bhora muruvanze semucheche, wakanyora manotsi kumabharararesi kana kuedza kuvaka hukama. Saka ita shamwari, asi ona-ita izvi zvakanyatsonaka. Kunyangwe, pane chimwe chiratidzo cheushamwari hwakachengeteka. Tsvaka shamwari-shamwari, umo iwe unonyatsoziva kuti iwe hausi musikana, uyewo haasi iwe sevanhu, uye mubvunzo wekuti ungaita sei shamwari ichapera pachako pachigamba chekutanga. Kana, mushure mezvose, ita shamwari neshamwari dzakadai saiye, ndiko kuti, avo vane hukama hwakakwana, rudo uye vanokoshesa hafu yavo yechipiri. Chero munyaya iyi unogona kufunga nezvehukama hwako sehukama hwechokwadi hwakasimba. Uye iwe haugoni, panguva yehurukuro yako-ye-tete, shandura pamusoro pemumwe kana mumwe wemashoko ake, uchidzingirira mumusoro wako: "Airevei, uye anorevei nezvazvo, uye haatauri kwandiri here? chimwe chinhu ... ".
Uyewo yeuka kuti kana mukomana wako ane godo rukuru uye kutaura kwako nevamwe varume hakumupei rugare, funga nezvazvo, uye kana zvakakodzera kuongorora zvakare kushivirira kwemudiwa. Uye pakupedzisira, cherechedza chokwadi chokuti: "pamusoro pehukama, pakati pevarume nemukadzi, unogona kutaura zvakawanda, uye uchidzivisa ...". Dzimwe nguva zvido zvedu zvekuchiva zvakasimba kudarika zvido zvakadai sehukama nekuvimbika.