Uye nguva dzose idzi dzinodzika kune mumwe mubvunzo mukuru: varume vanomirira kubva kune zvepabonde zvakashata, rudzii rwemafambiro nemararamiro avanoyemura zvikuru kune shamwari? Zvechokwadi, mhinduro yacho haigoni kuve isina kunaka. Iwe haugoni kutenda zvakasimba kuti vanhu vose vakafanana. Mune dzimwe nzira ivo vakanyatsofanana: vane chimiro chimwechete chezviviri, pane zvakasiyana zvevakadzi kubva kumukadzi, uye maonero avo anokosha chaizvo. Asi muhukama, murume wose munhu. Uye kunzwisisa kuti chaizvoizvo murume mumwe chete anoda kuwona mumukadzi wake akaenzana uye akakurumbira achabatsirwa nenzira imwe chete: tarisa kune zvido zvake zvinonzwika zvinonzwika kana kuoneka pane imwe nzira.
Iko, hongu, kazhinji inogamuchirwa kuendeswa mberi kunotaurira huwandu hwemitemo iyo mukadzi wemurume chaiye anofanira kufanana. Nokudaro, chero mumiriri wehutano hwakasimba, nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakajeka, anoda kubudiswa pachena kwevanhu vake masculinity. Izvi ndezvevanhu - chinangwa chinodiwa, chinogona kugutsa mukadzi chete. Asi nzira iyo achamuparidzira mudikanwa uyu inochiva kunzwa - inongobatsira chete. Inogona kuva chigadziro chenguva dzose yemhando dzevakadzi: zvakakodzera kuyeuka kutaura kwakakurumbira kuti mukadzi akakodzera ishamwari yezuva racho, mukadzi ari nyore kunaka usiku uye mukadzi mune imwe kambani. Uye zvakadaro hapana chinosimbisa masculinity, sechikadzi. Maererano nehuwandu hwevanhu, varume vanosarudza vakadzi vakapfekedzwa chaizvo zvevakadzi (mumapfekero, marefu hese, pantsuit dzakanaka) mumakumi masere makumi matatu kubva kune zana. Kunyange zvazvo, zvechokwadi, zvakasakara t-shirts uye girgy jeans pamwe chete nemashini ekare pamusoro pemukadzi zvinogonawo kutarisa semadzimai . Izvo zvinhu zvose zvinotarisirwa pamusana wechipimo chake. Dzimwe nguva anowedzera hutano pasinei nekutaridzika kwemapfeko ake kana kuita. Varume havafi vakadzi vakadaro. Uye mukadzi wose anogona kukudziridza unhu hwakadaro mukati make.
Uye zvakadaro, ndeapi tsika uye mufambiro varume vanoita?
Pasina mubvunzo, ivo vanopenga nezvekuzvivimba kwevakadzi. Zvinonzwisisika kuti nyeredzi chete yekutanga kukura ichazviisa panjodzi yakazvikomberedza pachayo pamwe nhengo dzinofananidzwa dzevanhu. Saizvozvowo, munhu akakodzera zvakanyanya, anozvivimba zvikuru uye anozvigadzirira mudzimai iye achatarisa. Asi pano mukadzi anofanira kukwanisa kunzwa manzwiro ake, akaonda chaizvo pakati pekuzvivimba uye kuzvivimba kwakanyanya, izvo zvinorega murume wezvinodiwa zvakakosha zvevarume. Mukadzi anogona kuva shamwari naye waanokwanisa kutaura pamusoro pezvose zvinomutinetsa. Asi panguva imwecheteyo anofanira kuramba achivimba naye. Kwete pfuma, asi nemanzwiro: chero munhu upi zvake anonyunguduka apo mukadzi ari kuedza "kumuputira" iye, kusviba paanomira kana kunyura mumvura.
Munhu mumwe nomumwe anozvigadzirira tsika dzake uye mufambiro, waanoshuva kuzopemberera muanoda wake. Asi kune mumiririri wega wega wakasimba pane zvepabonde kunomiririra kukwanisa kwomukadzi kuti ateerere. Varume vanonyanya kuzvikudza kupfuura avo vakasarudzwa. Saka, vanofarira kutaura pamusoro pavo zvikuru. Uye kupfuura zvose vanokoshesa mumudzimai kukwanisa kwemaawa mashanu kusvika ku7 kuteerera inzwi rake risina kukanganisa. Nenzira yakawanda, chido chomukadzi chokuputsa murume pakati pomutongo nemubvunzo unofadza kana mutsara, kunyanya kushandura nyaya yacho, yevanhu inogumbura zvikuru. Uye pfungwa iyi haisi kunyange kuti haasati ava nenguva yekureva chimwe chinhu chakakosha zvikuru pamusoro pake, vaanoda, uye kushungurudzika kwake hakuna kumubvundisa zvachose. Vamiririri vehutano hwakasimba kwehupenyu hwavo hwose vanochengetedza unhu hwavo muhuduku. Uye kukanganisa kwakadaro kunokuvadza murume: semwana vabereki vasingadi kuteerera, anotambura nehasha, asingatongogutsikana, mune zvaanofunga, mhosva. Nokudaro, tsika iyi yevakadzi mumurume inoparadzaniswa nechikonzero chekutyisidzira kwakakomba mumatambudziko makumi mana nemazana. Apo murume uyo ari kumusoro achaonga chikumbiro chakatendeseka chomuteereri wake kuti aparadze nyaya yacho, nokuti iye anotya kupera kwechirongwa chake uye anodawo kumurondedzera pamusoro pezvakaipa zvake zvemazuva ano.
Murume anoda apo mudzimai anomurumbidza.
Uye kwete kunyanya kuvimbika kune avo vanoedza kukumbira kuti vatsigire. Murume chaiye haazivi nzira yekuita rumbidzo pakarepo: anofanira kutakura mazwi aya ane rudo pamusoro pechiratidzo chake, unhu hunodiwa kana unyanzvi pakubika. Kusiyana ndevamwe vatevedzeri vehukama hwepabonde hwehukama, iyo yemakore emakore-hukama husiku hukama hwakatotanga kuumba urongwa hwezvinyorwa zvakagadzirwa zvakagadzirirwa kune chero mukadzi. Murume akatendeka haafariri kureva nhema kumudzimai wake: haazomuudze kuti akaremerwa uremu, kana zvisiri izvo, asi zvechokwadi acharangarira kuti iye uye rudzi urwu rwaiye ndiye akakodzera.
Pakazara, mibvunzo yevakadzi nguva dzose pamusoro pechiratidzo kana kuparara kwekukanganisa mukuonekwa kwavo haifariri vanhu. Nokusingaperi, mukadzi waakasarudza uye anodiwa kwaari, ndeyeiye wakanakisisa uye anokudzwa zvikuru. Uye iye anofarira izvi zvakagadzirwa nehutano hweasanangurwa yake. Uye kana ukanyatsocherechedza kukanganisa kunokonzerwa nemufananidzo wake, ipapo iye anotanga kucherechedza zvimwe zvinhu zvinogadzirisa kukwana kwake. Uye pazuva iroro, paanoona kuti haasisiri kufunga kuti mukadzi wake akanaka, asina kujairika, akasiyana, chido chake chichapera. Uye nekunyangarika kwechiitiko chinokosha chinobatanidza muhukama, kukanganiswa kwakakwana kwemanzwi kunokwanisika.
Mukadzi chiratidzo chemurume.
Murume anofarira zvikuru apo tsika uye mufambiro wekuda kwake kunomanikidza unhu hwakanaka huri pachena. Anofanirwa kunge achinzwa achidikanwa kune shamwari yake kwete kumba chete, kwavari ivo voga, asiwo mune imwe kambani iyo inogona kurasikirwa nechinzvimbo cheye chete uye mumaziso evanodikanwa vake. Nguva ino inokosha zvachose kune nhengo chero ipi zvayo yepabonde yakasimba. Uye nekuda kwekuti mukadzi achararama nekutaridzirwa kwemashoko aya akazotsvaga, zvizhinji zvichabva paukama hwavo. Chinhu ichi ndechokuti varume vakanyanya kuoma kupfuura vakadzi. Uye havazivi kuti vangagutsikana sei pachavo pachavo. Kana kuti vanogona, asi zvakapiwa kwavari pamutengo wemabasa asinganzwisisiki. Asi mukadzi chaiye ane runyoro kutarisa kunogona kuisa mukati momudiwa wake manzwiro kuti iye akadaro-mumwe uye anonyatsoda. Uye kunzwa uku kwevarume hakusi kungofadza - ivo vakanyatsogadzirira kutamira makomo kwemaminitsi mashomanana ekugara mune izvi.