Mune rimwe shoko, zvese zvehupenyu hwehupenyu hwemhuri hunofarirwa kwenguva refu. Sezvazviri, munyaya yenyaya dzinonzi: "+ uye ivo vakararama mweya mumweya, kwenguva yakareba uye vanofara"? Hongu, ndiratidzei uyo anonyora nhau dzepano! Asi pakutanga kuona, zvose zvakatanga zvakanyanya! Gungwa remaruva, gungwa rerudo, serenades pasi pemahwindo, chete mazwi akanaka kwazvo uye ane unyoro ekunyora tsamba (nguva refu inogara Indaneti, uye pasina kunze kwayo munhu munzira ipi zvayo!)
Zvaakanga ane hanya uye munyoro, anonzwisisa uye anoteerera! Uye chii chakanga chakanaka uye chakanaka, chichitinhira uye chinotyisa! Vaiva nezvinhu zvose zvakadai, mune rudo rwemafirimu emuAmerica: chic bouquets uye mabiko ekudhura, vakakwanisa kusangana nemangwanani uye zuva. Uyezve bhomanana, bhokisi tsvuku mumhando yemwoyo nemashoko mashanu anokosha: "Iwe uchandoroorana neni here?" Zvakanaka, ipapo zvose zvakanyatsofamba "sangano remuchato rwiyo uye rakatamba +", shamwari ine "shungu!", Hope dzamai vangu dzomufaro + Chimwe chimiro chechikomborero chakaguma nekutanga, asi chakanga chave chikafu chemhuri nemubvunzo unonyatsoti: "Amai vakachema vachifara here .."
Kare mumwedzi yekutanga yehupenyu hwakabatana, vazhinji vakaroorana vanoona chokwadi chakaoma cheupenyu hwavo hwemhuri hunofadza . Uye hazvina basa kuti vanga vaine nguva yakareba sei mwedzi kana makore akawanda. Pamwe pamwe nemamwe mabheji anoshamisa akazvitenga matsva, zvichida kwete anofadza, asi achiri hama, boka rose rebasa rinopoteredza imba, zvikwereti zvaifanira kunge zvakabhadharwa, asi bhajeti yemhuri yave yatotorwa, asi zvakazoitika zvinoda kuronga. Mukati iyi haisi nguva yakaoma yekunyora vanhu, mudzimai anotora magirazi ake akareba uye anotanga kunzwisisa kuti mudiwa wake haazvibatsiri kukandira maseseke asina tsvina mukati meimba uye kunwa doro neshamwari. Ichi chiratidzo chisina kujeka chekuti hukama hwehukama huri kuchinja sei. Murume wacho, uyewo, anoona kuti mudzimai wake anodikanwa haasi iye ose mubati, asi fan of purgatory. Mahombekiti epamberi yepamberi anowira, chiso chechokwadi chemunhu chinoratidzwa zvakare, uye zvakare, sezvinotaura shoko iri: mweya wakamhanyira kuParadhiso +
Mumwe wevadzidzi vangu akaroora mushure memakore makumi matatu, anoyeuka kuti: "Pandakanga ndangotanga kufambidzana nemurume wangu weramangwana, ndakashamiswa nekusakarurama kwake uye kukanganisa kwake." Mushure momuchato iye akandirova asingashamisi, zvinoreva kuti kururama kwake kunongoshanda kune iye oga: haajai zvinhu zvepakutanga, hazvigoni kutora marara, kana kuchenesa kushambidza ivo pachavo, uye hakukwanisi kuva nematauriro nekutaura, kazhinji kacho kwakava kuoma. "Half gore gare gare, pandakaona kuti murume wangu mwanakomana wemwanakomana wangu, zvinoratidzika kuti akangoparadzwa chete and Iniwo ndinokoshesa ukama nehama dzemurume wangu, kunze kwechimwe chinhu - mumarudzi ose emakakatanwa murume wangu anogara achitora rutivi rwangu, asi ndizvo zvose, zvinhu zviduku. "Muzviitiko zvakawanda mushure momuchato, ukama hwedu huri nani: isu tiri isu tine hupenyu humwe nokuda kwemaviri, zvirongwa zvakajairika uye zvinangwa.Ungagona kushandiswa kune zvose, kurarama pamwechete pamwe chete, chinhu chikuru ndechokuti vose vari kuedza kuita mhuri inofara. "
Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa mune zvezvematongerwe enyika: mari, rudo, kukurukurirana, kutengesa, kuvabereki uye mabasa epamba ndeyekukurukurirana kwevakaroorana, izvi ndizvo zvikonzero nei hukama hwehukama huchishanduka. Paunoroora, yeuka: vanhu kazhinji havasati vachinja mune izvo zvinoumba hupenyu hwavo. Mudzimai anongopedza nguva achiedza kudzidzisazve murume wake, iyewo, anoedza kuchinja, pakati pemakakatanwa ose, hapana wevanoda haazvioni, haaiti danho kune mumwe, asi achawedzera kubva. Kana mushure mechato, vechidiki vanotanga kuvakazve hukama, uye izvi, sezvatinoziva, zvinoda kushivirira uye uchenjeri. Iva wakachenjera, nokuti haugoni kudzivisa kukakavara uye matambudziko kunyange mumuchato unofadza zvikuru!
Nhamba idzi dzinoti: 26% zvekurambana kunowira kune vakaroorana vanoroora kwemakore maviri, uye 51% zvekurambana - mumakore mashanu okutanga ekugara pamwe chete, zvose nokuti hukama hwekuroorana huri kuchinja. Kunyange zvakadaro, iwe unobvumirana, kana iwe mose muchidanana uye muchida chaizvo kuchengetedza mhuri itsva, saka hapana masokisi akaparadzirwa haazokudziviri, asi chokwadi chinoramba chiri chokwadi!
Rimwe zuva, shamwari yangu, yakanga isati yava nenguva yekuziva amai, yakabvunza kuti: "Upenyu hunoshandura sei mushure mokuberekwa kwechecheche, uye unoshandura zvachose?" Kwandakazopindura kuti: "hapana chinoshanduka, upenyu huno husina hanya hunoguma uye danho idzva rinotanga." Kubva paminiti yekutanga yekuonekwa kwomwana muimba, ndiye iye anova mukuru wekutarisa mumhuri. Chinhu bedzi chinoshandura ukama huri pakati pemurume nemudzimai, uye kwete huri nani. Chimwe chezvinhu zvinowanzokonzera kuparadzana pakati pevakaroorana is postpartum depression. Pasina mubvunzo, vanaamai vaduku vanosangana nemamiriro ezvinhu aya, nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana: mutoro, mabasa emunguva yemberi, kusiyiwa kwehupenyu hwehupenyu uye, zvechokwadi, kuneta kusingagumi. Vanaamai vakawanda vatsva panguva yekuzvitakura kurota kwekuonekwa kwechecheche achavada. Asi mushure mekuberekwa, kurota kunopera muzvokwadi, kunze kwekuti, mukomana muduku mucheche-mutsvuku ari kuchema nguva dzose, uye haataridzi kufanana nengirozi kubva kune zvekutengesa!
Kana chiri chimiro, chiri kupi, chakaenda kupi? Pamberi peiyo, waiva wakanaka, wakaisvonaka, mazai emafuta uye ane pamuviri, uye zvino-yakangova nemavhutu pasi peziso, ganda rakatema uye + Zvinokonzera kuora mwoyo, kupfuura zvakakwana, kwete kurangarira kuchinja kwemasimoni mumuviri.
Chimwe chinhu chakafanana mune zvepfungwa chinowanikwa nababa, handinyari kutaura kuti izvi zvakaoma zvikuru kwavari. Varume, kusiyana nevakadzi, vanoda nguva yakareba kuti vazvione ivo sababa, uye kutya kwekusatarisana nemutoro wababa, kunokonzera kuora mwoyo.
Munguva iyi yakaoma, ukama pakati pemurume nemudzimai hunokosha. Mudzimai anotaura kuti mudzimai wacho haakwanisi kutarisa kwaari kana mwana, haanzwisisi zvaanoita uye anoita seanoshungurudzika uye ane udyire! Murume akaneta nemudzimai anotsamwiswa uye anogara achichema, achingovhara mukati make, kazhinji anowedzera kushanda. Kurara kwakadaro kwakagara kwakamirira uye wese-mudiki kunokonzera dambudziko remhuri.
Natalia anoyeuka gore rokutanga mushure mekusununguka sekurota kwakaipa: "Kuberekwa kwemwanakomana wedu kwaiva kutanga kwemagumo emhuri iripo.Pakarepo mushure mekuberekwa ndakawira mukutambudzika kukuru, zvakaonekwa kwandiri kuti hupenyu hwakapera." Zvose izvo zvakava chinangwa chehupenyu hwangu mwana, imba , madiapers, kufamba - zvose zvakanga zviri pamusoro pangu.Murume wangu akagara pabasa, akauya semhizha yakanyanyisa ndokuenda kunorara kamwechete.Ndakafunga kuti kuneta kwake uye mupfeko hazvina kukodzera zvangu! Ndainzwa ndisina shungu, ndakafunga kuti izvi zvinotyisa ikoko hakuzovi nemugumo Pakukakavadzana kwakatevera ndakadanidzira kuti murume wangu akanga asina kukodzera sababa, uye murume wangu akapindura kuti akanga ari kuwana mari, mwana ndiye waiva mutoro wangu, uye kuti ndaida sei kuchinja basa rimwe zuva, ndaizoedza ini munzvimbo yangu - zvichida ipapo aizonzwisisa kuti zvakaoma sei kwandiri! "Pakupedzisira, mumwe wangu haana kungomira pabasa, asi anonyangarika usiku, mushure memaviri maviri takapedza kuroorana." Ichi chinhu chisina kunaka chekuti hukama hwehukama hwemuchato hunoshanduka sei.
Kubva pane izvi mamiriro akajeka, teerera mazano echipfungwa chepfungwa uye uchengetedze mhuri yako. Vakadzi vane kodzero yekukunda kudzvinyirirwa kwavo pachavo kuburikidza nekuchinja mafungiro kune zvitsva. Shandura jasi rakapfeka rakapfeka sutu yakaisvonaka, shandura bvudzi rakagadzirwa, tenga firimu yakanaka - ona mhuri yose. Iwe unoti: "zvipfeko zvakadaro", asi unobatsira zvikuru mukuchengetedza mhuri uye kunyatsotsiva kushungurudzika uye zvinopisa!
"Amai, ndimi ani?" Ndakanga ndambonzwa kunyadziswa kumurume wangu kubva kune shamwari yangu.
Pano iyi chikonzero chinokonzera kukanganisa - kunyanya kusimbisa amai kuti vatarise mwana. Kudzoka kubva kubasa, murume haanzwisisi kuti zviratidzo zvekucherechedza zvakasvika kwaari, pane kumupa kudya kwemanheru, bvunza kuti zvinhu zviri pamabasa zvinonzwa sei: "Ndaneta, handina nguva, uye kazhinji, unogona kuita zvose iwe pachako." Uyu ndiwo muenzaniso wehukama hwehukama hwehukama huchishandurwa mushure mekuroora.
Haafariri nguva iyo achauya, zvaachadya, angave ane shati yakachena, asingatauri zvepabonde, aingova pamazororo makuru.
Kusava nehanya kunowanzoguma neupombwe kune rumwe rutivi, inguva yekutanga hafu yegore mushure mekuonekwa kwecheche mumhuri. Murume anonzwa asingadiwi, akawanikwa achigadziriswa, uye ave panzvimbo yechipiri asingadi. Zvinonzwika zvisina maturo, asi chokwadi, mudzimai wacho anowanzova godo neropa rake, nokuti mudzimai haana kuchengeta ukama hwepakutanga, uye akamanikidza murume wake kurongwa hwechipiri.
Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa inopa zano: mushure mekuonekwa kwomwana mumhuri haufaniri kutarisa kune mumwe mubereki, kuitira kuti ukama hwenyu husina kuchinja. Kushuva komurume kumwana kwakarurama zvakakwana, uye kunowanikwa apo mudzimai asingabatanidzi kubva muupenyu hwemumwe wake, zvakakwana uye zvakakwana anopa mwana. Vadiwababa navanaamai, hatifaniri kukanganwa kuti pane iye zvino vatatu venyu, uye munhu wese anoda mwana wako nenzira yako.
Kana iri "manzwiro ekugadzirisa" kumudzimai weavo varume vaivapo pakuberekwa,
kazhinji, chikonzero, kwete chikonzero. Sezvavanotaura, vadiwa, makadhi mumaoko enyu-tarisai kuparara muukama hwenyu, kwete kuti vakatendeka vakatarisa kwamuri, vakaneta, vasina kugadzirirwa muchivako.
Ukama hwevanoda vaviri, semakanho, anotanga nezuva rokutanga, kuzivikanwa kwokutanga + Chikamu chimwe nechimwe cheukama - danho muhupenyu hutsva. Hazvibatsiri zvachose kana chiri chichato kana chikwata chitsva muhukama hwako, pamuviri kana kuberekwa kwechecheche, zvakakosha kuti iwe pamwe wakasarudza kuva pamwechete mukuchema uye mufaro, uye usakanganwa kuti hukama hwemuchato huri kuchinja.
Vadiwa vakaroorana vanoona zvose kukakavara nekukuya sehupenyu hwakaoma hwehupenyu, ipapo iwe uchararama uchifara nguva dzose, uye vana vanofara vanozvarwa mumhuri inofara. Mushure mezvose, munonamata mumwe nomumwe? Ipapo ivo vachati pamusoro pako: "+ uye ivo vakararama vachifara nguva dzose +.