- Zvichida, zvichava mamwe makore mashanu kusvika kumatanhatu, uye inguva yokubereka.
- Uye kubva kunaani?
- Uye zvinorevei? Kunyange kana pasina munhu wandichada, ndichashandisa nzira yekugadzira maitiro. Ndinoda mwana wangu. Iwe pachako.
Iwe unonzwa kangani mazwi akadaro munguva pfupi? Uye vanowedzera uye vakadzi, vakaodzwa mwoyo nevarume, mupfungwa chaiyo yemhuri, vanowanzozvara "ivo pachavo." Chii ichi? Chiratidzo chechimiro chezana remakumi maviri nemakore rokutanga? Kusiyana kwechirevo? Kana kuora mwoyo kwechikadzi (uye pamwe nemurume wake) petence?
Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zvechiitiko ichi. Chinyanya kukosha ndechekuti zvakanga zvisingakwanisi kusangana nemumwe munhu aigona kuva baba vakanaka kumwana. Hazvaikwanisika kuroorwa, pakange pasina mumwe wandinoda kugovera denga pamusoro pemusoro wangu. Izvo hazvina kubudirira. Chikonzero chisingawanzozivikanwi - kusarudzwa "kwekupedzisira". Vavengi vaviri, vaduku uye vasina kuchengetedzwa. Chinhu chikuru pane zvamunokwanisa kutenga chimba. Asi kurera mwana pane zvinotyisa. Uye inopfuura gore negore mukufungidzira kwemaitiro ari nani uye kubudirira, uye ipapo imba yacho pachayo inowanzozara. Asi zvikonzero izvi zvaivepo nguva dzose uye kwose kwose. Mune zvimwe zvikonzero zvezana remakore zvatanga kuonekwa. Ichi chave chiri chirevo chevakadzi vanoodzwa mwoyo. Iyo inowanikwa mukuti kuroorana nemhuri zvisingachaperi uye zvinhu zvisingakoshi izvo mwana anogona kuve akakwakura zvakakwana asina baba, kuti munhu anongoda chete muhurumende yehutano hwepabonde "yehutano", uye nokuda kwaizvozvi hazvina kukodzera kuroora uye kurarama pamwe chete. Uye kushamwaridzana kwevanhu, kusangana kwemweya? Uye nokuda kwechinangwa ichi chete uye pachava nemwana. Uye zvakakwana. Regai kuve nemumwe, asi hama chaiye.
Ngationei zvipingamupinyi zvakavanzira nzira yemwana.
Kana kunyange vanaamai vakaroorana vakaomerwa pakubata nekukura kwevana vavo, chii chichaitika kumukadzi anonyatsotaura nezvemwana? Kana mwana ari muduku, zvinoita sekuti achiri kure, asi nguva inomhanya nokukurumidza. Uye iye zvino ari oga, kwete wechidiki, kubvira kare akakura asina kujaira kuita zvirongwa nemumwe munhu kunze kwemwana wake, uye haasisina mwana. Zvinonzwika utsinye, asi ichokwadi. Mwana anokura ane zvido zvake, zvaanoda, nguva yehupenyu hwevechidiki egoism. Uye kunyange muvana vanobudirira uye vanobva pamwoyo, chiyero chekucherechedza maamai ichiri kunyanya kuderedzwa. Vazhinji vanaamai vanoputsa uye vanotanga kuda kuzvitarisira ivo, kukwira muhupenyu hwomwana, vachiedza kuisa hupenyu hwake pasi pake.
Ilya, 42, akaroora pazera remakore makumi matatu nemaviri. Akanga ari mwana, uyo amai vake vakazvara "nokuda kwake," kwete kunyatsofungisisa kubva kwaari. Haana kumboziva baba vake. Aigona kuroora uye kuva nevana chete mushure mokufa kwaamai vake, paakanga achiri mupenyu, akatsiura mukadzi wose akaenda kune Ilya. Uye akanzwisisa: kana amai kana mudzimai. Kusiya amai vanorwara akanga asingabvumirwi hana, uye kuva nemhuri kunoreva kurera amai - haazogamuchiri chero mukadzi muhupenyu hwake. Mushure mokumuviga, akareurura achiti: "Zvisinei zvingadaro, zvainyadzisa, asi ndakasunungurwa mushure mekufa kwake. Iye zvino ini ndinogona kurarama zvakajairika. "
Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, kutaura kwaamai kuti "akararama kumwanakomana wake" zvinenge zvinyengeri. Uye akazvara uye akagara ari oga-uye oga. Uye kamwe-kamwe chitambo chake chakatanga kutora kodzero yehupenyu hwayo? Amai vakagumburwa nekusava nemwanakomana wavo. Kukanganwa chii chakaita munhu. Ndiani ane kodzero yekurarama sezvaanoda.
Dzimwe nguva ketani inopfuurira: mwanakomana anoramba asina kuroorwa, zvichida achipa mumwe munhu "biomaterial" kuti ave nemimba. Mwanasikana - anoberekera mwana "ivo pachavo", nokuti kunyanya kumuzukuru amai havana godo.
Izvo zvinoitikawo kuti vana vanopandukira uye bhizinesi rinopera mukuzorora. Izviwo hazvirevi zvakanaka. Kuvhiringidzwa kwaamai nevana kunopesana kunogona kukonzera nzira dzakawanda dzisinganzwisisiki mukusaziva uye zvinoparadza upenyu hwemwana. Uyu ndiwo pfungwa yakavanzika yemhosva kune mai, uye chido pamwero wekusaziva "kuratidza" amai vake kuzvimiririra-chero chii chiri, mwana anoenderera mberi kurarama "mumumvuri" weamai, vakadzingwa nenzira yake.
Asi kana mwana achangokura, kune matambudziko akakwana. Muchikoro chekutanga uye kuchikoro-vana vane makore havakwanisi kunyatsonzwisisa kuti nei mhuri yavo isiri yevamwe. Zvose zvakafanana, zvaivapo uye zvichava nemhuri dzine vabereki vaviri. Uye mwana acharamba achienzanisa. Aiwa, kwete mukufarira mhuri yake. Archetype yemhuri, yakaiswa mukati medu kwezviuru zvemakore, haisi nyore kuuraya nemitsva itsva-fangled. Pakupedzisira, inofanira kutora makore anopfuura zana. Uye mwana akasimba kudarika vanhu vakuru, ivo vese vemazuva ose vanopararira - pfungwa dzake hadzina "kushandiswa" neruzhinji. Nokudaro, muchivande, iye achavaka pfungwa yakavanzika yekuzvidzivirira.
Nharo yechipiri - iyi ndiyo nzira iri nyore yekukura yegoist uye neurotic. Mwana wacho anowanzotaridzirwa kuti amai vacho havakwanise kutarisana naye - zvose ndezvake. Uye kunze kwekuda kwake, ane mafungiro akafanana kune nyika: nyika yose inofanira kunge iine hanya navo chete, pamwe nezvinetso zvake nezvido zvake. Kana pane chimiro - vana ava vanojaira kuchengetedza nyika yezvinhu nesimba. Uye tinovatumidza kuti vatongi uye vatongi. Kana hukama husina simba - kuora mwoyo kunorwadza zvikuru, uye kunyomba kunyika kwakazara zvikuru. Uye sechikonzero - zvirwere, kukundikana, kuora.
Mumwe munhu achada kukakavadzana: havasi vana vose vakakurira mumhuri dzine mubereki ari oga vane kukanganisa! Hungu, kwete vose. Kukuvadza kunongova kune avo amai vavo vasina kuda chero ani zvake, vachikumbira mwana.
Mune tsika yangu pane muenzaniso unopesana: mukadzi ainge akaroora uye aida murume wake, asi aisagona kutora kubva kwaari - murume wake aiva nezvinetso. Vakasarudza pakuisa insemination nemaitiro nemudziro wevanhu. Murume wangu aive neni nguva dzose. Mwana wacho akaberekwa uye akaberekwa murudo. Uye zvinhu zvose zvakanaka kwavari, uye mwana haasi iye akasiyana nevana vakangozvarwa vane pamuviri.
Zvinotyisa kwete kuti hakuna baba. Aigona kusiya mai vake, kufa, amai vake vaigona kubva, vaigona kupararira zvakanaka-kwete chinangwa. Zvakakosha kuti kugadzirwa kwepakutanga pamhuri kwakaitika, uye kwaive mune iyi aura yorudo, ukama, yakakumbwa uye yakaberekerwa mwana. Zvinotyisa apo imwe amai vatova pamuviri wekutora kunopa imwe nzvimbo yeumwe munhu munzvimbo yacho. Pashure pezvose, vana, vachiri muchizvaro, vanonzwa zvakakwana zvose zvinoitika kuvabereki vavo.
Kuora mwoyo mumhuri, varume, rudo - chinhu icho varume vakapawo zvakawanda. Asi sei kukura varume vakakwana uye vakadzi vakakwana, vachivhara mwoyo yavo nokuda kwekunzwa kwechokwadi, vachivatya uye vachiedza kufamba-famba?
Pane nzira imwechete yekubuda: kurwisa, kuedza, kutsvaga uye kuwana chimwe chinhu chechokwadi, kutenda uye tariro, kuzviita iwe pachako. Izvi zvinoshanda kune vose - vose varume nevakadzi.
Mune maonero angu, zvakakosha kufunga: zvinotofanirawo here kutarisira kuberekwa kwomwana, kana pasina imwe iri pedo nemudzimai angazova rubatsiro pakutanga pakutanga? Vakawanda vanoti kana mukadzi asingaiti saamai, hupenyu hwake hunoparara. Asi zvichaitika here seamai vakazara, vachigadzirisa humwe humwe hupenyu kuti vazvidzivirire pane zvichemo zvavo nekuvhiringidzika?