Iro zano rechiremba wepfungwa, kana murume wake ari wekutanga shamwari, pakutanga, asingatombodi. Zvinoratidzika zvakakwana kuti uzvinzwisise kana kubvunza pamusoro pazvo kubva kune mumwe munhu wepabonde. Hazvisiko kunzwisisa, kuita zvirongwa zvakaoma. Varume havasi vamwe vanhu vanobva kune imwe nyika, avo vatisina mutauro wakafanana. Tinogona nyore nyore, chaizvoizvo, kushingaira uye kuzviisa muzvishongo zvemunhu akadaro.
Vanenge vose varume vanosarudza panzvimbo yekutanga ivo vega shamwari, kazhinji musimboti wavo ndewe musikana. Mushure mezvose, vasikana vanouya uye vanoenda, vasikana chimwe chinhu zvakare chimwe chinhu, uye iwe unofanirwa kuzvibata navo zvakasiyana, uye shamwari dzichagara dzichinzwisisa uye dzichagara dzichigara. Asi chii chinoitika kana shamwari dzomurume wako dzichiuya pakutanga? Zvingaita sokuti izvi hazvifaniri kuva zvachose uye kuti izvi hazvina kukwana zvachose ... Asi munyaya iyi, unogona kuwana nzira yekubuda nayo.
Izvi hazvirevi kuti zvikonzero zvevose zvavo zvichave zvakafanana uye zvakakosha zvinofananidzira zvinoratidza kuti munhu wacho haasati akura kana kuti asina kugadzirira "ukama" hweukama. Zvechokwadi, zvikonzero zvinogona kunge zvakasiyana, uye isu tichaedza kufunga pamusoro pavo, nokuti kuziva zvikonzero, tinogona kunzwisisa zviri nani mamiriro ezvinhu uye tinowana nzira yekubuda nayo.
Chikonzero chekutanga chinokonzerwa nekusava nekugadzirira kweukama hwemhuri yakakomba, iyo inonyanya kuitika kune varume vaduku vasingazivi maitiro akanaka nevakadzi. Asi chaizvoizvo, inenge vanhu vose pane imwe nhanho huru yezvokutanga ndeye shamwari dzake, mubvunzo chete ndeyekuti anotora nzvimbo inotungamirira kana kwete. Shamwari - ichi ndicho chimwe chezvinhu zvinokosha zvikuru, chikamu chinokosha zvikuru muupenyu hwevanhu vose. Mumwe nomumwe wavo ane ruremekedzo rukuru kune shamwari dzake, nguva dzose akagadzirira kuvabatsira, uye kuva shamwari yakanaka ndiyo musoro chaiwo uyo wese anoda kuchifanirwa. Misiyano ndiyo chete iyo pfungwa yehukama ine murume, chii chinopa iye uye zvaanoita. Dzimwe nguva kusavepo haisi dambudziko rakakomba, nokuti murume anogona kukanganiswa, taura naye nezvekunzwa kwake. Muudze kuti haufariri nzira yaanoita, asi ita izvi zvakanaka, sarudza pamwe chete matambudziko ako uye zvikanganiso, ratidza kwaari chii chinogona kumubatsira kuti ave murume akakodzera iwe. Usakanganwa kutaura kuti hausi kumudzivisa kuti aone shamwari, airemekedze zvikuru, asi zvingava zviri nani kana akakubhadhara zvakanyanya kwauri.
Zvichida, rimwe rematambudziko akaoma, apo munhu ane shamwari dzekutanga, anogonawo kuva kusarura kwevakadzi. Rudzi urwu runogona kufamba-famba pamapati neshamwari, enda navo kumutambo webhola newaini, nenguva apo mudzimai weimba anochenesa, akagadzirira uye anopera. Mukuzorora kwake, ndizvo chaizvo zvaanofanira kuita, iye murume, uye anofanira kupedza nguva yake nevarume. Mukadzi kwaari anoramba ari hare hare anoyemedza, asi mupfungwa dzake ari pasi pemurume uye anoita basa rakasiyana zvachose. Murume akadaro haangakuisi iwe pakutanga, haasi akagadzirira kukuona iwe zvakasiyana, uye kuedza kuchinja iri basa rakaoma zvikuru. Muchiitiko ichi, unofanira kuzvibvunza, unoda hupenyu hwakadaro here? Mushure mezvose, kana munhu ari pachena kune mudzimai, anomusarura maererano neshamwari, izvi zvinongoratidza kuti haana kudzidza, ane pfungwa dzenhema pamusoro pewanano uye zvepabonde, uye mune dzimwe nguva murume uyu anogona kuiswa pamwe nevanomanikidzwa mumusha. Funga pamusoro pezvaungaita pamusoro pazvo? Iwe unogona here kurongedza manzwiro ake, pfungwa, unhu? Wagadzirira here kubvumira kurapa kwakadaro hupenyu hwako hwose?
Kana munhu ane nzvimbo yekutanga yeushamwari, vepfungwa dzepfungwa vanoti chikonzero cheizvi chinogona kungova urongwa hwekugadzirisa hutsika. Munhu mumwe nomumwe anokosha, uye munguva yehupenyu hwake anogadzira mararamiro ake maitiro, anoisa zvinhu zvinokosha panzvimbo yake. Uye chokwadi chokuti murume wake achava neshamwari munzvimbo yekutanga hazvirevi kuguma kwenyika, iyi ndiyo maonero ake, maitiro ake, unhu hwake, zvaunofanira kunzwisisa nekusimbisa. Misiyano chete ndeyekuti urongwa huno hwehutano hunozviratidza sei, kana hukudzivirira iwe pachako kubva kurarama, kana hunounza mamwe matambudziko. Kana zvisina kudaro, funga kuti sei iwe uchifunga kuti ichi chinetso? Hazvisi nyore here kugamuchira nzvimbo yemurume uye kugamuchira chisarudzo chake? Mushure mezvose, achiri kukuda, anovimba newe uye anokoshesa, iwe uri kwaari iye mukadzi akakurumbira uye mudzimai anodiwa, imba yako inogona kuva yakanaka, inokudzivirira mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro kuti murume akabatanidzwa neshamwari dzake here? Dzimwe nguva unongofanira kushivirira maonero aya uye kukanganwa nezvehupenzi hwako. Zvimwe dambudziko riri mauri uye kuti iwe hausi kuda kusiya "nzvimbo yako yekutanga muupenyu hwake"?
Kana shamwari dzako dziine simba rakaipa kumurume wako, uye iwe unonetseka nezvake, kana nekuda kweshamwari iye akatanga kukubata zvakaipa, nzira yakanakisisa ndeyokutaura naye pachena. Mukufunga kwepfungwa, kune chinhu chakadai se "Ini-mazwi". Aya ndiwo mazwi akazaruka omutauriri, umo iwe unogadzira hurukuro kubva kune munhu wokutanga uye unongedzera zvaunoda. Iwe unogona kuti "une shamwari dzakaipa, wave wakaipa kudarika iwe, ivo ... iwe hausisirizve ...". Muchiitiko ichi, mutsara unoonekwa sechinoshorwa, kupomerwa. Ini-mharidzo ichataura seyizvi: "Handidi kuti wave uchindibata sei munguva pfupi, ndinoda kutaura newe pamusoro payo, nokuti hazvifadzi kwandiri apo shamwari dzako ...". Iwe unokurudzira muvengi kuti afunge nezvekunzwa kwako nekuteerera iwe.
Iro zano rechiremba wepfungwa, kana murume wake aine shamwari dzekutanga - usaedza kuchinja muchivande, shandisa kushandura, kutaura naye uye kumuudza zvausingadi. Ita pamwe chete ukama hwako, uye iwe uchaona kuti zvose zvinogona kugadziriswa nekubatana.