Asi kana iwe uchida chaizvo murume wako, iwe unogona kushandisa mazano edu anobatsira kubva kune zvakasiyana: ivo vachava ruzivo kuti haufaniri kukanganisa manzwiro evanhu vanodiwa.
Murume wako nguva dzose anopikira chimwe chinhu kwauri, asi haazombochengeta shoko rake. Panguva imwecheteyo, nguva dzose, inowana tsanangudzo dzakawanda, dzimwe nguva dzisinganzwisisi zvachose. Kune chero ipi zvayo mibvunzo yako yakawanda, somuenzaniso "wakandinyengedza here?", Anoshamisa uye ane shungu. Zvinonzwisisika, unonzwisisa kuti anoreva nhema kwauri.
Kunyengera kunonyanya kufanana nemunhu chero upi zvake. Iwe unogona kugara uchipa mhosva nhema. Iko kunofanirwa kufungwa kuti mutsara wekuti "ini handikutendi" zvakanyanya kunokanganisa kusava nemunhu. Mushure mezvose, hapana humwe uchapupu hwomutadzi wake, uye haagoni kugadziriswa nepfungwa yokuti haangotendi zvakadaro.
Mazano ekutanga anobatsira kutsamwisa munhu anodikanwa ndeyokutanga kusahadzika kutendeseka kwake kwauri.
Iro rechipiri mazano anobatsira anogona kuonekwa nekushaikwa kwepabonde. Kunyanya zvakakwana, zvepabonde zvinonyangarika kubva paupenyu hwako hwepedyo maererano nekuda kwako. Zvakakosha kuziva kuti kushungurudza murume wako anodikanwa, uchimuudza kuti iwe wakagumburwa uye hauzovi nepabonde nhasi - kuedza zvishomanana.
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinonyevera kuti haufaniri kutakura kukanganisa kwako kurara. Asi, kana iwe unonyatsoziva kuti murume wako anofanirwa nemafungiro anotyisa kwazvo, ingova kungotonhora kumubata wake uye chero zviito zvekuita zvepabonde. Uye mutsara wekuti "iwe usandizonakidza" ndiyo yakakosha nokuda kwechiremera chakanyanya kumunhu chisina maturo.
Munhu wose akaziva kwenguva yakareba shamwari dzomunhu dzakachena. Paunotanga kutsoropodza shamwari dzake, anobva atumira mazwi ako ose kuakaunti yako. Uyezve, mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, pfungwa mbiri dziri kunetseka mumusoro wake: kudzivirira shamwari dzake kana kukutsigira. Sezvo mutemo, varume vanosarudza sarudzo yekutanga. Mushure mezvose, ava ndivo shamwari dzake, uye ivo, priori, haigoni kuipa.
Iro rechina mazano anobatsira kutsamwisa munhu anodikanwa ndekumubvunza kuti anokwanisa kutyaira motokari. Kunyange kana murume wako asingazivi mitemo yemugwagwa zvachose, asi akawana kodzero yevana vake vane makore gumi nemasere-iye ane chivimbo chokuti iye nyanzvi mubhizinesi rake (Schumacher, neshoko). Nokudaro, kugumbura murume anodikanwa, regai azive kuti iwe haubatsiri maonero ake.
Vasikana vanonyengedza zvikuru asi zvisikwa zvakanaka. Kwavari pfungwa dzevamwe dzinogara dzichikosha, inonyanya kukosha kuti dzichabata sei wechiduku munzanga. Musikana wacho anotevera nguva dzose mufambiro wemurume wake anodikanwa: sei uye zvaanotaura, kuti akapfeke uye sei maanoita. Zvakakosha kuti mukomana haawiri mudope nechiso chake (asi, maererano nemusikana wacho pachake) uye haana kumuita kuti asvike pamberi pevasingazivi.
Varume vanogumburwa zvikuru kana vachigara vachiruramiswa uye vachinyadziswa nemafambiro avo.
Iwe unogona kutsamwisa murume wako anodikanwa nokumuudza zvinhu zvinotevera: Handisi wakachenjera kwauri; iwe unondiita bvudzi. Asi, vasikana, rambai muchifunga kuti pakarepo kana pfungwa dzakadaro dzichionekwa mumusoro wenyu, munogona kutaura kuti hukama hwenyu hahupfuuri kwenguva refu. Hazvigoneki kuti murume achange achida kubatanidza mugumo wake kumusikana anogara achifunga kuti haana kukwana.
Vasikana vanongoramba vasina hanya kubva kuvarume vavo. Mukadzi wese anoda kunzwa akanzwa, ndinoda kutora chikwata uye zvipo. Asi, zvinosuruvarisa, varume havasi nguva dzose vauya nepfungwa yokuti zvinhu izvi zvose zvemudiwa zvakakosha muukama.
Vakadzi kazhinji havakwanisi kuongorora mupiro wemunhu kune ukama. Izvo zvaakakuunzira maruva, kubika kwemanheru, akadzikisa bhizinesi rake kuti akubatsire - nokuti iwe uri wenyama. Murume wacho anofunga kuti akanyatsogadzirirwa iwe. Uye zvakajeka kuti mushure mechiito chipi nechipi chemasimba, iye anoda kunzwa rukudzo kana shoko rimwe chete rakanaka. Uye chii mumagumo? Iwe nguva dzose hausi kufara uye unomuudza kuti hauna kunyanya kufunga.
Kana iwe usingadi kutsamwisa vadiwa vako, kurudzira chiito chega chega kuitira kuti ufare. Zvadaro, iwe pachako hauzoni kuti acharatidza sei kunyanya kutarisa kwauri.
Chimwe chirevo chekugumbusa munhu anodikanwa ndechekusimbisa nguva dzose kusakanganiswa kwake uye kukanganisa. Varume, nenzira yavo, havadi kubvuma zvikanganiso. Uye kana vakabatwa mumunhu uyu ari pedyo uye anodiwa - musikana anodiwa - izvi hazvifadzi muviri.
Chimwe chirevo: kuramba uchitsoropodza kutenga uye kubudirira kwemudiwa. Fungidzira: murume wako aipedza mwedzi achimhanya akatenderedza mota yemotokari achitsvaga bhiza rake rega chete. Uye nenguva iyoyo yakauya - akatenga motokari kuti ashandise pachake. Mufaro uye mufaro zvinopfuura mwoyo wake. Kutaura kwako kusingafungi chete kunogona kukanganisa kurongeka kwake. Iwe pachako, iwe unofunga kuti motokari iyi haisi yechokwadi, kuti inogona kutengwa zvakadhura.
Kuti tiongorore migumisiro yehurukuro yedu: "mazano anobatsira kutsamwisa murume anodikanwa", zvakakosha kuziva kuti mumwe nomumwe wedu ane zvinorwadza. Varume ndivo vanhu vakafanana, nemanzwiro avo uye manzwiro avo.
Iwe usati waenda kushandisa mazano edu, funga: unoda here? Iko yakakosha here nokuda kwechinhu chako chisina maturo, kukanganisa munhu anodiwa zvikuru uye kuparadza ukama?