Sei zvakakosha zvikuru? Ichokwadi chokuti mukadzi ane pamuviri anotarisira kubva kune nyanzvi kwete kungosarudzwa kweimwe rudzi rwekuedza nemishonga, asi rubatsiro rwevanhu rwevanhu, kuvimbiswa kuti "zvose zvichave zvakanaka," nokuti zvinonyanya kukosha kubva pamiromo yake. , kukwanisa kuvatsigira, kukurudzira kuvimba, kupa simba mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro kazhinji kunoonekwa sekuratidzwa kwehutano.Kutaurirana nachiremba kunonyanya kukosha.Kuzvinzwa sei wakasununguka nekuvimba pane imwe nguva? Kusarudza chiremba nekuuya kugamuchiri, isu, semitemo Nechekare tiri kumirira chinhu, sokunge kwerubwinyo rwakagara rwuripo govera "basa." Kune mumwe munhu, chiremba mumwe munhu anogona kugadzirisa dambudziko chero ripi zvaro, nokuti mumwe munhu - shamwari, shamwari, uye mumwe munhu haaoni kunyange chidikanwi chekusimbisa unyanzvi. Mune chimwe chezviitiko izvi pane kune pluses uye minuses. Zvakakosha kuzviziva, kukwanisa kuziva nekushandisa iwe pachako kune zvakanaka. Mamiriro ezvinhu ekugadzira hukama hwakanaka pakati pemurwere uye chiremba anofanira kunge akasununguka kumativi maviri sezvinobvira.
Saka ... Lena ndiye mutungamiri mukuru mune kambani huru. Anotenda: iye zvino ndiyo nguva yevanodzidza, iyo yavanotaura nayo. Nokudaro, kusarudza chiremba, akanga achitsvaka, kupfuura zvose, nyanzvi yakanaka. Uyewo akawana: purofesa, chiremba wezvesayenzi, mukuru webazi rekuberekwa kwekliniki yakanakisisa yeguta. Uye akanga akanyarara: hutano hwake uye hutano hwemwana huri mumaoko akachengeteka. Miedzo yose yaakapa panguva, kusingagumi kuita zvose zvinorayirwa nachiremba, kwete pasina mubvunzo pamusoro pokururama kwavo uye kubudirira. Zvisinei, haana kumbofunga nezvazvo: "Anoziva zvokuita, zviri nani kupfuura ini." Mupurofesa akazivisa zuva rokuzvarwa: "Lenochka, vhiki makumi masere yaenda, inguva yekuenda kune pigeon. "Sezvaunotaura, chiremba," Lena akafara, "Zvakanaka, ndiri kushanda uyu musi wechina, ipapo tichazobereka." Lena akauya kuchipatara panguva yakatarwa. Vaiita kukurudzira, zvose zvakafamba maererano neurongwa. Hondo yakatanga, uye pamwe navo kurwadziwa kwakauya. Kwenguva yakareba, ivo havana kumirira, vakaita chirwere chepachirwere, asi pedo nekuedza, chiremba akaderedza kushanda kweaneshesia kuitira kuti Lena ave nekunyatsomubatsira uye kuti abatsire mwana wake kuti aberekwe. "Muchecheti akanga achitaura chimwe chinhu kuna Lena mumuteereri wake, asi ainzwisisa zvishoma. Ndangoda chinhu chimwe chete-kuita kuti marwadzo acho aende uye zvese zvakakurumidza. "Uya, uya, fema, fema!" - anenge achinyengeterera mzamu wake. Zvisinei, Lena haana kugona kufunga pamusoro pechinhu chipi nechipi, pamwe nekurwadziwa kwake, akatsamwa nehasha: "Sei izvi zvichiitika kwandiri, sei ndichifanira kutsungirira husiku huno, nokuti ndine chiremba wakanakisisa, ndakamubhadhara mari yakawanda?" Mamiriro ezvinhu apo chiremba anoita mukadzi wacho anonyatsovimba naye, anogamuchira zvese zvaakagadza pasina mubvunzo uye asingabvunzi izvo zvinodiwa uye nei. Zviratidzo zvebasa munyaya iyi ndeyesa yesayenzi uye nzvimbo inobatwa muchechi yezvehutano: chiremba wezvesa nani kupfuura muvakiti kana kuti nyanzvi, mutariri Kunyanya kunopiwa kuvarume vanachiremba, nokuti vakafunga kuti nguva yakawanda uye mikana yekuzvidzivirira uye yekuzvivandudza.
Ndezvipi zvinobatsira?
Kuve nemuviri wose hakusiyi mudzimai achifunga kuti ane ruzivo, ane manzwiro ekuchengeteka kwakakwana, kuchengeteka, ane chokwadi chokuti chiremba anovimbisa kuti chikonzero chakanaka, chakarurama.Kutenda kwakadaro kunopa maonero akanaka asati aberekwa.
Ndeipi kukanganisa?
Kana amai vane ramangwana vachida kuchengetedzwa kwakadaro, saka haasi kuzvivimba uye kubviswa mukati maro kubva pakuzvipira kwake, achida kuzvisunungura kubva pamutoro uye kumutumira kuna chiremba. Asi shure kwezvose, kana chiremba, kana mumwe munhu angakwanisa kuberekera iwe ... Muitiko apo zvose zvinoguma zvakachengeteka, kune manzwiro ekuonga kwakadzama kuna chiremba. Kana mamiriro acho achipfuurira mberi kwe "mamiriro ezvinhu" (pane kushamiswa pakuberekwa), pane kunzwa kwekuodzwa mwoyo, amai vangu vanonyengedzwa, vanoita zvakanyanya kudai kuna chiremba.) Zviyeuchidzo uye nhau pamusoro pokubereka mwana mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro zvinoshingairira kuonga kana kuzere nokuora mwoyo uye hasha.
Mudzidzisi wekodzero
Olga ane makore makumi matatu nemana, mwanakomana wake wedangwe ari kupedza chikoro. Akaita pamuviri uye kuberekwa kwekuzvarwa kwakanaka zvikuru: akazvicherechedza, akaedza kudya zvakanaka, akaenda kumapoka e "mubereki anoziva." Zvakakosha kuti agoverewo maonero ake pamusoro pekuberekwa uye amuremekedze kodzero yake yekuita zvisarudzo, chero zvaive. Olga anoda kuti asunungurwe nechinhu chero chipi zvacho panguva yehondo kuitira kuti atore nzvimbo ipi zvayo yakakodzera, shandisa nzira dzakapfurikidza dzokufema uye kunyange kuimba - sezvaakadzidziswa mune zvidzidzo panguva yekuzvitakura .Muwedzera, akanga achida kushandiswa kwemhando ipi zvayo ye " l nokuti iye aisada kuve achikurudzirwa kana kuti anedhetizedzwa nokuti aida mishonga kuitira kuti chiremba aisazopikisana nazvo, asi kuti aizomutsigira mune izvozvi zvido. "Olga, chiremba akafanana-fungidzira, akawana zvidzidzo zvevana vake kugadzirira: chiremba akapa hurukuro pamusoro pemagadzirirwo emagetsi eesesthesia - kuisa muviri uye kuputika, Olga akabva aziva kuti akanga awana iye aida. "Mukadzi anovimba nechiremba semuongorori ane ruzivo rwakakosha, zvisinei, haasi kubvisa mamiriro ezvinhu iye pachake, haasi kutora mutoro kwaari nokuda kwekuvandudzwa kwezviitiko. Anonzwisisa zvakakwana kuti zvinorevei kwaari, uye nekugadzirira kunogadzirira kubereka: anotungamirira mararamiro ane hutano, anodya zvakakodzera, anoenda kune zvidzidzo zvevabereki munguva yemberi, anoita maitiro anokosha. Nezvekodzero dzavo uye mabasa avo, amai vamangwana vanonyatsoruzivo, kana zvichidiwa iye akagadzirira kuvadzivirira, asi pasina chido chakanyanya hachikurumidze kupinda muhondo. Aine chivimbo chekuvimba, kugadzikana, nzvimbo inofadza yemanzwiro. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, pane imwe nguva mukadzi anowedzera kusagadzikana kwehutano hwakakwana: anotsunga kuva amai vakanakisisa, kuita zvose zvakanyatsonaka. Panogona kuva nekunyengera kwezvakanaka izvo zvakasikwa naye, asi kune zvisingatarisirwi, amai vangasave vakagadzirira. Kana zviitiko zvisingaiti sezvakarongwa, pane kushungurudzika, manzwiro ekutadza uye kusazvidzivirira.
Chiremba ishamwari
Achiziva kuti akanga ane pamuviri, Zoya akatanga kutsvaga chiremba: akabvunza, akabvunza shamwari. Nenzira yakanaka, zvakazoitika kuti shamwari yepedyo yeshamwari yomurume wake - chiremba-obstetrician. Muhuro hwake hwose aive akadzikama uye aine chivimbo chokuti zvinhu zvose zvaifamba zvakanaka. Haana kugara achida izvo chiremba aireva, asi Zoya akanga akanyarara, achiti: "Zvirokwazvo anoedza uye anoita zvose zvakanaka, handina kuuya kwaari kubva mumugwagwa." Mumaawa matatu ekupedzisira, pane zviratidzo zvinotyisa: "Zoya akakurumidza kunodana chiremba." Usanetseka, tichagadzirira zvinhu zvose zvino, "akadaro. Uye mangwanani akatevera, Zoya akagara mumakiriniki anoremekedzwa eguta, uye akasununguka zvachose. Pamusoro pemusikana wacho akanyarara akaudza chiremba kuti: "Nikolai Petrovich, musikana wacho anobva kuPekhovtsev." Uye yakatanga: ultrasound, miedzo, madonhesi, zvakare ultrasound, zvakare mudonhedzeri, kuongorora kwakaoma kweamniotic fluid ... vhiki imwe gare, Zoe akaudzwa kuti purofesa akafungidzirwa iye ane imwe sardi syndrome, uye kumwe kuongororwa kunofanirwa kujekesa kuongororwa. "Zoya haana kunzwa, ainzwa akafara, zvikuru kupfuura zvose zvaaida kudzokera kumba." Zvisinei, haana kukwanisa - nokuti akaiswa pano pamashoko aya, pamusoro pake ngwarira vadzidzisi vakadaro Kuongorora kwacho hakuna kusimbiswa, asi Zoya akapedza anenge mwedzi muchipatara. "Ukama nachiremba munyaya iyi ndeyekuvimba, inenge yakabatana (kazhinji ichi ihama, shamwari yepedyo kana mumwe munhu wavakasvika" pakuziva "). Zvinorayirwa zvinotendwa zvisingaverengeki nokuti zvakatobatsira mumwe munhu. Kutarisa kwakanyanya kwachiremba hazviitiki, nokuti anobatanidza nehuwandu hwevanhu vari pedo nemurwere: neshamwari, vashandi pamwe navo, hama.
Ndezvipi zvinobatsira?
Aine chivimbo chekuvimba, kuchengeteka, nokuti chiremba "ane mutoro" wemamiriro ezvinhu kwete chete kumudzimai, asiwo kune hama dzake kana shamwari dzake, chivimbo ichi chinosimbiswa nechokuti hachisi mumwe munhu, asi "mumwe" chiremba. Mukuwedzera, anogona kubvunza chero mubvunzo, kushevedza chero nguva, kusarudza kushanyira, kwete maererano nehechi yekubvumirwa kuchipatara. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, zvinenge zvisingagoneki kupopotedzana kana kusawirirana nemunhu chero ipi zvayo, kunyanya kuramba mabasa ake: izvi ndizvo, sezvavanotaura, "vasinganzwisisiki." Izvo zvakaomawo kuti mukadzi asunungure uye azviite sezvaanoita sezvaanokwanisa pakuberekwa nechiremba-shamwari nokuti chiremba wacho akanyatsobatana nehutano hwemagariro omurwere wake.
Chiremba ndiye muvengi
Katya haarambi mishonga yemazuva ano, asi haatendi vanachiremba mumutemo, anoona kuti mazwi avo ose anonyanya kutyisidzira. Kazhinji, mushure mokudzoka kubva kuchipatara, haasi kukurumidza kutenga mishonga uye kuita zvinotaurwa nachiremba. Kutanga iye anotsvaga ruzivo rwakanyanya kwazvo paInternet, anotaura nezvekushanyira kwachiremba mune maforamu akasiyana uye mushure mokunge izvozvo zvichiita chisarudzo chekupedzisira-kana chekutapwa kana kwete. Munguva yekutakura Katya akacherechedza pakarepo neyanzvi vaviri: munharaunda yekukurukurirana uye mune zvekurapa. Zvisinei, haana kunyatsovimba nechimwe chazvo. Vhiki isati yatanga kuberekwa, chiremba kubva kunharaunda yekubvunzurudza kwevakadzi vakadzi vakatanga kushevedzera kuenda kumabhedha ekuberekwa mberi, kuchengetedzwa. Asi Katya akawana ichi ichi chiratidzo chekusabatsiridza uye akaramba kuratidzira kubva kuchipatara. Katya aitya kuenda kuchipatara nemutemo: aive nechokwadi kare kuti chiremba uye muchecheti vaizoita zvose "zvakaipa." Hazvishamisi kuti kuberekwa kwaiva kwenguva yakareba, kwakanyanya uye kwakaguma nechikamu chekushaya chirwere. "Mukadzi akadaro anozivikanwa nechishuvo chekugadzirisa zvakakwana mamiriro ezvinhu uye kusavimba vanachiremba vakawanda: vanoda kupa mishonga inodhura uye inokuvadza, kutsvaga zvinhu zvose, ingave yakagadzika kuwedzera, kuedza kwakaipa kana chido chokupedza zororo kure nemusha. Mamiriro ezvinhu aya, mukadzi, sekutonga, kunyatsodzidza mitemo, anoziva kodzero dzake uye mabasa ake sechiremba , chero ipi zvayo, inopinda muzvinyorwa. Inotsvakurudza mabhuku ezvokurapa, inobvunza chiremba "mibvunzo" yakakodzera, munzira dzose inogona kuratidza ruzivo rwayo. Kazhinji varwere vakadaro vanoshandura vanachiremba vakawanda panguva yekuzvitakura.
Ndezvipi zvinobatsira?
Kunyengedzwa kwekutonga uye mamiriro ekadzikadzi wemamiriro ezvinhu anopa pfungwa yekuvimba uye simba rekunyatsopedza nguva yezviitiko. Vanaamai vakadaro havanzwisisiki kune chiremba, asi havamurega achizorodza, vanokuita kuti uyeuke kuti chero murwere ane kodzero.
Ndeipi kukanganisa?
Mamiriro ekusavimba naye anonyanya kuoma: vose murwere uye chiremba havakwanisi. Iyi nzira yekubatana inotora simba rakawanda, iyo inonyanya kukosha kune imwe. Mukuwedzera, chiremba haafaniri kunge achida kutsigira mupfungwa saizvozvo amai. Mukadzi anoshandisa simba pakuongorora mamiriro acho ezvinhu uye pakupedzisira haagoni kupora. Nokudaro kuoma mukubereka mwana: simba rinopera nokukurumidza, uye hapana nzvimbo yokumirira kutsigirwa, nokuti aigara achivimba chete pachake.