Maitiro asina kukodzera sekuguma kwekutambudzika kwepfungwa

Tinowanzoti: "Hazvibviri kunzwisisa munhu uyu - ari kuzvibata zvisina kukodzera!" Kana yeuka shamwari: "Mushure mokutaurirana naye ndinonzwa ndakaputsika ..." Mweya yedu yepfungwa inorongwa saizvozvo: Chinhu chokutanga chavanoita ndezvekuedza kuwana chikonzero kubva pane imwe yezvizivikanwa zvinhu zvake uye zvinhu zvinoshamisa. Icho chinopfurikidza runyoro rwose: dzidzo yakaipa kana unhu, "unongotakura, iwe ungaitei?", "Iye akakuvamba zvikuru" ... Apo zviratidzo izvi zvichange zvichinyanya kuitika, tinobvunza mubvunzo-zvichida hausi munharaunda uye iyi inotsanangurwa yesayenzi? Zvechokwadi, chikonzero chekutadza kwakakwana kunogona kuva kushungurudzika kwepfungwa, izvo munhu akagamuchira achiri muduku. Sezvo mutemo, iye haazvizivi, asi unobata maitiro muhukuru. Funga nezvezvikamu zvitatu zvakajairika: inotyisa, neurotic uye munhu anovimba naye. NEGATIVE AND PROVOCATION
Kazhinji tinotarisana nemamiriro ezvinhu apo shamwari (kana kune vose vari kunze) inokanda kunze kwedu ruzivo rwusingadikanwi zvachose kwatiri, uye dzimwe nguva kunyange kungoziva zvisiri izvo. Chimbofungidzira, iwe unouya ku saluni yakanaka kuti uite bvudzi idzva, uye tenzi ari kubasa anotanga kukuudza pamusoro pekuti zvinhu zvose muupenyu hwake zvakashata sei: uye vana havadi kudzidza, uye murume haatore zvishoma, uye midziyo inoparadza imbwa ... Iwe ugere, poddakivaete, uye iwe pachako unofunga, apo mazwi aya emvura achapera. Uye mushure mokunge musabva mu saloni, munonzwa sokunge makasimwa semamoni, kunyange musati mauya rwendo kuenda kune vabati vehodzi iwe wakafara uye unofara.

Ndiani ari pamberi pako?
Nokuda kwechimiro ichi, kune mazita evanhu vakuru: munhu ane uturu kana kuti mupfungwa "vampire". Chiratidzo chiratidzo - unoona simba rakasimba simba. Kutaurirana, iwe unonzwisisa kuti hauna hanya naye - munzvimbo yako inogona kuva chero. Vanhu vanotyisa vanongotaura ivo pachavo, havazoteereri maonero evamwe. Havana, chero chinhu uye hakuna munhu anogutsa. Vanotsoropodza, vanopomera, vanonyengera kana vanoda rubatsiro rwenyu, uye kakawanda - nokukurumidza. Kazhinji vanoratidzika semupumburu "kupfuura" kune imwe, munzira iyo inonyadzisa uye ichizvidza. Mukuita kudaro, vanozviita sokunge hapana chakaitika - kubva pakuona kwavo, mumamiriro ekukurukurirana kwenyika.

Saka, imwe shamwari iri pamusangano inogara ichiti: "Unotarisa wakaneta ... Ganda rako rakaipa, jena. Hauna kuzorora zvakanaka here? Uye hazvibviri kubvisa marashiro, kurudyi? "Zviri pachena kuti mafungiro mushure mekunge" rumbidzo "yakadaro inonyangarika, sebhokisi rakangoerekana rakabudiswa nemwana ... Vanhu vazhinji, vachiona mukadzi uyu, vanoenda kune rimwe divi regwagwa. Asi iwe unogona kuzvidemba: kutarisika kusingaoneki, kusakwanisa kupfeka zvakanaka, kusagutsikana nebasa (pane basa romuimbi, zvaakarota, chinzvimbo chemukoti) uye hupenyu hwehupenyu. Zvinoratidzika kuti iye anogara achitya kuti achabvunzwa kuti nei asina kuchema uye nei murume wake akamusiya? Saka, anotanga kutanga. Nzira yevanhu vane tsvina inokurudzira kuora mwoyo.

Sei vakave vakadaro?
Vane mafungire asina kururama mumagariro, uye midzi yedambudziko inofanira kutarirwa muhuduku. "Kusvibisa" kunogona kuva mugumisiro wekunakidzwa kwemunhu mukati-iye anoona kwose kwose kubata, kusingatauri relaxes uye kusambovhura kune mumwe. Anotora nzvimbo yekudzivirira kune vamwe, asi kazhinji kacho kutanga kutanga.

Unozvibata sei?
Kana uyu ari waunoshanda naye, tarisa kure. Anonyunyuta nezvomumwe mushandi here? Iti: "Zviri nani kutaurira izvi kumudzidzisi" kana "Zvichida iwe unofanira kutendeukira kumudzidzi wepfungwa?" Hazvibviri kuti achaita izvi (yeuka kuti vanonzwa ivo pachavo - maonero ako haafariri kwavari), asi iwe uchazviponesa kubva pane zvakaipa. Taura zvine chiremerera uye kunyemwerera - uyu munhu ane utsinye anotarisira zvishoma. Zvakanaka, haufaniri kumurega munhu akadaro muupenyu hwako. Kana achiwanzoshevedza, usatora foni. Uchitanga mune tsanangudzo yekuti sei iwe usingadi kutaurirana, acharamba achiwana zvaanoda - zvaunoita. Usava chigumbuso nekukakavara naye. Kana zvipfeko zvake zvebvudzi zvisingashande, achakurumidza kukugumbusa.

CHINOFANIRA KUDA
"Amai," anodaro musikana ane makore mashanu, "ndinokwanisa kutamba mubhokisi rejecha?" "Kwete, iwe unogona kukanganisa kupfeka." - "Ndinogona kutamba nevana mudivi here?" "Kwete, handidi kuti iwe uve wakaipa sezvavari." - "Ndingava ne ice cream here?" "Kwete, iwe unogona kubata huro pako." - "Ndichange ndichitamba neyiyi here?" "Aiwa, anogona kuva nemhonye." Pakupera kwekukurukurirana uku, mwana anotanga kuchema, uye amai vangu, vachitendeukira kune shamwari, iyo nguva yose iyi yakashinga kutaura uye panguva imwechete yakapindura mibvunzo yemwanasikana wavo: "Ndine musikana wakadaro! Handigoni kumudzivirira nguva dzose! "

Ndiani ari pamberi pako?
Unhu hutsinye. Kare, vanhu vakaita saamai ava vakanzi "vanodawo," "kunyungira zvakanyanya," uye "kuvhiringidza." Pakati pemwoyo weourosis ndeyekupesana mukati.

Sigmund Freud aidavira kuti pano pane kurwisana kwekunodzvinyirirwa (masikirwo) uye kupesana simba (tsika, tsika). Uye neo-Freudian Karen Horney vakatenda kuti "chirwere chepfungwa chinongomuka chete kana kukakavara uku kunokonzera kuzvidya mwoyo." Unhu hwehutsinye hunogara huchiedza kukwezva - hutsinye (hysterical neurosis), kutya uye phobias (kufunganya-phobic), utera (neurasthenia).

Sei vakave vakadaro?
Neurotic vanhu vari kutsvaga matambudziko, kwete magadziro, kukurukura matambudziko, kuwana zvipingamupinyi zvitsva. Kuzvidya mwoyo kunokuita kuti uzvidye mwoyo pamusoro peaunoda, asi uchidzivirira zviito zvavo. Pamwoyo ndiko kunzwa kuti vamwe havana hanya navo uye havanzwisisi zvachose. Zvinotendwa kuti unhu hwehupenzi hwakagamuchira kushungurudzika kwepfungwa muhuduku, izvo zvaisagona kurarama nazvo, uye zvakagadzikana nekuwedzera kushushikana nekuda kwekusabatsiri. Chido chekugamuchirwa nevamwe chinomutungamirira uye pakukura.

Unozvibata sei?
Chirevo cherudo chatinogona kunzwa chine chokuita newe. Munhu ane chirwere chepfungwa anogadzira mauri chimiro cheumwe wevabereki, avo vaaisa pfungwa kwaari. Saka, rudo rwako rucharamba ruchingana. Dzimwe nguva iwe uchawana pfungwa yokuti mushure mokutaurirana naye iwe wakaneta zvikuru, kana kuti wakashatirwa nekuda kwechikonzero chisingaoneki. Ichi chiratidzo chokuti unofaniri kuzvitarisira iye zvino. "Bvisa" pfungwa dzakasunungurwa - zviwanikwa zvako hazvizoperi kwenguva refu.

KUNYE KUTENDA
Mukadzi hupenyu hwake hwose hwakanga hwakaoma kwazvo kutaura nehanzvadzi yake yakwegura - pakati pavo makore gumi ezvakasiyana. Wekutanga - mhuri: murume nevana. Hanzvadzi huru yakarambana, inorarama zvakasiyana. Uye manheru oga oga anodana muduku kuti ataure pane dzimwe nyaya. Uye haakumbire kukurudzira zvakananga, asi anobvunza mubvunzo uye anomumirira kuti atungamirirwe pane zvaanofanira kuita, kubva pane zvaunotenga muchitoro usati wafanira kusangana nevatengi vatsva pamusoro pevana vaduku vasingazivi chinhu ...

Ndiani ari pamberi pako?
Munhu anozvidzivirira. Chinodiwa chavo ndechekuchinja zvizhinji zvezvisarudzo uye mutoro wehupenyu hwavo kuvamwe. Dzinogara dzichinyatsochinja kana zvakakodzera kuratidza pfungwa, hazvikwanise kuita chisarudzo chokupedzisira, kunyange kana chiri pachena. Vanofunga kuti vacharamba vachikanganisa kana kusarudza chakaipa. Vanorarama nemanzwiro ekusaziva, saka kana munhu akadaro achigovana nemumwe wake, anofanira kunge akazadza nemumwe munhu kana chimwe chinhu.

Sei vakave vakadaro?
Pamwoyo weizvi ndiko kushungurudzika kwepfungwa kwakangodaro kwakagamuchirwa achiri muduku. Vabereki vemunhu anovimba naye, zvichida, vakaparadzirwa uye havana kutsanangurira mwana zvakaitika, vakazvipa ivo pachavo. Muzvokwadi, akasiiwa ari oga, uye kusurukirwa kwechecheche kwakafanana nerufu. Saka, muupenyu hwevanhu vakuru, inotungamirirwa nekutya kusurukirwa kwenyika uye kudiwa kwekuita zvisarudzo pachako pachako ... Sezvakaita muhuduku, apo pasina munhu mukuru akanga aripo.

Unozvibata sei?
Kana hama yako kana shamwari yako yaswedera kune tsanangudzo iyi, iwe unenge watoziva zviri kuitika kwavari uye izvo zvingave zvakatangira. Nyatsoteerera munhu akadaro, asi chengetedza miganhu yega-iyo inotaridzika inononoka kuiputsa. Usaenderera mberi-chengetedza mazano kune zvishoma, usanditendera kuti ndiite zvose zvinotarisirwa kwauri. Vabereki hamugoni kumudzosa, uye panzvimbo yehupenyu hwake, kurarama kune mumwe munhu.