Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa dzemhuri: uye nekupikisa
Zvechokwadi, hazvisi nyore kugadzirisa nharo pachavo pachavo. Mhuri ine zvakawanda "mumvura inoyerera" uye isingaoneki kune ziso rembeu yakawanda. Hazvisi nyore kuzviona, sekudzidza sekupedzisira kutaura mumwe nomumwe.
Kuora mwoyo uye kusakwanisa kunzwisisa chinhu chipi nechipi chinokonzera vanhu pakupedzisira kutendeukira kumudzidzi wepfungwa kana chiremba wepfungwa. Asi kana iwe uri kunyanya kana kuti usati wanyatsonzwisisa iwe pachako, uye chinetso chiripo chete muhukama, ipapo kubvunzurudza kunofanira kuenda pamwe chete. Vakawanda vanofunga nezvepfungwa (hazvina basa kana vachibata mazano pa-line kana kuti "kurarama") nevakaroorana vanoshanda chete pamberi pevakaroorana. Mushure mezvose, apo zvinetso zvakakomba zvinomuka mukati mavo, ipapo munhu wese, semurairo, ane chokwadi chake chaicho.
Munhu wose akarurama, hapana munhu ane mhosva
Zvinetso zvakaoma zvikuru zvinowanzobatisa nyaya dzepasi rose. Pano ingori shomanana rwemaonero evarume vakaroorana, zvichikonzera kusiyana:
- Ramangwana ripi remumwe wako rakanaka kune ivo, izvo zvavanotsvaka;
- Vanoda kuva nevana, kana hongu-yakawanda sei uye panguva ipi;
- Basa muhupenyu hwevakaroorana;
- Nzvimbo yekugara;
- Ukama pakati pemarudzi;
- Ndiani munhu mukuru mumhuri, uyo anosarudza mibvunzo, ndiani anoita zvaasarudza ne "mhuri yose"
uye mamwe akawanda, kwete mibvunzo yakajeka.
Nokuti mumwe nomumwe wavo haagoni kuva nemunhu mumwe chete kana maviri maonero (avo vakaroorana vanojairika, kunyatsonzwisisa kwemamiriro ezvinhu nemumwe nemudzimai, kwezvizvarwa zvakasiyana-siyana). Mukuwedzera, kuwedzera pane zvataurwa, pane zvose zvinomiririra uye zvido zvekare.
Muenzaniso: Mudzimai anobata uye anowana zvakanaka, asi chaizvoizvo angada kugara kumba uye kurera vana. Asi iye anoziva kuti iyeye, kunyange kumutambo wake wehupenyu hwakadai, huchave hwakatsamwa. Uyezve, nokuda kwekuchengetedza mhuri, haisi kungoramba yakanyarara pamusoro pechido chako, asiwo kunonyengetedza pachako kuti murume akarurama.
Iyi mibvunzo yose yenguva iyo iri, apo mumhuri pakati pevakaroorana pane zvishoma chikamu chiduku chepakutanga rudo, vanodedzwa. Saka, vanogona panguva ipi zvayo kuva imwezve (uye yakanyanya kukakavara) nharo munharo.
Kunyanya kuipa, iyi nharo inogona kuiswa mufomu rakashandurwa - sekuti "Haunoteereri maonero angu," kana kuti "Iwe haunzwisisi ini." Kunyadziswa kwakadaro kunonzwika zvakajeka zvokuti wechipiri wechirume, uyo anotsamwirwa naye, anorasikirwa nemafungiro. Mushure mezvose, zvirokwazvo, anokoshesa, anoda, uye anoteerera maonero - akangotya kuva neavo uye kuisa pamhuri yake.
Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa in Action
Zvinotoshamisa kuti, asi pa-in-line nhauriro yemudzimai wepfungwa dzepfungwa anokwanisa kupa zvakawanda kumurume nemukadzi. Murume achave akanyarara, nokuti haufaniri kutamba nemitemo yemudzimai - kureva, kutaura. Anoratidzwa anenge nhanho-nhanho chiito chezviito, achijekesa zvaanotenda pane ichi kana chiitiko ichocho.
Pasinei nezvose zvinopesana nemunhu, murume anoona mutauri wepaIndaneti zviri nani zvikuru - nokuti anonyengetedza kugadzirisa pfungwa uye chikonzero. Mukadzi kazhinji anoda rubatsiro, tsitsi, mazano nekufungisisa pamwe chete pamusoro pemamiriro ake.
Kurapa zvirongwa nenyanzvi dzepfungwa mumuguta rake zvinogona kuchinja kuva mari ye "waistcoat." Uye saka anowana rubatsiro rwakasunungurwa, pamwe chete nemitemo yekutaura nemurume wake pamusoro pezvaanoda uye mapeji akagadzirirwa, sezvazvingaitwa munyaya yake.
Mukuwedzera, zvakaoma kwazvo kuti murume "aende" pane imwe nzvimbo, kunyange kumitambo. Hazvirevi chero nyanzvi dzepfungwa ipapo. Kuramba dambudziko racho, murume anowanzopfuura mhosva yemukadzi - "iwe haufariri, asi zvinondikodzera." Tsamba inobva kumugariro wepfungwa kana mubvunzo wakabvunzwa naye inogona kumudana kuti afungisise nekufungisisa.
Nzira yekuti "kumanikidzira" kuti ikurukure zvakanyanya?
Imwe nyanzvi inozivikanwa mune dzimwe nyika yezvepfungwa (nenzira, murume) akagovana ruzivo rwokuti vabatsire sei varume kuzokurukura. Zvino, shure kwezvose, pakanga pasina Internet, uye mazano aingova "mu-munhu". Saka, murume akaramba ane dambudziko - "Ndiri nani." Asi nyanzvi yepfungwa yakati: "Une dambudziko, kana bedzi nokuti mudzimai wako ane dambudziko."
Mune zvimwe zviitiko, chiremba wepfungwa, kubva pamashoko omutengi, akarondedzera mufambiro wemurume mumararamiro akashata zvokuti akashandisa kubvunzurudza zvishoma kuitira kuti asapesane nemafungiro emunhu wepfungwa.
Mumhuri, munhu wese anotungamirira "mutambo wega"
Pasinei nokuti murume nemudzimai vakasiyana (ivo vakaenzana, asi kwete zvakafanana), mumwe nomumwe wavo anotungamirira mitambo yavo mumhuri. Uye vane chinangwa chimwe - kuva "anokunda". Asi uku kukunda ndiPyrrhic, semugumisiro wekuti hakuna munhu anobata chero chinhu. Basa remunhu wepfungwa nderokubatsira vakaroorana kubva kumakwikwi (Ini ndiri nani) kubatanidzwa (pamwe tiri nani, zvimwe zvinogona).
Kuti kugadzirise kukakavadzana kwega pachavo, kusunungura kupesana kwose kunowanzoitika mumitambo iyi isingakuvadzi, kudzivisa kwezvataurwa zvakananga pakutanga kwebasa kunobatsira. Kunatswa kwehukama kunogona kunonoka pane imwe nguva - mushure mekunge munhu wose achataura maonero aanoona hukama hwemhuri mumhuri.
Kushanda nemanzwiro akajeka, kutsamwa, kutsamwa (izvo vakawanda vakaroorana vasingatarisiri kururamisa kuti vazviratidze mumhuri) vanokubvumira kuti zvishoma nezvishoma uende kumativi akadzama - apo kutendwa kwomunhu kunodzika midzi. Uye mukadzi anocherechedza kuti mune chido chake chekugara kumba, anongorwisana naamai vake kana kuedza kuva "sevamwe vose" mupfungwa dzake.
Fungidzira imwe nyanzvi yepfungwa mupanhau semutungamiriri
Kuita kuti vadikanwa uye vanodikanwa mudikanwi yekushanda nemunhu wepfungwa, iwe unogona kuudza murume wako kuti iye (sezvawakaona kanopfuura kamwechete), uye, zvechokwadi, iwe dzimwe nguva unenge uchitaura zvakasiyana kune mumwe. Asi kune ngozi kune shamwari, uye kunyanya kuitira hama, kutenda zvakavanzika zvemhuri.
Saka ngatitange kuva nomupurisa, mutongi wemitambo, uyo achakwanisa kudzivirira kukuvadza kwakakomba munguva uye zvingati "kuputsika" kuti vaparadzwe. Uyezve, kana wakadzidza kutaura uye kukurukura, iwe unogona kuzvibata iwe pachako ...