Uyo watinodana munhu ari nyore
Uyo asingati "kutakudza" isu nematambudziko ake, haagadzirise matambudziko ake pamatambudziko edu uye haazvitsigiri pachake, zvichiratidza kuti tiri mapenzi. Ichi ndicho chinhu chayo chikuru. Uye zvinoratidzika kwatiri kuti munhu ari nyore iye pachake anoenda kune zvatinenge tisingabudiriri kurwisana uye zvatinoshuva - mirairo inobatsira, kukudzwa kwechikadzi, ushamwari hwemadzimai, imba mukati, imba negungwa, vana vakaberekwa uye amai vamwene. Uye tinoyemura chimiro ichi kana kumugodora, tisingazivi kuti sei uye sei iye anokwereta nokuda kwekusununguka. Zviri nyore kutaura naye, nokuti hatinzwi kuchema pamusoro pekuguma kwake kubva kwaari. Munhu ari nyore haabvumiri mafungiro ake akaipa pamusoro pedu, haatisiri pamusoro pedu kushungurudzika kwake, haasi kubvisa rutivi rwomusiya wemweya pamberi pedu, uye haashamisi kutaura kwechokwadi, sezvakanyorwa mumabhuku eDostoevsky. "Kuvhenekera" kwechiedza munhu ane chimiro-iye ane maonero uye mazano, haangoiti hake kuisa pfungwa yake kune ani zvake uye haidziviri vamwe kuti vararame sezvavanoona zvakakodzera. Munhu ari nyore akaoma mwoyo - asi mumatambudziko akasiyana. Inogona kuva yeupenzi uye kunyange inoshamisa. Asi kunyengedzwa kwevanhu vari nyore hazvibvumi munhu - zvinomubata uye izvo zvinoitwa nevamwe zvinogona kugadziriswa nyore nyore. Muenzaniso wemunhu ari nyore ndiKsenia Sobchak. Vakawanda vanopikisa kuti inobhadhara kubudirira kwayo nokukurumidza kune hukama hwekare - baba vake vaiva meya weSt. Petersburg. Kutaura zvazviri, basa raSobchak rinoratidzika zviri nyore nokuti harina kuisa zvinetso kune vamwe pamusoro pezvinetso zvakaoma uye basa re "basa rake rokuita nguva." Akapedza kudzidza kubva ku yunivhesiti yakakurumbira muRussia - MGIMO, akava mumwe wevatungamiri vakakurumbira pane terevhizheni uye paredhiyo, vakatora mabvunzurudzo akaisvonaka yeGQ, akanyora nyaya uye mabhuku, akaongorora zvipfeko mumagazini "Zvepabonde uye Guta." Uye izvi zvose zvinoita kuti zvidhindwe uye, sezvazviri, nenzira. Hungu, iye anoda kutyisidzira vateereri. Asi ndiani akati munhu ari nyore anofanira kuva muenzaniso wehutsika hwevanhu? Hapana! Xenia anozvidira achizvidza ivo pachavo uye anozvienzanisa nezvinosemesa "doro remakumbo emakumbo", izvo zvisingaiti munhu wose anoda. Anoseka zvipfeko zvisina kunaka uye maitiro anoshamisa evamiriri veRussia beau monde. Zvakanaka, hanzu haina kukura paganda, unogona kushandura chimbudzi, tsika dzinogona kugadziriswa. Asi pachedu, handina kumubata mukushata kusina kunaka pamusoro pematambudziko eumwe munhu kana pamusoro pezviito izvo zvisingagoni kudzora: nyika, kutadza kwetarenda. Kuvimbiswa kwechikoro chekusununguka kweXenia - ane shamwari dzakawanda neshamwari dzakanaka. Haasi kungova shamwari navo, anotora hurukuro navo uye anotora mabhuku! Uye izvi ndezvekusununguka kweunhu hunoreva, izvo zvakafanirwa nengirozi. Vakomana vanogona kutorwa nekudanana uye zvepabonde. Mumwe mukadzi haazvisunga pachake, iye anobvuma kutsungirira uye kupa. Kusanzwisa tsitsi nyanzvi Tina Kandelaki inoti "zviri nyore kuva neshamwari naChenia" - anotaura zvakanaka uye anobatsira zvakawanda. NaVaKsenia vashandi vakanakisisa uye vashandi pamwe navo vanogara zvakanaka. Kamwe pane imwe nguva pakafa guru rakamhanya pakati pake naamai vake. Asi Xenia haana kumurondedzera nezvazvo munharaunda. Kurwisana kwevanorativo avo kwaiva nyore kugoverana, kuziva kuti zvinonakidza ndezvipi zvido zveumwe munhu rudo. Uye pamusoro pemakakatanwa emusha akanga akanyarara-kurema kuve pachena, kupindirana nevamwe.
Sei zviri nyore kuti munhu ari nyore kurarama
Anofadza kune avo vakamupoteredza uye anokurumidza kushanyira kushanyira, kukokwa kushanda uye kufamba pamwe chete. Chiedza chinomubvumira kukurumidza kuchinja mazano ake zvichienderana nemamiriro ezvinhu uye kubudirira kubudirira. Ngatiti iwe hauna kumbokumbira chero munhu chero chinhu, sezvo pakanga pasina chidiro, asi zvaidiwa kuchengetedza nzvimbo yebasa panguva yekuenda kwekuberekwa - kumbira nekuchema uye nekusingaperi, uye hapana iwe mauri haigoni kuputsa uye haigoni kuparara. Ndakazviona somukadzi akazvimiririra, handina kumbobvira ndatora dare mumaoko angu, handina kuisa ganda rinopisa pachitofu, uye zvino ndawira murudo uye ndinoda kuita chimwe chinhu chinofadza kumudiwa wangu. Iwe hausi kukwira muhombodo uye usasvike - "sei ini, saka ndakanyatsodzidza uye ndakadzidziswa, ndakava nekuvimba, ndakanyadziswa, ndine iron uye mukicheni." Iwe unonzwisisa kuti zvose izvi zviitiko zvinotora nguva. Saka nei uchikwira? Rudo ruchachinjwa nerudo rusingagumi, uye ipapo muranda achaonekwa muimba. Kana kuti ichapararira, uye ipapo murume wacho achaenda-uye turufuwo ichabvisa. Uye sevanhu vose vari nyore iwe haunamatira kune zvisina kushandiswa - rega iende. Pachava nemumwe. Iwe hausi kurwisana noupenyu - inokutakura mumuganhu wayo.
Ndiani murume ane simba?
Murume ane simba anotinhira pamusoro pedu, zviri mumuviri zvakaoma kwaari. Kunyange musoro wake unobva kubva kwaari, sezvaanowedzera matambudziko ake asina kugadziriswa, maonero ake akaipa enyika uye manzwiro ake. Anogara achisimudzira mutengo mukuru waanopiwa. Iye anosimbisa uye anodzidzira nenzira yezvakavhiringidza kune vamwe pasina kushungurudzika uye kugutsikana. Dzimwe nguva anocheka chokwadi chechiberekero zvakashata zvokuti hakuna nzvimbo yekugara yasara. Anogara akaoma musoro uye anoomerera pachake, kunyange muzvinhu zviduku. Kutaurirana naye - zvakafanana nekuti motokari dzinodhura. Ndinoda kubva kwaari uye handisati ndasangana zvakare. Uyezve, munhu akaremara ane tarenda, akachenjera, ane rupo uye ane tsika dzakanaka. Vatsoropodzi nevatariri vachiri kukudza mutori wenhau Faina Ranevskaya, kuchema kuti zvishoma zvakadini zvaaiita mabasa akanaka, kunzwa tsitsi pamusoro pematambudziko aro muupenyu hwake hwehupenyu uye hukuru hwake hwekare husina mufaro - pasina girazi remvura risina munhu raakamupa. Vanopomera Ranevskaya nekuda kwekusava nehanya nehana yakajeka. Asi matambudziko ose Ranevskaya kwete kubva mupfungwa dzakakosha, asi kubva kune-heavy-heavy, semutoro unotyisa, unhu. Ranevskaya akanga akanyatsoshamwaridzana nekunaka uye nyanzvi yevhidhiyo Lyubov Orlova, akabhadhara mari iyoyo ndokudya mumba make. Uye nenzwi guru: "Orlova ndiye anonyanya kukonzera maitiro. Chinhu chimwe chakashata naye - inzwi rake. Paanenge achiimba, zvinoratidzika sokunge mumwe munhu ari kuputira mubhedha risina chinhu. " Inzwi rake rakanga risina simba uye rakatenderera. Asi hachisisiri perekovat, saka sei uchivhiringidza musikana wevanorwara - nokuda kwekuregwa kana kuti negodo? Lubov Orlova Ranevskaya airemekedza tarenda rake nekuvimbika uye izvi zvakasimudzirwa kwaari, asi dzimwe shamwari dzaibva Ranevskaya dzakaputika. Hazvigoneki kuti mutungamiriri achapa muiti wemuiti basa rakanaka kwazvo kana, pamhinduro yake: "Faina, wave wadya zvose zvandakaronga nemanzwiro ako!" Anoti: "Ndinonzwa kuti ndazara nehupenzi." Saka Ranevskaya akataura nemukuru mukuru weRussia Zavadsky. Akanga asingafungi kuti zvakakosha kuti atungamirire unhu hwake husina simba uye haana kuzvidzora kuti atsanangure. Mutevedzeri apedza kupururudza achiti: "Budai kubva munharaunda!" Akapindura achiti: "Buda mumasikirwo!" Vanogara vachishushikana nazvo: mutungamiriri mukuru uye muimbi mukuru anonzwisisa kuti havagone kurarama pasina mumwe. Asi chidimbu chacho chakaramba chiripo. Uye kana Zavadsky aisakwanisa kupa basa raRanevskaya, haana kuipa, kuitira kuti arege kusekwa naiye, akashandiswa zvakanyanya uye akatumirwa. Viktor Rozov, mutevedzeri wemutambo unozivikanwa "Forever Living", akambozvirumbidza paRanevskaya: "Kutamba kwangu kwekupedzisira kwakabudirira zvakadaro! Pakanga pane hondo chaiyo pamberi pebhokisi rehofisi! "Ranevskaya akabvunzurudza achiti:" Vanhu vakagone sei kuwana mari? "Uyezve, aiva nemafungiro akajeka, zvakananga uye pachena semucheche. Uye hapana chakakosha kukosha kwayo mune imwe yero yeumwe munhu isina kufunga. Ndine musikana, chimwe chinhu chakafanana neRanevskaya. Ndinoziva kana ndichida rubatsiro, iye achauya kwandiri mausiku maviri. Asi asati amusangana naye mu cafe nokuda kwekukurukurirana kweushamwari, munhu anofanira kuisa pfungwa, kuunganidza simba uye kusimbisa zvombo zvokurwisana nazvo uye kusagadzikana kusingagumi nenyika uye upenzi hwevanhu.
Ndekupi chiedza uye vanhu vane simba
Havana kuberekwa, vanova. Maererano nekufunga kwepfungwa, isu tinozvarwa tisingatongoratidzi. Pakuberekwa, kune hutano chete - hune utsinye, hwakaita sechimerica, kana kusuruvara zvakagadzikana, kufanana nekunyunguduka, kutsanya uye kubata sezvinoita ropa, kana kuti kunonoka, seplugmatic. Isu tinowana unyanzvi uye kuzvipira - somuenzaniso, kunakidza denga uye kudzidza zvinhu zvitsva kana kudzidzisa uye kudzidzisa. Uye ndizvo zvose. Unhu hwatinowana muupenyu. Mushure mezvose, unhu ndiwo maonero edu kwatiri uye kune vamwe, pamwe nemitemo yedu. Nheyo dzakagara mumamu nababa, kusvikira mwana atendeuka masere. Zvadaro zvinoshandiswa nechikoro uye hama. Vamwe vedu vanogona kuwana zvakanakisisa kubva kuvabereki vedu: mwana anozviziva uye anodikanwa ari kune vamwe, haamanikidze vamwe, haasi kumanikidzira maonero ake kune ani zvake uye anozviita, sezvaanoona zvakakodzera. Uye vamwe vanokwidzwa mukufungidzirwa kwehukama uye mukusaremekedza vanhu. Chero zviitiko zvose, pazera remakore gumi nemashanu kana gumi nematanhatu, vamwe vanhu vari kutotidzivirira kubva pakuumba. Uye isu takasunungurwa zvachose kubva kune simba revamwe. Pano inogamuchirwa kuti ichiti: "Chii chakakura - chakakura!" Uye nokuda kwoupenyu hwangu hwose, kana zvisingaiti, kunyunyuta pamusoro pevabereki uye kuchikoro: Handina kudzidza uye kudzidziswa. Asi chaizvoizvo iyo inofadza hafu-chokwadi. Pazera remakore makumi maviri, chimiro chaicho hachina kuonekwa nevamwe - vabereki, murume, shamwari. Amai vemwanasikana mukuru, nezvose zvaanoda, haaiti kuti afare. Murume haazoita kuti ave nehanya, musikana wacho anoshanda. Hasha dzake dzinogona kungoshandurwa pachayo pachake pasi pesimba remafungiro ake pamusoro pake uye pamusoro pehupenyu. Tinopiwa kuti tive nemafungiro edu nyore kana kuoma. Sarudzo ndeyedu.
Kuti ubvise, unoda kuverenga zvishoma
Pane imwe nguva muhupenyu patinenge tiri mumigwagwa mberi kwechipingamupinyi. Chii chandinofanira kuita kuti ndikunde iyo: kuve kuchenekera nekukwira pamusoro payo - kana kuti kuremerwa uye kuvhara mari mukati mayo? Kuti ukwire, unoda kukanda ballast. Uye nenzira iyi inorwadza zvikuru. Ndinofanira kusiya tsika dzakawanda dzakanaka kumwoyo wangu: "Ndinowanzotora", "Ndinonwa chete chibereko chai", "Ndinomuka pamakumi gumi mangwanani." Uye iro gore rine ropa remirairo rinowira mune boka re ballast: "Ndinogara ndichitaura chokwadi", "Ndinoruramisira kururamisira", "Rudo rune nguva dzose!". Panguva imwe chete iwe unorasikirwa nehanya nemwoyo mitsika yemusha: "Taigara tichipemberera Gore Idzva nemhuri" kana "Mhuri huru isimba guru". Iwe unonyatsofunga nezvemakumbo ako emukati - somuenzaniso, chido chokukurudzira kutya kune vamwe uye kuifarira. Uye iwe unofunga, pasinei nokuti chigamba ichi chakavanzwa muduti kuti usatye chero munhu upi zvake, kana kuti kana achivhara mutsipa wake. Yokutanga yakaoma, yechipiri inenge isingaiti. Pakupedzisira, iwe wakarasa kunze kwezvinhu zvose zvisingasviki, wakagadzirira kuwana tsika itsva uye kuona dzimwe nheyo dzevanhu, unokwanisa kutarisa hupenyu kubva pane zvakasiyana-siyana zvekuona, hauzotyi zvakare nekukanganisa kwako uye kusarura. Uye, semutumwa, iwe unomhanya pamusoro penyika uye iwe unoona: haufaniri kujekesa chinhu kune basa pabasa iri - inguva yekutsvaga itsva, uye hapana chakakanganiswa neshamwari - inguva yekumuregerera nekuda kwekukanganisa kwakaitika. Uye pano iwe uri muhofisi itsva uko iwe unokoshesa zvikuru, uye musikana anokanganwirwa anobata pafudzi rako uye anokupikira iwe ushamwari husingaperi. Kuti uwane rusununguko iwe unofanirwa kubhadhara nekuti iwe unozvitsvaga uye nguva dzose unovaka zvakare. Dzimwe nguva unoshungurudza zvikuru pane zvose zvawakaputsa. Kunyangwe kana iri tsika yakaipa kusvuta pamusoro pekombe yekofi. Uye pane dzimwe nguva, mushure mokusiya zvakanyanya, unonzwa wakaneta uye unosvika munzvimbo yakakwana yeZen, apo inoratidzika kuti hapana chinokosha. Uye zvino zvakakosha kukakavara nemumwe munhu kuitira kuti uwedzere kukura. Unhu hwako husina kunaka, hwakavharwa mubhokisi rekufananidzira, mune imwe kona yekuziva, nguva nenguva unoda kubviswa, uye iwe unofanirwa kubata chivharo chakasimba kuitira kuti arege kupera, shandisa simba rako nemitsipa pairi, zvichiita kusuruvara uye kusafarirwa dzimwe nguva. Uye zvino unotofanira kusunungura "chigaro" chako kune rusununguko, kuitira kuti usaputika kubva pakunetseka. Nokudaro, mumwe wevakadzi vakanyanya kudarika vandakaona muupenyu hwangu, rudo rwepasi rose uye nyama chaiye, dzimwe nguva inobvumira kuti zvive zvakashata zvakadaro kuti nzeve dzake dzinopisa munzeve dzevanhu vose. Ichokwadi, anosarudza kupupura kupenya chete kune avo vanovimbwa uye avo vane simba zvakakwana kuti vadzivirire hasha dzaro uye kwete kuora mwoyo mukati maro. Akaremara, kutya uye rudo kubva kwaari haambowani.
Dambudziko guru revarume vane nzara
Haanzwisisiki kune ani zvake. Uye inoramba ichirwiswa nevamwe vanhu. Munhu akajeka akabhururuka pamusoro pavo uye, kana iye asingadi kuzviita nechinangwa, haana kubata chero munhu, uye murume akaremara aitofanira kufamba nenzira iyo. Zviri pachena kuti vanhu vakatsamwira, varwisana, kuisa tsvimbo dzavo mubhiri, kufungidzira. Uye munhu akaremara anogara achirwisana nomumwe munhu kana kudzivirirwa kune mumwe munhu. Dzimwe nguva murume anorema anoratidza kune vamwe kuoma uye kushamisa kwehupenyu hwake: "Ndakaipa uye ndine utsinye" -kuzvikudza kwekunaka: "Handiendi nokuda kwehupenyu hwangu" - uye anovandira pachivande kuti madhimoni ake adane naye. Asi isu tiri mhuka dzisiri dzenyika, sekutonga, kusava nehanya. Tine zvedu. Uye isu tinodzivisa vanhu vane simba.
Mukadzi semucheka - mamota, asi haatonhori
Hapana mhinduro isina chokwadi yekuti munhu akaita sei kuti ave nani. Zvichida, nokuti mukadzi wacho zvakafanana zvinoda kuwedzera nyore. Somunhu, zvinoratidzika kwandiri kuti chiremera chakasimba chinogamuchirwa kune murume uye chisingafadzi kune mukadzi. Munhu ane simba guru, zanudlivo-asinganzwisisiki-anonyanya-kana anononoka-anonyengedza-ane utsinye, saDkt House, zvichida kubasa iri kubudirira, uye tinoremekedza, shamwari - tinokoshesa. Mukadzi achauya kwaari, uyo achabvumirana naye, uye achafara mumhuri yehupenyu hwake. Uye pamusoro pekuda kwepasi rose - murume haafariri zvikuru. Uye mumukadzi apo panofanira kuva nechiedza, chinopenya: akauya, akafuridzira munhu wese, akadzimara, akadzimara-ndokubva atiza. Uye vanyori varo vakafuridzirwa vane zviso zvakatsvuka vanoshanda zuva rose. Mukadzi akajeka akagadzirira kutungamira vatsigiri, shamwari neshamwari nokuda kworuoko rwake, kutamba, kunyengetedza uye kufara. Varume vakaita savakadzi ava, shamwari dzavo dzinoswededzwa kwavari. Uye kwatiri isu zvakakosha zvikuru - kudiwa ... Tiri vazhinji muhuwandu. Kuvhiringidzika kwemukadzi ndicho chipingamupinyi chakakura kumhuri. Uye hapana runako hunomupa chikwereti, nokuti varume havazvienzanisi nevakadzi. Vanotiregerera isu - pane imwe nguva. Uyezve zvinhu zvose, kurambana kana kutarisira. NaNaomi Campbell - kunaka kwemufambisi-yakanga isingadikanwi kune ani zvake, sezvo unhu hwake hwakakosha uye husina kukwana: akarasa foni mumashu, maparazzi akamurova nehombodo, akaedza kubvisa maziso ake nokuda kwechikwata chakarasika. Handina kumbobvira ndaroorwa, kunyange zvazvo ndatove ndakatengesa yechishanu makore gumi, uye kwete nokuti ini handidi - ndeyekuti hakuna munhu anotora. Kunze kwekuti mamiriyoni eMoscow Doronin achiri kusangana pamwe naye - uye kuigadzirisa mune imwe imba kusimbiswa kakawanda.