Kuzvidya mwoyo mumakore manomwe
Ngatiedzei kunzwisisa mamiriro aya. Mugore rokutanga rehupenyu, psyche yemucheche inotanga kuumba. Munguva iyi nguva yaanoda chaizvo amai. Zvinowanzoitika kuti amai vacho havakwanisi mumabasa ake uye mwana haazive kana iwe unogona kuvimba naamai vako uye apo iwe unogona kuvimba naye. Izvi hazvisi kuvimba, segorosi mumhepo yakaorera, iyo inokura nekusimbisa kufunganya. Kazhinji zvakajeka zvakajeka mumakore manomwe ekufunganya kwevana, apo mwana anoenda chikoro uye owira munyika isingazivikanwi naye. Vamwe amai nababa vanodavira kuti mwana achakura, kuti nezera, kushungurudzika kuchapfuura, asi chaizvoizvo hazvisi. Kubva pane zvakakonzerwa nemwana pazera duku, muenzaniso wehutano hwehupenyu hwake hwose hwehupenyu uye hukama nevamwe vanhu hunoumbwa.
Kutarisira kwekusava nechokwadi kwekutya uye njodzi kunoratidzwa nekuzvidya mwoyo kwemakore manomwe. Kusiyana nemanzwiro ekutya, maererano nevepfungwa dzepfungwa, hakuna humwe hunyoro hwekuzvidya mwoyo - ndekutya kutarisira "kusaziva chii". Chimwe chikonzero chekuzvidya mwoyo ndechechokwadi uye kunyangwe kuchidikanwa kwatiri tose, kwete chevana chete, pakukurudzira manzwiro, mazano uye zvipo zvevanhu. Munhu mumwe nomumwe ane unyanzvi hunodiwa hwekuzvidya mwoyo uye hunobva pakugadzirisa maitiro. Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechokuti unhu hwemunhu hwenyama hahuna kuzvidya mwoyo. Kazhinji kubva kumwana akadaro inokura munhu asina kuchengeteka. Pakupedzisira, zvinotungamirira kukurudzirwa kweeurosis mumwana, kusavimba uye kusagadzikana mupfungwa.
Zvinokonzera kushungurudzika
Ngatiedzei kunzwisisa, nekuda kweizvi kukakavadzana kwemukati kunomuka? Ndizvo chete mararamiro aamai vese waini? Zvechokwadi, izvi hazvirevi mhosho yaamai vangu. Icho chose chinokanganisa chemwana wakamupoteredza. Ngatiyeukei, nokuti munhu wese anogona kuyeuka kutarisa mamiriro anotevera: amai vangu vanoramba - mbuya vangu vanobvumira, baba vangu vanobvumira - amai vangu vanodzivisa uye zvakasiyana. Asi pane zvimwe zvikonzero. Mwana akavhara kazhinji anonyadziswa, zvichiita kuti aone kuti ane mhosva. Mushure mekutukwa uku mwana wenyu anotya kuva nemhosva.
Nzira yekuita sei kana kushungurudzika mumwana kwave kwatangwa? Edza kushandisa mazano anotevera:
- Udza mwana wako kakawanda, kuti unomuda sei uye unomukoshesa, usakanganwa kumurumbidza, kunyange pamabasa mashoma akanaka;
- Nokuda kwezvisina maturo, usatora mwana wako, nokuti akanganiswa;
- Usambozviisa pakuenzanisa nevezera rako, "tarira zvakanaka, uye iwe wakaipa."
- Edza kusaita nharo nemwana, ita hukama pakati pavo. Chero mwana upi zvake anokakavara zvikuru uye anozviti ane mhaka muhondo.
- Kutaurirana nemwana wako meso mumaziso ako, iwe uchamubatsira kusiyanisa munguva yemberi chokwadi kubva kune nhema.
Ipa mwana wako ushamwari uye kutarisira, kupedza nguva yakawanda naye, mumurege azive kuti iye anodikanwa kwauri mose kumativi ose enyika. Mupe mukana wekutaurirana nevezera rake, shanyira nzvimbo dzevanhu. Uye usati watuka mwana wako, funga kuti angafanirwa nei, kana iwe unongova nemafungiro akaipa. Iyi ndiyo nzira chete yekugadzirisa kushungurudzika kwevana mu 7 yakagadzirirwa.