Wati wambofunga here kuti ndinopedza nguva yakawanda nevamwe vatinoshanda navo uye vandinoshanda navo kupfuura vehama dzangu neshamwari? Maawa masere kana maawa pazuva tinofanira kugara pamwe chete (sezvinoitwa mubhedha) nevashandirwi, vashandi pamwe chete, vatungamiri, apo mudzimai, vana, vabereki, mhuka dzinowanikwa mhuka dzinowanikwa panguva dzakanakisisa maawa 4-5, panguva imwechete zvachose mune vanhu vakawanda. Haufungi here kuti hurongwa hwakadaro hwekushanda huri hukama hwepedyo? Zvichida, ndicho chikonzero nei vakawanda vachida hukama hunowa pamabhuku ehurumende. Uye izvi pasinei nokuti munhu wese anonzwisisa - mafungiro ekubasa anogona kukuvadza zvose basa pacharo, nebasa kana mukurumbira wega. Kunyange zvakadaro, haugone kuronga mwoyo wako. Chii chandingaita kana ndichinge ndagumburwa murudo? Tanga rudo rwebasa kana kuti titeerere purogiramu isingatauri: "Usarara, unoshanda kupi!"?
Nhoroondo yebasa, kana kuti Roma, iyo yakazova nyaya
Boka reNautilus-Pompilius rine rwiyo nemashoko anoti: "Akaverenga inoverengeka, uye yakazova nyaya." Nenguva yakawanda iyo inova yakakodzera kune vakadzi vanosarudza pamusangano webasa. Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dziri mumitambo yavo yekunyora nguva dzose umo vakadzi vanotanga kusati vabudirira manyozha kubasa uye vanouya kurapwa nemigumisiro yakaipisisa nenzira yekusaruramisira kusina kururama, mhuri yakaputsika, basa rakaparadzwa, kubviswa mubasa, nezvimwewo. Kunyange zvakadaro, zvisinei nhepfenyuro inovheti yemitambo inogona kupedzisira, yeara yerudo ichagara iri pedo navo. Hazvina maturo uye hazvibatsiri kuunza nhamba dzinosuruvarisa dzehukama hwepedyo-hukama, kupeta zvose zvingakanganisa uye migumisiro. Kushanda nhizha kwaiva, uye uye kuchava! Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinongova nezano rimwe chete repasi rose panyaya iyi: kunyatsoziva uye kunyatsoziva kubatanidzwa mune rudo rwenyika kubasa, kuitira kuti muhukama uhwu pakanga pasina nzvimbo yekufungidzira. Usati wasarudza kuratidza kufunga kune waunoshanda naye kana kupindura pakushamwaridzana kwake, zvakakosha kuti uzvinzwisise pachako zvinangwa zvechokwadi zvinotungamirira chido chekuita rudo nemushandi:- Kuwedzerwa pakati pezvikonzero zvinokonzera rudo kune basa, ndiko kusava noukama hwepedyo kana kusava nehutano hwakanaka. Izvi zvinoshanda kune vose vasina vakadzi nevaya vakaroora. Kuita chisarudzo chekupinda muhukama hwehukama-rudo, chikonzero ichi chinofanira kubviswa pakutanga. Zvibvunze mibvunzo: chii chaunonyanya kutarisa mune izvi, uye usati unokanganisa rudo nehutano hwepabonde? Kana chinangwa chako chiri chepabonde pasina zvisungo, enda mberi! Chinhu chikuru, kuva akatendeseka iwe pachako, uye nemusanangurwa wako.
- Rudo rwehukama hwehukama mubasa rwakasungirirwa nekuda kwekusabhadhara kwekukurukurirana nekushayikwa kwetsika dzekugara. Madzimai anoremekedzwa, kutora hupenyu hwehupenyu hunoshingaira, akazora awa imwe neimwe, iyo yose yakazara mamiriro ezvinhu akarongwa, misangano kana kushanyira. Vanotenda basa iro uye saka tora nguva yakawandisa ye "kuunza" iyo muupenyu hwako pachako zvakare. Sezvo wakagadzirisa dambudziko nekunyanya kufadza uye kuzviziva kunze kwebasa, iwe uchawedzera denderedzwa rako rekutaurirana uye uchakwanisa kunzwisisa kana izvi "kushanda" rudo zvechokwadi zvakakosha kwauri.
- Kunyanya kuzviremekedza kuzviremekedza ndeimwe chikonzero chinowanzovhiringidza yevanorati pamwe nevamwe vashandi pabasa. Madzimai, inogona kunge yakanyanyisa kukunda, "isiri yezvokudya" yezera, kuronga kusingafadzi kwechitarisiko, zvinyorwa, nezvimwe. Izvi zvinonyanya kuderedza mikana yemukadzi mumusika werudo, uye nzvimbo chete yaanogona kuronga hupenyu hwehupenyu ibasa. Willy-nilly vanhu vanomanikidzwa kutaura zvakanaka, vane mabasa anowanzoshanda, izvo zvisingatauri zvinovaunza pedyo. Muchiitiko ichi, vakadzi vanowanzowira murudo kwete mune mumwe munhu, asi mukunyengedza kunomutora kubva kune mafungiro avo uye kurota. Somugumisiro - tariro dzisina kukodzera, rudo rwakaputsika uye zvitsva zvitsva. Saka, kana iwe uchida waunoshanda naye uye uchida kuva noukama naye, tarisa kumashure kwake - zvakakosha here kuti iwe utende kubva kune vamwe varume? Kana zvisina kudaro, zvichida inguva yekuzviremekedza?
Zvakadini kana zvakaoma kurwisa rudo rwebasa?
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinokukurudzira kuti urove chibereko ichi chisina kurambidzwa, kana iwe usine chido chokuchipa. Asi usakurumidza kupinda mudziva rine musoro wako. Chokutanga, chengetedza njodzi dzose uye dzidze mitemo yekuchengetedza kuitira kuti urege kuvigwa pasi pe shards kubva pamakanganwa akaputsika:- Yeuka mutemo mukuru we rudo rwekambani: usavata nemumwe munhu anogona kukupisa iwe, uye nemunhu waunokwanisa kupisa.
- Tarisa zvinogona kuitika uye kubvumira mupfungwa dzekunyanyisa - iwe wakagadzirira mamiriro ezvinhu akadaro. Kana hongu, zvino vabvumira uye vasunungure. Zvibvumire kuti unakidzwe nerudo rwepamutemo!
- Shingai rudo uye basa. Rega hukama hwenyu hwepamuviri usapindira nebasa, uye usashanda kana "uchiita rudo".
- Cherechedza rudo rwako rwebasa kubva kune makuhwa. Chengetedza nguva yakareba sezvinobvira muchivande, kunyange kana iwe uri nemunhu zvose vakasununguka uye unokwanisa kuwana ukama uhwu.
- Usapa zvikonzero zvekunyomba. Kutsvoda muimba yekuputa kana zvepabonde pakombiyuta inhau huru yevashandi vemafirimu, asi kwete mukurumbira wenyu webhizimisi. Kuve nemumwe wega kune zvematongerwe enyika kunyange pane zviitiko zvemakambani.
- Kana iwe ukaitika kuti ude murudo nemumwe wako wawakaroorana naye kana iwe wakaroora, usabvuma kuhukama hwepabonde, kunyange pane nyaya yekufungira pachena kwevashandi. Iri ibhizimusi rako pachako, iro iwe une kodzero yekutaurirana nemunhu wese.
- Mukushamwaridzana kwebasa nezvirongwa zvakakura, zvose zvinogona kuguma muchato. Asi uku ukama hwakasiyana zvachose uye, zvichida, kuti uvaponese, mumwe wenyu anofanira kusiya basa. Wagadzirira here?
- Izvi zvinoitikawo kuti rudo, akaberekerwa kubasa, anofa pairi. Saka sei kushanda pamwe chete? Kana kuregererwa kusingabviri, iwe uchafanirwa kudzidza kuva kune vaimbova vadiwa vasingadikanwi - kwete kuda, asi kwete kuvenga. Zvinenge zvichinyomba kana ukama hwakarambidzwa huchava huri hwekuunganidza mushure mekunge vachineta ivo pachavo.