Kunzwa kwerudo kunogona kufananidzwa nekusvibisa. Kushushikana kunosvitsa zvimwe zvose munzira yayo. Izvi zviitiko muhupenyu hwevamwe vanhu vaviri hazvikanganwiki.
Rudo runorarama makore mangani? Masayendisiti uye magweta epfungwa, nekuda kwekuongorora uye kubvunzurudzwa kwakaitwa, zvakaratidzwa kuti rudo rwakasimba zvikuru rwune hupenyu hwemafuro - pavhareji makore mana.
Uye zvakadini nezvekukwezva zvepabonde? Zvinonzwisisika, kazhinji zvinowanzoitika kuti vanhu vanowedzera kutonhora kune mumwe nemumwe mune zvepabonde - kukokwe kwomuviri wepanyama kunonyangarika. Uye, zvepabonde zvinoitika zvishoma nezvishoma, uye, dzimwe nguva, zvepabonde zvinonyangarika zvachose kubva paukama pakati pemurume nemukadzi.
Inguva yakareba sei ukama husina zvepabonde?
Zvinoshamisika, asi munguva yedu, kusava nekuita zvepabonde muukama hakushamisi zvakare. MuJapan, somuenzaniso, nhamba huru yevanhu vakaroorana vanobvuma pachena kuti hakuna hupombwe mune hukama hwavo. Izvi hazvisi kunyadzisa kutaura mumitambo yese. Kushaikwa kwepabonde muJapan kune mumwe munhu chinhu chakasikwa, asi kune avo vanotambura nedambudziko iri.
Kutaura zvazviri, ukama husina zvepabonde hunogona kugara kwenguva yakareba. Kune vakaroorana vasingatambudzi zvachose kubva pakushayikwa kwepabonde, rambai muchigara pamwe chete, muchiita mhuri yakasimba uye inofara. Heano mienzaniso miviri yevakadzi vaviri vakadai.
Vavakidzani vacho vakanaka mumwe nomumwe. Kuita zvepabonde kwavari hakusi kuratidzwa kwe rudo kana chibvumirano cheupenyu hunofadza hwemhuri . Ukama hwavo huri kutenderana. Vanoziva kuratidza manzwiro avo mune imwe nzira: caresses, kuremekedza mumwe wako. Kune vakaroorana vakadaro zvinonakidza zvikuru kufamba nepakati pepaki yekuvhura pedyo nemumwe, shandisa manheru mushure mokutaura kunobva pamwoyo kana, kugara pamberi peTV, kusangana maoko uye kugara wakanyarara.
Uye, musashamiswa, vakaroorana vakadaro havasi izvozvi kunze kwemitemo. Kana munhu asina kukwanisa kufanana kwepabonde - rudo uye mufaro, saka hazvizove zvakaoma kuvaka hukama hwakasimba uye husingaperi pasina hukama hwepedyo.
Imwe shanduro yehukama, uko pasina zvepabonde. Vakaroorana ndeyomumwe nomumwe wepedyo vanhu paanenge ari ndege. Kazhinji vane vana, upenyu hunoshamisa. Chinonyanya kufadza, ivo shamwari dzakanakisisa uye vanobatsirana, asi hapana zvepabonde muukama hwavo. Pakati pavo kune chibvumirano - zvepabonde zvinotenderwa, asi "kune rumwe rutivi", ndiko kuti, nevamwe vanhu.
Mushure mezvose, hukama hwakareba hunogona kupedzisira pasina hupombwe, kana zvikamu zvose zvichigutsa zvose zviviri - murume nemukadzi. Chero bedzi kuburikidza nekubvumirana, "Mhuri-ne-mhuri, uye zvepabonde kune rumwe rutivi" chibvumirano chichaunza mufaro pamwe uye pfungwa yekubatana mune izvi hukama.
Zvinosuruvarisa, muenzaniso wakadaro wemhuri hauna ramangwana munyika yedu, sezvo vose vanojaira kutenda kuti varume vedu vanobvumirwa zvinhu zvose, uye mhedziso yevakadzi - kushanda, kumba, vana.
Ukama husina zvepabonde mune kodzero yekuvapo, kana vaviri vari vaviri vakanzwa vakasununguka mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro. Asi, chii chaunofanira kuita kana pasina zvepabonde muhukama hwako kwenguva yakareba, asi iwe haufariri zvachose.
Maererano nehuwandu, kubva mukushayikwa kwepabonde, vakadzi vanotambura zvakanyanya. Izvi zvinokanganisa zvose zvepfungwa uye nezvehutano.
Ndezvipi zvinokonzerwa nemamiriro ezvinhu anowanzowanikwa nemukadzi? Anotanga kutarisa chero basa ripi neripi rekuita, rinogona kumuvhiringidza kubva pamanzwiro akasuruvara. Inogona kuva chinhu: basa, mitambo, rudo. Iko pfungwa ndeye - usasiya imwechete imwe yemafungiro pamusoro pekushayikwa kwepabonde.
Asi, kana iwe usingadi kubvisa ukama husina hukama hwepedyo kwenguva yakareba, kana munhu wako achiri kukwereta, zvino rumwe rutivi nderokuedza kugadzirisa dambudziko iri uye kudzorera zvepabonde kwenguva refu yakamirira kuhukama.