Ichokwadi, rudo rwezororo harusi rwewe. Iwe hausi kuburuka zvakadaro zvakaderera. Asi iwe uri kurara pamahombekombe, uye munhu anofadza arikutarisa. Uye iwe haunzwisisi iwe pachako: sei mwoyo wako unotanga kurova zvakanyanya? Ipapo iwe unoyeuka: "Mwari wangu! Sei ndichida izvi? Ndine mhuri imwe chete! ". Enda uende nokukurumidza. Asi mwoyo, benzi, rinoramba richirova ... Chii chiri kuitika newe? Nzira yekufananidza neizvi? Uye chii chaizvoizvo nhepfenyuro yekushandura - mhosva kana chiitiko? Ngationei izvi.
IYE ANO KUTI ACHIDZE?
Vakadzi vose vakapatsanurwa kuva mapoka maviri - avo vari "nokuda" rudo rwemazororo, uye avo vari "vanopesana". Uye avo vari "nokuda", hazvirevi kuti zvive iwe pachako! Vakawanda, kana vasingadi, vanoda kungoona "kutaridzika kwegungwa". Asi havatyi. Kana mamiriro ezvinhu haafariri. Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinotsanangura kukwezva kwemukadzi kurudo rwezororo zvakanyanyisa: mune imwe neimwe inorarama inoda kukurumidza kuve pakati peumwe munhu. Kunyengetera. Kutarisa. Kumugumo uyu, iye akavezwa, akapfeka. Tsvaga murume akawana zvakanyanya kuda (zvakanaka, kunze kwekuti varume vemamwe maitiro). Nyika yechirume yemurume yakasiyana zvachose kupfuura yevakadzi. Murume anokwanisa kumira ari oga pamucheto wedombo, anotarisa gungwa, utsi, achivanza fodya mumhazha kubva kumhepo, uye iye achave akanaka. Nei ari akanaka? Ari kufunga nezvei? Ungakunda sei nyika ino? Mukadzi anogonawo kumira ari oga pamucheto wedombo - asi iye achararama here? Rimwe? Asingafungi, anotarisira kuti murume achaona kuti akanaka sei paanomira pamusoro pedenga, achaswedera pedyo naye, ndokumbundira. Uye zvino ivo pamwe chete vachakunda nyika ino.
Pano, chokwadi, mutsauko wose. Mukadzi anoputika, ari munharaunda yekucherechedza murume. Pachivande, iye anorota ruoko akaisa pafudzi rake. Kuva ari oga, anoita seanopera - anova asina kufarira iye pachake, maitiro ake epfungwa (kunyange zvazvo achishingaira kuzvitsigira kuti haadi chero munhu uye anofara pachake). Tsanangura izvi sezvamunoda, nemasikirwo, zvisina maturo, kushaya simba. Uye zvakanyatsotsanangurwa nemasikirwo.
Zvechokwadi, kana wasvika kugungwa, unogona kupora, kugeza, kuisa bvudzi rako sezvizvi, iwe pachako. Pashure pezvose, zvakawanda kupfuura imba, chikamu chenguva, iwe unopedza "pachena." Uye kana vanhu chaivo vasingadi kuedza kwako, unorwara. Unonyora ani? Iwe uchapambwa nokuda kwezororo rose. Mukadzi, akapfekedzwa zvakanaka, akadzidziswa, nguva dzose-asingazvizivi, asina kuzvibvuma-anoita izvi kune murume. Kazhinji, hazvina basa nazvo. Kana handizvo here? Ngatiteererei kuvadzimai, vatsigiri vepfungwa yakasiyana. "Ndinoda kubvunza kuti vadzidzisi vepfungwa vanofunga nezveikurara kwezororo ," Valeria K. anonyora. " Shamwari yangu inozviwana iine shamwari yegungwa gore rega rega inopedza nguva yake (kwete kwete pamubhedha!). Uye mwedzi mitanhatu pamusoro pazvo inotaurira. Ndiri kuona achizvikudza kuti anokwanisa "kutora" murume. Uye kune ini pachedu, iyi "kushamba" inoita sechinyadzisa. Icho chiri chimwe chiyeuchidzo chekuita kwehure rehure. Kana munhu achida, regai ndimhanya achitevera ini. Ndinofarira kusurukirwa, ndinoyemura zvisikwa, ndinoverenga mabhuku, ini handidi munhu. Zvakadai seshamwari yangu, sezvandinozvidza. Vanotenda kuti "hatigone" kuti tifarire munhu. "
A familiar sight. Valeria iri mune izvi. Pane imwe nzira yekuzorora, iyo "mifananidzo", iyo inosanganisira gungwa, seagulls, kufamba kwechikepe kure kure uye kufamba nemumwe musikana werudo pamanheru emanheru (funga zvakare iwe pachako). "Mifananidzo" inoiswa kwatiri nemafirimu, zvikamu, kutengeserana. Uye kune nziyo dzakawanda kwazvo pamusoro payo! Zvisinei, kupi kwaungawana munguva yedu "murume ane rudo"? Nokudaro, vazhinji vanogutsikana ne "munhu". Chero. Uye kazhinji mundima iyi inotambudzwa zvinorwadza zvakanyanya. Izvi zvinoratidzwa naSophia P .: "Kazhinji muRussia pane mufananidzo wakatsauka wekuremekedza uye mufambiro wemukadzi. Mukadzi, ari pedyo nekusina munhu, ari kutotadza kurashikirwa. Haasi munhu! Hazvina basa kuti munhu uyu chidhakwa, mukadzi wemukadzi kana kuti mhuka chete. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuti "pinda muchigunun'una." Hanzvadzi yangu iri mukirasi yepfumbamwe. Ikoko, chinotarisa hachisi kune avo vanodzidza zvakanaka (sevanenge vachizvidza), asi kune avo vanovhiringidza vanhu vari pamitsipa yavo uye vanoita zvepabonde. Vanoonekwa sevanokura. Uye kana iwe uri mudzidzi akakurumbira, iwe hauna mukomana, saka hapana munhu, iwe unofanirwa kunzwira tsitsi! Ungararama sei munharaunda yakadaro? Gore rino ini ndinoenda zvakare kugungwa nemumwe weshamwari dzangu. Hatidi kuti tive nemazano ezororo, varume vari kurwara nesu! Neiko uye ndiani anoda nhauri idzi idzi (hazvirevi kufara mumuviri)? Kunyanya mukadzi asingadzidzisi, asinganyanyi kuwedzera, iye anonyanya kuda chikamu chekuda! Hazvina kudaro here? "
KUTI "SWEET DREAM" HAASARI.
Rega, ngatiparadzanise pfungwa mbiri - chido chomukadzi kumurume, chatakambotaura nezvake pakutanga, uye "fashoni." Icho chinhu chimwechete - kana iwe uine manzwiro ega, imwe - kana iwe uchienda kune zororo nekumiswa kwezvinhu zvose "kutora murume." Manzwiro anouya ari oga, uye zvirongwa zvinoumba mafashoni. Vose Valeria naSophia vakarurama pavanotaura nezve "mafashoni emakororo ezororo". Munenge iri zhizha vanonyora vanenge vose magazini nemapepanhau. Zvisinei - tarisa! - Maererano neZvizvarwa zveWestern, zvinhu zvose zvakasiyana (muRussia, zvinosuruvarisa, nhamba dzakadaro hadzina kuwanikwa). Chero chechitatu chevakadzi vanobvuma kuti vaine rudo rwezororo kwemakore mashanu apfuura. Uye imwe chete pavanomwe yakatanga runyoro yakadaro gore negore. Uye hukama hwepedyo hutsva romanini hwakaguma muna 12% yevakadzi! Saka, taura shure kweizvi nezvekusununguka kwetsika. Chimwe chinhu ndechekuti fashoni ndeyefashoni. Vakadzi vakawanda vanoedza kurongedza kugara kwavo pagungwa. Vamwe vakadzi vanongotanga nyaya pamusoro pekuda kurwisana pamucheto wemhepo. Chimwe chikamu chinodana "nhauri" mashoma manukurukuro ekukurukurirana pabhenji nemuvakidzani muimba yebhodi. Asi Sophia anokanganisa paanoti chido chekukwezva kutarisa kwemurume kunopupurira ku "kusina" kwemukadzi. Munguva yakapfuura, vasikana vakagumburawo, asi mune dzimwe nzira. Zvichida ivo vakanyorerwa "nzvimbo" kwete. Zvaisakwanisika kutanga kutaura nemurume, kuti abvumidze pakarepo kumusangano, kunyange kana asingabatsiri, uye kuti arambe ari oga naye ainge asinganzwisisiki! Kubva pakuona kwechiremba wepfungwa, mufambiro wevakadzi pazororo kuedza kukwezva vanhu ndeyepanyama. Nokudaro mumukadzi mudzimai wake anotaura. Zvinhu zvakasikirwa kuti mukadzi ave amai, kubereka. Uye kubereka, tinoda murume. Saka, iwe unoda kukwevera murume uyu pachake. Zvinoitwa sei zvinoenderana netsika, mukurera. Pano pane chimiro chinosarudza mararamiro evakadzi (kunyange kana vasingachazobereki, masimba anoita kuti vaite zvepabonde, vadzidze, enda kuenda kune munhu). Zvakangoitika kuti mamwe emasikirwo aya anotaurwa, mamwe haasi chaizvo, uye wechitatu anongoora mwoyo. Zvimwe ngozi ndeipi nzira yekupa masimba kune kuda, uye kudzivisa! Uye usazvinyengedze iwe neimwe nzira.
Heano nharo yekumhanya. Catherine D. akaenda kuSochi oga. Murume wangu akashanda, vana vakagara naambuya vangu mumusha. Pagungwa Catherine ainzwa achiri muduku uye akasununguka, aida kuitika. Pazuva rechipiri akasangana nemuvakidzani wake patafura, uye mazuva maviri gare gare akanga ari mubhedha wake. Manzwiro ake, akadana "kurara kwakanaka." Icho chaiva kutanga kwake kutengesa murume wake kwemakore mazhinji. Zuva rinotevera, Catherine akadzokorora zvakaitika kwaari. Hapana aikwanisa kufungidzira pane chimwe chinhu. Uye akashaya kungwarira uye pfungwa yengozi. Zvakaitika muzhizha pahotera yacho zvakaratidza kwaari chimwe chimwe chezvakafanana, firimu iyo yaive nayo basa guru. Zvaiita sokunge kuti zvinonakidza, kwete muhupenyu chaihwo, hazvina kufanana nevakawanda. Musi wechitatu wezhizha, hero yeimwe nyanzvi yakatapukisa Catherine nechirwere chakaipa, icho chaakapfuurira kumurume wake. Ikoko kwaiva nechinotyisa, chichiteverwa nekurambana.
Usakanganise zvinangwa zvechirongwa.
Zvisinei, ngatisatye vatadzi vedu vanodikanwa. Haisi zvinhu zvose zvakajeka uye zvakananga. Zvose zvinoenderana nemamiriro ako uye pane zvaunosarudza! Mushure mezvose, kana iwe uchiramba uchizvidzivirira kusarura pasina kusarura, saka haufaniri kurwara kwenguva refu. Ikoko kunogona kuonekwa zvirwere zvepanyama, uye zvinetso ne psyche, iyo inobatanidzwa nekuputsa kushandiswa kwehomoni. Izvi zvinonyanya kuoneka munyaya ye "vasikana vekare". Zvinonyanya kukosha, kana uchienda kugungwa, usaisa chero zvinangwa. Hazvina musoro kuzvipa iwe pfungwa yekuita rudo, asi hazvina musoro kuti uzviudze kuti Sophia: "Hapana mavhidhiyo!" Zvivimbe iwe - zano rakanakisisa rinogona kupiwa. Nyaya imwe neimwe inokosha. Nzvimbo iyo yakashandiswa inozivikanwa saka inonzi spa, iyo isingagari kwenguva refu. Anoshanyira varaidzo, kurwisana kunoshandiswa kunetseka. Saka kazhinji kuora mwoyo kunomirira vakadzi ivavo vari kutarisira kuwana murume pagungwa. Mikana haina kukwana kwavari. Hezvino Miraslav S anorondedzera rivhe yake achiti: "Ndakaenda nemurume uyu mu cafe, kune disco, kamwe paakandikumbira kuti ndifambe muchikepe. Takaperekedza zuva kubhiriji. Vakanga vachingofamba pedyo negungwa, vakatora seashells. Taive zvakanaka uye tisingaregi pamwe chete. Ndakanga ndisingazivi kana ndaida kuti anditsvode kuitira kuti tive pamwe chete. Ndakanga ndichitya kuti chimwe chimiro chekudanana chinogona kuparara. Murume uyu akanga asinganyari. Kana kuti zvimwe iyewo aitya kuparadza zvinhu zvose nekufarira kweminiti? Ndiri kumuonga iye. Ndakapedza gore rose ndichiyeuka mazuva iwayo, kukurukurirana kwedu pabhiriji. Uye nenzira yakati ini handidi kumudana, kumutsvaka. Handitombozivi: zvichida akato aroora ... " .
Iyo inoverengeka, iyo inoramba iine platonic, yakazara zvikuru. Anowedzera munhu mupfungwa. Uye panguva imwecheteyo, anoita zvose zvinenge zvaitwa kwaari: iwe unopedza nguva, kurukura zvinonakidza, iwe hausi woga, asi nemunhu, manzwiro akanaka anozvarwa mauri. Uye zvinonyanya kukosha - usarwadza kuparadzana nokuti ukama hwako hahuna kuenda kure!
Sei uchida murume pane gungwa?
Sarudza mhinduro yako uye usarudze kana iwe uchimuda chaizvo. Pamwe unoda chimwe chinhu?
• kuitira kuti zvive zvisina kunaka;
• kuva nechimwe chinhu chokuyeuka;
• kuti mumwe munhu anofanira kudzivirirwa (zvinotyisa kufamba ari oga pagungwa usiku humwe);
• kuti mumwe munhu atendeukire kune rubatsiro, kana zvichidiwa (kiyi muvhara yakaputika, vhura bhodhoro);
• Kuwana ruzivo nemunhu, zviri nani kuziva iwe pachako;
• Kuzvinzwa zvakasununguka, zvinonakidza, kuitira kuti zvingave kune mumwe munhu akave akavezwa uye akapfeka;
• kuwana mufaro wepanyama;
• Ndiri kutsvaga murume ...