Masayendisiti anonyatsogutsikana - hatina mamwe mapirapa zvachose. Tinotanga kunyorera zvisinganzwisisiki nekuda kwematambudziko, saiye, uye vanhu vakatikomberedza. Uye kunyanya muvanhu vakakwana, zvigadziri muhutano hwepabonde zvinoratidzwa. Ndezvipi zvinetso izvi, nei vachioneka uye kuti vangatarisana navo sei?
Kazhinji kazhinji, matambudziko muhukama hwepedyo hwevanhu vakazara hunokonzerwa nekuda kwekuderera kunowanikwa pasi. Mafungiro ane chokuita nepabonde uye intima, sekutonga, ane mavara akaipa. Manzwiro, achibuda kunyange kubva kune mumwe mukufunga kwepabonde, anogona kukonzera kutya, kuvhiringidzwa, kusongana nokusagutsikana uye kutadza kwechiito. Nokuda kweizvi zvakaoma, munhu anogona kuona zvakaipa kwete chete munharaunda yepabonde - simba rinogona kugoverwa muupenyu hwake sehuse.
Kazhinji zvinetso zvepabonde zvinowanikwa kune vanhu vane kuwandisa. Uye hapana chinhu chinoshamisa mune izvi: kana iwe usingakwanisi kugamuchira mitemo inogamuchirwa munharaunda, inogona kukonzera kudanana kukurukurirana. Muchiitiko ichi, pane nzira mbiri chete: kana iwe ugere pane kudya uye uzvifambise iwe nemuviri wako kune imwe nzvimbo isina kukodzera, kana kuti zvibvume iwe sezvauri uri mumuviri wako wezvino.
Zvechokwadi, zvakanaka kana munhu akanzwa akasununguka nemunhu mukuru uye asinganetseki nezvazvo. Zvisinei, kwenguva yakareba izvi hazvikwanisi kupfuurira uye zvinetso mukukurukurirana nevakomana vakasiyana-siyana zvichiri kuitika. Paunenge uchiita rudo pamubhedha, hausi kuzova maviri, asi vatatu: wako wekudyidzana, iwe uye uremu hwako hwakawandisa, uchiita hukama husina kunaka uye uchitadza kusavhiringidza muhukama hwepedyo. Iwe unofungidzira kuti zvakaoma sei kutora chero pose kana imwe bhandi yemakumbo ako yakakura kudarika chiuno chemusikana musikana. Uye kana gomo remafuta richikurova iwe, kunyange mubhedha rakanyorova - mufaro hausi unofadza.
Kubva pane zvekuita zvepabonde zvinogona kutambudzwa nevamiririri vese varumekadzi. Asi kazhinji zvinoitika, kana nekuda kwematambudziko akakomba evanhu ane manzwiro akaipa kune mumwe wake. Dambudziko rakadaro rakarongerwa uye rakatumidzwa mazita evanhu vane mukurumbira vane masimba uye nhoroondo dzezvakaitika kare.
Complex yaDon Quixote
Munhu anokwanisa kuzvifungidzira iye ane simba rakanaka mune zvombo zvinopenya, uyo anokoshesa mukadzi anodikamwa wemwoyo. Chokutanga, nokuda kwemukadzi akazara, izvi zvinogona kunge zviri pamwe chete, kana ikava chinhu chinonamatwa. Murume wacho pakutanga haazoregi kutadza kukanganisa kwechimiro chake, kuratidza mudzimai nekumurumbidza chete. Asi kazhinji mafungiro ake kumudzimai anochinja zvinoshamisa: pakarepo anocherechedza kuti mukadzi wake haasi akanaka uye hakuna mhando ye rudo rwakapfuura. Somugumisiro, munyoro haangonzwisisi chete kuora mwoyo (ndiye oga iye ari kukanganisa: aifanira kutarisa mukadzi wacho nekutarisa kwakanyanyisa kubva pakutanga), asiwo kunokonzera kushungurudza kwakanyanya kumunhu waimbofarira - haana kuchinja, asi nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero vakamira vachida kupa rumbidzo. Nokudaro, pamusoro peiyo mamiriro ezvinhu, inenge zana kubva muzana yematambudziko mudzimai angave ane unhu hwakakomba, kunyange kana asina kumbova nawo.
Don Juan Complex (Don Juanism)
Donorism inowanikwa kune varume ivavo vasina kuvimba nehutano hwavo hwepabonde. Asi kuti aende uye anzwe semurume chaiye, anoedza kunyengedza vakadzi vakawanda sezvinobvira. Chinangwa chikuru kwaari ndechokuita zvepabonde nemudzimai, uye mushure mekunge husiku hune rudo, kufarira kwake kune mumwe wako kunonyangarika. Mukadzi haanzwisisi chakaitika, nei murume uyu akazorora zvakanyanya uye anotanga kutsvaga zvikonzero mukati mavo, anobatanidzwa mukuzvimirira uye muchigumisiro chekupedzisira izvi zvinotungamirira pakuonekwa kwekusaziva uye kusangana kwakabatana nechitarisiko chake.
Kakawanda, kuoma kwaDon Juan kunoratidzwa nevarume vakakora, nokuti mamwe mapaundi uye muviri wakafukidzwa haubatsiri pakuwedzera kwevakadzi kutarisa kumunhu wake. Varume vakanyanya havatarisiki sevasikana mumaziso evakadzi. Uye izvi, nenzira, ndiyo tsanangudzo yakasayenzi yesayenzi: mafuta akawandisa anodzivisa kuve kwemahomoni evanhukadzi. Uye kana pane mashoma mashomoni ehurume, zvino mufambiro wekumiririra wakadaro wesimba rakasimba haisi murume. Ichi chiri kuedza "bun" yakadaro ichikweva mumubhedha sevasikana vakawanda sezvinobvira kuratidza kuti "murume".
Macho Complex
Iyi yakaoma yakafanana zvikuru neyo yapfuura. Murume ane gadziriro yemarara anoedzawo kuratidza kune wese wose kuti "murume chaiye, murume ane utsinye", saka anogona kuita nemaune zvisina kunaka, pamabhizimisi uye asingashandisi mazwi akasiyana-siyana pasina, achiratidza maitiro ake evanhu nechitarisiko chake chose. Chikamu chechipiri chemunhu akadaro hachina kunaka. Anofanirwa kuva akakwana zvakakwana kwaari, kubvisa guruva guru uye kuva vatatu mune rimwe: madzimai ari pamubhedha, musikana ari mumba uye shamwari yehondo munzanga. Uye kana mukadzi asina kukwana mumufananidzo (somuenzaniso, akadzoka zvikuru pashure pokunge aberekwa), saka kuwedzera kwekutsoropodza kusina kugadzirisa uye kunyange kumanikidza kune chikamu chemurume kunogona kukurukurwa. Murume mumwe chete ane maziso anokwanisa kuona zvakanyanya kukanganisa kwake mumubhedha (uye sezvatotaurwa kare, vanogona kubatanidzwa neupfumi hwake hunorema), izvo, zvechokwadi, zvinoparadza upenyu hwomunhu wose.
Romeo Complex
Apo Romeo yakasimba murume anowira murudo (kazhinji paanotarisa), anotanga kufungidzira Juliet wake uye haaone chero zvikanganiso maari. Kana musikana wake pakarepo akaporeswazve, ipapo anogona kukwanisa zvachose kugovana naro pane izvi. Zvinonzwisisika, mukadzi achange achishungurudzika kuti awane kupera kwakadaro uye kukurudzirwa kwezvikwata kwaari mune iyi nyaya inovimbiswa.
Kune marudzi akasiyana-siyana ehutsika hwakakomba mune zvepabonde mune varume:
- chinetso chechikamu chechidiki (nenzira, chinogona kuonekwa nekuda kwekusiyana kwehuviri hwepanyama). Munyaya iyi, murume uyu anotya kuti achasekwa, uye haazoonana nevakadzi;
- rakaoma Quasimodo. Murume anozviona seasingabatsiri zvachose kuvakadzi (uye echokwadi, kana achiita semupi, zvakaoma kutaura pamusoro pekukwezva). Muzvinyorwa, chero zvingave zvichiti, uye kuvandudza kana kuvandudza hupenyu hwepabonde, zvakakosha kugadzirisa zvakasimba nehuwandu hunorema.