Shamwari inoshayiwa haizoregi, haazobvunzi chinhu chisina kunaka, ndicho icho chechokwadi, shamwari yakavimbika inoreva ... Aya mazwi kubva kuimba yevana anotsanangura pfungwa huru iri pasi peshoko re "ushamwari". Asi ushamwari hwakasiyana.
Kana varume vane ushamwari, izvi zvinokonzera ruremekedzo, ushamwari hwevakadzi hunokonzera kukudzwa, asi kana murume nemukadzi vari shamwari, izvi zvinokonzera kusavimba, kutya uye dzimwe nguva kunyange kutsamwa. Pane iyo inokonzerwa uye nei "kwete", ngatinzwisise pamwechete.
Kutanga, pfungwa chaiyo ye "ushamwari" yevarume nevakadzi ine zvinoreva zvakasiyana.
Kana hukama hwemadzimai hunoita hukama hwekuvimba, kureva kuti, vakadzi vanoda kudurura mweya weumwe, kupa mazano, kurukura kwete vakadzi bedzi, asiwo nyaya dzevarume, zvino hukama hwevanhu hunobva pachiito - varume havadi kuonekwa vasina simba, ivo, mukutaura, havatauri zvakawanda, zviri nyore kuti vazviite. Yeuka, iwe unowanzoona munhu achitaura pafoni pamwe neshamwari yake kweawa kana kupfuura here? Kana varume vari kukurukurirana chete nezvekuuya kwemushandirapamwe wemutambo webhola?
Chechipiri, kusava nemafungiro, semagetsi, ane simba mupfungwa dzedu. Ushamwari huri pakati pevanhu vanoita zvepabonde imwechete hunonzwisisika kwatiri, zvinogamuchirwa, izvi zvinoshamisa ndezvemhuka. Zvechokwadi, kukwanisa kwoushamwari pakati pemurume nemudzimai zviri pachena, hazvigoni kudziviswa, nokuti ine nzvimbo inofanira kuva. Imwe mubvunzo ndeyekuti vamwe varume vatsvake ushamwari nemukadzi kune rumwe rutivi, uye vakadzi vanosarudza kugoverana pfungwa dzavo zvakasiyana uye zvakaitika kune mumwe mukomana, uye kumucherechedza nemwoyo wose shamwari yavo?
Mamiriro acho akajeka uye akajeka kana mhuri iri kune rumwe rutivi rwechiyero. Shamwari dzinowanzotipa chimwe chinhu icho, zvinosuruvarisa, mhuri haigoni kupa: somuenzaniso, tinogona kutaurirana navo pamusoro pehurukuro iyo mhuri yavhota. Misoro iyi inowanzotinetsa isu kwete nguva dzose yakarurama, zviito zvakakwana, manzwiro uye zvakaitika. Somuenzaniso, murume haatombofungi nezvekuudza mudzimai wake kuti anoda mumwe mukadzi, kana kuti akarasikirwa nemari yakawanda mukaseti, uye dzimwe nguva anobvuma kumukadzi wake uye pedyo nevanhu kuti anorwara. Saka zvakaoma kuti mukadzi ataurire murume wake kuti zvepabonde ravo rave risiri kure kana rakanaka kana kuti anoda kuva oga.
Rudzi urwu rwehupfumi, rwemurume nomukadzi, hunobereka rudzi rwakasiyana rwehukama, apo kunzwisisa kumwe kwevanhu vanoita se "vekunze" vose kunosvika kune vanyengeri veushamwari chaihwo. Uye izvi hazvisi pangozi: zvechokwadi, varume vanogona kuita chimwe chinhu kune mumwe nemumwe, asi havagoverane zvakavanzika. Vanosiya mukati mavo pfungwa kumudzimai wavo. Uye kwete nguva dzose mukadzi uyu anotendeuka kuti ave mudzimai wavo.
Kune shamwari dzevarume, mukadzi anogona kutendeuka "kumativi akacheka" evanhukadzi, kuvaratidza kwavari zvaanovanza kubva kune shamwari dzake. "Muhukama hwose hwehukama pakati pemurume nemudzimai, zvepabonde zvakavanzwa pane imwe nzvimbo," anodaro nyanzvi yezvematongerwo enyika Lilian Rubin, "Inoita kuti ushamwari uhwu hunakidze uye hunofadza, asi ruzhinji rwevarume nevakadzi vanobvumirana kuti kupinda muukama hwepedyo ingozi huru ye ushamwari, nokuti zvepabonde zvinoita kuti chido chekugara, chisingaenderani neshamwari. " Hasi shamwari dzose dzakanaka dzinogona kuva mudiwa. Vamwe varume nevakadzi vanokwanisa kubudirira kuburikidza ushamwari uye kufara kwepabonde, asi shamwari dzakawanda dzepabonde dzakasiyana siyana dzinonzvenga mukana uyu nguva dzose.
Ushamwari hwechokwadi huno hushoma, zvibvunze mubvunzo wakajeka: ndevanaani shamwari dzako dzakanakisisa? Ndine chokwadi chokuti mhinduro ichaita kuti tidzirire, nokuti tinoisa zvinoreva zvakawanda pane zvinoreva shoko rokuti "ushamwari". Ushamwari haugoni kugoverwa maererano nehutano, vanhu vatinofunga kuti shamwari dzakakodzera, asi kana zvisina kudaro hazvibviri.