Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinosimbisa kuti kukakavadzana kukuru uye mafungiro asina kunaka anomuka pakati pemurume nemudzimai ndeyekuti havana kudzidza mumwe nemumwe zvakanaka. Mukuwedzera, zvakasimbiswa kuti kufanana kwepfungwa dzevamwe vakaroorana kunotanga, kutanga pane zvose, pamusoro pekuenderana kwemaonero avo emakodzero nemabasa evanhu vose mumhuri. Mune imwe dzidzo, 100 vakarambana uye 100 vakaroorana vakabvunzurudzwa munyaya iyi. Kujekesa kusawirirana kwakaratidzwa. Vakaroorana vakakwanisa kuchengetedza imba yavo vakaratidza huwandu hwakawanda hwekufananidzwa muku kunzwisisa kwemaitiro emhuri kufananidza neavo akaparara. Nokudaro mhedziso: kuti vechidiki vanogona kuvaka mhuri dzakasimba, dzakabatana, kutarisirwa kunofanira kutorwa kuti vave nechokwadi chekuti vanowana maonero akarurama pamusoro pebasa revanhu vevanhu vakasiyana nevarume, kusiyana kwepfungwa pakati pevarume nevakadzi.
Zvinonyatsozivikanwa kuti vakadzi vanonyanya kunetseka, kupfuura manzwiro, vanoumba mafungiro akawanda mumhuri, ivo vanonyanya kuswededzwa kumhuri mukutsva kudzivirirwa uye kururamisira. Mukubatana nevana, vanaamai vakawanda vanoita "kugadzirisa" nzvimbo. Madzimai, sekutonga, ndivo vanotanga kuchinja kwose mumhuri, zvisinei nekutengesa kutsva, fenicha rearrangements, kufamba kwekuzorora, nezvimwe. Maiwe, vakadzi ndivo vanowanzova vatangi vekurambana ... Murume kubva kare akambova muwani. Varume vanoremekedzwa mune manzwiro uye vanopfigirwa nevadzidzisi vemunharaunda maererano nehurumende dzavo nedzimwe matambudziko. Mukubatana nevana, vanowanzotora nzvimbo "inorambidza" (inogadzirisa) nzvimbo yakatarisana nemudzimai wavo. Inotaridzirwa kugadzirisa kwekupikisa, kudzivisa mukupindura mazano matsva emukadzi wake. Izvi zvakajairika! Izvo zvinopesana zvinokwezva mumwe nomumwe, izvo vaviri vakaroorana vanofanira kuziva uye kugamuchira. Zvisinei, izvi ndezvezvikonzero izvi zvinopesana zvokuti vazhinji vakaroorana vanokakavara pamusoro pezvipfeko.
Murume anoti: "Ndini musoro," uye mudzimai: "Ndini mitsipa." Kwese kwandinoda, pane musoro uye ini ndinodzoka. " Muchirevo ichi chakare chirevo chakadzama cheunyanzvi hwekubatana kwehukama hwevakaroorana huchapedzwa, apo mukadzi anoziva hukuru hwemunhu, asi panguva imwechete nounyanzvi, asinganzwisisiki, asingabvisi kubva pane zvaanoita mumhuri, asingasvibisi chiremera chake, anotungamirira kururamisiro yakarurama uye inobudirira yemhuri.
Kuenzana kwehupfumi hwevarume nevakadzi kwakatungamirira kune kuchinja kwakakosha kwehupenyu hwavo munzanga. Vakadzi vanobudirira kubata bhizinesi rakakomba, kuita basa mune zvematongerwe enyika, mukugadzira, kutyaira motokari, tenzi mashizha ayo aimboonekwa sevarume (muuto, mapurisa, nezvimwewo). Varume vari kutowedzera kuve nevakadzi chaivo (munharaunda yedu) nyanzvi niche (kutengeserana, catering, mabasa). Hapana chakaipa pano, kunze kwechinhu chimwechete: maitiro ezvetsika pamusoro pekuparadzaniswa kwemuviri pakati pemurume nemukadzi sezvo vakaroorana vanoputsa. Uye izvi, maererano nekucherechedza kwevepfungwa dzepfungwa, nhasi ino inomumwe wekutungamirira kukakavadzana nekusawirirana mumhuri. Zvinomiririra zvashanduka, uye mabasa anoramba ari akafanana: mukadzi ndiye mudzimai, mai, muchengeti wemhepo, "jenereta" yemanzwiro evanhu, manzwiro epfungwa mupamba. Murume ari muwanano, munhu anopa zvokudya, mudziviriri, baba ... Mumwe mukadzi akanyatsonyatsocherechedza zvinorehwa neshoko rokuti "akaroorwa": "Ndinoda kuva murume wangu chete, kunzwa pamberi pekumusana kwake."
Kurwisana mumhuri kunowanzosimukawo nokuti vakaroorana vasinganzwisisi, havabvumi chokwadi chokuti mumwe nomumwe wavo muupenyu hwezuva nezuva anofanira kuzadzisa mamwe mabasa anokosha evanhu anokosha kwavari. Mumwe nomumwe wavo mwanakomana / mwanasikana wevabereki vakwegura, mukoma / hanzvadzi, muzukuru / mukoma wehama, kwete zvose zvingakufadza iwe. Uyewo maitiro akajeka, masangano evanhu vose, uyewo mabasa ehumwe shamwari / muvakidzani, chechikoro chekutyaira kana zvidzidzo zvemitauro, kunze kwevashandisi veIndaneti, vanogara vaine mafashoni, gorosi rekushandira, nzvimbo dzomushambadzi, muvhivhi-muvhimi, nezvimwewo. uye zvakadaro. Mumhuri yakasimba, yakabatana, mumwe nomumwe ane nharaunda yake yoga, uye inviolability inogamuchirwa uye inoremekedzwa. Munhu wose, kunze kwemhuri, ane chikamu chekuregererwa kwekuda kwake kuzorora, kuzvidzivirira. Zvakashata kana mumwe wevakaroorana kana kuti vose vari vaviri vanogutsikana kuti "imwe hafu" inofanira kuva chioni chechioni chekutanga-shamwari, zvinokuvaraidza, zvaunoda, zvisingabvumirwi ndezvakawanda. Izvi ndizvo chaizvo zvinokonzera kukakavadzana pakati pevakaroorana pamusoro pezvipfeko.
Chimwe chinhu chinokosha cheukama hwemhuri, iyo inofanirwa kuiswa mukutarisa kuitira kuti ibudirire kuwirirana kwepfungwa, ndicho chido cheumwe neumwe wevakaroorana kuti azvisimbise. Mumwe nemumwe wedu anochengetedza chimiro chekuzviremekedza chekuzviremekedza uye kazhinji kazhinji kasina maturo anogadzirisa nekuedza nemaune kuedza kwevamwe kuti vadzivise. Ichokwadi, hukama hwose hwehukama hukama hwekugara uchiongororwa. Munhu wese anokwanisa kuyeuka kufadza kugamuchirwa kwevanhu kwekubudirira kwebasa redu uye kuti kunzwisisika kunorwadza kana kufungidzira kunofungidzirwa kunonzwisisika. Asi kazhinji tinokanganwa kuti ukama hwemhuri-hwemhuri hunodawo kururamisira uye kungwarira.
Icho chinonyanya kufunga nezvekunyoreswa kwehupenyu hwavo uye kuoma kwechikoro chikoro ndechevakadzi. "Ndinopa simba rakawanda kune iyo yokuti imba yaiva yakanaka uye yakanaka, uye murume akauya - uye haana kuona." "Ndinoedza kubika nenzira inonaka, uye mhuri uye" ndinokutendai "haingati ..." Vanhu vanofanirawo kunge vari maziso evane simba ravo, vakachenjera, vakashinga. Uye zvakadini noupenyu hwezuva nezuva? Isu hatisi kuona zvinhu zvakanaka, isu tinosvika pakurumbidza. Asi chero kukanganisa kupi zvako, kukanganisa hakusi kushaya! Uye chii chinonakidza: mumwe wevakaroorana angagona kwenguva refu akanyarara achitora kutsoropodzwa mundima yake, asi kamwe kamwe zvisingatarisirwi "zvinoputika" kubva kune rumwe rudzi rwemashoko asina maturo. Chaizvoizvo, izvi zvinoitika kana museve usingafungidziki akakunda "chinorwadza". Zvichida akabata chikamu ichocho chekusagutsikana kwakanyanya mumunhu iyeye, umo munhu wacho anotya kukwira, achizvidzivirira achizvidzivirira kubva pane zvakaitika mune zvepfungwa, kuzvidemba, chido chekuita chimwe chinhu chakanaka. Nenzira yakawanda, inonzi: vanhu vazhinji vanoita zvakanyarara kuti vatsoropodzwe. Ikoko kunzwisisika kunorwadza kwakanaka. Uye munhu anoteerera, ane hanya naye kana kuti mudzimai wako achakurumidza kuifunga uye oedza kudzivisa kuenda kune "chirwere chinorwara", uye kana mamiriro ezvinhu achiomanikidzira, achazviita neunyanzvi uye kwete zvinorwadza, sechiremba ane ruzivo.
Ichokwadi kuti mukadzi akachenjera anoziva murume wake zviri nani kupfuura iye anozviziva pachake. Izvi zvinogona kuonekwa kune munhu ane hanya, akachenjera, anoteerera murume. Kana vakaroorana vasingatsvaki kuti vazive zvakanyanya, kurarama pamwe chete kwemakore mazhinji, kusagadzikana kwepamwe kunowedzera kuwedzera, kunzwa kunononoka - hazvisi kure nekutonga uye kurambana. Kazhinji zvinoshamisa: "Akawana chii mumudzimai uyu? Mudzimai wake akanaka kwazvo." Uye akawana chimwe chinhu chaakarasika mumhuri.
Mubvunzo unomuka: chii, nguva dzose, fadza mumwe nomumwe uye "chengeta huno"? Mubvunzo unokosha zvikuru. Tinofanira kuongorora mumwe nomumwe zvakanaka. Rumbidzai nomwoyo wose. Kururamisa nyaya, kureva, pasina kupa zviongororwo zvakajeka uye maitiro kune munhu, uye nekuongorora zviito zvake, zviito, mazwi akakonzera kusawirirana mukati mako, kusagutsikana. Zvinosuruvarisa, kazhinji kazhinji zvakasiyana. Mukadzi akanga asina nguva yekuisa murume wake patafura, sezvo murume wake akakurumidza kumupomera achiti: "Wakasviba, shamwari ... .." Zvino anonzwa achipindura achiti: "Muzhlan, rude, glutton! .." Saizvozvowo "generalizations," kunyange dzimwe nguva iri pedyo nechokwadi , inogara ichionekwa sekumhura munhu. Iko kushorwa kusingabatsiri, hakurudziri munhu kuti ave nani. Zvingangodaro, zvinokonzera kumwe kukakavara pamusoro pezvakaipa - kushungurudzwa kwechisimba chekuvhiringidza (uye usapfuudza dambudziko guru) kana maitiro ezvidziviriro (misodzi, validol, nguva refu yakagadziriswa - zvisarudzo zvisingaperi).
Vakaroorana havagone kufuratira chokwadi chokuti vanogona kuva nemafungiro akasiyana. Munhu wose anoziva nezveizvi: pane choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic. Uye kunyange zvazvo mafungiro "akachena" asingawanikwi, kazhinji munhu ane zvinhu zvemarudzi akasiyana, asi zvinhu zvehutano hunoitika. Nzira nenzira dzakawanda inogadzirisa zvinhu zvekukurukurirana kwevanhu nevanhu vakakomberedza. Semuenzaniso, vanhu vanorwara vanobatana nyore nyore, vanofambidzana, vanoita nyore nyore vanozivana navo, uye vanhu vane mazano, pane zvinopesana, vanogadzira vatinononoka zvishoma nezvishoma, vanosarudza nzvimbo yevamwe vekare neshamwari. Iko kunofanira kuyeukwa kuti kuwedzera kune unhu, kunewo maitiro ehutsika. Munhu akanaka kana akaipa, munhu munyoro kana munhu ane utsinye anogona kuva pane chero upi zvake. Kunyange zvazvo vanhu vane mafungiro akasiyana, zviito izvi zvichazviratidza pachavo nenzira dzakasiyana.
Kufunga nezvekubatana kwepfungwa mumhuri, usakanganwa pamusoro pechirevo chakadai se rudo. Vanhu vari vaduku vachataura vachiti: "Hungu, ichi ndicho chinhu chakakosha kuti mhuri ifare!" Mukuru wacho ainge atoziva kuti kunzwa uku kunoshamisa hakuna kutendeseka zvachose. Rudo rwakazara uye rukapfuura, nemakore iyo inenge isina kunyanyisa. Kuda kutsva kunopa nzira kune ushamwari, mutsa, kuchenjerera, kutarisira, kutendana pamwe chete kusingabvumi kuti vakaroorana vaite nharo pamusoro pezvipfeko. Kana ... Izvi "kana" zvakasiyana-siyana. Asi zvakadaro nezve rudo. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinobvuma kuti kana vakaroorana vachirarama murudo, ivo vane kufanana kwepfungwa dzepfungwa, izvo zvisingatyi zvikanganiso zvevamwe - ichi ndicho chiitiko, zvakajeka chakaonekwa nehuchenjeri huchenjeri: "rudo mapofu." Nokudaro, mune chinangwa chevechidiki vanopinda mumuchato, vanowanzoti: "Zano iwe unoda!" Asi panzvimbo yekutanga ndiyo mazano!