Psychology: nzira yekushandura nzvimbo yebasa pasina kushungurudzika

Maererano nemimwe mitsara, yakazozivikanwa kuti inopfuura hafu yevaRussia vagadzirira kugadzirisa nzvimbo yavo yebasa apo mamwe maonero akanaka ari kuiswa munzvimbo. Asi, pasinei neizvi, zvakafanana, nzvimbo yebasa kuchinja pasina kushungurudzika haisi nguva dzose nyore uye iri nyore. Mune dambudziko iri, hazvibviri kukwana uye kunyatsoongorora zviri kuitika zvakapoteredza uye kuita sarudzo yakanaka. Dzimwe nguva sayenzi chete yakadai sepfungwa inogona kubatsira: kuti ungashandura sei nzvimbo yebasa pasina kushungurudzika - uyu mubvunzo waachabatsira kuwana mhinduro yakakwana.

Chikonzero chekushandura munzvimbo yakashanda.

Wakambotarisana nesarudzo pakati pemafungiro e "kushandura mabasa" here kana kuti "kuramba uchifanana"? Kutanga, unoda kunzwisisa uye kunzwisisa kuti sei iwe unoda chaizvo kuchinja nzvimbo yako.

Kana chikonzero chekushanda kwebasa ndicho chinowanzozvidza mutungamiri, saka, kuti uzviise zvinyoro, uri kuratidza kusava kwako kwehutano. Iko nyanzvi yebhizimisi rake inowanzobata kurapwa, uye ichaedza kugadzirisa zvose zvinyorwa zvake uye zvikanganiso. Zviri pachena kuti manzwiro, marwadzo, haasi nguva dzose shamwari dzechokwadi nevanopa mazano, uye iwe uchadzikama shure kwechinguva, uchitonhorera pasi, uye migumisiro shure kwavo haichazoperi chero kupi, iwe uchafanirwa "kuputsa peji yakashambidzwa newe".

Zvimwe zvikonzero zvekusiya basa zvinogona kunyorwa, kushandiswa kune musoro wakadai sepfungwa:

Nzira yekuchengetedza mitsipa?

Pfungwa dzepfungwa dzekushandura nzvimbo yebasa pasina kushungurudza dzinoti nguva yekushandura nzvimbo yebasa inofanira kusarudzwa nekuchenjera, kuitira kuti irege kufanana nenguva, iyo inonzi "nguva yakafa". Panguva ino, iwe unogona kutora mazororo akagara kwenguva refu uye mavhiki ekupedzisira ekarenda yedu (inogona kunge yakaita semazuva emutsva, uye nguva dzezororo), hongu, hapana mushandirwi achave nechido chakanaka chekuverengazve zvekare apo iye atofunga kufunga nezvemavhiki ekumirira kwenguva refu. Uye iwe unofanirwa kuziva kuti basa rimwe nerimwe rine "nguva dzakatarwa", iyo inofanirwa kuita.

Kuti vashandi vako vave nemafungiro akanaka pamusoro pako uye kuti, zvichida, kunyange vakakupa mazano akanaka, haufaniri kuisa kutarisira kwako nguva yemaoko uye shure kwekudzidzira kupi zvidzidzo zvinokosha. Uye iwe zvechokwadi uchada mazano akanaka pane imwe nzvimbo yebasa yevatariri vako vatsva.

Usazvitsaurira zvachose vashandi vose vauchabva kwavari, izvi zvinongomutsa kukurukurirana zvisina kufanira uye, zvichida, kutendwa mundima yako. Zvingava zviri nani kuvhenekera munhu wose asati aenda. Uye kutsvaga basa rinodikanwa mune chero ipi zvayo isina basa kubva panguva yebasa iyo isina kuona uye haina kunzwa "nzeve dzisinganzwisisiki". Kana iwe uchigoverwa kubvunzurudzwa, zviri nyore kuti zvingava zviri nani kutora zuva rega, kana zuva rimwe pachako mari, uchiudza chikonzero chakanaka kune vashandi. Usaedza kutsoropodza zviremera, nokudaro zvichiita kuti urege kufungira zvisingakoshi, ivo zvino vangave vasiri munzvimbo.

Mubvunzo wepanyama mubvunzurudzo ndeyekuti unofungei kuchinja nzvimbo yebasa. Saka, iwe unofanira kufungisisa pamusoro pemashoko ako nguva isati yasvika, iwe unogona kuvanyora zvakare zuva rakapfuura pamba. Tarisa pfungwa dzako pamusoro pekuti iwe uchataura sei mazwi ako pamusoro pechikonzero chekusiya, havafaniri kuva nehanya nemanzwiro uye chero rudzi rwehasha nekutsamwa.

Kutaura pamusoro pebasa iripo, hazvidikanwi kushandiswa mazwi ekutsoropodza, pano, urombo, nokuti, zvichida, chirevo chisina kukodzera, sekufa hakuna kunyatsotaurwa, uye mumamiriro ezvinhu aya. Ingotaura chete chokwadi. Semuenzaniso: "Ndinoda kufambisa mberi kwehuwandu hwemabasa, apo pakange pasina mukana wakadaro mubasa rekare, uye pfungwa yako yakarurama ichafungidzirwa neni."

Usakanganwa nezvemitemo.

Kutungamirirwa pakudzingwa kunokosha zvakasikwa, kushandura kumutemo. Chiito chakakosha pane yako chikamu chichave kunyora chirevo chekutarisira panguva yekutanga kwenguva yekumirira. Zvingava zviri nani kuita izvi mumakopi 2, ayo okutanga anofanira kunyorwa nevanyori, uye wechipiri inofanira kuchengetwa iwe pachako.

Kunyangwe pane zviitiko apo kutaura kwakadaro kunongorasirwa kunze kana kubvamburwa, zvichida nokuti iwe uri mushandi anokosha uye anokosha kune vatungamiri vako. Muchiitiko ichi, unogona kuita maererano netsamba yemutemo, kutumira chikumbiro ne mail yakanyoreswa, uchichengetedza receipt, apo zuva racho richaonekwa zvakajeka, kubva mavhiki maviri wawakagadza akaverengwa.

Pashure pezvose zvinodiwa zvepamutemo, kunyanya mushure mekuiswa kwechikumbiro chekudzingwa, vhiki mbiri dzinofanira kushorwa, uye dzinonyanya kukosha kugadzikana, kunyange zvazvo dzichanyanya kuoma. Vamwe vatungamiri vanofunga kuti kuenda kwako kwakaenzana nekupandukira, zvisinei kuti wakaedza sei kuita zvose zvakanaka uye nokungwarira. Vamwe vavo vanoshandisa chokwadi chokuti vanotanga kukuisa kuti uzviise nounyoro, kuzadza nemabasa akaoma, kana kuti kutanga kutanga kutsoropodza, kuwana mhosva, uye kuti zvakanyanya kuwedzera kusimudza inzwi rako zvachose.

Zvakakosha kuedza kubata zvinhu zvose zviri kuitika, kutaura nekutaura, "kubva mushongwe yakakwirira", tichiziva kuti panewo maitiro asina kukwana, hapana chinogona kuitwa pamusoro pacho. Ingosiya zvinhu zvisingagumi kana zvakakanganwa kuitira kuti iwe uwane "mweya wakadzikama." Uye zvinodikanwa kuti iwe unopa mazano ose, uchive panzvimbo yako pane basa rakasara.

Nokudaro, mukuyeuka vamwe vekare vekushanda navo, iwe ucharamba uine ace chaiyo webhizimisi rako uye uzvidzivirire kubva pamba dzisingatarisirwi kubva kune rimwe basa rakasara iro rakaomesa kufarira kune chero mibvunzo pamusoro pebasa, iwe uri kuedza kusvika pamwoyo weiyo nehanya nekushingaira kukuru.