Nzira yekuita sei mukomana achidanana newe?

Zvinenge zvese vakadzi nevanasikana vari kunetseka pamusoro pemubvunzo -kuwana sei mukomana kuti ave murudo naye. Chokutanga pane zvose, kuitira kuti usadzivise kuora mwoyo kwakanyanya uye kutambura, munhu anofanira kugara achiyeuka kuti "haugoni kumanikidza rudo" uye "usaronga mwoyo wako". Kana iwe hausi zvachose mukanaka yemurume waunoda, kwete mudzimai wake, ipapo chero chii chaunoita, haazodiwi newe. Uye muzvizhinji, hazvibviri kuita kuti mukomana akudane newe nekuda kwekuda kwake. Asi kana iwe uri musikana werudzi rwake, mukuravira kwake, asi nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero iye haakucherechedzi kana kuti unozvibata uchidzikama uye akazvidzora, iwe unogona kuita kuti afarire iwe mauri, iyo ichashandura kuva ruremekedzo rwakasimba, uyezve murudo. Asi iwe nguva dzose unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti kugadzira mukomana kuwirirana newe kunoda kuva wakangwarira, uchishandisa maitiro ese echikadzi uye chido, kuitira kuti zvinhu zvose zviitike zvakasikwa.

Nzira yekuita sei mukomana achidanana newe? Kuti uyeuke mukomana, kumhanyira mumaziso ake, unofanirwa kukwanisa kumira kubva mujenya, kubva kuvanhu. Iwe unogona kufungidzira kuti vangani vainge vatoona vasikana vari kunze uye vakanaka kwazvo, asi pavanenge vachitaura navo zvakava pachena kuti vose vanoita zvakafanana, semadonhwe maviri emvura. Vakomana vatove vakaneta nevanasikana vakadaro, kukurukurirana uko kunotapira kusvika kune zvinyengeri uye kukurukurirana kwehupenyu hwemadzimai avo. Kuwa murudo nemurume kunogona kutanga pane zvose nokuti iwe hauna kufanana nevamwe, kuti iwe unofamba nenzira yakasiyana zvakasiyana, isingafungiri, nzira yepakutanga. Ichokwadi kuti hazvireve kuti mapenzi vzbalamoshnye zviito, zvakadai sokudanidzira uye kunyengedzera Izvi hazvirevi zvisizvo - ndizvo zvose zvakafanana mufambiro, tendai ini, mukomana wenyu aimboziva vanyengeri uye haana kuchifarira. Murove iye nepfungwa dzako. Mumwe mukomana anogadzirirwa ukama hwepedyo, anoda kuona musikana akachenjera ari pedyo naye uye kutanga wevose achaongorora huchenjeri hwake. Asi usaputsa tsvimbo, usati uzviratidze iwe se "mudzidzisi" uye doro. Tsvaga nyaya inofadza iwe vaviri. Taura naye nezveunyanzvi, cinema, uzivi, chitendero. Iyi ndiyo nyaya iyo munhu anogona kuratidza dzidzo yake, erudition, njere. Uye kana asina hanya nazvo uye anotanga kutaura nezvekunwa kwaakanwa doro neshamwari dzake mu bar uye zvese zvaanenge achitaura zvichava pamusoro peizvi chete, zvino funga kuti iwe unoda murume akadaro here? Ichokwadi, hatifaniri kukanganwa kuti varume vanoda maziso kutanga. Kana iwe uchivanza mweya wako wakanaka mumuviri usina kuchena, hazvigone kuti pal ichada kudzidza mweya uyu. Kune vakomana, runako zvose zviri mumuviri uye mumweya zvakaenzana. Nokudaro, iwe nguva dzose unoda kutarisa zvakanaka, usingaoneki kwaari usina ziso kugadzira, mumisha yekare yezvokufuka. Uye kazhinji, unofanirwa kuzviwana iwe unyanzvi hunokosha-kuzviunza iwe muhutano kubva mangwanani, pakarepo paunobva pamubhedha. Pakarepo iwe unoda kuenda kumvura, ita maziso akanaka, kuronga uye bvudzi, kunyange kana iwe usingafungi kuenda chero kupi zvako. Muchiitiko ichi, hakuna munhu achakwanisa kukushamisa uye kukuona iwe mukanakisisa.
Zvishongo zvekumba zvinofanirawo kuva zvakanaka, kukanganwa kamwechete uye zvekare pamusoro pejasi dzekare, zvakapfeka T-shirts nemashiripiti akapera. Uye zvakadini kana vasingatarisiri kuuya kwauri uye iwe unofanidza kuzarura musuo mumufananidzo uyu? Nguva dzose iva wakagadzirira, ichi chiitiko chinobatsira uye inokura mutemo unogara uripo wehupenyu - inogara ichiita yakanaka kwose kwose, iyo inozivikanwa zvikuru uye inofanirwa nevarume.
Chero murume chero upi zvake achada chaizvo kufarira kwako kwechokwadi kwaari. Muratidze kufarira kwakanyanya sezvinobvira, bvunza nezvehupenyu hwake, zvido zvake. Kana ane dambudziko, umupe iye rubatsiro rwekugadzirisa. Mumwe mukomana anogona nyore kukura iwe kana iwe ukatanga kutora chikamu muupenyu hwake, uchimubatsira kugadzirisa chinetso chakasangana muupenyu hwake. Nguva dzose uratidze huwandu hwenharaunda muhupenyu hwake, yeuka kuti zvinonakidza kune chero munhu upi zvake pavanonyatsofarira kwaari. Kufarira uku kunofanirwa kuve kuve kwakarurama, chero zvipi zvisingasviki.
Chero murume chero upi zvake achada chaizvo kufarira kwako kwechokwadi kwaari. Muratidze kufarira kwakanyanya sezvinobvira, bvunza nezvehupenyu hwake, zvido zvake. Kana ane dambudziko, umupe iye rubatsiro rwekugadzirisa.

Mumwe mukomana anogona nyore kukura iwe kana iwe ukatanga kutora chikamu muupenyu hwake, uchimubatsira kugadzirisa chinetso chakasangana muupenyu hwake. Nguva dzose uratidze huwandu hwenharaunda muhupenyu hwake, yeuka kuti zvinonakidza kune chero munhu upi zvake pavanonyatsofarira kwaari. Kufarira uku kunofanirwa kuve kuve kwakarurama, chero zvipi zvisingasviki. Zvichengete uri woga. Usambotanga kutamba basa. Kwemazuva mazhinji iwe haugoni kuitamba, uye nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare uchawana unhu hwako pachako uye yako yemitambo yemutambo. Pashure pezvose, mukomana anokwanisa kuwira murudo, munyaya iyi, kwete mukati mako, asi musikana iwe uri kuedza kuratidzira. Yeuka kuti hakuna munhu angambokwanisa kuita basa reumwe munhu kwenguva refu. Usatya kuva iwe pachako. Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechokubvuma iwe sezvauri iwe uye kuzvibvumira kuva saizvozvo. Bvuma zvikanganiso zvako zvose uye usarega kuzvizvidza iwe. Shure kwezvose, kukanganisa uku kunogona kuonekwa sekukanganisa iwe chete, uye munhu wako weramangwana rinopesana anokwanisa kunzwisisa kuzvininipisa kwako uye kunyara kunyara kana kukura kuduku kana chiduku duku, sechiremera. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuti uve Munhu ane tsamba huru, kwete kutevedzera ani zvake uye nguva dzose kuratidzira unhu hwako uye humwe chete - mumaonero, mune zviito.
Kumanikidzira mukomana kuwira murudo iwe nguva dzose kunodiwa unobtrusively, uchishandisa munhu wega char and charm. Iwe haugoni kumanikidzira mukomana, kumudana kane zana pazuva, nyora mashekeri ane chiuru paawa. Iwe unofanirwa kuva nehanya newe pachako, uye wozopa iye mukana wekutora iwe pachako. Vakomana havadi apo musikana ari nyore kutora. Kuva munhu akajeka unofadza kunogona kuita nyore kuti varume vawe murudo newe uye varwire nzvimbo mumoyo mako.