Nzira yekugadzirisa ukama nemurume wake pamucheto wokurambana - Mazano aya emagariro evanhu achakupa mhuri mufaro

Dambudziko muhukama hunozivikanwa kunyange nemhuri dzinonakidza zvikuru. Uye ivo vanopona nayo zvakachengeteka, kana vakaroorana pamwe vachigadzirisa kukakavara uye kutsvaka kubvumirana pamwe chete. Asi hukama hwehukama hwakadaro uye hukama hwakakura, avo vanoita mutsika pamwe chete nokuda kwekubatana rudo rwakazvarwa, vashoma kwazvo. Vakawanda havakwanise kuva nemhosva yekunzwa kunoda kukwidziridzwa, kusimbiswa, kudzidziswa semwana muduku, uye kurapwa, uye kwete kuurayiwa, apo "inorwara." Kurambana kunorwara kunorwara, iyo inobvumira vakaroorana vorudo rwavo zvakanaka.

Sei chirevo ichi chichiwedzera kuchinzwa mumhuri dzemazuva ano? Ndeipi rudzi rwekutsamwisa nzira yekugadzirisa dambudziko rehukama? Zvishoma, kurambana chete! Kana pane chero kukakavara kwechido, nekukanganisa kwose kwakagadzirwa, pamakakatanwa mashoma, pamusoro uye kunze kweizvozvo, vakaroorana vanotyisidzirana nekurambana. Kuti agadzirise nenzira iyi, kukakavadzana kwemhuri kwakafanana nokudzima moto nemafuta. Zvechokwadi, nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare vakaroorana vakadaro vanozviwana ivo vari pedo nechepamusoro pedambudziko rekurambana. Uye kana pane imwe nguva shoma yekuponesa mhuri uye kuchengetedza "mwana" akadai anonzi Rudo kubva kune kufa kwekufa, zvino enda kumabhizimisi pakarepo!

Chii chatiri kuita chisina kunaka uye nei tiri pedyo nekurambana?

Psychotherapists vanosiyanisa zviratidzo zvakasiyana-siyana, iyo inoratidzika iyo inotsanangura dambudziko muhukama. Kuregeredza matambudziko aya inzira isingadzivisiki yokurambana:

1. Kusangana kupesana. Hazvina mhosva kuti vakaroorana vanoedza sei kugadzirisa matambudziko emhuri munguva yezviitiko, munguva yehupenyu pamwe chete, zvikonzero zvekukakavara zvichiri kuwedzera uye kukura. Apo pane zvirevo zvinorema kuratidza kune mumwe wako muziso, asi chaizvoizvo unoda kutaura shamwari iri mukicheni, ichi ndicho chiratidzo chekutanga pamusoro pekutyisidzira kwakavanzika kwechato. "Kusvuta" kusagutsikana kuchakurumidza kupera kana kuti gare gare kuve dambudziko rinoshungurudza. Zvipenga zvinowedzera!
2. Kutaura kusingaperi. Kazhinji, vakaroorana vanoshambirana nemashoko pamwe chete uye kupomerwa, kwete kunyatsotarisa pamusoro pezvakataurwa. Kana murume asina kushambidza kapu zvakare (haana kuchenesa masokisi, haana kutendeza bhuruzi yegetsi, nezvimwewo), zvichida panzvimbo pekunyunyuta kwekunyunyuta kwakafanana: "Iwe unogona kuva nehave yakawanda zvakadini?" Zvakakosha kushivirira, uye pasina manzwiro ( kunyange kana kwezana remakore) bvunza: "Dharira, shamba, ndapota, uye mukombe wangu." Kutaura kusingagumi - kushorwa kwako pachako, kukura kuva kushorwa pakavanzika. Kunyomba kunowedzera!
3. Kutsoropodza kazhinji. Kugunun'una museve akabudiswa mukuzviremekedza kwomunhu. Zvichida, muhutano, zvakanyatsojeka, asi kwete nguva dzose iyo mazwi ayo akafuka, zvinopa mukana wekusvika kune mumwe wako. Kana chinangwa chemuseve chirikukuvadza munhu waunoda uye kusaunza chinangwa chematambudziko, zvino zviri nani kumurova. Kutsoropodza kunogadziriswa kunofanira kuratidzwa nenzira yekukumbira, uye nguva dzose nenzira yekuongorora kwechiito, kwete munhu. Kuzvinyengera kunowedzera!

4. Kuzviratidza kwekuzvidza. Nokunyadzisa, kunyadziswa kwechokwadi kune mumwe wako kunoratidzwa. Kutonga kusingazivikanwi, kurapwa nokuzvikudza, kusazvidza maonero, mazwi asingagumi, kuseka uye kuseka kunoita kuti munhu anzwe asina maturo uye asingakoshi. Kuzvidzwa kuri kuwedzera!
5. Kushaikwa kwekutenda. "Ndinokutendai" uye "ndinokutendai" mazwi maviri anoyera zvakanyanya se "rudo". Izvo, sezviratidzo zvekucherechedza uye kukurumbidza, sarudza inzwi rehukama, uye kusavapo kwavo kunoshandura rudo mu "bond". Zvikwereti zvatinoita nekumanikidzira (isu pachedu kana kuti kunze), asi kutarisira kwechokwadi nemabasa akanaka zvinoratidzirwa zvevanhu pachavo pachavo. Mashoko okuonga ndiyo nhamba yake yakavanzika. Upenzi hwomweya huri kuunganidza!
6. Kuregeredza zvepabonde. Kazhinji zvepabonde kana kushayikwa kwechikonzero chikonzero chakakosha chokurambana, kunyange kana vaviri vacho vasingatauri chikonzero chechikonzero. Kana kana mumwe wevakaroorana asina kukwanisa kuita zvepabonde, zvingangoita kuti iye achashandura "kusara" kune zvakakwana zvechikamu ichi choupenyu. Kune mhuri dzakawanda, chipingamupinyi chakadai muhukama hachikwanisiki. Kusagutsikana kunowedzera!

Izvo uye vamwe "vanovhiringidza" zvekurambana vane nzvimbo yekuunganidza, uye vanogona kushanda sevanomirira mberi mhuri isingadzivisiki apocalypse.

Kudzivirira kurambana

Blogger inozivikanwa yeNew York Joanna Goddard, inobatanidza nyaya yehukama, yakagoverana naye mamiriyoni akawanda evanhu vanyoresa zvisiri izvo, asi mazano anoshanda zvikuru anosimbisa ukama mumhuri. Maererano nemaonero ake, kwenguva yakareba imba inoramba ichinyatsogutsikana nemabasa asina kuoma uye anoita seasingakoshi. Zvisinei, kuchengetedza kwavo hakuzombobvumi kuti munhu afunge nezvekurambana.

1. Usagumburwa pazvinhu zviduku. Upenyu hwakanyanya kupfupika kuti urege kugumburwa nekugunun'una komumwe wako, kana asingasviki, kana achirwara uye asingadi kuona chero munhu, paanosangana nekudzvinyirira kuburikidza nebasa uye anotanga kubva kubva hafu yenguva uye kumba. Hazvina kukodzera kufunga nezvekushaya simba kwevanhu kuti tibatwe nemanzwiro. Rega kuenda kune zvikwanganiso zviduku, asi utungamirire mhuri mune tsika yekukumbira kukanganwirwa, apo manzwiro asina kunaka achapfuura.
2. Chengetedza mitemo yekuremekedza. Zvematongerwe enyika dzinovhura mikova yakawanda, nekuremekedza pakati pevakaroorana - inovhura mwoyo kusangana. Mashoko okuonga, kukumbira zvinoremekedzwa, kutarisisa kwechokwadi uye kurumbidzwa kunogona kugadzirisa kunyange hukama hwemhuri pamagumo ekurambana.
3. Isa mubhedha pamwe chete. Usangofarira zviroto zvakanaka, asi tora nguva yekukurukura mubhedha usati warara, kuti ukurukure zvakaitika pane zuva. Tauriranai "nharo" yeusiku, sezvamunoitira vana. Regai zvive nezvakaitika muupenyu hwako, mufaro kana kuti kutya. Pano pane chinhu chinosangana nevana, kufambidzana uye kutarisira. Uye iva nechokwadi kunotsvoda usati warara uye mangwanani!

4. Iti "Ndinokuda" mukugadzirisa kukakavadzana. Mhuri inofanirwa hairevi mhuri isina kukakavara. Kuwana hukama hunokubvumira kutsvaga nekuwana chokwadi, kunzwa kurwadziwa kweumwe neumwe. Asi zvakakosha kuti kunyange mumakakatanwa vakaroorana vanonzwisisa kuti vanoramba vachida, pasinei nekuwedzera kwetoni. Kutaura pakati pekukakavadzana "Ndinokuda!" Hazvisi nyore, asi kana mafungiro agadzikana, iwe uchazvionga iwe nokuda kwemashoko aya. Edzai!
5. Shake up the order established. Usakanganwa kuzadza mhuri yako neruzivo. Hapana chaicho chechokwadi chinouraya ushamwari, sechiitiko. Edza chimwe chinhu chisina kujairika uye chitsva, ita zvigadziriswa, uwane maonero asina kunaka. Enda kune imwe nzvimbo yekutoro, shandura mazororo ezororo muzhizha pamusasa wekambi nematende, tora tsika kuenda kumabhaisikopo, kuratidza uye kuronga zvidyo zvekudya zvisina kujairika.
6. Siya nzvimbo imwe neimwe. Kuva nemaawa makumi maviri pamwechete pamwe kungave kwakanaka, asi kwete mazuva 365 pagore. Munhu wese anoda ruzivo, rusununguko uye kunyange ari oga: kana iwe uchida kunzwa mweya wako pachako, ita gwaro rekuongorora mukati mako, gadzikana. Izvi zvakajairika! Siya nzvimbo yako pachako, zvibvumire iwe newawakaroorana naye dzimwe nguva kusangana neshamwari kana kupedza nguva nguva yekuzvipira iwe usina kutaurira.

Nzira yekugadzirisa ukama nemurume wake, kana vachiri pakatarisana nokurambana

Apo kudzivirira, izvo zvinosimbisa ukama hwemhuri, hazvina hanya, uye vakaroorana vanofunga kubatana muhukama hukama huri pachena hwekuda, mhuri inongoramba ichienda kune imwe nguva. Dzimwe nguva vaviri nemakumi emakumi emakore vanochinja basa rokutora microclimate mumhuri kune umwe neumwe, vasingadi kushanda ivo pachavo kubudirira. Mano ekuteerera uye kunzwa mumwe wako, kuita zvido zvekuzvipira, kumirira matambudziko, kupa pasina kushevedzera zvakafanana - ichi basa guru uye rinobatana, kushivirira nenguva. Kuti udzorezve hukama huri kufa, huchatora kunyanya kuedza, asi kunonyanya kukosha - rudo!

1. Bvuma zvikanganiso. Mhuri dzese dziri kukwidzika maererano nemararamiro: "Ndine chokwadi! Iwe hausi! "Vakaroorana vane hanya nekuwana mhinduro kumubvunzo wekare-kare:" Ndiani anokanganisa? ". Asi kuisa pfungwa pane chinetso chinomuka ndechekuti pane mumwe mubvunzo: "Chii chaunofanira kuita?" Uye chete ipapo kuti uite kukanganisa nekutsvaga ane mhosva. Ukama hwakabatana mumhuri haudi kururamiswa. Zvakakwana kubvuma munguva yaunenge usina kururama, ane mhosva kana kukanganisa. Tora mutoro nokuda kwezviito zvavo zvisina kufanira, kukumbira nomwoyo wose kukumbira kukanganwirwa uye kupa kodzero kune waunoda kuti asarudze - kuuraya kana kukanganwira.
2. Gadzirisa kusava noupenzi husina kunaka. Iwe uchafanira kubvuma kuti munhu wepedyo munhu chete, uye ane kodzero yekuve isina kukwana, sevanhu vose. Hapana vanhu vakanaka! Ichokwadi chokuti kuroorana kunopera kuburikidza nekuputika kwako kukuru kunoratidzwa nezviratidzo zvinotevera zvoudyire:
   • kuzvipira (kuzvigadzirisa iwe pachako);
   • hypertrophied pride;
   • hukama hwakasununguka;
   • kutsoropodza;
   • obtrusiveness;
   • kusawirirana;
   • kuzvikudza;
   • shungu;
   • kunyengera, nezvimwewo.

3. Tora chiito. Kana iwe wakanyanyisa "kuisvibisa," uye haisi yekutanga (inoratidzika, uye kwete yechipiri, kana yakasvika pakurambana), tanga kushingaira kuita zvisingaiti kwauri, izvo iwe uchakumbira kukanganwirwa. Mashoko okukumbira ruregerero uye zvipikirwa hazvina zvaanoda, nokuti vanhu havasi ivo vanovimba nemashoko, asi zviito. Vanonyatsoita kuti murume nemudzimai vatende, vanganwire, vatange neine tsvina yakachena.
4. Kanganwira uye kusunungurwa. Kwete nguva dzose hukama huri pasi pokudzorerwa, uye kwete nguva dzose inoda kuponeswa. Kune dzimwe nguva apo vanhu vakaita hurumende muupenyu hwevanhurume vavo uye kuchengetedza manzwiro avo kubva kare kubva pakufa - ndekuita mhosva kune ramangwana ravo uye munhu arimo achazoonekwa. Rega kuenda kamwe chete mudiwa uye anodiwa, kana ikozvino maitiro ese ekuchengetedza mufaro ave akaedzwa. Asi ita nekutenda, pasina kushorwa uye mhosva. Muregerere iye uye iwe pachako nokuda kwerudo rwakaputsika. Musunungure iye uye mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Uye zvino, zvinogoneka zvikuru kuti chiito chakadaro chichava mukana wepiri wekuparara kwemhuri yenyu.