Izvi zvinoitika kare kare, apo mwana "anotamba" mahomoni uye anotanga kuyaruka. Anofarira kune mamwe marudzi emabhuku, tarisa mamwe mafirimu, anova rudo runofadza uye ane tariro yokuti achakura uye achave ane rudo rwakakura, rwakanaka-kune rudo rwakanaka. Uye kuti ungadzidze sei kusatya rudo.
Apo chinangwa cherudo chinowoneka, nhamba yepamusoro inoratidzika isingambofi yakasvika, nokuti tariro dzose dzomwana uyu dzakabatana nerudo. Dzimwe nguva rudo urwu runova kutuka kwechokwadi - ikozvino kutukwa komwana kwakanaka. Anozviita zvisinganzwisisiki, asi asingazvizvinzwisisi pachake.
Iyo yakanaka inodarika mitemo yepasi rose, inoumbwa kubva kune dzimwe mifananidzo, kubva kune mamwe mabhuku, kubva mune dzimwe nhetembo, kubva mune mamwe mafirimu. Mwana anotanga kusarudza kuti mukadzi uyu kana murume uyu angave aripi - chii chakakura, chii chakanakirwa, kuti chinonzwa sei, kupfeka, uye nezvimwe zvakadaro.
Zvinenge zvose zvinonetseka-hypochondriacs ita izvi. Kusvika kumakore manomwe ivo vakatotanga kukurudzirwa, zvepabonde ravo rinotanga kunetseka pamusoro pemakore 12-14, uye kusvika kumakore gumi nemasere ivo vanogadzira mufananidzo wakafanana wehupenyu hwemangwana. Ichi chifananidzo chakazara zvachose, asi chinoramba chiri pazinga risingaziviki nenzira yekanaka. Kubva panguva ino mwana anozvidzivirira, anovhara uye akajeka iye anosika yakakosha, kana achinyanya kuparadzwa.
Sei izvi zvose zvichiitwa? Tinovonga izvi zvakanaka, vana vanozvidzivirira kubva paupenyu. Vakatotadza kurasika kwavo, kuchena kwavo, kuchena kwavo, uye iyi ndiyo nzira yekuvhara ivo pachavo, kuitira kuti havazombotyisidzi zvakare kuti varege kuisa muhupenyu hwavo mumwe munhu asina kukwana. Iye anotya kuda.
Iye zvino mwana wacho akadzivirirwa zvachose kune vamwe. Iye, somuenzaniso, anoti: "Handidi mukomana uyu," anonyevera vamwe kuti anongoda chete rudzi rwevamwe vechidiki, mukomana anonyeverawo kuti anoda chimwe chimiro chevasikana, asi chaizvoizvo vanotya, vanotya kuda .
Mwana anotanga kuzviratidza, kuratidzira kusava nehanya kune vamwe. Nokuti iye achiripo nenguva yekumirira, uye kukanganisa kunobatanidza nekutarisira kworudo kunowedzera. Panguva ino, mwana akafanana, anotarisa kuti vamwe vanobata sei. Iye akazara zvakakwana. Uye anotanga kucherechedza kuti vamwe vana sei, kunyanya kana vakanaka vasikana kana vakomana, vanobatwa. Izvi zvinomutsa kuzvidya mwoyo-hypothetical syndrome, anotya kuda. Anoratidza kusava nehanya uye anozvidza, haaregi munhu upi zvake, asi anorota uye kurota kworudo.
Nemhaka yehukama hwepedyo, mwana ari pose pose anotanga kuona kusava nehanya naye. Zvino nyika inozviratidza nenzira imwe neimwe. Kubva pamusana pekusagadzikana kwekurwadziwa kwake, iye zvino "anopfutidza chepfu," anofuridzira kunyanya kufarira, haazviratidzi, haaisi zvakakwana sezvaanoda, haasi kukura uye anotanga kupfiga zvakanyanya paanodzidza kurwadziwa uku. Iye zvino iye haatendi kuti rudo ruchazomboitika, anotya kuda.
Uye, pakupedzisira, rudo urwu runouya kwaari, pane imwe nguva, mumwe mukomana anouya achiti: "Ndinokuda!". Zvisinei, haakwanisi kuzarura, angave achifara, akanga akamirira, regai ave akakodzera, akarota, aida, akatarisa mumeso ose. Zvisinei, ikozvino, pavanoswedera kwaari, haachazozivi zvokuita. Haana unyanzvi, haana chaanokwanisa chekuita. Iye zvino anotya kurwadziwa kwaainzwa mukati make.
Nokudaro sarudzo ndeiyi: kana kuti akasiyana zvachose anoramba kurondedzera, achitya kuti achasiyiwa, kana anotanga kurwisa mumwe, zvakaoma kuti adzidze kuda. Kana iye asingadi mukomana, anotanga kuratidza kuzvidza, kusava nehanya kwake, kuratidzira kuti haana hanya naye, panguva imwe chete achitambura, kubata, kusaziva nzira yekuita, kusina mukana wekuzadza zvakakwana pamberi peumwe.
Ava vana vanozviwana vari mumatambudziko epfungwa, havazivi kuti havatyi kuda. Murume asina rudo haagoni kurarama, anofanirwa kugamuchira ruzivo kubva murudo. Uye zvinotarisa kuti mumwe munhu anooneka, asi asingabvumi zvakakodzera, kwose kwose zvakavanzwa kuora mwoyo. Munhu akadaro mukati make anenge akaoma.
Anofunga kuti pane mitezo pose pose, kwose kwose kune masuo akavharwa. Rudo runouya, uye haagoni kuwana zvakakwana, kana kudziya, nekuda kwekuti hazviiti zvakakwana zvaanoda, izvo zvaakakwira nazvo mukusaziva kwake.
Haazokwanisa kuzviratidza pachake, nokuti anoziva kurwadziwa kwekutambudzika, uye kuti vanhu vose vakanga vasina hanya naye. Zvose zvinongoenda kune skew chete: zvinogona kuzarura, kana kuvanzwa. Ikoko ndiko kwose kwose zviyero zvakanyanya. Hapana kana mwana akadai mwana achafara. Ndizvo zvakaita munhu.
Saka zviri nani kwete kutamba nemweya wako. Vana vanoda kuve vakadzidziswa kuitira kuti vasave nemabasa akadaro avo vanodzidza kuti vasatya kutya. Nokuti pfungwa inowanikwa munyika. Uye kana mumwe munhu achienda ikoko, anounza chimwe chinhu, zvino inogara imomo. Uye vanouya nezvese, uye nguva dzose, vasina njere.
Zvose zvinoitwa kuitira kuti kubvira pakutanga chaiyo pfungwa yengwana yaiva zapichkan. Uye pakuguma, ava vana, uyezve vakuru, havagone kurarama hupenyu zvizere. Hupenyu hwavo hwose ivo vachada rudo, vanochida uye vanozvidzivirira. Nekuda kwekuti ivo vanotya kwazvo kusununguka, havazombotonhori.