Zvematongerwo enyika ndiro dombo rinokosha. Zvose mitemo yekuremekedza inoti: tati tapiwa rubatsiro, tinogara tichiti "ndinokutendai", tinoda kukumbira mumwe munhu kuti atiregerere, tinotanga neshoko rekumbira ruregerero. Nenzira, pamusoro pekupedzisira, kutanga kurapwa kwako neshoko "sorry" hazvirevi nguva dzose kuti waive nemhosva. Ndiyo imwe chete yemitemo yekuremekedza, iyo inoti iwe uri munhu akaberekwa zvakanaka. Dzimwe nguva kubvunzurudza muboka kune waanoshanda naye kunotakura iko kushungurudzwa kwake kubva kune ichi kana kuti basa - ndicho chikonzero chekukumbira ruregerero. Uye chii chandingataura - iyi ndiyo mitemo muboka, hatina kuisa, asi tinofanira kutevedzera kwavari. Kunyangwe, hongu, izvi zvinongova chidimbu chechando chemitemo yemitemo inokosha yekuremekedzwa muboka. Pashure pezvose, nekuda kwechikonzero, kune mamwe mimwe mamiriro ezvinhu apo munhu asingakwanisi kuita pasina shoko iri: kuve kunonoka kubasa (chiitiko chakajeka zvikuru chokukumbira ruregerero), kurongedza kana kurambidza musangano unokosha kana kusasangana chirongwa chebasa pane dzimwe nguva.
Zvechokwadi, mashoko okuonga kana kuregererwa haisi chinhu chinongova nyore kutendeseka kwevanhu uye kuratidza kuremekedza vamwe vavo. Kana uchitaura mazwi aya, uchitevera navo nekumwemwe kuseka, iwe pachako uchazviratidza uri parutivi rwakanaka uye uchakunda maitiro akanaka evamwe vako kune munhu wako.
Kunyangwe dzimwe nguva pane dzimwe nyaya dzakadaro kuti mamwe mazwi "magic" haabatsiri zvachose. Mune rimwe shoko, hatigoni kuwana mazwi akakodzera okugadzirisa mamiriro ezvinhu akabuda munzvimbo yebasa. Mienzaniso yekukakavadzana kwebasa iyi inogona kuva yakawanda: iwe wakakavadzana nomumwe mubhizimisi webhizimisi rinokosha (wakagumbura mutengesi), nekuda kwekutadza kwako kukurukurirana hakuna kumboitika nekudaro. Nzira yakanakisisa yekubuda mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, sezvo mabhuku ekutanga emitemo anoti, ndiyo tsamba yekuregerera inotsanangura kuti iwe uri kukanganisa uye iwe unokumbira ruregerero yako nokukurumidza kumubatanidzwa. Mushure mokutumira tsamba yakadai, unoda kudana uye kubvunza kana munhu wacho akaigamuchira uye kuti zviito zvaro zvinotevera zvichave zvakadini. Zvinotarisirwa netsamba yakadaro ndeye tsamba nechisimiriro chemukuru kune yako. Tsamba yekuregererwa inogona kunyorwa kana kunyorwa noruoko.
Imwe nheyo yemitemo yekuremekedzwa muboka ndeyokuti kunyanya kushandiswa kwemashoko se "sorry" uye "kuvonga" hakukurudziro zvachose. Yeuka kuti muzvinhu zvose uko kunofanira kuva nechiyero. Somuenzaniso, kana uri kutaura kune waunoshanda naye anonyatsobatana neprojekiti, zvauri kuita, tanga hurukuro yako yese nemashoko: "Ndine urombo nekuvhiringidza ..." isu hatitauri. Ziva kuti mukukurukurirana nevanoshanda navo kutanga kwekurapa kwako kunogona kudzivirirwa zvakachengeteka. Bvunza nei? Mhinduro yedu iri nyore: nemunhu uyu iwe unotaurirana pane chimwe chinokonzera uye chinonyanya kukosha, zvose zvinoitika munguva yekushanda. Chimwe chinhu - kudana kana kushanyira kune waunoshanda navo kumba kunze kwezuva rekushanda, hapana chikonzero chokukumbira ruregerero, kunyange iwe uri kudana kana kushanyira kwako kune imwe nyaya yakakomba. Asi panguva yekushanda kwemaawa ekuteerera iwe, kukubatsira iwe, kana kupindura mubvunzo wako, waunoshanda naye anenge ari chikwereti, sekunge iwe uri pamwe naye. Sezvo shoko iri richienda: ruoko ruri kushambidza ruoko, kunyanya kana ruoko urwu rune shamwari yakarurama. Kuderedza basa guru rebasa nekambani uye kusazvidza chikumbiro ndicho chakanyanya kukuremekedza munhu waunoshanda naye. Saka izvi zvinofanira kugara zvichiyeukwa. Asi, tinokukurudzira iwe, zvisinei, kuti utende shamwari iyo rubatsiro runoshandiswa mubasa rakaoma.
Muenzaniso wechipiri ndeyekunyanyisa kwebasa munzvimbo yebasa. Iwe wakashora - iwe wakakumbira kukanganwirwa, waida hutano, wakaonga. Zvose zvaizova zvakanaka, kunze kwekutanga. Kuregererwa kwako hazviiti zvachose zvakakosha, kwete chete kuti iwe unonyengedza, iwe uchiri kukanganisa munhu wese kubva kubasa mumashoko ako pachako. Nenzira, nekunyunyuta kwako wakaunza kushungurudzika iwe pachako. Isu tave taudzwa kwenguva refu kuti mitemo yepamutemo inosanganisira zvinosungirwa kuti "uve noutano" mushure mokunge sneezes ichinzwa. Mutemo uyu wakataurirwa kwatiri navekuru naamai vedu. Tichaparadza nhema idzi zvishomanana, tichiunza ruzivo rwenyu chokwadi chokuti munhu akaoma mwoyo kazhinji mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro anofanira kufungidzira kuti haana kunzwa chero zvachose. Nokudaro, usingaiti kunyadzisa munhu anonyara. Muenzaniso weizvi unogona kushanda semusangano unokosha, apo, nekuda kwekugara uchiderera, chishuvo chechivi chehutano chinogona kutanga kamwechete kubva kuvanhu makumi maviri. Pano zvichange zvakakosha kuwedzera: vanoda kutsvaga - ita zvinyararire sezvinobvira.
Uyewo tsika yekuwanzoshandisa mazwi okuonga panzvimbo yebasa inogona kugogodza pasi vashandi pamwe chete nepfungwa yakarurama inobatanidza nebasa. Semuenzaniso, wako-co-worker puzzles pamusoro peshumo yakakomba uye inokurumidza kana kuti kunyora zvinyorwa, uye iwe wakatora chiratidzo, ipeni penoro kana peni kubva kwaari. Kuzviisa padhesiki rake, iwe unoti "ndinokutendai", nokudaro kumugumbusa nemafungiro akanaka kana pfungwa. Funga nezvazvo, uye zvingava zviri nani kuisa chinhu chawakatora chinyararire patafura kunze kwekuvhiringidza mumwe wako. Pano iwewo une dambudziko rekuti iwe usati wataura mazwi okutanga ezvokutendeseka, zviri nani kutanga kutarisa mamiriro ezvinhu uye kunzwisisa, uye kana zvakakosha. Kunyanya pazvinouya kune vanhu vamunoshanda navo.
Iyi ndiyo nzira yemitemo yepamitemo yehutsika panzvimbo yebasa inotarisa. Mumwe munhu aanogona kushamiswa zvikuru, uye mumwe munhu angaita seanowanzoita uye anobatsira kuratidza ivo semunhu akachenjera muboka. Tinoda kuti iwe unzwe chete mazwi okuonga, uye kukumbira ruregerero zvishoma sezvingaita. Nhanho yakanaka!