Nguva yevadzidzi haisi makore mashanu chete, apo "kubva pamusangano kusvika kumusangano vadzidzi vanogara vachifara". Izvi, zvechokwadi, zvakare ndiyo nguva yorudo. Zvinowira kuti manzwiro anononoka anotungamirira kumhedziso yavo inonzwisisika - kuroorana. Mhuri yevadzidzi - yakanaka here kana yakaipa? Uye mhuri yakadaro yakasiyana sei nevamwe? Uye zvakasiyana here? Verenga mhinduro dzose dziri pasi apa.
Kunyange muchikamu chechipiri chezana remakore XIX muRussia, nguva yakanakisisa yekuroorana yaiva makore gumi nemaviri kusvika gumi nemasere nekuda kwevasikana, makore gumi nemaviri kusvika gumi nemakumi maviri. Nhasi makore 18-22 (yezera revunivhesiti vevadzidzi) inoonekwa sekare kare kuti varoorane. Sei? Vanhu vakatanga kukura zvishoma nezvishoma here? Uye zvichida haisi muhutano, psychology kana mamiriro emari? Zvichida chokwadi chokuti "vadzidzi vari kuroorana nekutanga" ndeimwe imwe nzira? Ngatiedzei kuzvinzwisisa.
Ndeipi kukurumidza?
Saka nei mhuri iyo yakanaka uye mhuri yemudzidzi yakaipa?
Alexei, makore makumi mana nemashanu.
Ndeupi wevadzidzi mhuri? Ivo chaizvoizvo vana! Mukuwedzera, hakuna dzimba, kwete mari! Hongu, hapana musoro kune mapepa! Munguva yedu, vechidiki vanhu vakange vakanyanya kukura, vaigona kuzvitarisira ivo pachavo. Uye zvino? Vachazvara mwana, vachaisa vabereki vavo pamutsipa wavo, uye havazivi kurwadziwa. Ichokwadi, vabereki vachakubatsira! Asi vana vakafunga nezvei pavakabereka vana vavo? Izvi, kana ndikati, "mudzimai", kunyange pasta haigoni kubika! Uye haadi. Uyu ndiwo mhuri here?
Mhedziso yakadaro, yakaratidzwa nemumiriri wezera rekare, zvichida haishamisi. Asi zvinotarisa kuti kukanganisa kwakadaro kwechikwata chekupedzisira kwewanano mumakore emudzidzi kunowanzoita chikamu chinokosha chevadzidzi vemazuva ano pachavo. Vanoda kutanga kuwana rusununguko rwezvokunyama uye chete ipapo vanogadzira mhuri.
Julia, ane makore 19.
Kutendeseka, handinzwisisi kuti nei ndichifanira kuroorwa panguva yekudzidza kwangu. Haugoni kumirira here? Mushure mezvose, hakuna munhu anodzivisa kusangana nemudiwa. Uye mhuri inorarama pane unyanzvi, nedudziro, haigoni kufara. Ndeipi mufaro uriko, kana pasina chinhu chokurarama uye chekunogara. Handiri kutaura pamusoro pezvishongo zvakanaka uye zvinonakidza zvekuzorora. Uye vana ... Pano, chokwadi, munhu wese anozvisarudzira iye oga, asi handingazobereki chero chinhu kusvikira ndapedza sangano uye hazvizogadziri mubhadharo. Murume - iye nhasi, asi kwete mangwana. Nzira yekurera mwana kumudzidzi-musikana? Asi iye ane mhosva yechecheche yake.
Vazhinji vechidiki pakutanga kwehupenyu hwavo hwemhuri vanotarisana nematambudziko avo vangave vakambonzwa kare, asi havana kufunga kuti vachazogadzirisa:
■ kusasha kwehuchenjeri hwekuchengetedza imba;
■ kusagadzikana kwevanhu;
■ Kushaiwa kwezvivako uye dzimba dzekugara (kwete zvikoro zvose zvinopa doro reimba);
■ kusanzwisiswa kwekudzidza ku yunivhesiti nekuita kwemabasa emhuri (zvikurukuru kuvanaamai vaduku vanofanira kutamira kune rimwe dhipatimendi rekunyora kana kuenda kuchikoro chekudzidza);
■ kunyanya kuvimba nevabereki, kunyanya mari, pamwe nekuchengetwa kwevana.
Kwete mufananidzo unofadza zvachose. Zvisinei, pasinei nekuramba kwakadaro kwevakadzi vakaroorana chete, vamwe vanoziva kuti mhuri yevadzidzi ...
Kwete zvakanyanya kupfuura vamwe!
Uyezve, mafungiro emhuri dzevadzidzi kubva kuvabereki, kutungamirirwa kwemashure epamusoro nemasangano pamwe chete ari kuchinja nenzira yakanaka. Zvinowedzera kuvhiringidza.
Andrew, ane makore 26.
Mune maonero angu, mhuri dzevadzidzi dzakasiyana nedzimwe. Mushure mezvose, vadzidzi - ivo vakangwara zvikuru uye mune zvemweya vakagadzirwa, avo vanonyanya kuziva nezvevechidiki, saka ivo vari, mumitemo, vakagadzirira kuroorana. Zvichida zvakashata apo mwana anotevera anova chikonzero chekuroora. Asi ini ndakanyatsopikisa kubvisa pamuviri. Kunyange zvazvo kuvepo kwevana, zvichida, hakubatsiri. Chete kumurume aripo nguva dzose ane chikonzero pamubvunzo wokuti, vanoti, mwana wacho muduku, mudzimai wacho muduku uye zvose. Nenzira, kana avo vakaroorana vadzidza pane imwe sangano, vanogonawo kubatsirana mune zvidzidzo. Uye muvanhu vose, kana vanhu vanonyatsodanana, saka vari pamapfudzi.
Oksana, wemakore makumi maviri nemaviri.
Kwandiri, mubvunzo "Kuti uve kana kuti kwete kuva mudzidzi wevadzidzi?" Hazvikoshi zvachose. Ini ndakaroorwa mugore rechitatu, uye mwanakomana wangu ava nemwedzi mitanhatu. Uye ini handina, kwete wechipiri, handina kuzvidemba. Ndizvo here kuti mwana akanga asingakwanisi kuronga, kana zvisina kudaro ndaizotungamirira mararamiro akanaka. Iye zvino ndiri mune zvidzidzo, murume wangu akatamira kune tsamba uye achishanda. Izvozvi, tine mari yakakwana. Zvechokwadi, kune matambudziko. Uye ndiani asina? Sezvo iwe wakapedza kudzidza kubva kuchikoro - uye zvinhu zvose, nzizi dzemukaka, puddles. Vashandi vechidiki vari kure nekuva nemari mikuru uye yeimba yavo - mune ramangwana riri kure. Kudyidzana kwezvemari uye kwepfungwa hazviuye nekukurumidza, uye kunyange kutouya zvachose. Kana ikozvino, mumakore emudzidzi, kwete kubereka, ipapo kuchava nezvikonzero zvakawanda zvekudzoka. Mukuwedzera, kana mwana wangu achikura, ini ndichiri muduku, ndinogona kuva mwana wangu kwete amai vakanaka chete, asiwo shamwari.
Nokudaro, kune dzichiri mhuri dzevadzidzi uye zvakanakira:
■ vechidiki (uye naizvozvo, makore emudzidzi) - nguva yakanakisisa kubva mune zvepfungwa uye zvepfungwa zvekuona kuroorana uye kuberekwa kwekutanga;
■ kuroorana kunogara kuri nani kupfuura ukama hwepedyo hwemhirizhonga, hwakapararira mumamiriro evechidiki;
■ Vadzidzi vemhuri vanonyanya kukosha pamusoro pezvidzidzo zvavo uye basa ravo rakasarudzwa;
■ hutano hwemhuri hunova nemigumisiro inobatsira pane zvinodiwa zvevadzidzi, inobatsira pakuvandudzwa kwezvido zvekuziva uye zvehupfumi;
■ Mishonga yakapedzeka mumakore ekukoreji inowanzotaridzika nehuwandu hwakawanda hwehutano hwakabva kune yevakaroorana kune rimwe boka revanhu vanoziva nezvevanhu, iro rinoratidzirwa nehuwandu hunowanikwa, humwe hutsika uye nzira yehupenyu.
Zvinopera kuti vadzidzi vanovaka mhuri vane dambudziko rimwechete-mutoro. Nokuda kwemweya wako, mukomana (atozviratidza, akarongeka kana asina kugadzirirwa) uye nokuda kwehupenyu hwako hweramangwana. Chizvarwa chekare chinopokana nekuti vadzidzi vanogona kutora zvakadai (uye kazhinji pane zvimwe) kutarisira uye variko pasina mumwe munhu (kunyanya pasina vabereki) rubatsiro. Asi usamupomera mhosva nokuda kwekusava nechokwadi uku. Mushure mezvose, vechidiki ivo pachavo vanofarira kudzorera chisarudzo che "vakuru" matambudziko gare gare. Pamwe, izvi zvakarurama. Asi chokwadi ndechokuti kune nhamba huru yevanhu vakakwana, yakagadzirirwa vanhu vasati vange vasingakwanisi kusarudza pane danho rinokosha. Vanhu vane motokari, imba uye basa rakanaka. Asi kusika mhuri, ivo vose havana chimwe chinhu. Zvichida ushingi? Uye zvakadini kana ikasawanikwa?
Kune rumwe rutivi, iwe unogona kuumba "chiitiko chokuvapo" che "vanhu vakuru." Ini ndicharoora, ndichabereka mwana. Uye ndizvo zvazviri, ini ndiri munhu mukuru! Asi mhuri haisi nyaya yenyasha, kwete kurota kwepiniki. Izvi ndezvokutanga pane zvose zvinogadziriswa zvemunhu mumwe nomumwe wekusununguka, kugadzirira kusangana nematambudziko ezuva nezuva. Ndizvo chete apa mamiriro acho ezvinhu, zvichida, kwete zvakanyanya pamakore chaiwo. Ichokwadi ndechokuti, munhu ane mhosva sei paanhanho dzake, angave akanzwa manzwiro echokwadi, kana achida "kuva pamwe mukurwara uye hutano, muhupfumi uye urombo ..." mumashoko uye mumabasa? " Uye kana achida, nguva ingava chipingamupinyi here? Mushure mezvose, vanamunini vakuru uye vanamunini vanoitawo zvikanganiso.
Teerera kune mwoyo wako. Shingaira kuongorora zvavanogona. Uye zvose zvichava zvakanaka newe. Mumakore emudzidzi uye anotevera.