Masayendisiti haana kurega kuvaka mazano akasiyana-siyana pamusoro pokuberekwa kwamababa. Kune dzidziso ye genetics, shanduro itsva dzinowedzerwa zuva rega rega. Zvinotendwa kuti zera, kudya uye kunyange kukura kweamai vari mberi kuchachinja kuberekwa kwamababa. Zvinonakidza kuti ukama huri pakati pemapatya hunogona kutevedzwa kumashure mudumbu, izvo zvinoreva kuti nzira yehudzo yavo inofanirawo kushandiswa munguva yakanaka. Unhu hupi hwemapatya akakurira mune imwe mhuri yemhando? Uye iwe unogona sei kuchinja izvi?
Mapatya panguva dzose aionekwa sevasina kujairika. Zvinyorwa zvavo ndezvechokwadi chokuti kubva pakuberekwa kwavo pachavo ukama hwakasiyana zvakakwana huri pakati pavo. Zuva rimwe nerimwe, ndichitarisa mumunin'ina kana hanzvadzi, segirasi, risingamboparadzanisi kweminiti, vana vanotanga kunzwa kuti sehafu yevose. Vanokura pamwe chete, vachitamba, vakadzidza kubva kune mumwe, vanoita zvakafanana, kunyange ruzivo uye vanonzwa sokunge. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinocherechedza kuti pane dzimwe nguva mapatya anogona kuona zviroto zvakafanana uye kunyange ane telepathy.
Asi, zvinoitika kuti vabereki, vanofadzwa nepfungwa yehukama hwakadaro hwevana, vanopa mababa pachavo. Mushure mezvose, vaviri vakanaka havakwanisi kunetseka - zvingangoti vauye nemamwe mabasa. Izvi ndizvo, asi zvisinei, kuitira kuti vana vazive kutarisana zvakanaka - kuonga kutsigirwa, kunzwisisa, rudo - uye panguva imwechete ivo vasingatarisiri zvakare kune mumwe nemumwe, vanoda rubatsiro uye kutarisirwa kwevabereki vavo. Hungu, kupa nguva muzvikamu zvisingaperi zvezvinhu zvekumba zvekudzidzisa - basa racho harisi nyore. Uye zvakadaro zvakakosha kuedza.
Nzira pamusoro pezvimwe
Dzimwe nguva vabereki havagoni kufungidzira kuti mapatya akakura mumhuri imwechete anovimbana.
"Ndakaenda kuzoshanda mwedzi mitanhatu mushure mekuberekwa kwaAndrew na Stepan," anodaro Elena, amai vemapatya avo. - Zvakanga zvakakodzera kuwana mari, uye ini ndakatarisira vana vose kumukoti. Zvaiita sokuti akandibata zvakanaka nedzidzo yevana vangu: kazhinji manheru vakomana vacho vakazvirumbidza kwandiri pamusoro pezvavakaita. Vakaratidza mifananidzo, vakaverenga, vakataurira nhau, vakaimba nziyo. Zvinosuruvarisa, handina kuisa pfungwa pane izvo Andrei ari kuverenga uye kundiudza, asi anofunga Stepka. Apo takasarudza tisati tanyoresa kuchikoro kuti tinyora mubhuku rekugadzirira, zvakazoitika kuti Andrei haana kunzwisisa chikwereti zvachose, uye Stepan anoziva chete kuwedzera mashandisiro kubva kune iyo tsamba iyo Andryushka inomuudza mhuri. Ndaifanira kukwereta nanny itsva, iye zvino aibata twese rimwe nerimwe maererano nezvaanoda. " Nyanzvi dzinocherechedza kuti kugoverwa kwakadaro kwebasa hakusi nyore mumaviri maviri. Izvo zvinoshanda zvakanaka kune mumwe hazvirevi zvimwe, nokuti vana vanogara vachigadzirana. Semugumisiro, vaviri vacho vanonyatsogadziriswa apo mapatya ari pamwe chete, asi mumwe nomumwe wavo anogona kutarisana nezvinetso zvakakura zvakasiyana. Kuti udzivise izvi, kubvira pauduku hwako, edza kuisa mukati mega rimwe nerimwe remapatya chido chokukudziridza unhu hwake. Iva iwe pachako, kwete imwe chete yezviviri.
Awiri kubatana.
Mapatya kazhinji haafariri kutora vausingazivi muhutano hwavo hwakanaka uye hwakanaka hwechokwadi: zvirokwazvo, sei kutsvaka shamwari kana kunzwisisa kwakadaro uye munhu wepedyo ari pedyo? Zvisinei, mukukura, mapatya achafanirwa kutaurirana nevanhu vakasiyana-siyana, uye nheyo dzekukurukurirana uku - kukwanisa kuita shamwari, kutsvaga kutengesa uye kugumisa dambudziko - rinofanira kudzidziswa nokukurumidza. Mukuwedzera, kukurukurirana neshamwari kunobatsira zvikuru mukukudziridza kuzvikudza kwakakwana. Mushure mezvose, umwe neumwe wemapatya anofanira kunge ane ruremekedzo kwete chete "ropa" ravo shamwari, asiwo shamwari chete mumitambo kana kudzidza. Nokudaro, nokukurumidza kana zvichibvira, kusvikira mapatya akavharwa munzanga yeumwe chete, edza kuvataurira kune vamwe vana. Kurudzirai vose vanoedza kuita shamwari kana kukoka shamwari kuti vadane rimwe remapatya kuti mushanyire. Uye regai mumwe mwana apedze manheru ose newe.
Nonideal hamahood
Pasinei nezvinobatanidzwa, pane kazhinji kupesana pakati pemapatya.
"Anya naVika, kazhinji vakanaka kwazvo uye vanoteerera, kamwe pakarepo vakatanga kuronga hondo chaiye," Svetlana, amai vemakore mashanu ane makore mapatya, anoti. "Tinofanira kungosiya, kukakavadzana kunopera pakarepo." Vanopika nokuda kwezvinhu zviduku zvese: ndiani achaenda nebhasi pahwindo, uyo achawana chimedu chekeki nechikamu chearamondi, uyo anogara naye kunze kwekudya kweguru. Uye pakarepo pavakagadzira chinotyisa, vachifunga kuti ndeupi wavo aiva nemarorike akawanda pamapuroni avo. Ndiri kungotya zvehupenyu hwavo! Handizivi kuti ndinovabatanidza sei. "
Chikonzero chinonyanya kukosha chekukakavadzana kwakadaro ndiko kukwikwidza kwezera remakore uye godo. Sezvo mutemo, mapatya anowanzoziva kuti ndiani ari nani uye mukuru wevadzidzi. Asi ruvengo runopera zvishoma, apo vana vanozopedzisira vagoita mabasa. Mumwe wemapatya achatora nzvimbo yemutungamiri, mumwe - muranda. Uye izvi zvakajairika. Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinofunga kuti "kuparadzana kwemakumbo" mumhando yemapatya akakurira mumhuri imwechete inowanikwa mu80% yematambudziko. Kazhinji kazhinji izvi zvinofanana nehutano hwemapatya maviri, uye haitungamiri pakudzingwa kwehumwe hunokosha hunokosha kana kuti kukurudzira kwehumwe humwe humwe humwe.
Zvakanaka, apo vana vari kurwisana - iva nemoyo murefu. Usabhadhara kurwisana kwezuva nezuva pakati pavo uye usapindira pasina chikonzero chakanaka. Uye, hongu, usakanganwa kuyeuchidza vana ruzivo rwakakura sei kuva neshamwari, munhu ave nemwi kubvira pakuberekwa, anoda uye anokunzwisisa iwe sewewe.
Zvikamu zvekudzidzira kaviri.
Pane imwe chete nzira yekudzidza pamusoro pematambudziko kana kuti zvinodiwa nemwana - kutaura naye. Ratidza kutarisa kune rimwe nerimwe mapatya (uye kwete kune ose maviri!).
Mapatya anoda avo, ivo chete ndevamwe vezvinhu. Munhu wose anofanira kuva nenzvimbo yake pachake mumba, zvinhu zvavo (chidimbu, tafura, chigaro, etc.), ivo pachavo. Uye, zvechokwadi, rake bhokisi rine tepi ndiro pfuma yake, iyo yaangasazogovana nemuvakidzani wake.
Batsira vana kuvaka chimiro chepfungwa chavo pachavo. Itai kuti munhu wese ave nezviyeuchidzo zvake, maonero avo, marota avo. Kuti vaite izvi, vanogona kuparadzana kwenguva pfupi: somuenzaniso, mumwe wavo anoenda kumusikisi, uye nemumwe - kumutambo webhola. Mumwe anotora pavhiki yekuenda kuna mbuya, uye pamwe chete nemumwe akagara pamba. Unogona kupa kuti uverenge mabhuku akasiyana-siyana, uye kurukurai kuti umwe neumwe wevana anofunga nezve nyaya. Uye, zvechokwadi, paunenge uchitaura nevana, edza kuvadzidzisa zvishoma nezvishoma kufunga kuti haisi nguva dzose panguva yakakodzera munun'una angave ari pedyo.
Gemini, kusiyana nehama nehanzvadzi dzega voga, anogona uye anofananirwa kunyange kufanana. Asi kwete nechinangwa chekugadzirisa mumwe kune mumwe, asi kuitira kuti adzokere zvakare kusimbisa maitiro ehupenyu hwomwana. Somuenzaniso, taura kuti: "Masha anoratidza zvakanaka, asi Vika anoimba zvinoshamisa."
Dana rimwe nerimwe mapatya nezita, uye kwete "vana." Kana iwe uchida chimwe chinhu kukumbira vana, vapei mabasa ega, ayo munhu wese ainzwa manzwiro ake uye anogona kukuudza kuti: "Ndakaita" - uye kwete: "Takadaro." Semuenzaniso, regai mumwe wevana apfeke pasi, uye mumwe achabvisa matayipi (uye kwete pamwe chete ivo vachaita chinhu chimwe chokutanga, uye imwezve).
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Kana hutano hwevana nehutano uye hutsika hwakafanana, uye panguva imwe chete vabereki kubva muzera remakore ekutanga vanovandudza nekuzvimirira kwemababa, saka, chokwadi, hakuzovi nechinhu chakaipa nekuti vana vachadzidza mune rimwe boka: kutanga muchechi yekuchikoro, ipapo kuchikoro. Kungokurukurirana nemudzidzisi kuitira kuti aenderere mberi kwekuparadzanisa vana. Ichokwadi kuti vana havafaniri kugara pane rimwe dawati, kuita chimwe chinhu chezviviri uye chechipiri pane zvimwe zviitiko. Asi kana mapatya akazvimirirana uye mumwe wevana ari mutungamiri akajeka, uye mumwe wacho zvakakwana zvachose kwaari, zvinonzwisisika kufunga nezvekuparadzanisa. Izvi zvichave zvinobatsira kumutungamiriri uye wingman. Mwana- "pasi" achava akazvimiririra (shure kwezvose, munhu akakurumbira ari kure, hakuna munhu anotarisira, tinofanira kuzviita isu pachedu). Mutungamiriri wechidiki achamira achimanikidzwa nehanzvadzi yake kana hama, dzidza kuva nemwoyo murefu kune vamwe (hazvisi nyore kutungamirira vamwe semapatya ake). Panguva imwecheteyo, inofanirwa kutarirwa mupfungwa kuti zvakare-kusimbiswa kuparadzana kwemapatya kunogona kuva kushungurudzika kwavari uye kunopisa simba pamusana pese kufambira mberi kwomwana. Saka, usaparadzanisa vana kwenguva yakareba. Maawa mashomanana pazuva nokuda kwevana vekuchikoro uye hafu yezuva yevana vechikoro zvakakwana kuita kuti mapatya azive ivo pachavo uye ave nemukana wokukurukurirana.