Zvizhinji zvezvirwere zvinonzi ne "chirwere chezana remakore rechi21". Nenzira, vazhinji vavo vanorapwa. Kunze kwekusurukirwa, chirwere chinotapukira chekubudirira, icho chiri kumhanya kwechirwere chinokanganisa vagari vemaguta makuru.
Pamusoro pemanzwiro aya, pamusoro pekusurukirwa - chirwere chepfungwa chemunhu oga uye zvakasiyana, nzira dzokukunda nadzo tichakuudza.
Zvingaita sekuti vanhu pavanoungana pasi pedenga reguta guru, vanhu vanofanira kunzwa vakabatana. Sei vanhu vari mumaguta ekumusha kunyanya vachifunga kuti iye oga? Iyo yakakwirira yehutano hwekusimudzira hupfumi, vanhu vanonyanya kugadzikana vanonzwa kusurukirwa kwavo uye kuwanda kwehuwandu hwekuzviuraya. Pakutanga, kuitira kuti vararame, zvakanga zvakafanira kuva nehupenyu hwakafanana hwehupenyu (vahedheni vaitsvaga pamwe mammoths, vachingobatanidzwa, vaiita mitambo yemitambo). Vanhu, chaizvoizvo, vakapona chete nokuti vakabatana. Nhasi, mari, ruzivo, zvishamiso zvesainzi uye teknolojia zvinoita kuti tive vakasununguka kune vamwe. Zvichida mumwe munhu pane imwe nzvimbo kwatiri anoita chimwe chinhu, asi, sekutonga, kure. Tinowana chigadzirwa chakapedzwa. Kusurukirwa chirwere chepfungwa chepfungwa, ndiyo inowanzosangana nematambudziko.
Kusurukirwa kwomwana chii - chirwere chepfungwa chemunhu chakasiyana nemunhu mukuru?
Kusurukirwa kunosuruvarisa kunowanikwa mukuyaruka: ndeye makore 14-16 epamusoro-soro yekuzviuraya. Mumakore aya, kubatana nemhuri yake kunoguma, ikozvino wechidiki anofanira kuenda mberi kwake uye mufananidzo wemhuri yakadaro kuronga nevasingazivi. Mweya wekufambisa inotungamirira wechidiki kutaura nemoyo wake. Chimwe chinhu chakafanana chiri kuitika muhuwandu hwemakungwa makuru. Vechidiki havagone kuratidza kuti vari muchikoro chakafanana, kusvikira vadzidziswa muboka remhuka duku. Pano vanogamuchira rusununguko, chinzvimbo chavo mune hurumende uye, kana vawana chiitiko ichi, kudzokera kuvanhu, kurwisana nevakuru. Vanhu havakwanisi zvakawanda kubva kwavari.
Mumwe mukomana kana musikana anobva mumhuri, akabatwa neboka revechiri kuyaruka, anonzwa mukati make pachake panzvimbo yake - ichi chiitiko chechisikigo, chechiitiko. Asi izvi zvakabuda pakubuda uye kutsvaka kambani yakafanana inorwadza zvikuru. Kana mwana wechidiki asingabudiriri kuwana boka rakadaro mukirasi kana kunze kwaro (nezvinodiwa), anonetseka zvikuru-saka kusava nechokwadi, kusavhiringidzika, zvinoshamisa uye zvinotambudza zvinogona kukonzera kuzviuraya uye kusurukirwa-chirwere chepfungwa chepfungwa. Kunyanya kunetseka nekusurukirwa - chirwere chepfungwa chemunhu asiri kurarama munguva yehuduku hwake hupenyu hwokuzvimiririra, akasiiwa kwaari. Kana kusurukirwa uku kwakararama makore 19-27, muhupenyu hutsva munhu achakoshesa zvikuru shamwari yake, zvakanyanya kumukanganwira.
Kwemakore, isu hatina mikana yekuita shamwari. Shamwari dzemakore emudzidzi dziri pedyo chaizvo. Munhu anorasikirwa noukama hwake hwehukama nezera here? Nguva yekuvakira ukama hwepedyo navanhu - vana, vakwegura, vakomana nevasikana vakagadzirwa kubva pamakore gumi nemasere kusvika makumi maviri. Kana mumakore aya mudzidzi achidzidza zvakasimba, agere kumba pamakombiyuta - haana shamwari. Munguva iyi zvakakosha "kubuda munyika", kuenda kune rimwe guta, kugara muimba yevasema nevasingazivi, kudzidza kudzidza mutauro wakafanana navo, kubatana uye kupedza nguva nevezera rako-vachagara shamwari dzeupenyu. Iyi ndiyo nguva yakanakisisa yekuumba shamwari dzepedyo. Mushure memakore makumi matatu, hukama hutsva hune ukama pamwe nekushandiswa (tinoshandisa shamwari itsva, anoshandisa isu). Mukutaurirana nevechidiki pane zvakawanda zvekutya, munhu, hwepedyo. Vanhu ava vanoziva zvakawanda pamusoro pedu, uye tinoziva zvakawanda pamusoro pavo. Navo unogona kugovera zvido zvako, kutya, kurarama zviitiko zvinokosha. Ivo zvapupu zvehupenyu hwedu. Apo patinosangana navo, tinogara tichinzwa kuwedzerwa kwesimba, kunyange kana tisina kutarisana kwenguva yakareba. Zvakakosha kugadzirisa mapoka akadaro kusvika makore makumi maviri nemashanu.
Sei nguva inofamba , uye haina kuonekwa zvachose?
Munguva yedu, vabereki vari kutarisira zvikuru vana. Nguva inokosha uye inokosha yekuparadzana - kuputsa kwepfungwa yepfungwa nemhuri - hazviitiki. Vechidiki vanomanikidzwa kurarama pasi pedenga rimwechete nevabereki vavo, vachikumbira mari pane imwe mafirimu - izvi chaizvoizvo zvinodzinga manzwiro evanhu vakuru.
Kana baba namai vauya nemwanasikana wavo kune dhongi uye vamirira pavanenge vachibuda kuti vadzokere shure, nemurume waanokwanisa kuziva? Zvakaoma zvikuru kumusikana wekumba kuti asarudze shamwari: shure kwezvose, anofanira kutungamirirwa nemhuri yose. Imwe inoratidzika isati yakachenjera zvakakwana kuti papa, wechipiri isati iri yakaoma-nekuda kweamai, uye musikana, ari kuvimba, haagoni kukanganwa maonero ehama. Vanasikana vanochengetwa vanogara pamba nguva iyo iwe unogona kutaura zvakasimba, kurarama zvakanyanya, mamiriro ezvinhu anonetsa, dzidza kunzwa uine chivimbo maari.
Ndezvipi zvinokonzera kusurukirwa zvinobva?
Iyi manzwiro okusurukirwa - chirwere chepfungwa chomunhu ane midzi yakadzika mupfungwa. Kuva muchizvaro, murume aive chikamu chechimwe chinhu kupfuura iye oga, akanzwa zvakanaka, akanzwa akadzivirirwa. Kuyeuka kwemaitiro aya akanaka nguva dzose kunotitungamirira kuwana vanhu uye mamiriro ezvinhu atingazviona isu tiri chikamu. Ndicho chikonzero iwe unogona kuimba nekufara kwakadaro muyimbi. Uye uite zvepabonde! Kukurukurirana kwepedyo kunotibvumira kwekanguva kuti titize kubva mukunetseka kwekusabatana. Asi kwechinguva. Zvichida munhu angadai akararama hupenyu hwake zvakasiyana, dai ainzwisisa zvakajeka kuti akanga ari oga. Ichokwadi, isu tose tinogara mumabhadharo edu uye hatigone kushamwaridzana nemunhu chero upi zvake. Pane dzimwe nguva dzekucheka kuwirirana nevamwe vanhu, asi izvi ndeyekunyengera. Seminwe yeminwe kana kutora pamashizha emuti mumwe chete haafaniri kufanana akafanana, vanhu havazombotaurirana - manzwiro ehukama hwepedyo achave kwenguva pfupi. Chirevo chekusingaperi chinouya chete apo patinenge tichidzidza kuchinjika muhukama.
Mushure mekuisa pangozi , kuratidzwa kune rumwe rudzi rwekudaidzira kwakaoma zvikuru - hakuna hutano hwekurarama uri woga, kunzwa munhu wako, tsvaga mapoka ako. Kuendesa mberi kudarika miganhu yemhuri yako kwakanyanya zvikuru nemakore 15-17, uye kana mhuri ichipa mwana mukana wekubva, achakura nokukurumidza, atange kufunga nekuzvichengeta pachake, vabereki vake. Pasi pomuoki weOki haukure - ichi ndicho chimiro chekukura.
Pasi pemadzimai (kana pasina kunaka) anogara achizara nevanhu, vamwe - vakachenjera uye vakanaka - vanogara vari voga - chirwere chepfungwa chevanhu. Chii chakavanzika? Nzira iyo munhu achakudziridza nayo ukama nevakomana vakasiyana-siyana, inonyanya kutarisa kuti mwana akabatanidzwa sei nevabereki, angave akanzwa kugamuchirwa kwavo. Kukwanisa kuda uye kunzwisisa vamwe kunobva pakugamuchirwa kwemwana kwemwana, uye kunonzi ndiko kuvimba kwekutanga munyika. Inoumbwa kusvika kumakore maviri - kusvika kuzera rino munhu anodzidza kuda, kunzwira tsitsi, kunzwisisa. Uye kana izvi zvikaitika, tiri kutendeseka kuburikidza nehupenyu, tichizvibatanidza mumatambudziko evamwe vanhu. Asi zvinoitika, ukama huri pamwe naamai uye mwana hunobatanidzwa zvakaoma. Ipapo munhu anokura daffodil - pamwoyo weunhu hwake unhu hunovimbiswa zvakasimba kuti iye ari pakati pezvinhu zvose zvinotungamira. Asi hupenyu hahune humwe hwemumwe nomumwe wedu, hunoenderera mberi sezvinowanzoitika, uye isu tinogona kutora chikamu mazviri, kana isu hatisi.
Saka, vanhu vasina kuroorwa nemasikirwo - daffodils? Zvimwe, pakati pavo mune dzimwe daffodils. Narcissism inotyisa yezana remakore rechi21, hutano hwepfungwa, kana mumwe munhu achidikanwa kungosimbisa oga oga! Paanonditarisa muziso, anokurumbidza-ndichava naye, pakarepo kana zvinonakidza zvapera, ndinosuruvara kuwana chimwe. Vanhu vakadaro vanoenda kuburikidza nehupenyu, vasingatauri kune vamwe, vanovashandisa, vachivashandisa. Panguva dzinonetsa, apo iwe unoda kuzvishandura iwe, shandura avo vari pedo navo. Upenyu hwavo hunoratidzika zvikuru, asi hunotyisa huri.
Pakati pedu pane vazhinji vasingagoni kumuremekedza mumwe munhu, kunzwa kuti iye oga. Uye uku ndiko kutukwa, nokuti kana tisingaoni runako kune vamwe vanhu, tinopendesa nyika nepepuru dema-hapana chinhu chinonakidza mairi. Uye zvino tine rudo ruduku zvikuru, hatisi kubatana nechinhu chero chipi zvacho uye hatizivi kuti tingashandise sei kushandura simba nevamwe. Tinozviisa tiri mujeri uye tinogara mairi tisina pfungwa.
Pane pfungwa: kuitira kuti ugadzirise ukama hutsva, unofanira kusiya nzvimbo yavo.
Ichokwadi here?
Kusurukirwa kwakaipisisa ndiko kurwara kwepfungwa kwomunhu - uku kusurukirwa ndoga. Kana vaviri vakaroorana, kazhinji hapana munhu anooneka pakati pavo. Izvozvo ndizvo tsika: shure kwezvose, vakavimbana nguva yavo, kutarisira, hupenyu hwavo. Uye hapana anoziva kusurukirwa kweizvi. Vangave vasingakwanisi kutaura, vakakura kubva kune mumwe, asi kugara pamwe chete. Kuti hukama hutsva hubude, munhu anofanira kunzwisisa kuti akasununguka. Kuroorana inzira inopesana nekutsvaga (iwe hauna kukwana: pamusoro pei, iwe uye kuti unogona kukurukurirana nevanaani, panguva ipi yekudzokera kumba, nzira yekutsanangurira kudzoka kwako gare gare). Uye hausi kunyange kuvapo kwechitema mupasipoti. Zvakakosha kunzwa mukati momumwe musina. Pane imwe nguva ndakanga ndine muchengeti mukupa mazano, ayo murume wehurumende asina kupa imba kwenguva yakareba. Zvakazoitika kuti murume wake wekare akanga atora hupenyu hwake hwakawanda, ivo vakaparadzana zvakanaka, kazhinji vakaungana, vakakurukura nyaya dzakafanana. Asi rimwe zuva pamusangano wenguva dzose pamwe naye mukadzi aiva nemubvunzo: ndiri kuitei nemunhu uyu? Ndiri kuuraya nguva! Uye zuva rakatevera murume wake akamukoka kuti amuroore. Kutanga ukama hutsva, unoda kupedza yekare. Kunyange zvazvo iyi isiri dzidziso. Vamwe vanhu vane mwoyo wakakwana uye rudo kune vazhinji: shure kwezvose, tinoda munhu wese nenzira dzakasiyana.
Nzira yekuputsa sei mutambo wezuva rimwe chete?
Kutanga, iwe unoda kunzwisisa kuti iwe uchange uine kusurukirwa uye usinganzwisisi zvakakwana nomumwe munhu, uye iwe pachako haunganzwisisi zvachose zvachose. Nhanho yechipiri kuziva: sezvo iwe uri woga, saka vamwe vose vari sega sewe. Iwe unogona kutaura kune ani zvake uye unowana mutauro wakafanana, kana bedzi nokuti iwe unobatana neusurukirwa. Danho rechitatu - sezvo isu tose tiri voga - ngatitei pamwe chete nezvimwe zvinoita kuti tive nejeri. Tinofanira kubuda munzvimbo yedu yakavharwa - kutora danho rokutanga kune mumwe munhu uye pamwe nemunhu kuti atange kuita chimwe chinhu. Pane imwe nguva, manheru egore idzva, musikana wechiduku akauya kwandiri kuti aone. Akanyunyuta kuti akanga ari oga akasurukirwa uye akamanikidzwa kupemberera Gore Idzva nevabereki vake. Ndakamubvunza kuti: "Uye vazhinji venyu vari kubasa ndeavo vasingazivi kuti vazopemberera Gore Idzva?" Zvakazoitika, kwete zvishoma. Uye ndakafunga kuti: "Saka ita kuti vave Gore Idzva!
Unganidza pamwe , enda kune mamwe mashanu akafanana. Rongedza rwendo, enda kunodzidza kutamba sa salsa, tora nguva yako yekuzorora - uuye navo pfungwa. " Buda kubva kune imwe nyika-mukuita. Kumadokero, kune mavambo akawanda anoputsa denderedzwa iyi - kuzvipira pamahoflines ezvekutsvaga kana chiito chakakurumbira-kuva godfather kana amai kune mumwe mwana. Vanhu veAmerica ndivo pragmatic, asi vakanzwisisa: mupiro wenguva nemari kune ukama hwakadaro hunopa hupenyu hurefu. Zvimwe zvirongwa uye zvinetso zvatinazvo, kunyanya simba.