Imwe yezvinetso zvinowanzosangana nevanhu pavanoroorazve vanoonekwa segodo remwana kubva kumuchato wokutanga. Chokutanga, godo iri harina kufanana nechecheche chete, asiwo neukama hwemurume nemukadzi wekare uye amai venguva yakazara yemwana uyu. Pano iwe unogona zvakare kurondedzera matambudziko muhukama hwechipiri mudzimai nemwana wemurume wake kubva kumuchato wokutanga.
Vakaroorana vechipiri kazhinji havagoni kugoverana nemunhu uye nguva yake yekusununguka pakati pake nemwana kubva kune wakambochata. Izvi ndizvo chaizvo zvinokonzera vakadzi godo remwana kubva kumhuri yavo yekutanga. Chero chipi zvacho chaunotaura, chikamu chikuru chechakaipa mumamiriro ezvinhu aya chinoenda kumucheche, nokuti mwana anowanzova "apple yenyongano" mumhuri itsva.
Nzira yekukunda sei godo nekuchengetedza ushamwari nemwana?
Iwe unofanirwa kugamuchira chokwadi chokuti kuitira kuchengetedza imba yako uye kukunda nyasha yakakwana yomunhu waunoda, iwe unofanirwa nemoyo murefu nekushivirira kunobata mwana wako wedangwe. Ichi ndicho chinhu chinokosha muupenyu hwemhuri yako pasina dambudziko. Yeuka kuti mudzimai ane rudo zvechokwadi anokwanisa kugamuchira murume wake pamwe chete nemakambani emhuri akapfuura uye, maererano naizvozvo, vana vanobva kwavari. Kana mudzimai wechipiri asingakwanisi kugamuchira zvakaitika kare kune waanoda uye akavanza manzwiro e godo nokuda kweizvi (kare mubvunzo wemwana), saka haagamuchiri iye pachake.
Ndezvipi zvakajeka kuzvibata maererano newaimbova mudzimai nemwana wemurume kubva kumuchato wokutanga?
Iko nguva dzose inofanirwa kuyeuka kuti wekare-mudzimai wemunhu anodiwa haafaniri kunetseka pamusoro pehupenyu hwepfungwa hwemudzimai iye zvino. Anorarama hupenyu hwake uye manzwiro emukadzi wake wechipiri akapfuura. Anogona kunge ari mumvura yakadzika semukadzi uye anogona kufunga nezvegodo redu pane iwe, asi iye zvechokwadi haazoregi pamusoro pake, achidzivisa murume wake wekare kuti ataure nemwana.
Kana iwe uri godo recheche, zvino mune maonero evepfungwa dzepfungwa, iwe neimwe nzira unonzwa uine mhosva yekutadza. Mushure mezvose, uyo akaroorana naye mumamiriro ezvinhu aya akabatwa, uye iwe pamutengo wake uye nhoroondo yevana vavo vakavigwa vanosimbisa ukama hwavo. Iwe unofanirwa kufungisisa nzvimbo yako uye uswededze nyaya iyi nemutoro nekuremekedza.
Izvitsaurire kune chokwadi chokuti wekare-mudzimai nemurume wako vane kodzero dzose dzekutaurirana uye kusimudzira vana vavo. Kubva apa haugoni kupukunyuka. Mukuwedzera, wako wako ari kuita izvi kuitira kuchengetedza hukama hwemwana. Uyu wekare-mudzimai pamwe chete nemwana ane kodzero yakakwana yekudana mumba mako uye kugoverana nababa vako pamusoro pezviri kuitika, uye kana zvichifanira kunyange kukumbira rubatsiro, zvose zvemweya uye zvinhu. Kushivirira uye kunzwisisa ndeyemashoko makuru anofanirwa kutsiva godo risina njere.
Tinosika mhuri yedu ine utano tisingaiti godo
Kana iwe uchida kuti mhuri yako ive yakasimba uye inofara, usambovhiringidza murume wako nezvekunzwa kwako negodo pamusoro pomwana kubva kumuchato wokutanga uye, kunyanya, uyo akambova mudzimai. Chengetedza iyo nzira yose iwe pachako, nokuti kujekesa kwakanyanya kwehukama panyaya iyi kunogona kuderedza zvachose kuroorana. Murume haazombodi mwana wake pasi iwe uye zvakakosha kuyeuka.
Usarega kutaura kwemurume nemucheche kubva kumuchato wokutanga. Edzai munzira dzose kuti muve nekutaurirana kwakanaka nemwana, asi kungotaura chete, uye kwete kubatana nekubatsirwa kwezvipo. Pane zviitiko apo wekare-mudzimai pachake anodzivisa kutaura kwemwana nemudzimai mutsva muhupenyu hwababa. Asi, sekutonga, izvi ndezvechokwadi mugore rokutanga mushure mekurambana.
Uye kugadzirisa nyaya yacho, yeuka kuti murume uyo, nokuda kwemukadzi iye zvino, anokwanisa kurega kukurukura nemwana kubva kune akaroora, pane munhu anovimba uye asina simba. Kwete iyo iyo nguva ichauya, uye iwe hauzozvinzwi iwe pachako. Zvakanaka uye zvakajairika kana murume muwanano wechipiri ane hanya nevana kubva kune akaroorana uye akambokurukurirana zvakanaka neshamwari yekare.
Uye kana iwe uine vana vanowanzogara, usaomesa kuti ivo vanokosha kupfuura yekutanga. Haisi mune kodzero yako yekukumbira kuti vana vako vatore nzvimbo iyi. Papa anofanira kukwanisa kutaura pamwe chete nevana kubva mubatanidzwa wekutanga, uye pamwe chete.