Nguva yemichina haina kudzoka shure
Zvechokwadi, mavhareji arithmetic mufaro haagoni kuderedzwa. Hungu, kusawirirana kunoitikawo pakati pevakaroorana, kana maonero avo pamusoro pehupenyu haafanane. Asi, maererano nekucherechedza kwevepfungwa dzepfungwa, vakaroorana vane musiyano muzera remakore manomwe kana kupfuura vanowanzorambana kupfuura vanhu pakati pavo vane kusiyana kwezera risingakoshi.
Chii chakaipa izvi zvinomwe? Chizvarwa chinokanganisa chinokanganisa. Murume nemukadzi vakadzidza tsika dzakasiyana-siyana, uye vangasanzwisisa mutauro wemutauro wemutauro. Semuenzaniso, murume - wekuzvarwa weperestroika wema80, apo mhepo yekushandura yakapa rusununguko rwekusununguko mushure mekuoma nesimba kubva muhurumende. Vakatendeka vake vakakurira munguva yekusununguka kwemasango emakore ekuma90 - nguva yezvimwe zvinhu zvinokosha: kurarama nekuwana mari. Kuvhiringidzika muhukama, kuroorana uye musiyano munguva yevakaroorana ichawedzera nekusiyana kwezvinangwa zvehupenyu. Makore makumi maviri ndinoda kudzidza, kudzidza zvinhu zvitsva. Zvinoshanduka, nyore nyore kutarisa kune zvisingasviki mamiriro ezvinhu uye zvakanyanya kufanana. Vana makumi mana vane makore vari kuedza kudzikama. Ivo vakachenjera uye vane usimbe. Zviri nyore here kuenderera mberi nekukura kwevaduku? Asi, kwete chaizvo. Chibvumirano chinova kupiwa mhosva kwevanoda mararamiro akadaro haabvumirwi. Skew kutarisa kwevanopfuura-neve, makuhwa evamwe vanoziva haabviri kukonzera mamiriro okunze mhepo mukati meimba, asi kusagutsikana kwevabereki (iye) kunogona kuparadza mhuri idyll. Chimwe chigumbuso chinokanganisika. Mumwe mukomana muduku kana anopfuura wakakura angakonzera kune imwe, kunzwa kunzwa kwepabonde kune imwechetezera.
Zvisinei , maererano nedzimwe nyanzvi, kune vanhu vasingararami zvepfungwa munguva yavo. Pamakumi maviri nemashanu, ivo vanogara, vane njere, vanofarira tsika dzekare. Kwavari, chokwadi, mudzimai kana mudzimai wako 40+ yakakwana zvakakwana. Uye, pane zvinopesana, kune vanhu vari vaduku zvikuru mumweya kupfuura vezera ravo. Ivo vanonyanya kusununguka kubatanidza fate nomumwe munhu muduku. Nenzira, uye musiyano muzera unoonekwa nemurume nemudzimai zvakasiyana. Murume anokwanisa kuva mukuru wemakore masere kupfuura mudzimai wake, uye iye nehama dzake vachaita zvinyararire kune iyi imba. Zvinotendwa kuti vakadzi vanorasikirwa nekukwevedza pamberi pevarume - uye nekufamba kwenguva muganhu wemakore uchatsvaga. Muitiro weKieg psychologists pane imwe nyaya apo mukadzi akwegura kupfuura murume kwemakore mashomanana chete, hama dzake hadzina kubvumira. Hungu, uye mukomana wacho ainyara kunyadziswa kuti iye waanoda ndiye mukuru, kunyange kubva pakuona kwevanodzidza nezvepfungwa, ivo vezera rako. Kunyangwe kana mudzimai wacho akwegura kupfuura mudzimai wake kwemakore gumi (asi kwete zvakare!), Kusiyana kwepakati pakati pavo kunogona kusanzwika. Asi kana murume "achibuda" murume wake kwemakore 6-7 - izvi zvakasiyana chaizvo.
Chii chakaunza iwe neni pamwe chete
Sei vanhu vakadaro vachichinja? Inonyanya kutenda kuti mumwe munhu akakura mumudzimu anokonzerwa nemasimba akawanda "ane ruvara", achiri muduku pamwoyo, kurarama muwanano uye musiyano muzera nemumwe wako. Vechidiki - vanogadziriswa nehupenyu hwehupenyu, vanowana rubatsiro. Vose vari vaviri vanofunga nezvepfungwa. Hazvisi zvachose: ivo vakabatana nekunzwa kwakadzama. Asi kakawanda nguva dzisina kufanana dzakaroorana dzinogamuchirwa nevaya avo muhucheche havana kupona kana kuti vasina kuparadzanisa kuparadzana (kuparadzana) kubva kuvabereki vavo. Somuenzaniso, baba vangu vakasiya mwanasikana wangu-akasiya amai vangu kune mumwe mukadzi. Kana kuti mubereki akanga akanyanya kuoma, uyewo akadzora mwanasikana. Paanokura, achanyatsotarisa anotarisa mumwe mukadzi anenge akwegura kupfuura iyeye - unotsiva mupfungwa kuna baba vake. Zvingava zviri nyore kwaari kuti ataure nevarume vaduku vaduku zvikuru - haasi mupfungwa asi akaibva. Murume uyu akaparadzana naamai here? Kana, zvakasiyana, haana kurarama nemurume aidiwa kwaari?
Achavaka hukama ne "mummai mupfungwa" - mukadzi akakura kupfuura iye. Mukubvumirana kwevechidiki vanobatana uye vanogutsikana nababa kana kuti vanaamai vemazuva mashoma. Somuenzaniso, murume akarambana nomudzimai wake, kazhinji haasi kuona mwanasikana wake, uye anozviwana pachake "anenge ari mwanasikana," mudzimai wechidiki. Ndizvo zvakaita mudzimai. Kana mwana wavo mukuru ari kuvaka hupenyu huri kuzvimiririra (uye achiri achiri mubasa reamai!), Mukadzi anogona kutsvaga mupfungwa "mwanakomana", murume wechidiki.
Ukama hwakadaro , maererano nevanofunga nezvepfungwa, vane nguva pfupi. Mukadzi anogona kunetseka nebasa romwanasikana kana amai, uye murume - baba kana mwanakomana muduku. Uye kana pasina zvinhu zvakajairika uye manzwiro akadzama, imba inoparara. Mhuri yakasimba zvikuru, umo hukama hunovakwa pamhando ye "mudzidzisi-mudzidzi". Imba iyi inowanzopedzwa pakati pevanhu vakagadzirira: yakatova nokuwana mukurumbira, uye inotanga rwendo rwayo. Musikana anova murume uye musemu, uye munyori. Uye inokurudzira kusika mabasa matsva, uye inounganidza zvisikwa zvegenius pakombiyuta. Murume achabatanidzwa kune mubatsiri akadaro. Kunyanya kana iye akaroorwa kechipiri, uye wekutanga waakaroorana naye aiva wepikisano mupfungwa yepamhizha kana kungozvimiririra uye kuzvimirira, haana kutsigira zvaakaita.
Vanhu vakakura mumutambo wechidiki nekuyeuka rudo rwevechidiki. Musikana anogona kukuyeuchidza munyoro anokudzwa we rudo rwake rwekutanga, uye mukomana achakurudzira mumweya wekadzi weBalzac yezera rake rekudzidza kwake. Ukama hwakadaro hunovakirwa pamashiripiti. Nokukurumidza, vanoda vanoziva: nguva haigoni kudzorerwa shure, fungiro iri pamberi pavo, muchokwadi avo vakasarudzwa vamwe. Uye mapoka maviri aya anowanzosiyana. Muenzaniso wemhuri iyiwo nharo yakakosha mukuda kwemichato nemusiyano weN. Baba vane vakwegura kupfuura amai kune makore anenge gumi nemaviri, vanorarama mweya nemweya. Mwanakomana wavo, zvichida, anoda "hafu" yake kuva muduku, uye mwanasikana wake acharota mudzimai akakura. Zvichida imba yavo ichabudirirawo kana kushamwaridzana nemukomana kunowanikwa.
Vose baba kana murume
Iri dombo remvura pasi pemubatanidzwa akadaro ndiko kusakwanisa kukurukurirana. Kazhinji murume ane mudzimai wechidiki, anobhadhara zvidzidzo zvake uye zvinokuvaraidza. Ivo, kazhinji, havawanzoonekwi. Anonyangarika kubasa, iye-anopa nguva yakawanda kune shamwari dzake. Kukwana kwekukurukurirana kunogona kudziviswa kana musikana akadzidza kurarama zvinodiwa nemurume wake.
Asi zvakare zvinodiwa kuti munhu arege kuomesera, kuedza kutarisa nyika kuburikidza nemaziso evechidiki. Kuita izvi, marwadzo, hazvisi nyore: murume mushure memakore makumi matatu nemakumi mana kazhinji haadi kuchinja tsika dzake. Zvisinei, kana izvi zvikaitika, ipapo mubairo uchava kuwirirana mumhuri. Chakavanzika chekutya mumwe munhu akaroorana naye chinogona kunge kurasikirwa kwesimba revarume. Kazhinji zvinoratidzika kwaari: haagutsiri chido chepabonde chemukadzi wechidiki, achachichinjanisa kune mudiwa wechidiki. Pane godo, kusafungira. Mukadzi anofanira kunzwisisa manzwiro ewakasarudzwa, edza kumubvumira zvepasinei. Kana zvichidikanwa, vaviri vacho vanogona kushanda kumunhu wepfungwa
Iwe jaya, kukoka kuti utambe!
Mukadzi uyo akwegura zvikuru kupfuura iye akatendeka achave akakwanisa kushanyira saroni, tarisa uremu. Ichi ndicho chekuwedzera. Asi ichagamuchirwa
kuverenga kangani nguva yaakatarisa wake odnodokam. Izvi zvinowanzogumbura. Uye kunyange kana murume ari musoro pamusoro pezvitsitsinho murudo nemukadzi wake wakakura mumoyo, anogona kukonzera kwaari uye kubva. Nyanzvi dzinokurudzira kuti dzisafunge pamusoro pekutya kwavo, asi kusimbisa nhengo dzakanaka dzebato. Pashure pezvose, chimwe chinhu chinokwezva murume mamuri? Kazhinji mukadzikadzi - 40+ "vanamuko" vaduku vakasanangurwa, anova iye "pfungwa" mupfungwa. Kwenguva yakati, murume anoifarira (kunyanya kana akashaya vana vanamai). Asi iye zvino achaneta nemafungiro aya, iye pachake anoda kutarisira mumwe munhu. Uye uwane imwe. Chinhu chinokosha kuvasikana vakakura hazvirevi kuva mamai kumurume wavo, asi kuedza kukurukura naye pane imwe nhanho.
Apo makore anopa
Chiyero pakati pezvizvarwa ndezvekuti kubatsirana kwevakaroorana - kana vaviri vacho vachiedza kugovana zviitiko uye vanonzwa mumwe nomumwe. Nguva yekusagadzikana inonyanya kunaka kuvanhu vanogadzira. Muduku haazoregi mukuru wacho akure, ozarura mutsva. Murume akakura achabatsira jaya iri mubasa rake. Kuparara kwenguva pfupi kunobatsira kukura pakunamata kwevakaroorana. Asi kune vagari venyika, kubva kumabasa ekusika ekure kure, kusiyana kukuru hakusi kwakaipa. Vakasarudzwa vakwegura? Kana kuti muduku? Uye muzviitiko zvose mukadzi ane mabhonasi ake. Mumwe murume akakura anopa pfungwa yekudzikama - mari uye manzwiro. Mudiki wacho anobatsira kuti arege kurasikirwa nezwi (mukadzi wacho akanyatsocherechedza). Uye, pakupedzisira, kuroorana kunongova zvakanaka chete! Uye musiyano wei pakati pemakore ekare pakati pavo?