Pazera remakore gumi namanomwe, vechidiki vazhinji vanofunga nezvehupenyu hwavo hwemangwana. Uye izvi hazvisi kungosarudzwa kwebasa, nzvimbo yebasa kana kudzidziswa. Ichi ichiri chirevo chekuita basa rehupenyu hwavo, ivo pachavo. Pane kushungurudzika kukuru, kusahadzika, kutya.
Vamwe vevechiri kuyaruka vanovanza kubva pakuzvidya mwoyo, vari kushingaira kudzidza zvinyorwa zvekuongorora kwekupedzisira, vachiita mabasa ose epamba. Nezvichaitika pashure pokunge apedza kudzidza, vanoedza kusatombofunga.
Imwe chikamu chevachazopedza kudzidza vanoedza kuzadza hupenyu hwavo ne "mapato", "kunyangarika", i.e. ivo "vanobvarura" pasi pechirongwa chakazara - mabhadha, discotheques, booze, kuenda kune dacha, nezvimwewo. Saka, nguva yekusarudza matanho emangwana uye kunyatsogadziriswa kwayo kuri kusimbiswa.
Uye mwana wako ariwo ane hanya, anotya kutora mutoro wemukana wezveramangwana rake. Saka, vabereki vanofanira kuziva nzira yekubatsira mwana kuti asarudze nzira inoenda kune ramangwana basa.
Chokutanga funga, unoziva zvinodiwa nemwana wako here?
1. Ndeupi huwandu huri nani kune mwana?
- humanitarian;
- nhoroondo uye zvemagariro;
- economic;
- zvisikwa;
- mathematical;
- teknolojia.
2. Ko maonero omwana wako akafanana neawo mune ramangwana rake?
- hongu;
- kwete;
- Handizivi;
- maonero ake haafariri ini.
3. Ndeipi nzira yaunoshandisa kuti uone mwana wemangwana?
- dating;
- mari yemikana;
- zvinodiwa nevana;
- tinoedza kubatanidza zvose.
4. Ndezvipi zvinodiwa nemwana wako izvo zvichamubatsira, mumaonero ako, kushanda kubudirira muhutano hwakasarudzwa?
Muna 1998, 9333 mabasa akaunzwa kunyika yose, muRussia neUkraine - 7000 professions. Gore rega rega mapurogiramu 500 ari kuvandudzwa.
Pamberi pacho, basa racho rakasarudzwa nokugadzirisa unhu hwavo hwepamhizha, vachizvienzanisa nehuwandu (basa nokuda kwebasa uye nokuda kwekuda kwavo uye kukura kwevashandi). Iye zvino basa racho inzira yekuwana mararamiro aidiwa (ihwo hunodiwa hunosarudzwa kuitira kuti uve nehutano hwemagariro evanhu munharaunda uye uwane mari inowirirana).
Kukurumidzira ndicho chikonzero chekukura kwepabonde kunouya pakutanga, uye mupfungwa mushure mekunge. Nokudaro, kukura mumuviri uye pachedu hazvibvumirane munguva.
Nharaunda yekuzviziva-makore 40 - 50 apfuura yakaitwa mumakore 17 kusvika ku19, ikozvino yakatangwa mumakore 23 kusvika ku25.
Uye ikozvino tichakurukura zvinhu izvo zvinokosha maererano nehupenyu hwemakore makuru emasangano emwana wenyu, izvo, kunyange kuziva pamusoro pavo, isu dzimwe nguva hatisi kuteerera.
Saka, chii chaunofanira kuyeuka.
- Izvo sangano rine ine yakakodzera yekubvumirwa here? (III-IV).
- Iko sangano apo mwana wako achadzidza ane permiti yehupupuriro ichi?
- Pane kugoverwa pakuyerera kwemapoka maererano nehuwandu hwezivo here?
- Chirongwa chacho chakanyatsobatanidzwa neyemasangano emasangano kune dzimwe nyika here?
- Iko sangano rine mukana wekutora chikamu mumishonga epasi rose, makwikwi, marushanwa?
- Zvinokwanisika here kuwana rugwaro pamusoro pekuumbwa kweEuropean model?
- Pane imwe mukana webasa muhutano here? Ndeapi uye ndeapi avo vanozopedza Chikoro cheunyanzvi hwenyu vanoshanda?
Izvi zvinotevera zvinofanira kufungwa nezvazvo: pasinei nezvichaitika mune ramangwana, mwana anofanira kutarirwa kuitira kuti aedze kugara muguta kana apedza kudzidza, kana zviri nani-akawana basa mumakore ekupedzisira.
Izvi zvichaita kuti uve nechokwadi cheunyanzvi hwako, kuwana unyanzvi hwemhizha hwakakodzera, uwane mari yako uye uwane kupa ruzivo rwako uye unyanzvi kune mumwe mushandirwi. Nenzira iri nyore, vabereki havana kupedza mari yavo, nguva, kubatana, kudzokera kumusha, mwana wavo akaramba asina kushanda kana kushanda kwete kwekuda kwake, kana kuti mubhadharo maduku.
Asi pano zvakakosha kuziva mwana wacho pachake: chii chaanoda kuzadzikisa uye sei, chii chinotora nzvimbo yekugadzirisa muhurongwa hwake hwekukosha - unyanzvi hwokukura, mhuri yekunyaradza, kana chimwe chinhu?
Inofanirawo kutaurwa kuti kuburikidza nekubhadhara kurovedzwa, unofanira kutanga uchinyore uye usayina chibvumirano chekubhadhara kwemashumiro edzidzo. Uye pane zviitiko zvinokosha zvaunofanira kubhadhara kune:
- Kubhadhara kunoitwa sei - semester, gore negore, muzvikamu, kwenguva yose yekudzidza?
- Ndezvipi zvinoshandiswa mukubhadhara zvinokwanisika nematongerwo enyika?
- Ndezvipi zvikomborero zvakapiwa kuvadzidzi vane unyanzvi hwakanaka hwemhizha uye vanovanyatsoratidza?
- Inguva ipi yekubhadhara uye zvikwereti kana kukanganisa?
- Ndezvipi zviripo uye mikana yekudzoka kwemari yakabhadharwa nguva isati yapfuura, kana kutumira mwana kune imwe nzira yekudzidziswa?
Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Carl Rogers akatsanangura munhu mukuru akwanisa kushanda nekuda. Ichokwadi, izvi hazvisi ruzivo rwakananga, uye mwana anozozviziva zvishoma nezvishoma. Kana mwana akabvunza mibvunzo yakaoma pamusoro pokugadzwa kwake, kusarudza kwake hupenyu, anofunga kuti nei akauya munyika ino, iye atotora matanho ekutanga kuti ave munhu akakura, ane hanya uye munhu chaiye munhu mukuru.
Tinogona kubatsira vana kuwana ruzivo, asi ivo chete ndivo vanofanira kushanda pairi uye kubudirira kubudirira.