Ngatinyatsoongororei: pane here zvinobatsira kune dzidzo yakasimba yevana vane bhanhire, kana kuti inguva yakaipa chiitiko icho vabereki havafanirwe kushanduka kune zvachose, kana kushandisa zvakanyanya.
Vabereki, pakutanga, unofanira kuyeuka chimwe chinhu: bhanhire iwe haungauyi chokwadi mu mbongoro yemwana wako. Iwe unongomuvimbisa zvakare kuti munyika ino chete simba remuviri rinoita mitemo.
Pamwechete, kana tikatarisa dzidzo yakaoma senzira inokosha yezviito uye zviito zvevabereki - saka izvi zvakajairika. Ndicho chikonzero ichi chiri kurera kutungamira uye pane imwe nzvimbo kutungamirira, kusundidzira vana vavo pane chimwe chinhu chakakodzera, chinodiwa.
Kunyange, kana iwe uchifunga nezvazvo, isu tose, vabereki, tinoda kurera vana vavo kuitira kuti ivo vakangofanana nesu. Ichi chido chinenge chisingazivi, chakaiswa pane imwe nzvimbo pa subcortex uye ndizvo zvinotitaurira kuti tingamutsa sei mwana.
Zvose zvatinofunga nemafungiro edu ave achibva paucheche. Mumwe munhu - kubva kuvabereki, kubva kune vamwe - kubva kuna vanasekuru navanasekuru, uye vamwe vachiri kunyanya kubata mavara nemigwagwa yehutano hwevamwe masimba, zvichida kunyange nhau. Kusarudzwa kwevana pamusoro pevaya vanoda kupiwa nhaka, avo vavanoda kutevedzera, kunotsamira zvachose kuburikidza nehukuru hwemvumo yeiyi kana munhu uyu. Uye kana mubereki aripo iye zvino akagumburwa zvikuru muhucheche hwake, akamudzinga uye akaranga zvakanyanyisa, ipapo achabata mupfungwa dzisinganzwisisiki pfungwa yokuti kurera kwakadaro chinhu chakanaka, kunyange chakanyanya uye chisina tsitsi.
Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinoziva kuti kana vana vari pedyo uye vachiziva zvakasimba bhanhire, izvi zvinokanganisa zvikuru pfungwa dzavo uye zvinowedzera kufanana kwavo nekutambudza uye chisimba. Uye kakawanda vanoona kuti utsinye hunobva kuvabereki, vashoma uye vanodikanwa nevanhu, zviri nyore kuti iye apedze naye. Kushungurudzika kunova chikamu chinokosha chehupenyu hwavo, vanotakura mbeu dzavo mukukura, uye kubva pane izvi kazhinji vamwe vanhu vanotambudzika mushure mekunge.
Saka, ngatitsanangurire kuti kukura kwakasimba uye kwakasimba kunogona kukanganisa hupenyu hwemwana wako.
Chokutanga, chisimba
Vana vakasiyana. Vamwe vavo vanoparadza zvinyoronyoro zvose nekuranga, kumira pakona, pasina kukurudzira, uye kungotarisa semisodzi kana vachirohwa nebhanhire. Uye vamwe vanoita zvechisimba uye vanozvipira, havabvumirani nemarango, vanopikisa uye vanoedza, sezviri, kuti vatsive nevabereki vanovaranga. Somuenzaniso, simhanya uye urove kuti kune urine. Sezvaunogona kuona, ikozvino muhuduku hunoratidza kurwisana - uye chimiro ichi chinongokura nokukurumidza pamakore kana iwe uchienderera mberi neboka rako rekuita zvechisimba nguva dzose.
Kazhinji kazhinji, kushungurudzwa kwevana ava kunoendeswa kune vamwe vana. Izvo zvakaoma chaizvo mugoroke uye kuchikoro, vanoita zvakanyanya zvakanyanya mune izvo zviitiko apo chimwe chinhu chinenge chisina kunaka, sezvavanoda ivo pachavo. Mazai emhuri anomutswa pano. Kana mwana, somuenzaniso, akarambidzwa kubata baba vezvigadzirwa zvemasikirwo, pasina kupa chero chikonzero chekudziviswa uku, asi achimurova zvakanyanya nebhanhire rekuputsika kwake, mwana wacho achaendesa hutsika iyi muupenyu hwake. Uye kana mwana upi zvake achiedza kutora kubva kune imwe chido, achaita mheni nokukurumidza uye, zvichida, acharova kana kusundira mwana.
Nokudaro, kana iwe uri mutsigiri wehutsinye hutsinye, usati watora bhanhire mumatambudziko ose, tanga watarisa mwana - zvichida iye achiri kuratidza zviratidzo zvechisimba kubva pakuberekwa? Kana zvakadaro - usawedzera, usatora midzi iyi, nokuti ichadzivirira mwana wako kuti asatevera hupenyu.
Mhiko mbiri, kutsiva
Izvi, zvichida, ndiyo mamiriro ezvinhu akaoma zvikuru ekukanganiswa kwechirango chevana muhuduku. Kana ari mukutanga akasiyana mwana wacho akaratidza kuti hutsinye hwemabatiro evabereki vake hunova hwakasimba kana kuti hunoenzana naye - ndiko kuti, vezera rake, saka mune iyi nyaya zvose zvinenge zvakanyanya kuoma.
Icho chakaipa kwazvo uye chinotyisa kana mwana wacho atsamwa nguva dzose uye, mumaonero ake, zvachose kurangwa, kunoshandiswa kune vanotambudza, kureva, zvakananga kuvabereki pachavo. Izvi zvinogona kukonzera kusununguka kusingadzorwi kwehasha kunotungamirirwa nababa kana amai, kana zvose zviri zviviri panguva imwe chete. Zvose nokuti kubva paudiki pfungwa yemwana inoumbwa kuti mhuri yake vavengi vanoramba vachiedza kukuvadza uye kumunyadzisa (uye manzwiro aya anorwadzisa zvikuru vana).
Uye rimwe zuva, rimwe zuva, pane nguva ichauya apo mwana achasimudza ruoko rwake kune avo vakamumutsa zvakanyanya. Anomutsira kutsiva utsinye hwose hunofunga kuti, sezvaaifunga upenyu hwake hwose, vabereki vake vakamukonzera. Anogona kutsiva zvakashata, zvisinei kuti zvinotyisa sei. Uye zvose nokuti hama dzake dzakamusimudza mumamiriro ezvinhu okugara achigadzirisa uye kurangwa kune chero ani zvake, kunyange kunyadzisa uye kunyanya kudarika.
Kusarudza zvitatu, kunzwisisa
Uye kunyange pakati pevana kune avo avo, pasinei nekuitirwa utsinye kwevabereki vavo, vachiri kutakura kutakura kuburikidza nehutano hwehuduku pfungwa yokuti chisimba chose chakaipa. Uye vakasimbisa mupfungwa iyi nekuda kwehutsinye husingaverengeki hwevabereki vakanga vasingazivi nzira yekaroti uye karoti uye vakakurira mabhanhire chete, vachikuvadza kwazvo kukurova kwepirangi chero ipi zvayo yevana. Vana vanoziva zvishoma gare gare kuti Amai naBaba vakanga vasingadi kuvakuvadza, kuti vaingoedza kuudza chokwadi kwavari, kunyange nenzira ine utsinye.
Vachaongorora zviito zvevakuru uye vauye pakupedzisira kuti havangamboregi zvikanganiso zvakadaro. Uye ukama nevabereki vakwegura vacharamba vachinyorova uye vachidziya, nokuti havangabatisisi kune zvakaipa, uye vanoedza chete kuwana chikonzero kwavari uye vanozviratidza pachavo kuti yaiva dzidzo yakasimba yakaita kuti vanhu vakadaro vakasimba.
Zvechokwadi, izvi ndizvo chete zvingasarudzwa zvingaitwa nevana vane bhanhire, uye chetatu chavo chinonyanya kushoma. Yakaratidza kuti vana vanorerwa mukurwisana nguva dzose, vachikudziridza uye vanoita kuti hutambudzi huwedzere hupenyu huripo, huchitungamira kune zvese zvehupenyu hwavo. Vabereki ivavo chete vasina kumbofunga nezveramangwana revana vavo, nezvekushanduka kwavo munharaunda, vanogona kushandura bhanhire sechirango nekuishandisa uye nedzimwe nzira dzekumanikidzi pose apo mwana akacheka mutemo wakadaro wakagadzirwa nevabereki, vamwe kutonga.
Yeuka, chete kwatiri pane zvinoenderana nevana vana vedu vachave mune ramangwana rakapfuura, tendai ini, remangwana. Vachava vanyoro, vanoedza kubatsira vavakidzani vavo, kana kuti vachaona nyika nevakaipa, maziso akakuvadzwa uye vanoonekwa seasocial uye misanthrope here? Unoda ramangwana ripi?
Kwete, hazvikwanisi kutaurwa kuti bhanhire iri nguva dzose rakaipa, mune zviduku zvishoma uye zviitiko zvakakosha chaizvo, unogona kuzvigadzirisa kana vakatoedza nzira dzose dzorugare uye nzira dzokuranga mwana. Asi muzvinhu zvose iwe unoda kuziva chiyero, kuziva kuti haufaniri kungotsoropodza apo mwana akagumburwa, asiwo kubva kumweya kuti amurumbidze kwaanoenda. Kuenzanisa kwakadaro kwekugadzirisa uye unyoro huchaita kuti dzive nechokwadi uye dzidzo dzakanakisisa, uye hazvizoomesa mwana.