A bit of history.
Munzvimbo dziri kure makumi manomwe muUnited States pane sangano revasiri Vabereki, avo vakataura shoko rokuti "Childfree". Childfree zvinoreva kusununguka kubva kune vana. Zvinotendwa kuti tsanangudzo iyi yakasikwa seyanoenderana nekugara "isina mwana" uye yakagadziriswa kusimudzira kusarudzwa kusununguka, pane kuora mwoyo uye kuparadzwa.
Iri izwi rakakurumbira pakuguma kwezana remakore rapfuura, apo boka rokutanga revanhu rakatevedzera nenzira iyi yehupenyu rakaumbwa.
Zvinoshamisa kuti, vanhu vasiri tsika dzekusika pakati pevamiririri ve Childfree vashoma. Kazhinji ndeyevanhu vanoita zvepabonde kana vakaroorana avo vakaramba nemaune kuramba varipo.
Ndivanaani vanhu ava?
Kusvikira ikozvino, munyika umo vanhu vakawanda vanoda kuve vabereki, vana vasina vana, pane kudaro, kupotsa, kwete chimiro. Zvisinei, chisarudzo mukufarira hupenyu husina vana, usaita maitiro, vanyengeri kana mapenzi.
Vamwe "vasingabhadharwi" vanotenda kuti kune ufeve kubereka vana, nokuti izvi zvinoitwa pasina kubvumirwa kwevana uye pakutanga kune chisimba. Chisarudzo chavo chinogona kurondedzerwa nekuti nyika yedu haisi nzvimbo yakanakisisa yekurarama nemufaro, pane njodzi dzakawanda uye kushungurudzika, hupenyu hwakaipa, zvirwere zvakawanda.
Vamwe vanotsanangura chisarudzo chavo nekushaya kwavo kuva vabereki vakanaka , kusada kuzvipira hupenyu hwavo nekunyaradza nekuda kweumwe munhu.
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinofunga kuti vazhinji vevanozviti vana vasina vana vane kana vakave nematambudziko nevabereki kana vamwe vanhu vakuru vakakurudzira chisarudzo chavo, vangave vakaitirwa zvechisimba, kana ivo vana vaduku uye vanozvifunga ivo pachavo. Vamwe vari kungova muviri chete vasingakwanisi kuva nevana vavo pachavo.
Pasinei nemufananidzo unoedza kuumba "mwana asingabhadharwi" ari pachake, mufananidzo wekubudirira, munhu ane hanya nhasi, kazhinji kazhinji kune vanhu vasina kubudirira vari mukutapwa pavanenge vachitya kana zvinetso. Izvozvowo, chisarudzo chavo chinokonzerwa nezvikonzero zvinonzwisisika, zvinonzwisisika uye hazvibvi pamatambudziko aripo, zvikamu.
Zvinogona kutaurwa kuti vazhinji ve "mwana asina mwana" vakaita chisarudzo ichi zvisingaiti, pasinei nemashoko evhangeri.
Zvakaipa kana zvakanaka here?
Kusvika kuongororwa kwechiitiko ichi kubva pakuona kwe "zvakanaka kana chakaipa" hakubatsiri. Chero zvazvingava, izvi ndizvo zvakasarudzwa nomunhu. Uye hazvina basa kuti zvikonzero zvipi zvinobva musarudzo iyi.
Kubva pakuona kwezvemagariro evanhu, chitendero uye zvematongerwo enyika, "vanafree" ibasa risingabatsiri iro harisi kuita basa rinokosha - kuenderera mberi kwemajini. Kubvira pakuona maonero emazuva ano, mumwe nomumwe wedu ane kodzero yekugadzirisa mararamiro aanoita, kuti vangani vana vanofanira kuva nazvo uye kuti vangava navo zvachose.
Zvinonyatsozivikanwa kuti vanhu vazhinji avo nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero vakashaya nguva apo kuberekwa kwomwana kwaigona, kuzvidemba. Hapana munhu anokwanisa kufanotaura kupindura kwekuda kwavo kusina mwana munguva yemberi. Mumwe munhu acharamba akagutsikana nemamiriro ezvinhu aya, mumwe munhu achazvidza iye pachake nokuti muhuduku hwake aive nemaonero asina kunaka pamusoro pehupenyu.
Vakawanda veavo vanoramba kuberekwa uye dzidzo yevana, edza kukura, kuita basa rinobudirira, usamira. Izvi zvinorumbidzwa, asi panguva imwechete, hapana huwandu hunosimbisa huwandu huzhinji hwevanhu vakachenjera, vanobudirira pakati pevaya vasina vana. Sezvakaratidzwa zvinoratidzira, kuvapo kwevana hakuiti kupindirana nekushandiswa, uye mune dzimwe nguva, kunobatsira pakuzadzikisa zvinangwa zvakakwirira, sezvo vana vanove vakakurudzira zvikuru kukura.
Chero zvazvingava, hapana munhu ane kodzero yekutonga vanhu vakasarudza kusiya mufaro wekuva vabereki, uyewo avo avo vakasarudza kuva ivo chete uye vakaramba zvimwe zvikomborero. Pasinei nokuti maonero eboka iri rakakurumbira anokanganisa, kana kwete-nguva ichaita seiri.
Muna 2003, nhamba dzeUnited States dzakaratidza kuti vakadzi vasina vana vari pasi pemakore makumi mashanu vaiva makumi mana nemakumi mana. Nhamba yevana vasina vana vari kukura gore negore.