Mutsva idzva, tiri kuedza kuziva mukareidoscope zviso zve "vedu" - avo vanozova vakasununguka, vanofarira uye vanonakidza. Ushamwari mubasa hunova chinhu chekuvimbika kumushandi kana ... chikonzero chekudzingwa.
FACE SOCIAL
"Kuita" ushamwari chinhu chakaoma kwazvo, vanodzidza nezvepfungwa vanoti. Nezvose zvakafanana kunze kwe "ushamwari hwevanhuwo zvavo", ine zviitiko zvakasiyana-siyana. Pano, kuwedzera kune unhu, chivigiro cheunhu uye zvaanoda, zvido, zvinangwa zvebasa uye, kazhinji, godo rehupenzi inopinda mumutambo. Ukama hwakadaro hune hutano hwakawanda hwevanhu uye huri pasi pezvinyorwa zvisiri pamutemo.
"Shamwari dzinowanzova nevanhu vatakamboziva kwenguva yakareba, kwete gore kana maviri, zvinotora nguva yehukama," anodaro mupfungwa wepfungwa Maria Maria. - Shamwari dzinoziva isu zvakasiyana - zvose zvakaipa uye zvakanaka, dzimwe nguva dzinotikanganwira nokuda kwezviito zvisingafadzi uye dzinotigamuchira isu sesu. Pabasa, mamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana: pano tiri kuedza kuratidza nyika munhu umwe uye haasi nguva dzose vanoda vashandi kuti vamuone "rutsigiro rwakashata". Kuwirirana kwebasa kushanda kunowanzoshamwaridzana, uye sekutonga, haisi mubvunzo wehukama, zvinongova hukama hwakanaka. "
SOUL DREAM
"Makore masere akapfuura ndakasvika pane imwe nzvimbo yebasa," anodaro Natasha, "saka takazarura magazini pamakwikwi akanaka. Izvo zvakagadzirwa zvakaumbwa kubva pakutanga. Pakutanga, munhu wose akatarisana, uye tsika dzedu dzakatanga kutora, takatanga kupemberera mazororo, mazuva ekuzvarwa pamwe chete. Kazhinji, vanhu vakava vakashamwaridzana nemweya, uye, kana vachangotora mabasa, ndichiri kukurukura nevamwe vaimbova pamwe navo. " Iyi ndiyo muenzaniso apo hukama hwehukama hwakaumbwa kana vanhu vakabatana nekugadzirwa. "Pasi pemasikirwo emasikirwo emunhu, munhu anoonekwa pamabasa akadaro," anonzi Maria Fedorova. - Kunaka kunosanganisira kukurukurirana kwepfungwa dzepedyo, iyo inonzi pasina musungo. "
Zvisinei, mamiriro ezvinhu ehukama hwekambani haisi nguva dzakanaka: kazhinji zvinoitika kuti ukama hwakashata pamabasa hunoparadza upenyu. Lika ane makore makumi maviri nemashanu, uye mwedzi mitanhatu yapfuura aifanira kushandura mabasa. Chikonzero ichochete "ushamwari". "Ndakatora basa se logisticist kune kambani ikambani iyo yakatanga kuifarira nayo - Ndaida kushamwaridzana nevanhu vose. Kwandiri, kukurukurirana kunoratidzira kusununguka, uye kunze kwekuti, ini ndinongova chatterboxbox - Handigoni kuchengeta chero mauri. Mune shoko, munguva pfupi ihofisi yose yaiziva nezvekudavira kwangu uye zvakaitika ... Pakati pangu ndakaenda makuhwa, chikamu chechikwata chakatanga kutora majee asina kunaka, uye vamwe vakatanga kungosiya. Ndaifanira kurega, nokuti kuve muhofisi iyi kwakave kusingagumi. "
ERROR # 1 Chido chokuva "wake mubhodhi." Iwe unoda kufadza, tora pfungwa iwe pachako uye urege kuwana chinhu chiri nani kupfuura kuudza munhu wese nezvekakomana rako rokupedzisira? Usakanganwa: havasi munhu wese anoda kumira mukati memhepo yevanhu vasingazivikanwe nemanzwiro evanhu, vazhinji vedu vane zvakakwana zvezviitiko zvedu.
Kune rumwe rutivi, zvakavanzika zvevamwe vanhu zvinokurudzira kupindura kuburikidza nekusingaperi-kutaura pachena nokuda kwechokwadi. Iyo yekupedzisira inowanzoonekwa sekusanzwisisa uye kusayambuka kusina kubvumirwa kwemiganhu yega.
Expert opinion
IRINA ZHELANOVA , nyanzvi yepfungwa, tenzi weNLP:
Ukama mukati memutambo kazhinji hunoenderana nemitemo uye chimiro cheutungamiri. Muchikwata apo tsika yekambani inorondedzera hukama hwepamutemo, uye vashandi vanonyanya kufunga nezvekubatana kwefodya uye mapoka eti, ushamwari hunogona kunge huchinzi. Kana kambani ichiedza kubatanidza vanhu kwete sevadzidzisi, vachiita chivako chechikwata nguva dzose, kuzorora kushingaira uye zvimwe zviitiko zvekuunganidza, zvino pangave nekuvapo kwehukama hukama hwepedyo. Sezvo mutemo, kunyanya kugadzikana kwehutungamiri hwehutungamiri uye humwe hutano hwekushanda muboka, mikana shomanana yekuvapo kwehukama mairi, uye zvakasiyana. Zvakawanda zvinoenderana nokuti vanhu vanosarudzwa sei. Akanaka vatungamiri veR HR vanoziva kuti kune basa rinobudirira, kwete chete unyanzvi hwepamusoro hunodiwa, asiwo mararamiro evanhu vanofanana.
KUTENDA NEATAT ...
Mukuwedzera kune chido chokukurukurirana, ushamwari mubasa kazhinji hunobva pane zvido zvedu uye chinangwa chedu. Vamwe vanotenda kuti kuita shamwari neshamwari kunobatsira zvikuru pane kuva nerudo rwebasa naye. Izvi ndizvo here?
Tatyana, munyori wechipatimendi chekuparidzira: "Ndave ndichishanda muhurumende yegore rechitatu uye munguva ichangopfuura ndave ndichifunga nezvekuchinja basa rangu. Ndiri shamwari neshe wangu-Galya ndeyezera rangu. Isu takada mumwe nemumwe kamwechete: tose tinoshamwaridzana, tinoda kuzorora kushingaira, tinoenda kune imwe nzvimbo yekunakira muviri. Pakutanga zvakaratidza kuti ndaiva nekitikiti yekiti: Ndakarota nebasa rinokurumidza, kubatanidzwa mumapurani akanaka. Asi zvose zvakazosiyana zvakasiyana. Nokukurumidza Galina akatanga kundipa basa rakawedzerwa, kusanganisira kwete zvakananga kwandiri. Anoti: "Ndinogona kukuvimba chete, ndine chokwadi kuti hauzofi." Ndaingova nemabasa akawanda, uye kwakanga kusina tarisiro yakajeka, kana kwete. "
ERROR # 2 Chimirira ushamwari huripo. Kuchinja kwemashoko "boss-subordinate" kazhinji kunotungamirira kuzvinhu zvisingafadzi. Chokutanga, neshamwari nevakuru vako iwe une chokwadi chegodo uye kutyisa muhafu yehofisi. Asi iyi haisi chinhu chikuru. Iyi mamiriro acho achawedzera mutoro mupfungwa uye mumuviri. Kana pakutanga iwe waingofanira kuita nehana, ikozvino chinhu chikuru ndechokuti "usarega" uye "kubatsira shamwari" munguva yakaoma.
Expert opinion
MARIA FEDOROVA , nyanzvi yepfungwa (Institute of Group and Family Psychology and Psychotherapy):
Zvinosuruvarisa, havasi vose vanoziva kuva shamwari, uye izvi hazvirevi pane nzvimbo iyo munhu anoshanda. Munguva yedu, vazhinji vanofunga nezvekubudirira kwega, pakuvakwa nekukurumidzira kwebasa, uye kukosha kweshamwari kubva ichi kunoderedza. Kubudirira kwehukama hwebasa zvikuru kunobva pane izvo munhu iyeye pachake anotarisira kubva paukama uhwu.
Kana iwe uchida kugamuchirwa munzvimbo yako itsva iwe pachako, edza kufanidza maitiro ezvokupfeka uye maitiro anogamuchirwa mukambani. Zvakawanda zvinoenderana nehutano hweiye anotanga: vamwe zviri nyore uye pakarepo vanotanga kukurukura, vamwe vanotora nguva yekutarisa-tarisa muboka.
Pasina kupera kubva pakugadzirwa
Sezvavanotaura, havasarudze shamwari dzavo-vanotanga ivo pachavo, kusanganisira pakati pevamwe vashandi. Uye nokuda kwehukama hwakadaro hunoita kuti ufare, kwete kuora mwoyo, unofanira kuchengeta mitemo shoma shoma:
RULE №1
Kuuya kune boka idzva, tarisa zvakapoteredza, usakurumidza kugumisa. Kunzwisisa kuti ndiani. Panguva imwe chete, boka racho richakutarisa iwe: "kuongorora nezvipfeko," kuona maitiro ako uye unyanzvi hwemhizha.
RULE №2
Usakurumidza kujoina hurumende dzakasiyana-siyana uye "masangano". Mahofisi ayo anowanzoita "kuita shamwari kune mumwe munhu" haisi isiri. Hazvidikanwi, musingazivi mamiriro ezvinhu, kupinda mumitambo yakadai: mushure mechinguva, zvisingatarisirwi iwe pachako, unogona kuwana kuti wakanamatira kune rumwe rutivi rworwizi uye uri muboka revanhu vakarasika.
RULE №3
Mutemo wegoridhe "Ndinoremekedza vamwe, vamwe vanondiremekedza" kunoshanda nguva dzose uye kwose kwose. Vakashungurudza upstarts uye vanowanzosafarira mune chero chekuunganidza, pasinei nehukuru hwekambani yemari nemabasa.
Uye yekupedzisira . Nzira yakanakisisa yekuita vavengi munzvimbo itsva ndeyokutaura kutsamwa kwavo pamusoro pemutemo usina kunyorwa we "monastery" mutsva, chero zvingave iri: mafungiro pamusoro pezvinonyadzisa kana mabiko asina kutengesa kumakona akashanyirwa nehofisi yose. Iyi ndiyo mamiriro ezvinhu kana zvinonzwisisika kugamuchira mitemo yemutambo pane kuedza kumanikidzira nzvimbo yake.