Haisi chakavanzika chokuti varume nevakadzi vanotarisa nyika zvakasiyana mushure mekuroorana. Kune vakadzi, mufananidzo wacho unogara uchishandura, asi kune varume unogara mukati memuganhu mumwe. Ndicho chikonzero, mushure mekuchata, vaviri vacho vanowanzotanga kusiyana nemaonero avo pamusoro pehupenyu hwemhuri. Chokutanga pane zvose, paunopindura mubvunzo uyu: "Sei vakaroorana vachichinja mafungiro avo kumudzimai mushure mokuchata? ", Ndinoda kuziva kuti musikana wacho pachake anobvuma kupiwa kworuoko uye mwoyo asingatenderwi sechivimbo cherudo rusingaperi uye mhinduro yezvinetso zvose. Asi dzimwe nguva, mudzimai wacho anotanga kunzwisisa kuti akanganisa nokuti akangoroora kana kuroorwa, kana kuti haana kurarama maererano nezvaanotarisira. Asi kuroorana inzira inowanzoitika apo vanhu vanoroora, vanoberekera vana uye vanogara murugare nekubatana. Asi, zvinosuruvarisa, mushure mekuroorana, havasi vose vanogona kuramba vachifuratira uye kazhinji, vachirarama pane imwe nguva muwanano hwepamutemo, vanhu havagoni kunzwisisa zvakajeka mabasa avo uye zvavanoda kubva muupenyu. Uye zvakatoipisisa, apo mukadzi anoona kukanganisa kwake nekuremekedza mudzimai wake, mune mamwe mazwi, akaodzwa mwoyo mukusarudza kwake. Zvechokwadi, kana chiitiko chekuti ukama hwevakaroorana hwakashandirana kune humwe mushure mechato, pane nzira mbiri dzinobva kunze: kurambana kunorwadza, mudivi kune rumwe rutivi, hupenyu hunotyisa pamwe nemudzimai asinganzwisisiki, kana kuwana hukama hunozobatsira kuisa zvinhu zvose panzvimbo yawo.
Kuti mudzimai wacho asashandure mafungiro ake kune shamwari yake, zvakakosha kunzwisisa mitemo chaiyo iyo mumwe nemudzimai vanofanira kutevera mushure momuchato. Kazhinji, vazhinji vakaroorana vanotaura maonero avo kuti kana mushure mechato, "hapana munhu anosungirwa kune ani zvake". Uye iyi ndiyo pfungwa inonyangadza kune imwe mhuri. Kana mumwe wevakaroorana achirarama maererano nehutano hwavo, zvinonyatsobvira kuchinja mafungiro avo kune vanodiwa nenzira yakakwana isina kunaka. Mushure mezvose, kushungurudza haisi iyo nzira yakanakisisa yehupenyu hwemhuri. Nokudaro, maererano nekunzwa uku kwemumwe wako, iwe hausi kuzvida iwe, unofungisisa zvisizvo zvaunofunga nezvazvo uye, panguva imwechete, kwete yepamusoro. Pano uye manzwiro ekuodza mwoyo muakasanangurwa haasi kure. Nokudaro, kuitira kuti izvi zvirege kuitika, edzai nguva dzose kuti mubatane nekunzwa kwekunzwisisa, basa, rupo uye kushivirira, uye kana zvikanganiso zvichatanga kuonekwa maari, yeuka kuti kushivirira nekutsungirira kwako "peretrut".
Muchiitiko apo mukadzi anoshandura mafungiro ake omurume nekuroora, anofanira kunge achizvinzwisisa uye aone kuti chii chaanotarisira kubva kumunhu uyu. Mushure mokunge, mudzimai wacho anoda kunzwisisa kuti zvingave zvisina kudaro nemurume, asi kungoenderana nekushandurwa kunoitwa nechisungo chekuita. Mushure mezvose, muchato unochinja zvakawanda. Mukadzi ari nyore chaizvo kuziva izvi uye saka anofunga kuti ari mudiwa wake. Ingotarisa madzimai ako asina kuroorwa uye funga nezvekuti ivo vakasurukirwa sei pakupedza kwako.
Usambofa wakateerera nharo dzevabereki vako pamusoro pekuti iwe wakatadza kukanganisa, yeuka kuti vanogona nyore nyore kushandisa maonero ako. Nenzira, mumamiriro ezvinhu akawanda ari pamitsipa yavo iyo musikana anokwanisa kuchinja maonero ake pamusoro pemurume wake, izvo zvinogona kutungamirira kunyange kurambana. Mune rimwe shoko, "gara musoro wako".
Chimwe chikonzero icho mudzimai anoita shanduko yake pamusoro pemudzimai wake angave iyo iyo anotanga kumutarisa nemeso akasiyana zvakakwana mushure mekuroorana. Somuenzaniso, iwe hauna kumbocherechedza zvinhu zvakajeka izvo, mushure mokudhinda mupasipoti, zvave zvichinyatsoitika. Iwe unotanga kugumbuka kuti zvinhu uye mapepa kubva padhesiki rake kana wadhirobe akanyarara akatamira kuimba pane tafura yekushongedza, uye panzvimbo yake mubhedha imbwa inodiwa inorara (iyo yaasina kumutsoropodza nayo), uye mangwanani oga oga anotya anopoteredza imba mune imwe pasi peimwe) mukutsvaga masokisi "echangobva kupararira" ezuro. Uye, iyo inonyanya kunetseka, inogara ichikubvunza iwe kwawasiya chikwereti chako che laptop. Kupfuura iwe hauna chimwe chikonzero chekuchinja maonero ako pamusoro peunoda wako. Chii chandingati, vanhu vose vakaita saizvozvo. Uye zvakakosha kufunga. Haisi chokwadi chokuti imwe yacho haisi kuzofanana. Saka ingozvigamuchira sezvazviri uye usatsamwira nazvo nekuda kwekushungurudzwa. Nenzira iyo, kana wakaneta nemashoko ake akareba pamusoro pebasa kana shamwari kunze, edzai kuita zvinhu zvako pachako musina kumubatsira, kana kuratidza hurukuro yako yekusununguka kwemamiriro acho ezvinhu.
Saka, haisi iyo michato yevakaroorana inoshanduka, asi vakaroorana pachavo vanochinja hupenyu hwavo shure kwayo. Usangozvidya mwoyo nekukanganisa kwayo uye, kunyanya zvakadaro, teerera maonero uye mazano evamwe. Yeuka kuti haitungamiri kune zvakanaka zvachose. Asi, kana iwe wakashandura mafungiro ako pamusoro pomunoda wako, unogona kungodzorera zvakare. Ingoyeuka izvo "zvakanyanyisa" zvawakambove iwe, kunyange musati waro muchato uchinge wawa murudo uye zvichange zvichikuunza zvinyaradzo zvekuda, uye kubatsira kutarisa mudzimai nemamwe maziso. Yeuka kuti mushure mekuroorana, hupenyu hunotanga kugoverwa kuva nyika mbiri: mukati meimba yako uye kunze kwemasvingo aro. Saka edza kuramba uri muimba yako zvinyatsoenderana uye kunzwisisa.
Nenzira, nyanzvi dzinokurudzira kuti kana ukatarisa murume wako uye unonzwisisa kuti pane chimwe chinhu chiripo kubva kwaari, funga nezvomwana. Uye ipapo zvirokwazvo pfungwa yekutumira mumwe wako kwete mapoka mana acharega kushanyira musoro wako. Uye iwe unogona kunyatsochengetedza hupenyu hwako kubva pakutanga. Yeuka kuti haufaniri kumhanyira kufunga. Mushure mezvose, mufaro haufariri avo vari kukurumidzira uye havakoshese zvavari. Funga nezvazvo. Nhanho yakanaka uye hapana kuora mwoyo muupenyu hwako hwega!