Vanhu vazhinji vanofunga kuti kuvepo kwevarume chaivo kunotanga nezera rechivalry. Asi hazvirevi, ivo vaimbova nguva dzose. Pane varume chaivo zvino? Chokwadi! Asi vanotarisa zvakasiyana zvachose kupfuura murume chaiye wekare.
Murume chaiye muGreece yekare ndeye Zeus, murume ane simba, akafanana nehasha, anokanda mheni uye anoshandura mudzimai wake wokudenga Hera kurudyi uye kuruboshwe nevakadzi pasi pano. Sezvavanotaura paInternet nhasi, aive "benzi uye ane utsinye."
MuMiddle Ages, mumufananidzo wemurume chaiye, kune zvakasiyana zvakasiyana, zvikamu zvegentleman. Nzira inofanira kuva yakachenjera, inyanzvi, yakangwara, yakanyanyisa nezvimwe zvepabonde. kuonekwa kwehuhu hunhu hunokonzerwa nehutano hwevanhu. Ichokwadi ndechokuti maererano nemitemo yepakati pekare, nyika dzose dzakapiwa kune mugari wenhaka, wega wega akaenda kumusha wemamatare (basa remukuru raizonzi rakakurumbira kwazvo), uye muduku akawana bhiza nemunondo. Chivimbo chavo choga chokudzoka kumusangano wakagara wakaita mararamiro akabudirira. Kubvira panguva iyo, chitendero cheMukadzikadzi Chakanaka chaenda, mumufananidzo wemunhu akakodzera, kutarisira, kubatanidzwa, kutarisa kumukadzi anotanga kuonekwa. Asi kunyange iyo yakapedzana nemakwikwi akanaka epanguva iyo yaiva kure nemufananidzo wemazuva ano tsika yakagadzirwa mupfungwa yemukadzi.
Iko zvino "munhu chaiye" akanga akakwanisa kutarisira vakadzi, asi mushure mekuroora, zvose zvaiitwa negodo uye kusatendeka zvakaratidzwa maari. Izvi zvinokonzerwa nekuti chiitiko chekurambana chakanyatsoratidzirwa nechechi uye madzishe makuru makuru nemadzimambo aiva netariro yokurambana. Uye hatifaniri kukanganwa nezvekusagadzikana kwehutano hwevanhu, ruzivo runogona kutarisira zvakanaka mukadzi uyu kwemwedzi, asi panguva imwechete zuva rimwe nerimwe varimi vanotora simba, uye izvi zvaifungidzirwa kuti zviri mumamiriro ezvinhu. Kushingaira kwakanga kusina kunyorwa muurongwa hwezvakanaka zvevarume, makondani mumazuva ano akatungamirira hupenyu husina maturo. Chinhu choga chavakamirira chaiva hondo, kushambadza uye kutenderera makumbo.
Pfungwa uye dzidzo muhuwandu hunhu hwakanaka hunofanira kuva nevarume chaivo, hwakakundwa muRenaissance. Panguva iyoyo, pfungwa yekugadziriswa kwekuvandudzwa kweunhu hunotungamirirwa: zvose zvemweya uye zvepanyama. Kana kuverengera kuverenga nekuziva kwaionekwa sechinhu chinopfuura fad, ikozvino yava chiratidzo che murume chaiye.
Muzana remakore rechi17, nekupararira kwePurotesitendi muEurope, kushingaira kwakapinda muhuwandu hunhu hunodiwa. Ndinofanira kutaura, kushingaira sehutano hwemunhu uyu akaumbwa mukuziva kwevanhu nderimwe remangwana, uye hazvifaniri kukanganisa avo vemazuva ano vamiririri ve "kurara kwakasimba" pakuti vanoita zvose zvavanogona kuti vasaita mabasa epamba, vachida kurara panhovo uye kutarisa TV. Hwakachena uye kuchena kwemuviri zvakapinda zvakasiyana siyana zvinodiwa kuti murume uyu achangobva kuitika, kumativi ekutanga kwezana remakore rechi18. Izvi zvinofanirwa, kutanga kune zvose, kumaguta ekumusha: mumaruwa hazvigone kuchengetedza utsanana hwemuviri nguva dzose, uye hapana chikonzero. Uye mumaguta ane huwandu hwevanhu uye zvichida kupararira nokukurumidza kwezvirwere zvakasiyana-siyana, kuchengeta kuchena kwomuviri kwava chiyero chekugara kwevanhu.
Iye zvino murume chaiye haafaniri kunge achingova nemhando dzose dzakarongeka, anofanira kunge ane unyanzvi hwokugadzira: anokwanisa kutyaira motokari, kubata mishonga yemumba kubva kumagetsi emagetsi kune kombiyuta, kushanda paInternet. Chii chichaitika pashure?
Nokudaro, sezvo hupfumi hwevanhu huripo, zvese zvitsva zvakaonekwa mumufananidzo wemunhu chaiye, uye gare gare ichi kana kuti iyo yehutano yakasvika pane urongwa, varume vashomanana iko zvino vanoenderana. Hungu, takawana kuti pane here ikozvino varume chaivo: ivo, asi ivo vari kuparara zvishoma uye mumwe anofanira kunge ari mudzimai chaiye kuti ave nemukana wekusangana uye kumuchengetedza pedyo naye. Mukupedzisira, sei kuroora mukuru? Tsvaga mutungamiriri wenhema uye mumubatsire kuita basa!