Izvi zvinogona kuponesa nguva yakawanda, nokuti ipapo haufaniri kuenderera mberi nekudzoka neavo avo pakupedzisira havazove rudzi rwenyu. Kuonga uku mano akakwana, mukadzi aisagona kuwana tsanangudzo pfupi yezvakanaka, asiwo zvekukanganisa, uyewo kuziva pamusangano chinhu chinonyanya kufadza uye chakanyatsojeka - uyo anowirirana mubhedha.
Zvinosuruvarisa, havasi vose vanobvumirwa kuva magenzi, asi musarega, nokuti kune nzira inobvumira kugadzirisa matambudziko ose pasina kupindira kwemashiripiti. Iyi ndiyo nhamba yekucherechedza kwevakadzi, iyo inobatsira kuvhura murume. Mushure mezvose, unogona kufanotaura maitiro aro mushure mekucherechedza kwenguva pfupi, asi hazvigoneki kuti uwane kuti ndiani ane rudo. Izvi ndizvo chaizvoizvo here? Mushure mezvose, vakadzi vazhinji vemazuva ano havatsvaki varume vakatendeka, asi vanoda vanoda. Izvi zvisinganyatsofadzi pachavo, asi hapana nzvimbo inobva kune chokwadi. Mazuva ano nokuda kwepabonde rakanaka, chinhu chakakoshesa basa nebasa rakasimba, asi kana mudiwa ane simba akava murume akatendeka, vanotanga kufunga pamusoro pezvo kwemakore makumi matatu. Chii chinotungamirirwa nevakadzi vemazuva ano pakusarudza mumwe wako kana kuti kuwana sei murume mumaminitsi ekutanga ekudanana?
A bit of history
Muvanhu varipo vane nzira dzinosvika 1000 dzekutarisa ukuru hwekuremekedzwa kwevanhu: kuburikidza nemufambiro, maitiro ekunze, nezvimwewo. Vanhu vave vachivhiringidza mubvunzo uyu unonyangadza kwemakore mazhinji. Somuenzaniso, vaGiriki vekare vaidavira kuti urefu hwemhino hwakabatana zvakananga nehurefu hwekuremekedzwa, uye vaRoma vekare vaisarudza chigamba chikuru uye vaitenda kuti ukuru hwemasimba evanhu mune hutano hwakakura huri nechechi yakakura. Ivo, muRenyika, vakashandura pfungwa dzavo uye vakafunga kuti minwe yakaonda yaiva chiratidzo chekukura. Pasinei nedzimwe nzira dzakasiyana uye maonero, vakadzi vemazuva ano, avo vane ruzivo rwakanyanya, havaregi pane cognition yakawanikwa, saka tangai nzira itsva dzekuverenga. Inonyanya kuzivikanwa nenzira idzi dzekupedzisira dzinogona kunzi chiyero chechirume chechiremera uye ukuru hwekristani, kana kunyanya chaizvo, kureba pakati pechigunwe nemunwe muduku, uyewo chiyero chechigadzirwa chemashini iyo iyo mumiriri wemusikana wesimba akasimba akasarudza iye pachake. Uye kana munhu ane chirwere chiduku chepabonde, achaedza kubhadhara hukuru hwemashini makuru. Pasinei nemakore ekusimbiswa kwevakadzi, chaizvoizvo - tsanangudzo yekukosha kwekuremekedza nenzira dzinopfuura ino inogona kunzi utopia.
Mushure mokunge taura nezvemadzimai evanhu, zvakakosha kuti tifunge kuongororwa kwevanyanzvi, nokuti vakashanda nedambudziko iri kwemakore mazhinji. Chiyero pakati pehurefu hwemaoko, chiyero chetsoka uye chiyero chechirwere chepabonde chakatsvaga kugadzirisa hutano hwepabonde munyika yose. Asi hazvina basa. Asi vakaona kuti pakugadzirwa kwechimiro ichi mu fetus zvinokonzera maitiro edzimwechete semakumbo. Uye kana iwe uchidavira dzidziso yacho, saka miviri iyi inofanira kuva yakafanana. Asi zvidzidzo zvekare hazvisimbise izvi, nokuti munhu wese ane zvinhu zvakawanda zvisingadzorwiki, semuenzaniso, uwandu hwemafuta, uwandu hwamakondoni ehupombwe uye hurefu hwegorosi, iyo iyo nhengo yakabatanidzwa nemapirvic tendon.
Saka, kana ukasangana nemurume ane mhino yakawanda neminwe yakaonda, usakurumidza kukurumidza kugumisa - anogona kukuodza mwoyo zvikuru. Mukuwedzera, usakanganwa pamusoro pemutsara, wakave nemapapiro - chinhu chikuru hachisi ukuru, asi kukwanisa kushandisa. Mushure mezvose, akaudzwa nevakadzi vakachenjera, asi kana musanangurwa wenyu angashandisa izvo amai vake vakapa kune zvakasikwa ndeimwe nyaya. Uye nenzira, ane mhinduro iyo inokubvumira kuti uwane murume uye zvose zvaanokwanisa pamberi pepabonde. Sarudza hutano hwemumwe wako unogona kuva nekuongorora hutano, hunoonekwa mukuonekwa, mararamiro uye tsika.
Mifananidzo yemudiwa akanaka .
Kuti vaone mumaminitsi mashomanana kuti munhu anoita sei pamubhedha, masayendisiti masayendisiti anokurudzira kuteerera nezvekubatana kwemashoko akadaro: anofanirwa kunge ari bhuruni yepakati pepamusoro, pachifuva chechigunhi chepabonde panofanira kuwedzerwa mbeu, uyewo kune vanhu vakadaro vane mavara pamusoro nemakumbo mafupi.
Genetics, nekuda kwebasa ravo rekugara munharaunda iyi, vakawana kuwirirana kwekura nekuremekedzwa. Vanopikisa kuti kana munhu ane nguva shoma, asi ane chifukidzo chakakura uye mapepa, izvi zvinoratidza kukwanisa kuita zvepabonde. Zvinoratidzwa kuti varume vakadaro vanokura zvakanyanya kupfuura vezera ravo, ndicho chikonzero ivo vakasiyana mukuvapo kwe "hupenyu" ruzivo.
Strength of character
Uyewo, simba repabonde remunhu rinogona kutsanangurwa nekunyatsoongorora tsika dzake netsika. Masayendisiti anoparadzanisa varume mumitatu mikuru mikuru: vasina simba, vane hanya uye vanobatana.
Nokuti munhu asina simba anozivikanwa nekushungurudzika, kuoma kwakasikwa, kusachengeteka uye, kunotyisa, kusvibisa. Kana iwe wakasangana ne "shamwari" yakadai, funga mupfungwa kuti haazokupei manzwiro anopisa. Iva wakagadzirira kutya uye unyoro.
Murume anokodzera haasiwo akakurumbira nesimba repabonde. Haazokwanisa kupa mukadzi dutu remanzwiro. Kwaari, zvepabonde chinhu chinoshamisa. Varume vakadaro vanowanzokwanisa kupera, vachida kusvika pakuzara, kwete kusiyanisa zvakananga uye pane kunetseka.
Munhu anokanganisa munhu-moto, akagadzirira kuenda kune zvakawanda nokuda kwekunzwa kusingakanganwiki. Ichi ndicho chakanaka chevakadzi vakawanda. Iye, sekutonga, anotungamirira mararamiro anoshingaira, ane simba guru, ane chido chakanaka uye mutungamiriri nemasikirwo. Mukuwedzera kune zvikomborero izvi, varume vane tsitsi vane unhu hwakanyanya kunaka. Saka iva wakagadzirira kushivirira unhu uye tsika nekuda kwekufara, kana kuita sarudzo pakarepo, iyo inonyanya kukosha kwauri.
Iye zvino unoziva nemhando dzose dzevarume uye unogona kudzidza murume mumaminitsi mashomanana, usakanganwa kuti hupenyu hunofadza hwepabonde haisi hupenyu hwemhuri hunofadza. Usapikira kuda kugutsikana kwenguva pfupi, zvisinei, sezvo wakaneta somumwe munhu wepabonde - iwe unongomhanya.