Nzira yekurarama sei mushure mekufa kwemurume? Nyanzvi dzezvepfungwa dzinopindura mubvunzo uyu nenzira yakadai kuti haifaniri kubvisa kubuda mumazuva okutanga, sezvo "kudzivirira kudzivirira" kunoshanda mumuviri womunhu. Kana munhu akawira mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro mushure mekushungurudzika kwakadaro, zvinoreva kuti muviri unofanirwa kuti udzivise kushungurudzika kwakasimba kwepfungwa kunopesana. Nekurasikirwa kwemurume wake, sangano remariro rinogona kubatsira kubvisa kukanganisa, sezvo tsika iyi ndeyechikonzero ichi yakagadzirwa kuitira kuti vapenyu vagone kutaura zvakanakira kune vadikanwa, nokudaro munhu wacho anonunura zvishoma nezvishoma kuora mwoyo kwake nemanzwiro ake.
Uyezve, mushonga wakanakisisa wekushungurudzika mushure mekufa kwemurume ndiko kushandiswa kwehutano hwemudzimai. Kuunganidzwa kwezvipikisi zvakasiyana-siyana zvekufa, kuchema avo vadikanwa, kurongedza kumuka-izvo zvose zvinobatsira munhu kudzokera kuhupenyu mushure mekufa kwemumwe wako.
Kuchinja kwemunhu kune hupenyu kunofanira kuitwa zvishoma nezvishoma, saka pasina mamiriro ezvinhu munhu anofanira kumhanyira munhu. Dambudziko guru rinogona kunonoka kukanganisa kushandiswa kwekudzivirira kubhadhakwa kunwa doro kana kunwa kwemishonga yakasiyana-siyana. Kubvuma kwemazano akasiyana-siyana ekurapa mumazuva okutanga emamiriro ezvinhu anoshungurudza zvirokwazvo anodikanwa, asi kuwedzerwa kwekugamuchira kwekupihwa kwakagadzirirwa chete kunowedzera nzira yekudzoka kumunhu kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu asina kunaka. Uye kana munhu atanga kunwisa doro uye mahwendefa, anogona kuramba ari munharaunda iyi.
Uyewo rubatsire kubuda muhurumende yebhanhire uchiona firimu kana kuteerera mimhanzi, asi zvichida zvakanaka. Kana murume wako aive munhu anofara uye iwe wakamboona firimu pamwe chete, kutarisa firimu inogona kumutsa mweya uye kukudzosa zvakare kuhupenyu.
Kune vanhu vanotenda, kereke inogona kuva nyaradzo, nokuti kune simba rinonyaradza remapfungwa. Chechi yose yekuviga mitambo yakanyatsorondedzerwa uye yakajeka, iyo inobatsira vanhu vazhinji. Uyewo muchechi unogona kuisa kenduru kumurume wako wakabva, uyo kune vanhu vakawanda zvakarewo zvinonyaradza zvikuru. Zvinogona zvakare kubatsira kubvumirana nemupristi anogona kukusiya iwe zvitadzo zvakakutambudza zvikuru. Nokudaro, avo vari vatendi, kereke ndiyo nzira ine simba yekudzokera kuupenyu mushure mekufa kwemurume wake. Kana munhu asina kunge ari muchechi kwemazuva mazhinji uye kana asingaswedere pedyo naye mumweya, saka zvinorambidzwa zvakasimba kudhonza munhu imomo, nokuti zvinogona kungokuvadza chete.
Kana mudzimai uyo akarasikirwa nomurume wake, akaenda kubasa, ipapo kunyaradzwa kwake kuchava kwakakodzera. Vashandi pamwe chete vanogonawo kupa chero rubatsiro mukuronga mariro, mariro, nezvimwewo. Asi zvakanyanya kuwedzerwa kune umwe mushandi ane kushungurudzika mumhuri anodikanwa uye asingatauri mumunhu kunze kwekuti iye pachake aida kudaro. Uye usava murume, zvachose wakasununguka kubva kubasa, nokuti unofanirwa kuyeuka kuti munhu anoda zvido zvevanhu. Mune mamwe mazwi, kudzoka kwomunhu kumamiriro ezvakashanda akashanda kuchabatsira chete kudzokera kuhupenyu. Kana munhu akaparara kune mushandi wake, vashandi vake havafaniri kubhadhara uye kungoenda kune imwe nguva, kuitira kuti vashandi vavo vaone chikanganiso chake uye akakumbira ruregerero. Uye izvi zvinoreva kuti kune zviratidzo zvekudzorerwa kwepfungwa uye zvishoma nezvishoma zvinouya kumashure mavo shure kwekurasikirwa kwemudiwa wayo.